She's doing it again.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

To follow up on the therapy comments, as I shared earlier, therapy works wonders, if you want it to. You can't force anyone to go, and if you do and they are not receptive of the help, its a waste of time and money. Yes you can gain a lot by going at it alone. You will learn a lot about yourself and how you deal with things in your marriage and in life. Often, I hear, once the spouse not attending therapy sees the inner peace in you, they wind up going themselves.

[Messybrownhair 251]

The whole time I was reading your post, it felt like a father-spoiled daughter relationship, except for the part about her being pregnant. Like her talking on the phone, complaining, driving her to a friend's house.. my advice would just be to not let her get away with those things, and dont play into her game. I may have only been married for a year but i know an unhealthy relationship when i see one. Goodluck!

[A and T 82]

My advice is once she has the baby, get a paternity test DO NOT sign the birth certificate without one. Her actions make it seem as if she has something going on behind your back. Taking the car out, not coming home, being mad at you while "on the phone" Play it safe make sure the child is yours , if it is then support your child and divorce her if thats what she wants put her out of the house.

[Hank_ 9,173]

She was like this before becoming pregnant.

so ... no surprises.... she has always been this way. Yikees!!

Edited April 2, 2012 by Hank_Amy

[Peter_Pan 661]

She is pregnant, dude, let her be.

I am worse and I am not even preggo.

[Peter_Pan 661]

EDIT: Nothing more despicable than blackmailing her with taking away her son.

[Ron and Rhea 42]

You know, just playing devils advocate...as the old saying goes, there are three sides to every story, yours, theirs and the truth. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

You know, just playing devils advocate...as the old saying goes, there are three sides to every story, yours, theirs and the truth. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.

I agree with you.

(I know Kathryn's ignore ban on us is over but..please...stop viewing our profile's (my wife's and mine)...it's creeping us out. )

Edited April 2, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[B_J 2,752]

(I know Kathryn's ignore ban on us is over but..please...stop viewing our profile's (my wife's and mine)...it's creeping us out. )

I hope you understand, after reading that, I was forced to look at your profile to see what's so interesting.

[Dan and Judy 614]

My advice is once she has the baby, get a paternity test DO NOT sign the birth certificate without one. Her actions make it seem as if she has something going on behind your back. Taking the car out, not coming home, being mad at you while "on the phone" Play it safe make sure the child is yours , if it is then support your child and divorce her if thats what she wants put her out of the house.

If he knew the baby was not his, he would love it and raise it as his own. I don't think she's cheating yet but when she does he will forgive her.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

I hope you understand, after reading that, I was forced to look at your profile to see what's so interesting.

It's Okay Benny. You are always a welcome visitor.

Marc,

Now see what you've gone and done? Adam has come along and accused your wife of adultry. (and) He got a for it. Are you proud of yourself? You stated that your wife says you don't respect her. She's right.

I'm not suggesting her behavior is acceptable but IMO...you coming on this site and ridiculing your wife...much worse.

(for this) You get a 4 :bonk: :bonk: you're a winner!

You're desire to control your wife is the root of your problem. Stop trying to control her and focus on controlling yourself. When you quit playing the control game... you win. Ponder this.

(Yes..I know..too many bonkers..but I feel a little better. )

Edited April 2, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[actob99 156]

Wow, I just spent 30 minutes reading all of this...... wheeeewwwww.... This isn't the site to vent your issue about your marriage with your wife. Yes their are some of us who have lived in the Phils, had many relationships withfilipina's, but this is not a filipina thing. All women are the same!!!!! Their might be a few cultural things that are different, but you should have spent the time figuring these out and determiining if you could live with this before marrying her. You have a young girl and the comment about Father-daughter type relationship hit the hammer on the head... Sounds like there is not much love there.

ALl relationships have these breakfast time scenario's you have discussed. But in a good relationship, you can sit down after and figure it out and laugh about it. This should all be covered and built in the years before marrying someone. How much time did you spend with your bride before marriage?

To the Alaskan guy I understand your dilemna and agree with some of these things you said.BUT!!!!!!! Their not filipina UNITS, #######..... SHe is a woman who is struggling with something that you take very seriously and she needs to learn that it is a serious thing on her own. On a positive note, kudo's to you and having your wife experience Alaska.. Nothing else like it in the world..

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

I'm not really convinced that the OP wasn't an April Fools Day joke...

If ti is legit then all I can say is that I'm never surprised when I read a post where a Kano doesn't seem to understand that marrying a young girl from the Philippines and then treating her like a child who can't do anything for herself lands him in a situation like this.

Sadly it's a theme that's repeated time and again in the PH sub-forum.

I've learned from 20 years of raising kids that if you fail to set expectations for the people in your life then you have no business being disappointed when they fail to exceed your expectations.

If you want a strong & independent wife then expect that of her. She wants her own car, fine she's working why cant' she save-up for it (with some help from you of course). She should also be able to contribute for her vehicle insurance. If everything is yours then she'll never appreciate it.

When I see children misbehaving I always look to the parents for failing to properly manage and guide those kids.

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

(i wish there is a bird-flippin' smiley)

Here ya go Sweetheart...you can borrow this one....

Edited April 2, 2012 by Crashed~N2~Me

[Kathryn41 3,205]

One post violating TOS has been removed along with one post quoting it. Since the poster has a history of posting similar comments, administrative action has been taken.