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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Canada
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I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference). :unsure:

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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Thailand
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I've never heard of anyone being denied because of an age difference.

Bill


I-129f Journey:

2006-07-17 I-129F sent to CSC

2006-07-24 NOA1 (received)

2006-10-05 RFE (received)

2006-10-06 RFE (returned to CSC)

2006-10-23 NOA2

2007-01-29 Visa Approved!

2007-02-17 Ceremony in Thailand

2007-02-21 POE LAX - Fiance and her daughter enter the USA together, Easy-Peasy!

2007-03-05 Wedding in USA

AOS Journey:

2007-06-07 AOS for spouse and daughter sent

2007-06-16 NOA's arrive, (issued on the 13th)

2007-07-05 Biometrics

2007-07-13 Received RFE (Mailed on July 3rd)

2007-08-06 Returned RFE

2007-10-16 Interview date

2007-10-27 Green Cards Received!

ROC (I-751) Journey:

2009-07-24 Joint I-751 for spouse and daughter sent

2009-08-03 Received NOA1 dated 7/27/09

2009-08-03 Received Receipt and one year extension for wife

2009-08-03 Received "Verification Of Incusion Of A Dependent" for step-daughter

2009-08-27 Biometrics

2009-11-13 Green Cards Received

Citizenship Journey:

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Age different is not a problem if your fiance can do good at the interview and prove C.O that you guys really love each other and dont care bout the age,cause there's 23 years different between me and my fiance and this isnt a big problem to us at all

goodluck on the rest of your journey

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Removal of conditions

09-29-09 : Mailed I-751 ( The game is now started)

10-02-09 : Delivered, 3:20 pm, SAINT ALBANS, VT 05479

10-05-09 : NOA

11-10-09 : Bio

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27 years is alot.... but I'm sure you have done all the math..and all the conflicts you can have,,so I won't go there.. I'm 19 years older then Veronica.. I've tried to talk to her about it...but she won't hear it.. and she even says I'm her big kid...

I guess what I'm trying to say... it only matters to you two... Love shouldn't have a age limit..a distance limit.. a color of your skin differance.. Love is is love... As they say Love has no boundries...

So the moral of this story is this... Don't let it bother you...don't act like their is a differance..and most people won't say a thing.. etc..except for those "AW's that think it's great that they speak their minds"..like it's a earned stupidity..

I've never heard of anyone being denied because of an age difference.

Bill


9/14 2006 I-129F Sent Next day Air

9/15 Recieved and signed for by "Freeman" at NSC

9/19 NOA1 CSC Recieved

9/25 Notice date Check cashed 9/25

9/28 I Recieved NOA1(I-797C) in the mail

12/5 NOA2 12/6 but Approved on 12/5 touch

12/9 Received NOA2(I-797) by snail mail

12/15 NVC has received it..Case # issued...

12/19 NVC shipped to Romania

12/22 Romanian Embassy has received an email from NVC that my Petition is on it's way...

12/29 Packet 3 sent to Veronica

1/12 2007 Packet 3 received Dang Holidays..

1/22 Sending all paperwork(I-134,Bank/Employer letters etc..,)..to Veronica per DHL, 3.5lbs...$144 WOW!

1/25 Recieved notice that She needs to pick up my packet in Chisinau..

1/26 Sending Back Packet 3

2/16 Transit Visa to go to Romania for the Interview approved..

2/20 Leaves for Bucharest overnight drive by bus...

2/21 Medical

2/22 Interview !!!! APPROVED !!!!!

3/9 2007 Flight to me....

4/7 2007 Married,,,

AOS

7/27 Sent I-485, I-864, I-765

7/30 Chicago Recieved I-485,I-765

Veronica is pregant....Due 4/17/08

9/1 Recieved NOA Bio appointment letter

9/8 Recieved NOA1's for both I-485 and I-765

9/18 Bio appointment

Received Green Card.. Nov 2007

Djuliann came 4/25/2008

I-751 Lifting Of Conditions

9/8/2009 Sent I-751

Received NOA 9/21 NOA Receipt Date 9/10/2009

9/24 received Bio letter Dated 9/18

10/9 Bio Appointment

10/23 Received Permanent Resident Card

N-400 2012

Filed for citizenship sent 2/21/2012

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I was wondering if there were other members here who have gone through the K-1 process and have a significant age gap between one another. There are 27 years between my fiance and I and I'm afraid we may be treated differently/unfairly because of it (already experienced discrimination of sorts at the border with US Customs because of our age difference). :unsure:

You do not mention your finacee's age, but if she is 21 or older there is usually not an issue with the interview. When they are between 18-20 there seems to be more proof of relationship and parental involvement involved in the process.

I assume you question is about the K1 process and not how you will be treated or viewed once back home? I am 20 yrs older than my finacee' and believe me I did not go looking for someone her age, it just happened naturally. We will face the looks and whispers when we get back to the mainland, but I am only concerned with US, and our families. So far our families are cool with it as long as we are happy. Good luck, Payato


"Better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not!"

Timeline:

22 Jul 06 - Received NOA-1

18 Sep 06 - Received NOA2 in mail

11 Oct 06 - Case MNL783xxx received by Manila Embassy... guess NVC lied

26 Dec 06 - Received Packet 4

18-19 Jan 07 - Medical complete early, scheduled 8 Feb

19 Jan - CFO completed after SLE shots... have to go back for the stamp after visa approval

15 Feb 07 - Interview Approved

24 Feb 07 - Arrive at Honolulu POE

2 Apr 07 - Married, civil ceremony, mailed AOS

17 Apr 07 - Checks cashed for AOS & AP

22 Apr 07 - Filed Expedite for AP

8 May 07 - Biometrics Appt

8 May 07 - Filed complaint with local USCIS for no action on Expedite request

9 May 07 - AP Expedite approved via email

14 May 07 - received AP I-512L documents in the mail

25 Jun 07 - AOS Interview scheduled but cancelled due to deployment and family emergency

29 Nov 07 - Visited local USCIS to reschedule AOS interview

15 Jan 08 - Local USCIS finally forwards reschedule request after formal complaint

8 Feb 08 - Received new Interview date

28 Mar 08 - AOS Interview ..investigation reopened due to incorrect birthdate that was identified 05/07

16 Apr 08 - CRIS Notice of GC approval and welcome notice via email

25 Apr 08 - GC received finally!

15 Jan 10 - Mailed Lifting of Conditions Package

19 Jan 10 - Package received at VT USCIS

22 Jan 10 - Checked cashed by USCIS

26 Jan 10 - Received NOA dated 20 Jan 10

29 Jan 10 - Received NOA for Biometrics

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Morocco
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I've never heard of anyone being denied because of an age difference.

Bill

Have you visited the ME/NA forum lately? It's a huge factor in those countries. I doubt it's a problem for Canada though.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Brazil
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When it comes to immigration, you are pretty much considered guilty until proven innocent. So while a 27 year age difference is certainly legal, there may be extra scrunity during the interview to prove that the relationship exists. You witnessed it at the border already, so there's no reason to think that it wouldn't happen at the consulate. Of course the interview may be short and sweet too. As long as you both convice them that your relationship is real, then who cares if they ask a few more questions....it's their job after all. Good luck!

Edited by Ana and Dan

April 1, 2006 - Filed I-129F

April 7, 2006 - NOA1

June 1, 2006 – Touched due to transfer to from NSC to CSC.

July 3, 2006 - IMBRA RFE Recieved in mail

July 6, 2006 - IMBRA RFE sent back to CSC

July 14, 2006 - CSC received RFE

July 15, 2006 - Touched

August 10, 2006 - Touched

August 11, 2006 - Touched

August 12, 2006 - Touched - Second RFE notice

August 14, 2006 - Touched

August 15, 2006 - Touched

August 19, 2006 - Second RFE arrives

August 20, 2006 - RFE reply

August 25, 2006 - Touched - RFE reply received

August 26, 2006 - Touched

August 28, 2006 - NOA2 approved in 144 days

August 29, 2006 - Touched

September 2, 2006 - Physical NOA2 arrives in mail

September 8, 2006 - NVC receives case

September 13, 2006 - NVC sends case to Rio

September 18, 2006 - Physical notice from NVC arrives in mail

September 18, 2006 - Case arrives in Rio

September 26, 2006 - Packet 3 replied to (before receiving it)

September 27, 2006 - Packet 3 response arrives in Rio

September 27, 2006 - Packet 3 arrives at Ana's

October 6, 2006 - Packet 4 arrives at Ana's

October 9, 2006 - Medical

December 5, 2006 - Interview!!

January 13, 2007 - Getting married in Hawaii!!

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Australia
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I have heard of other couples being denied at the consulate interview because of the age difference. Right or wrong, I think large age differences do attract extra attention, particularly when the female is older or when the beneficiary is from a high fraud country.

I think a couple with an age difference needs to talk about it, laugh about it, and be totally comfortable with it so that when you reach the interview you don't appear nervous about the questioning.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Spain
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I will be 24 next week, my fiance turned 43 this year, so we are about 19,5 years apart.Can this be a problem?Sure it may raise some eyebrows from some people but i doubt it will be a problem at all since the relationship is true and honest.

On a more personal note, we have never encountered anyone here or in the US that has said anything negative, not even a bad look, i think people can see there is nothing but love between us.

And while i think every case is different,and there is fraud in age gap relationships and not age gap relationships, there are patterns taken into consideration such as the country of origin of the beneficiary, how big is tha gap, who is the older party etc...

I do think however, people from countries in the EU ,such as myself, if we were to have a convenience relationship we would choose someone from some country in the EU where we would not have to go through all this mess. Coming to the US has no sense no matter how you look at it if it is not for love, we just cannot choose who we fall in love with, and i am just not going to deny myself the chance of being happy for being in a relationship that is not the norm.

These are us :luv:

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Edited by MariaEric

~ AOS Journey ~

03/08/2007: AOS/EAD sent

03/16/2007: NOA AOS/EAD

03/21/2007: Touched

04/05/2007: Biometrics

04/09/2007: Touched

04/11/2007: Case transferred to CSC

05/16/2007: Case pending at CSC

05/17/2007: AOS Touched

05/24/2007: EAD Touched

05/29/2007: EAD Approved (82 days)

06/19/2007: AOS Approved (93 days)

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Filed: Country: Canada
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To answer the OP's question: Age difference issues quite possibly vary from consulate to consulate. As for our experience, my husband (then fiancé) is Canadian and we have a 14 yr difference. We experienced no problems. He went through Montréal for his K1 interview. No problems coming through customs or with any officer on trips. Best of luck to ya. :)


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8-30-05 Met David at a restaurant in Germany

3-28-06 David 'officially' proposed

4-26-06 I-129F mailed

9-25-06 Interview: APPROVED!

10-16-06 Flt to US, POE Detroit

11-5-06 Married

7-2-07 Green card received

9-12-08 Filed for divorce

12-5-08 Court hearing - divorce final

A great marriage is not when the "perfect couple" comes together.

It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

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If your paperwork is in order, there should be no problem with age difference. On many of my trips to Manila, I have seen grandfathers in their 60's and 70's with their teen-age wives. If such an age difference is approved in a "high-fraud"country like the Philippines, than I don't think its an issue at all. It may raise eyebrows a bit, and cause higher scrutiny with the paperwork, but who cares. If the paperwork is solid, it won't matter.


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My wifes age vs. mine has a 25yr difference. It is much more common to see older men and younger woman marrying than the reverse.

Given you're much older than your partner then you can be certain that you'll be treated differently; at the very least she can expect to answer many questions about the gap in age and should be prepared to answer them.

Since your fiance is Canadian though I personally don't think you'll have any problem.


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My fiancee is from the Philippines and she is 30 years old. I am from the US and I am 64 years old. There is a 34 year difference in our ages, but we don't see any problem in that. She wants to be with me and I want to be with her. I told her about how people think and feel about such an age difference over here, and she said she doesn't care what people say or think. To her, age is just a number. She says with my being much older than her, I know more about life and she doesn't have to worry about me cheating or lying to her, and she has seen how caring I am to her and her family. Her parents want nothing but the best for their daughter and they tell me they feel they have nothing to worry about as long as she and I love each other and take care of one another. The Philippine people have a different way of life and stronger family values, and the women take very good care of their husbands. (Something some of the the US people could learn from them.)

My K-1 has been approved and I will be going over to be with her while she goes through her part of the process. We have decided if she doesn't get approved because of the age difference or anything else, we will be married over there and I will move over there to be with her and her family.


07/13/06 Mailed I-129F Petition

07/18/06 I-129F NOA1 (Receipt)

09/18/06 I-129F Approved

09/22/06 Sent To NVC

10/11/06 Received by Manila Consulate

12/27/06 Received appointment Letter (packet 4)

02/13/07 Interview Date

02/19/07 Visa Received

04/22/07 Fiancee arrived in the US

05/06/07 Married In Las Vegas

05/14/07 AOS Filed

05/22/07 NOA1 received

05/31/07 Received Biometrics notice

06/13/07 Received email of case sent to CSC

06/14/07 Biometrics Appointment (3:00pm) at Naperville, Illinois

06/20/07 Received notice that case was still pending at CSC

06/21/07 Touched

07/18/07 Touched

07/24/07 Card Production Ordered

07/31/07 Green Card Received

04/22/09 I-751 Filed

04/23/09 CSC received the package

05/07/09 Check Cashed

05/11/09 NOA Received

06/05/09 Biometrics notice received

06/16/09 Biometrics schedule

07/10/09 Got approval notice

07/20/09 10 year green card received

05/27/10 N-400 packet sent

05/28/10 Arizona office received the package

06/09/10 Check Cashed

06/14/10 NOA received (receipt date 06/08/10)

07/16/10 Biometrics schedule

08/16/10 Yellow letter received (receipt date 8/10/10)

10/26/10 Interview (Approved)

03/04/11 Oathtaking

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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I have heard of other couples being denied at the consulate interview because of the age difference. Right or wrong, I think large age differences do attract extra attention, particularly when the female is older or when the beneficiary is from a high fraud country.

My husband and I didn't have any problems (I am the older one) but perhaps the reason is that he isn't from an apparent high-fraud country (he's from the UK).

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