Uggggh!

[trojam227 18]

You are so right...we are both strong minded but I am the impatient one. I am trying to expedite because of my child's medical issues that surfaced after I filed. We expected a long process, and still do, but now her condition is affecting my employment & my other children. Whether uscis will see this as emergent is another story.

[thongd4me 69]

You are so right...we are both strong minded but I am the impatient one.

I am trying to expedite because of my child's medical issues that surfaced after I filed.

We expected a long process, and still do, but now her condition is affecting my employment & my other children.

Whether uscis will see this as emergent is another story.

Wish you the best of luck; you have to give the kid a priority

but you're also concerned with your own needs.

There are some things you can control and others you can't.

I shared some of my experience with you but each one's

situation is different. Hope you can work things out.

I didn't ask for an expedite but my mom is 86 years old

and having my wife around (when she is not working at

her 2 part time jobs) is a big help now that she is here.

My mom does all her own cooking, cleaning, etc. but

she is sometimes afraid of being alone. A real test of

the relationship is that my wife understands my mom's

needs and doesn't get upset when my mom is in a

"needy" mode. My two sisters-in-law keep the maximum

amount of distance from my mom as they have no

patience with her.

[trojam227 18]

Thank You for your words of wisdom! Yes, I could use him here to cook, clean & do my handyman work lol..no really, I could use some help...1 mom-3 kids, no family nearby...not easy, especially with the amount of doctors/hosp. visits we've been to lately. But hey, I am not alone out there...plenty of people worse off so I shouldn't whine. Glad your wife is with you...enjoy her

[Richie Rich 70]

But what do you do to get your mind off of her? I am struggling to enjoy life normally...in limbo, just going through the motions, waiting for happy life to resume. Who would've known that after a few chats on facebook poker we'd be married 2.5 yrs later. If I only knew then what I know now...crazy what we do for "those 3 words"

She is always on my mind --that what keeps me focused and happy that one day we will be together . I persevered through all the ''trials and tribulations ( VSC , NVC, Medical, Embassy) '' and now I am reaping the rewards (we will be together within 30 days).I know the process can be frustrating but just focus on one day at a time . It may be slow but it is SURE .

[Richie Rich 70]

Thank You for your words of wisdom! Yes, I could use him here to cook, clean & do my handyman work lol..no really, I could use some help...1 mom-3 kids, no family nearby...not easy, especially with the amount of doctors/hosp. visits we've been to lately. But hey, I am not alone out there...plenty of people worse off so I shouldn't whine. Glad your wife is with you...enjoy her

Why did you only file in FEB 2011 ? I saw you were married in Sept 2010 . That's like 6-7 mths between marraige and filing .Maybe had your husband filed in Feb --your petition could have been processed by now . Just asking .

Edited May 29, 2011 by Richie Rich

[trojam227 18]

I'm the petitioner USC..he's a london bloke. I don't have an answer to why we didn't file sooner...we didn't get married to file. We got married when we felt like it & when it was convenient for me to take a month off work & a month away from my kids which could only be in summer. When I got back to NY, life took over! Kids back to school, bombarded at work, and then Christmas crept up fast...you know what that's like with 3 kids? Then I went to visit him the day after christmas until after new year's, so by the time I could think about filing it was Jan/Feb. Now I wish I filed right away, but oh well!

[Ban Hammer 12,845]

Thank You for your words of wisdom! Yes, I could use him here to cook, clean & do my handyman work lol..no really, I could use some help...1 mom-3 kids, no family nearby...not easy, especially with the amount of doctors/hosp. visits we've been to lately. But hey, I am not alone out there...plenty of people worse off so I shouldn't whine. Glad your wife is with you...enjoy her

i'd suggest a shopping trip to home depot/lowe's for tools then when he arrives

[trojam227 18]

i'd suggest a shopping trip to home depot/lowe's for tools then when he arrives

You know it Charles! Home Depot will be his new best friend and I can wash my hands of that awful place! I had to buy a lawn mower last year and was determined to not make myself look like such a naive chick when it came to tool shopping, so every guy that offered help, I declined. Stubborn....I had no idea what I was looking at, and no interest whatsoever. I had to call my husband in england to ask him what stuff meant lol...then I grabbed a little old man and asked which one he would buy. That is the very one I got

[Darnell 8,478]

i smell a tool belt in your future.

[ScottThuy 140]

Thuy and I use the same phrase when one of us starts to get frazzled... "shut up, sit down, relax" we both know if it gets to that phrase, we need to take a time out and chill out... and if we say it.. we say it with a smile...

It is so much easier to let silly issues flow under the bridge and away like water than to try to stick with them and hold on like water against a Dam...

[trojam227 18]

i smell a tool belt in your future.

As long as he's the one wearing it, not me Darnell...if they don't let him in I don't know what I will do. I'll be stuck here until my kids are all grown up. I'll be a shriveled up old woman by then & changing his diapers

(he's 12 yrs older than me & I never forget to remind him =)

[trojam227 18]

Thuy and I use the same phrase when one of us starts to get frazzled... "shut up, sit down, relax" we both know if it gets to that phrase, we need to take a time out and chill out... and if we say it.. we say it with a smile...

It is so much easier to let silly issues flow under the bridge and away like water than to try to stick with them and hold on like water against a Dam...

You're right Scott, we shouldn't sweat the small stuff. I think its the distance, 5 hr time difference, work schedule...he finds it harder when I first leave, I find it harder the more time passes since we were together. He's there alone in his flat with kids that are grown up that he sees rarely. I can't even take a shower without an audience. When we are together we are perfectly fine...apart, not so much.

[Ban Hammer 12,845]

You know it Charles! Home Depot will be his new best friend and I can wash my hands of that awful place! I had to buy a lawn mower last year and was determined to not make myself look like such a naive chick when it came to tool shopping, so every guy that offered help, I declined. Stubborn....I had no idea what I was looking at, and no interest whatsoever. I had to call my husband in england to ask him what stuff meant lol...then I grabbed a little old man and asked which one he would buy. That is the very one I got

if your home depot is anything like the one where i'm at, there's only a few people who's advice i seek - the rest i don't even ask.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

if your home depot is anything like the one where i'm at, there's only a few people who's advice i seek - the rest i don't even ask.

Ask the guys out front who speak Spanish.

[trojam227 18]

if your home depot is anything like the one where i'm at, there's only a few people who's advice i seek - the rest i don't even ask.

Yeh, same here. One of the guys working in the yard tool dept. used to work at our local Just A Buck. I might have asked his opinion if I was shopping for plastic forks!