Uggggh!

[trojam227 18]

You would think 3500 miles away we would never have a reason to argue...wrong! The distance & immigration process is wearing us down that we pick on each other! lol...how do you all get through it?? (for those who have been there)

[Ban Hammer 13,398]

oh i'd just wait for her to realize she was wrong....

[trojam227 18]

Hahaha! See, I decided to take the "keep my mouth shut and hang up on him" approach to avoid what I really want to say...go BEEP the Beep you BEEEEP!! lol Unfortunately that won't be an option when we are actually living in the same COUNTRY!!! lol

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Hahaha! See, I decided to take the "keep my mouth shut and hang up on him" approach to avoid what I really want to say...go BEEP the Beep you BEEEEP!! lol Unfortunately that won't be an option when we are actually living in the same COUNTRY!!! lol

You might consider this...

[trojam227 18]

Consider what...running him over?? =)

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Consider what...running him over?? =)

It's a good start, besides with all the BEEPing going on it seems appropriate.

[trojam227 18]

Great idea....if the ATLANTIC wasn't in the BEEPING way!! lol

[Ban Hammer 13,398]

i keep reading the op's name as toejam. need to increase the font size i guess in my old age.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

Great idea....if the ATLANTIC wasn't in the BEEPING way!! lol

Problem solved.

[trojam227 18]

I won't drive German imports... just joe king...funny pic, can't believe you found that. Charles! toe jam, tro jam, jim jam...however you wanna look at it, I'm just always in a jam.

[Richie Rich 70]

You would think 3500 miles away we would never have a reason to argue...wrong! The distance & immigration process is wearing us down that we pick on each other! lol...how do you all get through it?? (for those who have been there)

Thank heavens for Skype and Yahoo Im . Seeing her and hearing her voice atleast twice a week keep me from going insane being apart from each other . But as the saying goes '' Absence makes the heart grows fonder''.

[trojam227 18]

Thank heavens for Skype and Yahoo Im . Seeing her and hearing her voice atleast twice a week keep me from going insane being apart from each other . But as the saying goes '' Absence makes the heart grows fonder''.

But what do you do to get your mind off of her? I am struggling to enjoy life normally...in limbo, just going through the motions, waiting for happy life to resume. Who would've known that after a few chats on facebook poker we'd be married 2.5 yrs later. If I only knew then what I know now...crazy what we do for "those 3 words"

[Ban Hammer 13,398]

But what do you do to get your mind off of her? I am struggling to enjoy life normally...in limbo, just going through the motions, waiting for happy life to resume. Who would've known that after a few chats on facebook poker we'd be married 2.5 yrs later. If I only knew then what I know now...crazy what we do for "those 3 words"

"i'll raise you" ???

[trojam227 18]

LMAO!! exactly..."sense of humor" is more like it. I'm a sucker for that...it exceeds all else for me.

[thongd4me 69]

You would think 3500 miles away we would never have a reason to argue...wrong!

The distance & immigration process is wearing us down that we pick on each other!

lol...how do you all get through it?? (for those who have been there)

Have you ever given thought to re-evaluating your conclusion?

From your initial statement you are blaming the process for the

stress that both of you are under. What I see here (may be) two

type "A" personalities whose strong suit may not be patience.

I couldn't help noticing the "expedite" in your profile.

It may be OK to have such strong personalities in a marriage,

as long as each of you has the capacity to forgive the other,

because when you are yoked together in matrimony, you

have to take decisions together and some decisions taken

unilaterally won't always go over well.

Once the visa and emigration process is complete, you

may have nothing to blame except each other when things

go awry. Having differences & arguments are part of life,

but it's the way you handle them that makes the difference.

My first wife pretended to be submissive during courtship,

but when we got married there was NOTHING I could do right

and anything which gave her the slightest displeasure resulted

in "death by hanging" for me.

My current wife is also a strong personality, but while she

sometimes gets mad, she doesn't stay mad for long and

never makes me feel like ####### when she is criticizing me.

Sometimes I'll give her a piece of my mind but she knows

that my intentions are good.

My first wife blamed everyone around her, that was her

way of dealing with being a basically insecure person.

She would blame everyone in her family (even if they were

in Japan and the history between them had been very very old).

The problem was, when I became family she blamed everything on ME.

Before I married my current wife I made many trips to Thailand and

I saw all her relatives, friends and even enemies. At least the enemies

respected her but the family and friends all loved her and respected her.

I could see that the way she treated them was how she would treat me.

I only saw my first wife's family AFTER we married and although she

continued to blame them for everything, I could see clearly that it

was not their fault but hers most of the time.

The visa process demands a lot of teamwork and that is a good test

of how the both of you will interact when you're finally married. You

can't blame the visa process for picking on each other, you have to

look in the mirror.