Marriage

[Rictodd 0]

HI,

Just wonder, those of you that are different religions when you are married, how dod you handle it? Civil Service, or try something else? I'm Protestant and my fiance is Bhuddist.

Thanks

[sachinky 465]

Court marriage. That is, just signing the marriage certificate in front of the marriage registrar. Mr. Sachinky is Roman Catholic (sort of) and I'm Hindu. Neither of us are too big on religion.

We did have a few rituals included -- traditional Hindu garments (my mother's only demand), gold ring exchange, flower garlands etc.

Then we had a large dinner reception.

Edited October 21, 2010 by sachinky

[AlinaH 38]

We're doing a simple civil marriage and then we're later having a religious wedding after I get my greencard and I'm able to go home to Canada.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

You're not going to have much time after she arrives to arrange anything complicated. I suggest you have a civil wedding in order to satisfy the 90 day requirement. What you do before or after that is something you'll have to work out with her. If she's a traditional girl then she'll probably want something involving her family, and on a date selected by a Buddhist fortune teller. Most Buddhist sects have an engagement ceremony that will usually satisfy the family. You can usually do this with her family before she comes to the US, and before the actual wedding.

Differences in religion can be a major sticking point in relationships with foreign spouses, depending on how strictly either or both follow their own particular religion. I've seen relationships with Buddhist women collapse because the husband was a devout Christian, and wouldn't let her set up her idols or perform her prayer rituals in the family home. At first, this may be something she thinks she can live with, but it might begin to wear on her over time.

This is really something you should spend some time working out in advance. She probably won't expect you to become a Buddhist, but she also may not appreciate any attempts to try to convert her to Christianity, and you probably shouldn't expect it.

My wife is a devout Buddhist, but I'm agnostic so there haven't been any conflicts. My wife set up her altar in the living room, with a beautiful porcelain idol of her patron Buddhist goddess. She keeps the altar adorned with fresh flowers and fruit, and she burns incense and performs her ritual prayers almost daily. I also don't mind going through the motions when it's required. When it's "that" time of the month I light the incense and do the bows for her. I also do the bows and prostrations at family Buddhist events, like weddings or funerals or lunar new year celebrations, etc. Everyone knows I'm not a Buddhist and I don't believe in this stuff, but I see it as a way of showing respect.

[payxibka 10,045]

not a K-1 visa process issue... moving thread

[fozzie 41]

My wife and I were very lucky. I am not a religious person but was raised in the Church of England faith. My wife is Jewish but not conservative/orthodox. We actually found a Rabbii that was married to a Minister so he was able to perform the ceremony Hebrew and thn explain everything in English. The vows and ceremony do not vary much between the religions and I was all to happy to accomodate my wife's faith. I did have to stamp on a glass and shout Mazel Tov, which felt a bit weird. We arranged everything at short notice so that the rabbii performed the interfaith service on a Saturday during Sukkot.

We will also raise our children Jewish. I feel its important because its more than a religion, its a community and ancestry.

[Rictodd 0]

Thank you all for your replies.

I certainly don't intend to convert anyone to any religion. I've always considered all religions to be a means of teaching virtues and moralities for your life. Maybe I should have phrased the question "Is a civil marriage at the court house most common to meet the marriage requirement to go to AOS level".

Thanks

[Rictodd 0]

Thanks all,

I begin to understand.... My SO was interiewed on 1/11/11, got a Blue RFE, lifted and approved, but sent to the wrong adddress dated 1/27/11. Actually recieved the docment 2/12/11. Chinese New Years in between, so no available travel times to pick-up approved visa until 2/23/11. Wait 3-5 days to receive the actual visa and packet for entry into the US that must remained sealed until the US immigration officer opens it, upon entry into the USA. Can't really arrange a flight before she has her visa. After she knows she has the visa, time to say good-bye to family and relatives she won't see for two years minimum. Pack up belongs to be shipped, console with family members that this is the best for you, say good-bye, hop on a train to get to the airport that takes you to a new life.

[luckytxn 2,264]

We had a simple civil wedding to satisfy the requirements needed to start the paperwork to AOS and get going. We also frankly wanted to sleep together finally. She is very Catholic and I was raised Methodist. It was going to take a long time to get permission for the church wedding. We finally did the big church wedding a few months ago and have pics of it in my profile under the pictures part. She looked awesome in the wedding dress she made herself.

She says I am Catholic and will be and I say NO but this is going to be a battle I lose I think.

[Messybrownhair 251]

My fiance is a 7th-day Adventist and I am Catholic, and we will be having a Catholic ceremony this April. Most of it was planned online, its hard, but it can be done