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It was back in November or so when I first found this website. I never knew or expected to know the many things I now know about the visa process. The community has been great and highly informative. I never planned to meet or remotely think that I would possibly marry a non-usc. Logistically, it just seemed to far-fetched. But, I was only mildly interested back then because I had met a beautiful young lady while on vacation in Mexico back in October 2005. We were both interested in eachother and wanted to get to know eachother better. So over these last few months, we did just that. We spoke, we chatted, we web-cammed.

It was going perfectly. Some of you may even recall my intended scenario for proposing. I had scented candles, champagne flutes, ballads playing in the background. Well...I did as I planned when I got to Manzanillo last week (Feb 8th - Feb 15th). I went to visit my sweetheart in Manzanillo and blew away her senses. She was estatic and emotional.

While there I had a marvelous time. I stayed 7 nights, met her mom, her best friend, and almost all of her bothers and sisters. Everyone was great to me. No one was callous or cold. She was very sweet, kind and affectionate my whole time there. I had almost forgot how great love felt.

We filled out her half of the I-129F and the other paperwork needed to submit for the fiancee visa. We were set.

I come to find out yesterday that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She thought that by me going over there, she would know if it was really love or not. It turns out that she sees me more like a very good friend. That's my queue. I know what that means and I respect that. It doesnt heal the pain I feel but she deserves to be happy just as I do. She really is a great person, I'm just not the one her heart is into.

I wasnt sure if I should have posted this but it's theraputic for me and hopefully helpful to others that are also hurting from what they thought was a perfect match as well. I haven't taken her off my cell phone or erased her IM from my chat program. I havent deleted all 500+ photos I took over us while I was over there celebrating her birthday, our relationship and valentines. That may be one of the last steps in my healing. I may send her mom some photos of the "neutral" events that we celebrated. Like my sweetheart's birthday. Or the time where we just did nothing but had Baileys all night. Make no mistake, I left her with unforgettable memories that she will never forget. And neither will I. If only for a week, it was still one of my most beautiful times I had ever spent with someone I loved. Soon these tears will dry and I will spring to a new beat. But for now, I want to remember what I felt. I want to re-live if only for a second....what it was to feel love again. That is the feeling worth living for.

Good luck and keep the faith.

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04/27/2006 - I-129F mailed to CSC via UPS Overnight

04/28/2006 - I-129F received by CSC

05/02/2006 - Check Cashed

05/02/2006 - NOA1

05/04/2006 - Touched

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good luck to you too and happier times David :)

Applied for K1

Met online 2001 - just aquaintances

Sept 2002 - 1st US visit - everything goes perfectly.

Dec 20th - Forms recev'd at CSC

Dec 27th - NOA1 received by snail mail!

Dec 29th - 'Touched'

March 10 2006 - NOA2!

March 23 - recv'd at NVC

March 24 - petition sent to London

April 9th - Pkt 3 rec'd!

May 17th - Pkt 3 signed for at London Embassy

May 24th - Medical

May24th - Pkt 4

June 14th - Interview 10am - APPROVED 1pm!!

June 16th - Visas received in my hot little hands 1pm :)

July 19th - flying to US!

July 27th - Married!! :-)

Aug 7th - Applied for SSN in married name

Aug 9th - SSN received

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David.....

I am truly saddened to read this....You sound like a great bloke and I know you will find happiness again....

All the very best to you and thoughts are with you (F)(F)

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It was back in November or so when I first found this website. I never knew or expected to know the many things I now know about the visa process. The community has been great and highly informative. I never planned to meet or remotely think that I would possibly marry a non-usc. Logistically, it just seemed to far-fetched. But, I was only mildly interested back then because I had met a beautiful young lady while on vacation in Mexico back in October 2005. We were both interested in eachother and wanted to get to know eachother better. So over these last few months, we did just that. We spoke, we chatted, we web-cammed.

It was going perfectly. Some of you may even recall my intended scenario for proposing. I had scented candles, champagne flutes, ballads playing in the background. Well...I did as I planned when I got to Manzanillo last week (Feb 8th - Feb 15th). I went to visit my sweetheart in Manzanillo and blew away her senses. She was estatic and emotional.

While there I had a marvelous time. I stayed 7 nights, met her mom, her best friend, and almost all of her bothers and sisters. Everyone was great to me. No one was callous or cold. She was very sweet, kind and affectionate my whole time there. I had almost forgot how great love felt.

We filled out her half of the I-129F and the other paperwork needed to submit for the fiancee visa. We were set.

I come to find out yesterday that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She thought that by me going over there, she would know if it was really love or not. It turns out that she sees me more like a very good friend. That's my queue. I know what that means and I respect that. It doesnt heal the pain I feel but she deserves to be happy just as I do. She really is a great person, I'm just not the one her heart is into.

I wasnt sure if I should have posted this but it's theraputic for me and hopefully helpful to others that are also hurting from what they thought was a perfect match as well. I haven't taken her off my cell phone or erased her IM from my chat program. I havent deleted all 500+ photos I took over us while I was over there celebrating her birthday, our relationship and valentines. That may be one of the last steps in my healing. I may send her mom some photos of the "neutral" events that we celebrated. Like my sweetheart's birthday. Or the time where we just did nothing but had Baileys all night. Make no mistake, I left her with unforgettable memories that she will never forget. And neither will I. If only for a week, it was still one of my most beautiful times I had ever spent with someone I loved. Soon these tears will dry and I will spring to a new beat. But for now, I want to remember what I felt. I want to re-live if only for a second....what it was to feel love again. That is the feeling worth living for.

Good luck and keep the faith.

Best wishes for you, David. Reading that almost brought tears to my eyes. I know exactly how that feels, I've been there, many years ago. Things'll look up! :yes:

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Nice post, thank you for sharing! I hope you will recover quickly and move on! :D

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thanks for sharing your experience with us, im sure that should have hurt a lot but your there trying to be strong, i admire that so much. Im sure you will feel real love soon as everybody in this forum. We wish the best luck :thumbs:

OLY AND DIDIER

AOS PROCESS

Finally we sent our AOS and EAD paperwork.

09-13-2006 AOS/EAD package sent via FedEX to USCIS in Chicago.

09-22-2006 Received NOA by Mail for AOS and EAD

09-29-2006 Received Appointment Notice for Biometrics

10-04-2006 Biometrics done for AOS and EAD

10-10-2006 NOA by Mail Regarding Transfer to CSC

11-21-2006 AOS touched

12-06-2006 AOS approved (online status)

12-11-2006 Green Card Arrived - Woo Whoo

12-12-2006 Welcome Letter by mail

Removing Conditions I-751

09-09-2008 Sent Package

09-15-2008 Received I-751 NOA1 (Notice date: 09-10-2008)

10-01-2008 Received Biometrics Appointment (Notice date: 09-26-2008)

10-15-2008 Biometrics date: 09-30-2008

12-12-2008 Card production Ordered

Citizenship Process

10-26-2009 Sent N400 - Citizenship Application

10-30-2009 NOA notice date

11-02-2009 Received NOA in mailbox

11-19-2009 Received Fingerprint Notification notice

11-20-2009 Fingerprint taken

01-29-2010 Passed Interview

02-19-2010 Oath Ceremony

02-23-2010 Ordered passport book and card :)

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Egypt
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Wow, you did some increadibly sweet and romantic things. Whatever girl you find to spend the rest of your life with will be increadibly lucky (F)

10/14/05 - married AbuS in the US lovehusband.gif

02/23/08 - Filed for removal of conditions.

Sometime in 2008 - Received 10 year GC. Almost done with USCIS for life inshaAllah! Huzzah!

12/07/08 - Adopted the fuzzy feline love of my life, my Squeaky baby th_catcrazy.gif

02/23/09 - Apply for citizenship

06/15/09 - Citizenship interview

07/15/09 - Citizenship ceremony. Alhamdulilah, the US now has another american muslim!

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Wow, you did some increadibly sweet and romantic things. Whatever girl you find to spend the rest of your life with will be increadibly lucky (F)

Rahma. You said exactly what I was thinking. :thumbs:

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You are a good man and you will find someone speacial.

Peter Miami

Johanna & Peter

Colombia / U.S.A.

I-129F / K-1 Fiancee Visa

08-20-02 - Met Johanna in Armenia, Colombia

10-05-05 - K-1 Sent to TSC

10-14-05 - Received NOA1 by E-Mail (Day 9)

12-22-05 - Reveived NOA2 By E-Mail & Mail (Day 78)

03-03-06 - Interview Date! (Day 149) Approved

03-10-06 - Johanna Arrived

05-27-06 - Married

I-485 / AOS (Did not applied for EAD or AP)

06-05-06 - Sent I-485 application to Chicago via USPS (Day 1)

06-06-06 - AOS Package Delivered at 12:29PM

06-12-06 - Received NOA1 by Mail

06-14-06 - Check Cashed

06-22-06 - Received Appointment Notice for Biometrics

06-26-06 - "Request for Additional Evidence" Online, waiting for letter

06-29-06 - Biometrics Done!

06-30-06 - Received RFE Letter by mail. (Missing Birth Certificate)

07-10-06 - Sent RFE by Express Mail USPS

07-11-06 - RFE Delivered @ 10:54AM Sign by D. Atwell

08-28-06 - AOS Transferred to CSC E-mail & USCIS Website (Day 85)

08-30-06 - Touched #1

08-31-06 - Touched #2

08-31-06 - E-Mail from CRIS & USCIS-CSSO - CSC received AOS Application

09-01-06 - Touched #3

09-01-06 - NOA by Mail Regarding Transfer to CSC

09-05-06 - Touched #4

09-07-06 - Touched #5

09-13-06 - Touched #6

09-15-06 - AOS Approved by Online Status & E-mail

09-21-06 - Received GC and Welcome Letter (Day 109)

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Good luck, man.

You're a good guy, and I'd echo that whoever you wind up with will be a lucky girl.

And don't forget that your newly-minted VJ family are here for fun and frolics, or whatever you might need us for :)

Make sure you're wearing clean knickers. You never know when you'll be run over by a bus.

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She really is a great person, I'm just not the one her heart is into.

I come to find out yesterday that she still has feelings for her ex-boyfriend. She thought that by me going over there, she would know if it was really love or not. It turns out that she sees me more like a very good friend. That's my queue.

I can't see how she can be a great person, when she obviously lead you on and used you to be able to validate whether she still had feelings for her ex or not. She at least should have, out of respect and consideration, mentioned this to you earlier or as soon as you met, instead of making you go there and out of your way for her.

Although she is to, in a way, be commended for being upfront with you by admitting how she felt to your face, the fact she kept this in the dark all along until then was cruel and selfish, imho. Why make you travel over there and even introduce you to her family, when she all along knew she still had feelings for her ex? It was when she realized you had developed true, real feelings and were serious about having a relationship with her, perhaps even considering marriage, that she dropped the bomb on you.

She played you.

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((((((((((((((((((((((David)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I remember your excitement and I tell you are a sweetheart... you made all that you could to make it work :) now.. time to move on

Good luck and be strong (F)

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12/26/06 Sent AOS to Chicago

04/16/07 Green Card approved w/o interview !! YYYAAAYY

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03/16/2009 - I-751 sent to VSC

03/17/2009 - VSC received

03/18/2009 - NOA 1

03/20/2009 - Check cashed

03/23/2009 - NOA 1 in mail

04/01/2009 - Biometrics letter

04/14/2009 - Biometrics

04/15/2009 - Touched

04/16/2009 - I guess I can lay down and sleep now ?

07/16/2009 - 3 months later...... nothing... oh well

07/21/2009 - Card production ordered w/o interview again :) !! woohooo

07/22/2009 - Touched

07/30/2009 - Card is here !

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01/23/2019 - I-90 sent online

01/28/2019 - Notice of receipt in the mail

02/01/2019 - Biometrics notice in the mail

02/15/2019 - Biometrics

02/21/2019 - Card being produced

02/23/2019 - Card received!!

 

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You are doing the right thing David, best to move on and not let yourself be dragged down by this. Good luck to you!

K1 Visa Process long ago and far away...

02/09/06 - NOA1 date

12/17/06 - Married!

AOS Process a fading memory...

01/31/07 - Mailed AOS/EAD package for Olga and Anya

06/01/07 - Green card arrived in mail

Removing Conditions

03/02/09 - Mailed I-751 package (CSC)

03/06/09 - Check cashed

03/10/09 - Recieved Olga's NOA1

03/28/09 - Olga did biometrics

05/11/09 - Anya recieved NOA1 (took a call to USCIS to take care of it, oddly, they were helpful)

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Best of luck David :)

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PEGGY & ROGER

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K-1/K-2 VISA'S APPROVED IN MONTREAL MAY 2, 2005

K-1/K-2 AOS APPROVED IN ATLANTA MAY 17, 2006

10 year GC Approved - APRIL 16th ,2009 - Peggy and Jonathan's......

Still waiting for our cards...Had to file I-90 as they sent them to the wrong address.

March 9th, 2010, Received GC that has been lost in the mail for 10 months. Still waiting for my son's that is lost as well.

Filed Waiver for my son's 10 year GC and it was approved. He finally received his GC after its been missing for 2 years.

Thanking God this is over for 10 years.

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