Divorce Forum ?

[heishe 2]

I think a forum based on difficulties occurring because of cultural differences would be real helpful.

I think the regional forums are good for that.

[chispas 0]

It might as well be a forum called 'What to do When Things Go Bad' and then all that garbage can go together where it doesn't scare people who don't want to see it, but the people who do can know that they're not alone.

This one is a great idea. Even when ####### was hitting the wall, my accounts were being drained ,I still had those stars in my eyes. However, it took finding written evidence of his plans to wake me up. Now the questions is. What steps to take when things go bad?

[arwensun1965 0]

As someone going through a divorce I think some forum of some kind is warrented. I am kind of worried though that it is going to end up being a free for all when really it should stay on the issues at hand. If people are going through the early stages of divorce (before the AOS interview) then things should be pretty simple, even at the AOS interview things can be changed. It is after this when things between couples start to change, so a balance is needed, maybe finding out all the Facts that are needed. Also the difficulty is that different states have different divorce laws, so the main advice is to seek an immagration lawyer, this is sometimes difficult when you have spent all your money on the immagration process and if you are still at the AOS stage then maybe you have not got your EAD yet, with only one person working this can also prove to be an option that gets thrown out of the window.

Janice

[TucsonBill 0]

I am upgrading a few things on the board. If the demand for this forum remains I will probably add something in the next few weeks .

I think it's a great idea - especially as this board gets older, more members, and - sadly - more relationships don't work out.

In contrast, I think it would be nice to have a forum for married couples to share stories, where couples could seek advice..

Bill

[eclowjpd 0]

Good idea. Count me in.

[Yodrak 7]

Bill,

Moving Here and Your New Life in America?

Yodrak

I am upgrading a few things on the board. If the demand for this forum remains I will probably add something in the next few weeks .

I think it's a great idea - especially as this board gets older, more members, and - sadly - more relationships don't work out.

In contrast, I think it would be nice to have a forum for married couples to share stories, where couples could seek advice..

Bill

Edited October 4, 2006 by Yodrak

[Captain Ewok 1,857]

How is demand going for this? Ok it looks like. If so where would I create this forum? I hesitate to make it a forum on the Main Page as it carries a somewhat pessimistic message. The content I am sure will be valuable however I am not certain on the location if we do create it...

[babybunny 2]

you can create the forum in :

A.... among the polls - who really needs to see it.

B.. if you must place it some place.. how about in the

MOVING TO AMERICA.

[meauxna 15]

How is demand going for this? Ok it looks like. If so where would I create this forum? I hesitate to make it a forum on the Main Page as it carries a somewhat pessimistic message. The content I am sure will be valuable however I am not certain on the location if we do create it...

General Immigration Discussion

Below Waivers Forum

That helps send the message that this forum is for the discussion of the *immigration implications* of divorce, not the place for marital counseling.

[Yodrak 7]

Captain Ewok,

I like meauxna's suggestion. The General Immigration section is where most of the questions get posted now, in the AOS and Removal of Conditions forums.

Yodrak

How is demand going for this? Ok it looks like. If so where would I create this forum? I hesitate to make it a forum on the Main Page as it carries a somewhat pessimistic message. The content I am sure will be valuable however I am not certain on the location if we do create it...

General Immigration Discussion

Below Waivers Forum

That helps send the message that this forum is for the discussion of the *immigration implications* of divorce, not the place for marital counseling.

[meauxna 15]

So, who is going to write up the FAQ and ferret out the right links?

Not volunteering myself, but I've got someone in mind <koffDMkoff>.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

How is demand going for this? Ok it looks like. If so where would I create this forum? I hesitate to make it a forum on the Main Page as it carries a somewhat pessimistic message. The content I am sure will be valuable however I am not certain on the location if we do create it...

How about somewhere in the General Discussion Area near the Moving Here and Your New Life In America forum ?

mo,

Gotta tickle?

[meauxna 15]

mo,

Gotta tickle?

<g>

Gotta cough drop?

[Chris-n-Veronica 0]

I ended a 33 year marriage.... I word of advise......WORK IT OUT! No matter who wants it..it hurts both sides..

The light at the end of my tunnel..is my Veronica.,.. and she has shown me how real women act..and how much they show their love...

SO I agree... We need a Forum..based on Marriage ups and Downs... including calling it quits....

mo,

Gotta tickle?

<g>

Gotta cough drop?

[dxt7339 1]

Like Chris (Chris-N-Veronica) I was married for 28 years. I do not totally agree with "stay and work it out" idea. This is okay to a point. I spend WAY TOO LONG "staying and trying to work it out", about 10 years of counseling, both individual and maritial together with my wife. I did learn a lot, but I also learned if there are no significant positive results of "staying and working it out" within about 18 months to two years, get out! It will not get better. An after I met my Irina from Russia, I really found out what love from a women is really like! ! ! ! I now wish, I had not spent more than 12 months "staying and trying to work it out". After receiveing the love and affection from Irina, it became painfully obviously that my ex-wife was very dysfunctional and there was never any hope of change that would make my life fulfilled and happy.

But back to the point of this thread...I am fully in favor of a Immigration related divorce forum.

I think it is healthy and educational, even for newbies, paticularly for newbies, to see what the reality can be and should be fully aware of the consequenses of making a poor choice or being defrauded, which can easily be done int the starry-eyed stage of a relationship. And, in my great state of South Carolina, the divorce laws are so terrible (worst in the USA), that you must understand what you may be in for in the event that things do not turn out for the best. Paticularly in immigration related marriage, most are coming from a very different culture and may not be able to adjust before wreaking havoc on the relationship. And I suspect that many are in my situation where I have everything to lose and she has everything to gain, if the marriage will fail. This is a big consideration for me to decide to get married.

So lets get this new forum started! ! !

Devereux