Anybody else out there homesick??????????

[Alex+R 0]

... instead i am stuck sitting around here.

i think you need to reevaluate your priorities ... you came here to be with keith.

sometimes, i think many members lose sight of the reason that they moved to america ... it was the person that you couldn't live without. i relocated 3 years ago from everything and everyone i knew ... the more that you dwell of the negative, the more you are just going to drag yourself down ... mentally, emotionally and physically. why do that to yourself?

sorry that mark isn't more supportive for you, amanda!

Well yeah i came here to be with Keith, but I cant be with Keith 24/7. When he's at work (1:30pm-10), I am sitting around waiting for him to come home. I know why I moved to America, and no I cant live without him, wanting more in my life doesnt make me negative. There is nothing wrong with missing home and nothing wrong with feeling in a rut. It doesnt mean my priorities need reevaluating.

Hey Stina and OP I think you're right on. Like others have said, allow yourself to feel what you feel. The reason you moved to America was your husband, but nobody can live their life living only for their relationship! You need friends, a job/volunteer work, or whatever else it is that makes you happy. You guys moved here to *share* your lives with someone, not hand it over to them

I know everything is going to be ok eventually, and if it's not, you'll find a new solution.

[MrMrsKnight 0]

Well.... I wish I had the chance to be homesick! It's all I want...... but we're still apart!!!!

Good luck to you and I hope you feel better!

[iceyspots 0]

I'm homesick too, coming home in 8 days... and want to bring Yacine with me

[Donal78 0]

I was very homesick at the start. We moved over from ireland 5 months ago. Ok the immigration process is really a drag and it kills me that i cannot work.But you know what its not for long.Keep telling yourself that. I cannot wait for the day when i get my EAD and then the GC.I just want to be able to support my wife as well.Its not fair that she has been working for 4 and a half months to support us both.

Im off for an infopass meeting tomorrow to find out where my rfe is and hopefully they can tell me what i need so i move on with the process. I dont believe that an rfe sent 18 days gets lost in the post!!!!.

To the op try not to worry.Yes its a pain but once this gets doen you dont have to deal with immigration for another year and a half.

[MarieAnastasia 0]

Thanks for all your feedback..................{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}

[incanada1234 0]

Well, when I first moved to Canada to be with my hubby I actually didn't mind it. And then all of a sudden, after about a year and a half, homesickness hit me full force. And ever since then I can't think of anything except how much I want to be back in the U.S. I hate it here. And I can say that because we're doing something about it not long after our interview - we're finally leaving.

Anyway, I know how you feel and I'm sad for you because I know how much you must ache for your home. I hope it gets better for you.

[MarieAnastasia 0]

Well, when I first moved to Canada to be with my hubby I actually didn't mind it. And then all of a sudden, after about a year and a half, homesickness hit me full force. And ever since then I can't think of anything except how much I want to be back in the U.S. I hate it here. And I can say that because we're doing something about it not long after our interview - we're finally leaving.

Anyway, I know how you feel and I'm sad for you because I know how much you must ache for your home. I hope it gets better for you.

Thanks. I've only been here for 3 months and I want to go back home so bad.....but with my husband. Every day I feel I'm losing a part of myself. This is a total 360 for me. From family and friends, everything was within walking distance. Lots to do and volunteer work to no ends. Not enough hours in the day..........From all that to being in the middle of nowhere, can't walk anywhere do to wild animals, not a soul to talk to other than my husband who leaves 3 in the morning til 5 in the evening or 3:30 in the evening to 5 in the morning!!!!! I know all I do is complain it seems but at least it's talking but I'm become somebody I don't like anymore. I am totally dependent on hubby and I've never had to do that before (in my adult life). I can't even make reservations for a trip home because my AP was denied and now it has to be resent to Nebraska or back to Chicago due to me ticking off the wrong block

I know I said for better or worse but I thought that was going to be years down the road .............{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[CarolineM 0]

THe one thing that stops me from moving to OZ is the homesick factor. I'd do it if it needed to bedone but I would miss my parents and friends SOOO much. I feel for you all!

[nayalamb 0]

i get homesick... i miss being able to just walk down to beach and zone out for a few hours. i miss being around my family, and i have a new nephew i probably won't meet for quite a while yet. but i am not sick of being in the states. its totally opposite of MarieAnastasia. i came from a small town and moved here to a major city.

its hard overcoming boredom and that usually lets loneliness and homesickness creep in. you have to find some way to make friends or find activities so you don't lose it. maybe you should invite a few of the wives over for coffee or throw a party/bbq. its hard being an "outsider" but perhaps you just need to make the first step. i am sure they will warm up to you in time. in the meantime, find some time-consuming hobbies that will eat up some of the hours.

since its not far from the border, perhaps friends and family can visit periodically?

maybe later on, he will want to move to canada, or you will be more comfortable in your area, or even find a bigger city in your state. just try and give it some time, and do your best to be positive about the situation. you're with your guy and starting a whole new life together.

GOOD LUCK!

[Canuck Carrie 1]

Got a church you could join? a library with 'clubs'? town festivals you could volunteer at? garden center? book store? or have your hubby invite anyone and everyone he knows over for a BBQ. These are all great ways to meet people in a small town. Instead of investing it all in what you miss about your hometown, try to channel it into finding things where you are now. Yes it's hard, but no harder than the immigration process, you got through that and now you can get through this

[daisy16 0]

Not you too marieanastasia! Not already! hugs

I can so relate to how you're feeling, I've been here a year now, and probably have gone through a similar change. imho, I think it may be tougher for us older ones, just because we've already spent decades establishing ourselves and to start all over is really really tough, especially when all of our resources are in another country!

I have no great ideas for you, still struggling with how to get through this myself. But message me, and we can chat on the phone if you like

Hang in there girl. Let's hope that AP gets approved soon. You need to go down east!

Well, when I first moved to Canada to be with my hubby I actually didn't mind it. And then all of a sudden, after about a year and a half, homesickness hit me full force. And ever since then I can't think of anything except how much I want to be back in the U.S. I hate it here. And I can say that because we're doing something about it not long after our interview - we're finally leaving.

Anyway, I know how you feel and I'm sad for you because I know how much you must ache for your home. I hope it gets better for you.

Thanks. I've only been here for 3 months and I want to go back home so bad.....but with my husband. Every day I feel I'm losing a part of myself. This is a total 360 for me. From family and friends, everything was within walking distance. Lots to do and volunteer work to no ends. Not enough hours in the day..........From all that to being in the middle of nowhere, can't walk anywhere do to wild animals, not a soul to talk to other than my husband who leaves 3 in the morning til 5 in the evening or 3:30 in the evening to 5 in the morning!!!!! I know all I do is complain it seems but at least it's talking but I'm become somebody I don't like anymore. I am totally dependent on hubby and I've never had to do that before (in my adult life). I can't even make reservations for a trip home because my AP was denied and now it has to be resent to Nebraska or back to Chicago due to me ticking off the wrong block

I know I said for better or worse but I thought that was going to be years down the road .............{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[Marilyn. 340]

this is really hitting home for me know because I am expecting my first child and knowing that our baby won't be able to really get to know all his/her grandparents.. This is my parents first grandchild too... I really feel bad for them .... My hubby's parents have 11 grandchildren, not that they are any less excited about another grandchild but you know what I mean....

My dad will make a great grandparent and he has been waiting for awhile know for his first grandchild... I just feel like I am depriving him of that ... They will probably be there when the baby is born but they won't be able to see the baby grow up etc... only through short visits, pictures etc......

Sorry, I am rambling away and probably not making a whole lot of sense....

I am going back to Canada for about a week at the beginning of August... Hubby has to work so he can't come with me... My grandma (she lives in Manitoba) is going to be visiting my family and I haven't seen her since David and I got married just over 2 years ago.....

Edited July 10, 2006 by MarilynP

[*Robert* 2]

Heck... I miss her home more than she does!!!

[CanGal 1]

I know your pain too. I miss home alot. I miss lots of things about home. It's been alot harder than I thought it would be. I too had my family and clan of friends and was a busy bee back home and since being here it's been an extra long vacation that gets a bit irritating after awhile. I miss home too. Hang in there, things will be alright. Just remember why you came here in the first place.

this is really hitting home for me know because I am expecting my first child and knowing that our baby won't be able to really get to know all his/her grandparents.. This is my parents first grandchild too... I really feel bad for them .... My hubby's parents have 11 grandchildren, not that they are any less excited about another grandchild but you know what I mean....

My dad will make a great grandparent and he has been waiting for awhile know for his first grandchild... I just feel like I am depriving him of that ... They will probably be there when the baby is born but they won't be able to see the baby grow up etc... only through short visits, pictures etc......

This has been the hardest thing for my parents, especially for my mom. I am yet not pregnant or anything like that but when we do have children she's gonna miss out as well and reminds me alot. Not to make me feel bad but to communicate that she's really having a hard time with the idea. I don't know what to do to reassure her or to make things better. I feel like part of me has taken a dream away from her. My inlaws already have a granddaughter, well she's a stepgrandaughter but they've seen her grow up since she was little. I just feel horrible for my parents

[*Robert* 2]

Alicia, at least your not separated by an ocean! It's no worse than having family in FL and living in CA! Not all families grow up in the same town together! It's not like you won't be able to travel and see them, or vice versa!