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Just let her go, she probably does not care for you. She was presumably expecting a lot of good things in the US but now she finds out that things did not come out as imagined. :whistle:

Yeah, let her go. Buy her a plane ticket and I bet my bottom dollar she will change her mind. LOL. That's what Mr. Bill did to me. Kidding aside. I forgot about being homesick.

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Just let her go, she probably does not care for you. She was presumably expecting a lot of good things in the US but now she finds out that things did not come out as imagined. :whistle:

Yeah, let her go. Buy her a plane ticket and I bet my bottom dollar she will change her mind. LOL. That's what Mr. Bill did to me. Kidding aside. I forgot about being homesick.

I have never met this woman before. I have no idea what she is talking about. :whistle:

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Just let her go, she probably does not care for you. She was presumably expecting a lot of good things in the US but now she finds out that things did not come out as imagined. :whistle:

Yeah, let her go. Buy her a plane ticket and I bet my bottom dollar she will change her mind. LOL. That's what Mr. Bill did to me. Kidding aside. I forgot about being homesick.

I have never met this woman before. I have no idea what she is talking about. :whistle:

I think the Bill name is very common. :hehe:

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I agree, this is a bit harsh...

Use the 90 days you have to show her that there are things to do here to keep her mind busy. Make sure she has access to call home and talk to her parents and siblings.

Take her shopping!!! :dance:

I think shopping is a genetic requirement with Filipinas... :innocent:

I know it really helps boost my sweetie’s spirits!! :thumbs:

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Just let her go, she probably does not care for you. She was presumably expecting a lot of good things in the US but now she finds out that things did not come out as imagined. :whistle:

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i met a filipina who just arrived in the philippines few days ago. she entered america last april on a k1 visa and after a few weeks, she and her usc fiance got into a big fight. she told her fiance she might as well return to the philippines and immediately her fiance bought her plane tickets , he actually called her bluff. after that, she changed her mind and told her fiance that she decided to just stay in america. unfortunately, her fiance told her that he didnt want her ticket to go to waste and she might as well use it to return to the phils. so thats how it ended, her fiance sent her back to the phils before 90 days without getting married, her fiance got tired of the whining.

to the OP, you both need to meet halfway. if she loves you, then she should at least try to make things work . she needs to give it a few months and do her best to get adjusted to her new life with you. and you also need to try and make things comfortable for her. if she really decides on coming back to the phils, theres nothing more you can do.

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sept. 19, 2008--- approved

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sept. 26, 2008----got case # from a live operator

oct. 6, 2008 ------received AOS bill/paid online

oct. 7, 2008 ------shows PAID

oct. 14,2008 -----IV fee generated/ paid online

oct. 15,2008 -----shows PAID

oct. 16,2008 -----mailed DS230 overnight

oct. 23,2008 ---- RFE

nov. 3,2008 ----- case complete

nov. 26,2008 --- medical exam

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Great advice here and I hope it works out for you in the end...

Mister Bill who dat :)

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Oldest son now 21 I-130 filed by LPR dad ( as per NVC CSPA is applying here )
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Homesickness may come and go. Or at least the USC spouse may perceive that the immigrant's homesickness comes and goes. As a beneficiary, one "benefits" from being torn from one's homeland and all that is familiar. As USC sponsors, we can only hope that our spouses find their love for us and their desire to be with us as adequate compensation for their exile.

This homesickness isn't always monotonic -- it doesn't necessary show a maximum in intensity and then decline forever after. And sometimes during trips home, all the "negative" aspects of the homeland compared to America sometimes might dominate, but at other times it may be quite the opposite. During some trips home, the feeling of familiarity, even if the familiarity is predominantly negative, can apparently be very comforting.

I write as a sponsor, with limited understanding of what our fiance(e)s and spouses actually experience. I've lived abroad long enough to know that it can be an extremely disturbing, disorienting experience to live in a foreign place, far from "home". To choose that sort of life with the expectation that it is permanent might be even more profoundly unsettling.

Answers I don't have. With my wife, I seek to be calm, loving, and supportive and hope that she continues to find her life, as an alien with me in America, sufficiently desirable to stay here when she is here and to return here when she takes her long trips home.

My wife came to the USA as a K3 bride 20 months ago. Right now she is in her homeland for a long summer visit and finds Russia, even in the midst of very severe crisis that affects our family in most negative ways, very comforting. All is familiar to her. If she had a magic wand, I would be the one to emigrate -- and if I could find good work there I would. I am pretty sure she will return, but this "homesickness" phenomenon can be real, persistent, and compelling.

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3-15-2005 I-129F
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11-23-2005 She arrives in USA
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11-10-2006 We got married!

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11-12-2007 POE Atlanta

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Just a thought. No bashing! It is normal to feel homesick. I have felt it too since I have spent the last 1 year alone here, but only 21 days and she wants to go home? Isn't that a bit of an over-reaction or is she really ready for a life time commitment like marriage and spend her life here instead of back home? You both must have invested a lot of time, effort and money into this and she wants to give it all up so easily? You both still have 2 months and hopefully she will get over it and realise that everytime she feels homesick she can't just go back home. Wish you both all the best!

HI i agree with you, but seriously why go through of the trouble not to mention money in this process if she doesnt want to get married, maybe she should have visited you here more than once (im not sure if you guys did that) i took my time making sure i really wanted to move to the USA from the first time we decided to go through with all this til our wedding was just short of 3 years!!!. i dont know how someone can do it without being 100% sure this is what really want!! actually it kinda frustrates me that some cultures use this process for a way of maybe escapin their normal live i hope im wrong, but if you have doubts before you start the whole visa process or not 100% sure you really want to get married why go to all the effort seriously!!!!

As for being homeseick! everyone feels that way even me! my country isnt much different to the USA but it is still hard being away from your family but wouldnt you rather miss your family than the man/woman you love!! i dont know about everyone else but i know no matter how homesick i get my husband makes up for it!!! and i can always go home for a holiday!! hope it all works out for you both!!

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Case transfered again, back to the NBC we go 2009-10-13

Woohooo got my drivers license today 2009-10-13

2009-11-05 Went to change my SSN to my married name but was told it wasnt in the system yet i receive mail from USCIS in my married name

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HI i agree with you, but seriously why go through of the trouble not to mention money in this process if she doesnt want to get married, maybe she should have visited you here more than once (im not sure if you guys did that) i took my time making sure i really wanted to move to the USA from the first time we decided to go through with all this til our wedding was just short of 3 years!!!. i dont know how someone can do it without being 100% sure this is what really want!! actually it kinda frustrates me that some cultures use this process for a way of maybe escapin their normal live i hope im wrong, but if you have doubts before you start the whole visa process or not 100% sure you really want to get married why go to all the effort seriously!!!!

As for being homeseick! everyone feels that way even me! my country isnt much different to the USA but it is still hard being away from your family but wouldnt you rather miss your family than the man/woman you love!! i dont know about everyone else but i know no matter how homesick i get my husband makes up for it!!! and i can always go home for a holiday!! hope it all works out for you both!!

I completely agree with you. Even waiting for my husband to come back right now makes up for the homesickness I sometimes still feel. But I'd rather be here waiting than be in India and miss everything we are building together, afterall, isn't this my home now, with him? I know it takes time to get to this stage but only the OP's fiancee will have the will to either work it out or let this temporary feeling stop her from building a future they both wanted.

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Just a thought. No bashing! It is normal to feel homesick. I have felt it too since I have spent the last 1 year alone here, but only 21 days and she wants to go home? Isn't that a bit of an over-reaction or is she really ready for a life time commitment like marriage and spend her life here instead of back home? You both must have invested a lot of time, effort and money into this and she wants to give it all up so easily? You both still have 2 months and hopefully she will get over it and realise that everytime she feels homesick she can't just go back home. Wish you both all the best!

HI i agree with you, but seriously why go through of the trouble not to mention money in this process if she doesnt want to get married, maybe she should have visited you here more than once (im not sure if you guys did that) i took my time making sure i really wanted to move to the USA from the first time we decided to go through with all this til our wedding was just short of 3 years!!!. i dont know how someone can do it without being 100% sure this is what really want!! actually it kinda frustrates me that some cultures use this process for a way of maybe escapin their normal live i hope im wrong, but if you have doubts before you start the whole visa process or not 100% sure you really want to get married why go to all the effort seriously!!!!

As for being homeseick! everyone feels that way even me! my country isnt much different to the USA but it is still hard being away from your family but wouldnt you rather miss your family than the man/woman you love!! i dont know about everyone else but i know no matter how homesick i get my husband makes up for it!!! and i can always go home for a holiday!! hope it all works out for you both!!

tommys girl -

While your advice has a ring of wisdom to it, please remember that not everyone on these forums has the freedom of VWP travel to assist with visits and 'making sure'.

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Just a thought. No bashing! It is normal to feel homesick. I have felt it too since I have spent the last 1 year alone here, but only 21 days and she wants to go home? Isn't that a bit of an over-reaction or is she really ready for a life time commitment like marriage and spend her life here instead of back home? You both must have invested a lot of time, effort and money into this and she wants to give it all up so easily? You both still have 2 months and hopefully she will get over it and realise that everytime she feels homesick she can't just go back home. Wish you both all the best!

HI i agree with you, but seriously why go through of the trouble not to mention money in this process if she doesnt want to get married, maybe she should have visited you here more than once (im not sure if you guys did that) i took my time making sure i really wanted to move to the USA from the first time we decided to go through with all this til our wedding was just short of 3 years!!!. i dont know how someone can do it without being 100% sure this is what really want!! actually it kinda frustrates me that some cultures use this process for a way of maybe escapin their normal live i hope im wrong, but if you have doubts before you start the whole visa process or not 100% sure you really want to get married why go to all the effort seriously!!!!

As for being homeseick! everyone feels that way even me! my country isnt much different to the USA but it is still hard being away from your family but wouldnt you rather miss your family than the man/woman you love!! i dont know about everyone else but i know no matter how homesick i get my husband makes up for it!!! and i can always go home for a holiday!! hope it all works out for you both!!

tommys girl -

While your advice has a ring of wisdom to it, please remember that not everyone on these forums has the freedom of VWP travel to assist with visits and 'making sure'.

rebeccajo is right. it is next to impossible for filipinos to get a tourist visa for the usa.

feb. 26,2008-----noa1

aug. 26, 2008----transferred to csc

sept. 19, 2008--- approved

NVC:

sept. 26, 2008----got case # from a live operator

oct. 6, 2008 ------received AOS bill/paid online

oct. 7, 2008 ------shows PAID

oct. 14,2008 -----IV fee generated/ paid online

oct. 15,2008 -----shows PAID

oct. 16,2008 -----mailed DS230 overnight

oct. 23,2008 ---- RFE

nov. 3,2008 ----- case complete

nov. 26,2008 --- medical exam

aug. 14,2009 --- remedical finally, passed

aug. 24, 2009 -- interview , passed

aug. 29, 2009 -- visa in hand

sept. 24, 2009 -- POE LAX

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But when we turn to the Hebrew literature, we do not find such jokes about the donkey. Rather the animal is known for its strength and its loyalty to its master (Genesis 49:14; Numbers 22:30).

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