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My fiancee arrived in the US three weeks ago. I was so excited, happy -- whatever, but now she wanted to go back home because she's homesick. She still wants to be engaged to me and promised me we're not giving up on each other. She's just not ready to get married right now. My question is, when she goes back to her country (Philippines) within the ninety days, will it be easier for us to go through another visa? I would appreciate any help. Thank you in advance.

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My fiancee arrived in the US three weeks ago. I was so excited, happy -- whatever, but now she wanted to go back home because she's homesick. She still wants to be engaged to me and promised me we're not giving up on each other. She's just not ready to get married right now. My question is, when she goes back to her country (Philippines) within the ninety days, will it be easier for us to go through another visa? I would appreciate any help. Thank you in advance.

not any easier or not any quicker....


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It won't be quicker, and easier as such other than you know the process now. However, it also won't be anymore difficult.

One thing to keep in mind that she has those 90 days. It's hard to adjust to a completely different culture and lifestyle; if she is willing, you two should stay together, not talk about marriage and immigration for a few weeks- maybe you could take a little time off to show her around your area... towards the end of the 90 days, you can talk marriage or going back, but not yet.


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twenty one days? ready to go home. she may not be mature enough to make a lifetime commitment. be patient.........

being homesick is a bad feeling. try to understand her needs and accommodate her feelings. adjustment is a lengthy process.

wish you both the best....

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Ask her to give it some time. Take her out and explore your surroundings so she can feel that she fits in! Tell her that you understand her feelings and she is not the only one that has felt that way. My wife felt homesick and with time, the homesickness became less intense. Marriage is a life time commitment and she has to understand it's give and take. I really wish you both the best and I hope to see this pass for you two. :thumbs:

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This is a huge fear of mine.. I know how difficult it can be being away from home.. and culture shock can be difficult on top of being away... I have to ask if this is a common issue? How often to spouses return because they cant adjust to the new culture or being away from family?


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I agree with the other's. This is your home and it's important to now make it her home. I can understand her emotions. It's time to really work on both of you talking. You might not try to convince her Not to leave: listen to what she has to say and take your time. I hope the best for both of you: neither of you have an easy road ahead but learn to be a couple and not individuals.


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There's not much else to be said here that other members haven't already. Take the advice you've been given and run with it. It can't hurt anything and who knows maybe after she realizes that you understand and are truly compassionate to how she is feeling she will begin to adjust and realize that this is just going to take some time. Everything she has ever known has changed now. You have to be there for her 100 percent and then some. I wish you two the best of luck.

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My wife (then fiancee) broke down in tears wanting to go home 12 hour after we arrived home. The reality of being halfway around the world from her entire family set in.

The homesickness is something to expect and work through together. Skype, Yahoo Chat, etc. are big helps as they can see and hear each other. We made sure that the internet and computer at her family's house was up to snuff.

Be patient, be understanding. Get as many familiar things from home (food, tv, church, countrymen/women, etc.) around her as you can. It is a two way street, but your finacee is the one that just has their life completely changed. You are in a place that you know and understand. She isn't (yet).

Best of luck.


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Everyone has given you excellent advise. It is only normal for her to be homesick. Outfit her with the best computer, and perhaps get one for the folks at home -if they don't have it. Get her involved with the PI community in your area.

It is not a good idea for her to go back.

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I dont think you can file a fiance visa on the same person more than once. I swear i read it but not really sure. You can file for a K3 or CR1 visa in case you want to get married in the phils. If she's here and suddenly dont want to marry you it is because she doesnt like the home, the town, neighborhood, you or something, she just trying to get back home. To tell you the truth i dont like it here but i dont want to be away with my husband.


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I dont think you can file a fiance visa on the same person more than once. I swear i read it but not really sure. You can file for a K3 or CR1 visa in case you want to get married in the phils. If she's here and suddenly dont want to marry you it is because she doesnt like the home, the town, neighborhood, you or something, she just trying to get back home. To tell you the truth i dont like it here but i dont want to be away with my husband.

Sure you can! You just have to account for it if you file again.

Perhaps that is what your are remembering?


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I dont think you can file a fiance visa on the same person more than once. I swear i read it but not really sure. You can file for a K3 or CR1 visa in case you want to get married in the phils. If she's here and suddenly dont want to marry you it is because she doesnt like the home, the town, neighborhood, you or something, she just trying to get back home. To tell you the truth i dont like it here but i dont want to be away with my husband.

Sure you can! You just have to account for it if you file again.

Perhaps that is what your are remembering?

Oh ok, thanks for that info.

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just be patience with her and wait till the last minute and u can always go to justice of peace to get married. make sure she talks to her family everyday n night as much as she wants. good luck to u both.

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Just a thought. No bashing! It is normal to feel homesick. I have felt it too since I have spent the last 1 year alone here, but only 21 days and she wants to go home? Isn't that a bit of an over-reaction or is she really ready for a life time commitment like marriage and spend her life here instead of back home? You both must have invested a lot of time, effort and money into this and she wants to give it all up so easily? You both still have 2 months and hopefully she will get over it and realise that everytime she feels homesick she can't just go back home. Wish you both all the best!

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