want to send her home while i can

[Brother Hesekiel 2,235]

Heidelberg,

I don't know you, but from what you wrote I perceive you as an American man who couldn't find an American woman that would completely surrender to you, so you importet one from the Phillipines, assuming she would be doing exactly what you told her to do, always, just like a puppy.

Now that you found out that she's a person with a personality, who is actually suffering from your dominance, you feel hurt and want to punish her for not living up to your fantasies, even at the expense of your own children.

You need to take a step back and see for yourself as what kind of person you are portraying yourself. You need to realize that your wife and you have two children together, and you need to do what's best for them. As US citizens who have never lived abroad, they need to be with their mother in their country.

Don't do anything you will regret when you are on your death bed. Help your wife, help your children, then move on with your life and try to learn from your mistakes.

Husband and wife are equal partners. Nobody controls anything alone. The times of slave trades are over, accept it!

Maybe a Phillipina can help you by posting something that will help you to understand your wife better.

Edited July 3, 2009 by Just Bob

[Chica Yeyé 41]

You are one tough hombre.

Why not just divorce and move on from the marriage?

I differ brother Ahn... a real hombre takes care of his responsibilities and does not trash the mother of his kids on an internet board.

[John & Nan 0]

Well depending on what state you live in, she has money! half your paycheck or more because of the kids, If she moves out.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Well depending on what state you live in, she has money! half your paycheck or more because of the kids, If she moves out.

Exactly right. I just wish the wife would get wind of this chopfvck's plans.... this is just wrong.

[NArocks 13]

Anyone see the OP or is a Troll that has been a member since 06 and this is his first post? Makes ya go hmmmm

[DanielParul 50]

hmmmmmmmmm

[Otto 83]

50+ posts and only 2 from the OP...

Edited July 3, 2009 by Otto und Karin

[johncel4life 1]

that's sad, one day u will realize you need them when u get old and u need an immature woman:-)no hurt feelings, hope u still continue to support ur little angelz! God bless u....about the GC it is up to u if u help her to process! no hurt feelings though ... bye

in short want to send the crazy,immature,selfcentered woman home before she betrays me,her 2 year green card is going to expire and i and going to let it...i have tryed everything marrage counceling,having family members talk to her but she continues to have these crazy mood swings,honestly i think she has a demon living in her..

now here is the thing we have 1 year old twins and i would freely let them go with her to the phillippines,,,now what can she do if her green card expires and i refuse to go any farther with the visa process???

[tmma 467]

...about the GC it is up to u if u help her to process! no hurt feelings though ...

She won't and doesn't need his help.She can remove conditions on her own and the fact that she has 2 US CITIZEN children and what sounds like a controlling husband seems like would only help her. I do hope she seeks advice- she needs to know that she ( and the twins) have more rights that the OP is willing to admit.

OP-Everyone has already said exactly what I was thinking.

[jundp 191]

wont she need money for the fee's,??,i control the money..at this point the only money she will get is enough for one way plane tickets and monthy payment for the kids

Gee, you're a really swell guy aren't ya?

Btw, just going out on a limb here, but is it possible that her mood swings have to do with being the very controlled mom of twins? Perhaps she's a stay at home mom with little to no contact with adults other than you?

[john & jean 37]

ALSO BE AWARE, THAT EVEN IF YOU TRICK HERE BACK TO THE PHILLIPINES, YOU WILL STILL PAY CHILD SUPPORT!

MY SISTER IN LAW WAS AWARDED SUPPORT FROM AN AMERICAN, UNTIL THE CHILD IS TWENTY THREE YEARS OLD, PROVIDING HE GOES TO COLLEGE. SINCE HE HAD REFUSED TO PAY, THEY GARNISHED HIS WAGES!!!

Edited July 3, 2009 by john & jean

[liraC 2]

what kind of father are you?i hope you realize how precious having a kidz,you should treasure them!!!

[Chica Yeyé 41]

ALSO BE AWARE, THAT EVEN IF YOU TRICK HERE BACK TO THE PHILLIPINES, YOU WILL STILL PAY CHILD SUPPORT!

MY SISTER IN LAW WAS AWARDED SUPPORT FROM AN AMERICAN, UNTIL THE CHILD IS TWENTY THREE YEARS OLD, PROVIDING HE GOES TO COLLEGE. SINCE HE HAD REFUSED TO PAY, THEY GARNISHED HIS WAGES!!!

Excellent. I hate people that think spouses and children are something you can just dispose off. #######.

[Anh map 2,098]

You are one tough hombre.

Why not just divorce and move on from the marriage?

I differ brother Ahn... a real hombre takes care of his responsibilities and does not trash the mother of his kids on an internet board.

I defer to sister Len's definition. Concur with her statement. And will do better to indicate extreme sarcasm.

[AbbynSheryl 0]

the problem is YOU ONLY not her.

grow up and be a man and accept ur responsibilities

abby n sheryl