Sex therapists: A few minutes is best

[Ban Hammer 14,295]

NEW YORK - Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed. A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

If that sounds like good news to you, don't cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as "too short."

Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe that "more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever."

The questions were not gender-specific, said Corty (who, it must be noted, is male). But he said prior research has shown that both men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women were armed with stopwatches.)

It's difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Md.

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68 percent, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple.

Corty said he hoped to give an idea of what therapists find to be normal and satisfactory among the couples they see.

"People who read this will say, 'I last five minutes or my partner lasts 8 minutes,' and say, 'That's OK,'" he said. "They will relax a little bit."

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3 to 13 minutes - good, i make that requirement - barely

[nane1104 146]

NEW YORK - Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed. A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

If that sounds like good news to you, don't cheer too loudly. The time does not count foreplay, and the therapists did rate sexual intercourse that lasts from 1 to 2 minutes as "too short."

Researcher Eric Corty said he hoped to ease the minds of those who believe that "more of something good is better, and if you really want to satisfy your partner, you should last forever."

The questions were not gender-specific, said Corty (who, it must be noted, is male). But he said prior research has shown that both men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women were armed with stopwatches.)

It's difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Md.

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

Fifty members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research in the U.S. and Canada were surveyed by Corty, an associate professor of psychology at Penn State Erie, The Behrend College, and student Jenay Guardiani. Thirty-four members, or 68 percent, responded, although some said the optimal time depended on the couple.

Corty said he hoped to give an idea of what therapists find to be normal and satisfactory among the couples they see.

"People who read this will say, 'I last five minutes or my partner lasts 8 minutes,' and say, 'That's OK,'" he said. "They will relax a little bit."

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3 to 13 minutes - good, i make that requirement - barely

The highlighted part I think, is the key sentence here....lol

[almaty 19]

i know that if you use an egg timer.

.then you need to try a japanese cockring .....no charge..dr dean, registered sex therapist in 4 states ..and sex therapist to the Stars

[KiKi 0]

13 maybe....but THREE????? No way Quick Draw McGraw....LOL

[Sister Fracas 5]

*thinks back the poll where people bragged about at least an hour of activity NOT including foreplay*...BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAA

dorks...

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

or as exciting as they make them out to be....

Edited April 3, 2008 by Sister Fracas

[Alex & Rachel 78]

The highlighted part I think, is the key sentence here....lol

Definitely!

Edited April 3, 2008 by Alex & Rachel

[Niels Bohr 72]

Foreplay. Geezes. My wife is ancient. She doesn't like foreplay. One of these days, I'm going to force her.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

*thinks back the poll where people bragged about at least an hour of activity NOT including foreplay*...BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAA

dorks...

"There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually," Brandon said. "Most people's sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are."

or as exciting as they make them out to be....

I like to imagine that time stands still.

[almaty 19]

Foreplay. Geezes. My wife is ancient. She doesn't like foreplay. One of these days, I'm going to force her.

damn brother c'master..you need to write a book...

[SnowyTater 0]

The time I want depends on either how hungry I am or how much I'm ready to go out or what's about to come on the telly Oh no sometimes

[mawilson 2,133]

2 minutes works for me.

[SpiritAlight 1]

Oh FUN!!

Well, as far as foreplay is concerned, women we all know that it starts with the mind, i.e. conversation and/or a suggestion.

Imagine before you leave for work, yes, you men, you say to your beloved, "When I come home I'm going to....." mmmmmm or something seductive.

Come on use your imagination!

And then when you get home, yes, you men, you do the foreplay that ends all foreplay (not really, but do you get where I'm going?) and you continue with great, stimulating conversation, you scent the room with incense, candles, whatever, you get it all yummy mood-like and GO GO GO!

I have completely simplified this...and I'm certain you might all be getting what I'm talkin' about.

Yummy attention to your beloved.

It never fails.

As for the intercourse part of it: I doubt there are too many women that like it for a loooong uninterrupted time.

Love-making can last for hours.

Imagination!

Edited April 3, 2008 by SpiritAlight

[Mononoke28 137]

Foreplay. Geezes. My wife is ancient. She doesn't like foreplay. One of these days, I'm going to force her.

1. TMI

2. I thought you retired?

Diana

NEW YORK - Maybe men had it right all along: It doesn't take long to satisfy a woman in bed. A survey of sex therapists concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes. The findings, to be published in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, strike at the notion that endurance is the key to a great sex life.

Unless you're Sting of course.

Diana

[Ban Hammer 14,295]

Love-making can last for hours.

except that's usually called shopping

[sweetpink 1]

lucky enough to have a man that could last 20-30 mins....and i'm not talking about foreplay yet...