Passport revoked!

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Look! This post is about someone who is sponsoring a foreign spouse. That takes money. We ALL know that. He has the money for that, but not to pay for the support of his CHILDREN? Hello.......no ivory tower big picture of all the possibilities here. Just basic one plus one does not equal out!!

[KandD 1]

I been trying to get Child support for 20yrs now. they dont put someone on the list because of a medical problem and out of work for a while ,these are parents that have purposely avoided to pay.

[Giskat09 2]

you dont know the story..... dont ever judige my husband!

[Sofargone 2]

I am sorry to hear that you have been trying to get CS for 20 years now.

May I ask why you even bother trying to collect after such a long period of time and the children involved must be in their 20's by now ? I assume they know they werent supported and as such made their own decisions on how to deal with it being adults now.

Dont get me wrong you were supposed to have received CS but after 20 years why even bother ?

Sofargone

[Giskat09 2]

some people here are judgemental... i feel so sorry.. My husband is a good man, He supports his son every month, but his daughter, he has a problem coz the mother of his daughter told him and me that she doesnt need any money from him.. and the fact that its been 4 years now that she doesnt let my husband see his daughter....

here in the philippines, if a woman got pregnant and the guy didnt support her, FINE! its ok... women here has no big deal with that...

gosh... but anyways, can i add you sir ? i think ur answer is a big help... thanks sooo much!

[Giskat09 2]

TO ALL THE GUYS HERE WHO JUDGED MY HUSBAND, GOD BLESS YOU!!!! MAY YOUR PETITION BE APPROVED!

I am here to ask help not to recieve negative comments or feedback... i need help! You guys are so too proud, you dont even know the real situation! NIce of you!!!!

[Sofargone 2]

you dont know the story..... dont ever judige my husband!

If I may just give a bit of advice. If your husband owes back CS the best thing that he can do is contact the CS office that the payments are supposed to be made to and get on some kind of re-payment plan so that he can get this matter taken care of. This type of problem will not go away and the only way to get past it is to face the music and get it taken care of. If he doesnt face the problem and make arrangements to get it taken care of he will always have a difficult time with his passport and in many states he may lose his driving priviledges.

I am not making any judgments as I myself payed CS for 15 years. I think if your husband makes any kind of effort to pay the arrears and actually comes thru and rebuilds a payment history then he may get the passport re-instated.

Good luck;

Sofargone

[KandD 1]

I am sorry to hear that you have been trying to get CS for 20 years now.

May I ask why you even bother trying to collect after such a long period of time and the children involved must be in their 20's by now ? I assume they know they werent supported and as such made their own decisions on how to deal with it being adults now.

Dont get me wrong you were supposed to have received CS but after 20 years why even bother ?

Sofargone

I quit bothering a long, long time ago, but he was just found again, by the state, he still has to pay. They make them.

[desert_fox 32]

some people here are judgemental... i feel so sorry.. My husband is a good man, He supports his son every month, but his daughter, he has a problem coz the mother of his daughter told him and me that she doesnt need any money from him.. and the fact that its been 4 years now that she doesnt let my husband see his daughter....

here in the philippines, if a woman got pregnant and the guy didnt support her, FINE! its ok... women here has no big deal with that...

gosh... but anyways, can i add you sir ? i think ur answer is a big help... thanks sooo much!

Well our culture is different. It is a big deal....he is responsible and there is a court order for him to pay child support.

Not seeing his child is a different matter, but no court in this land will deny access to see his child unless there are serious problems that would put the child in danger.

Its not relevant if she doesnt want the money...its his child. If she doesnt want child support, then she can certainly modify the court order, but this does not appear to be what is happening. Someone is playing some serious hard ball for it to get to this point. You need to get more current facts on what is really happening.

[Delicia 1]

All judgment about the situation that lead to the arrears aside, it has to be one serious case and several years long to include revocation of a passport. The states usually collect any income tax refunds first and then go for garnishment of wages second, then they start to play hard ball with revocation of passport and driver's license suspension. All of those steps take a lot of time to finalize.

Edited March 17, 2008 by Delicia

[athena_ny 1]

some people here are judgemental... i feel so sorry.. My husband is a good man, He supports his son every month, but his daughter, he has a problem coz the mother of his daughter told him and me that she doesnt need any money from him.. and the fact that its been 4 years now that she doesnt let my husband see his daughter....

here in the philippines, if a woman got pregnant and the guy didnt support her, FINE! its ok... women here has no big deal with that...

gosh... but anyways, can i add you sir ? i think ur answer is a big help... thanks sooo much!

Well our culture is different. It is a big deal....he is responsible and there is a court order for him to pay child support.

Not seeing his child is a different matter, but no court in this land will deny access to see his child unless there are serious problems that would put the child in danger.

Its not relevant if she doesnt want the money...its his child. If she doesnt want child support, then she can certainly modify the court order, but this does not appear to be what is happening. Someone is playing some serious hard ball for it to get to this point. You need to get more current facts on what is really happening.

If she didn't want the money, it wouldn't have gone this far, right? I mean, doesn't the spouse the child support is being paid to need to pursue it? All of my friends with deadbeat fathers had to push to get their child support awards enforced, it wasn't like them doing nothing about the fact their child's father wasn't paying turned into passport revocation.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

All judgment about the situation that lead to the arrears aside, it has to be one serious case and several years long to include revocation of a passport. The states usually collect any income tax refunds first and then go for garnishment of wages second, then they start to play hard ball with revocation of passport and driver's license suspension. All of those steps take a lot of time to finalize.

Ditto Delicia . It takes a while, and it is the last resort when someone has consistently been behind or absent from his CS payments.

So no pity for the OP's partner from me either --- if you let your children without your support.... well.... maybe you shouldn't have reproduced in the first place.

[Niels Bohr 72]

I doubt that he'll be able to petition somebody. OP please read this story. It's a true story. You should use it to guide your decision.

A Candle Light Story

Please save yourself while you can.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I doubt that he'll be able to petition somebody. OP please read this story. It's a true story. You should use it to guide your decision.

A Candle Light Story

Please save yourself while you can.

Oh man - I read that story last week and actually cried and gasped for air. In between sadness, horror and disgust. Good of you to point the OP to the story master: truth is hard but always better than a lie.

[doodlebugg 10]

Look! This post is about someone who is sponsoring a foreign spouse. That takes money. We ALL know that. He has the money for that, but not to pay for the support of his CHILDREN? Hello.......no ivory tower big picture of all the possibilities here. Just basic one plus one does not equal out!!

you have a good head on your shoulders!!! For sure the money spent on airfare, visa fees, let alone hotel room, food, presents, etc. could have been much better spent on the back child support.

OP I think you really need to think hard and from a third party perspective. This could be your child we're talking about a few years from now.