Passport revoked!

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

Bato- bato sa langit ang tamaan, nagagalit.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Google is hardly my dictionary. When I picture a "deadbeat" dad, I picture a man that shuts his children completely out of his life. Child support is only one aspect of being a "deadbeat" but the one everyone gets all in a tizzy over, IMHO. Who cares if he loves his children... Who cares if he visits the children... Who cares if he takes any interest in his children... Just keep those checks coming to the FORMER WIFE (supposedly for the children) so she can spend the money any ol' way she pleases and now you are father of the year! I'll say it again, having some financial woes and falling behind, by itself, does not make one a "deadbeat" dad.

Falling behind on child support does not make one a dead beat dad. Really tired of this automatic connection always being made.

Google "definition of deadbeat dad" and see what comes up...

"a father who defaults on his obligation to provide financial support for his offspring "

"Deadbeat Dad is a pejorative term (primarily U.S.) that refers to men who have fathered a child but fail to pay child support ordered by a family law court or statutory agency such as the Child Support Agency."

Losing his passport simple serves to emphasize that he needs to take care of the family obligations he already has before assuming new ones with a new wife.

Edited April 4, 2008 by Kazan' Tiger

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

Bato- bato sa langit ang tamaan, nagagalit.

those who are guilty, reacts..

[*julez* 124]

Google is hardly my dictionary. When I picture a "deadbeat" dad, I picture a man that shuts his children completely out of his life. Child support is only one aspect of being a "deadbeat" but the one everyone gets all in a tizzy over, IMHO. Who cares if he loves his children... Who cares if he visits the children... Who cares if he takes any interest in his children... Just keep those checks coming to the FORMER WIFE (supposedly for the children) so she can spend the money any ol' way she pleases and now you are father of the year! I'll say it again, having some financial woes and falling behind, by itself, does not make one a "deadbeat" dad.

Falling behind on child support does not make one a dead beat dad. Really tired of this automatic connection always being made.

Google "definition of deadbeat dad" and see what comes up...

"a father who defaults on his obligation to provide financial support for his offspring "

"Deadbeat Dad is a pejorative term (primarily U.S.) that refers to men who have fathered a child but fail to pay child support ordered by a family law court or statutory agency such as the Child Support Agency."

Losing his passport simple serves to emphasize that he needs to take care of the family obligations he already has before assuming new ones with a new wife.

So its not OK to use the term deadbeat dad for one who fails to pay child support, but its OK for you to keep implying that mothers don't use child support for children? I think that's more than a bit unfair! Cos, ya know that $75 in child support I'm supposed to get each month for my 3 kids would really allow me to live the high life. Mine, mine, mine all mine.

If you don't like people ragging on the deadbeat, you should set a better example and not cast apersions on the custodial mother.

Sorry, but if ya can't pay your child support than you shouldn't be getting involved in an expensive LDR.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

Google is hardly my dictionary. When I picture a "deadbeat" dad, I picture a man that shuts his children completely out of his life. Child support is only one aspect of being a "deadbeat" but the one everyone gets all in a tizzy over, IMHO. Who cares if he loves his children... Who cares if he visits the children... Who cares if he takes any interest in his children... Just keep those checks coming to the FORMER WIFE (supposedly for the children) so she can spend the money any ol' way she pleases and now you are father of the year! I'll say it again, having some financial woes and falling behind, by itself, does not make one a "deadbeat" dad.

Falling behind on child support does not make one a dead beat dad. Really tired of this automatic connection always being made.

Google "definition of deadbeat dad" and see what comes up...

"a father who defaults on his obligation to provide financial support for his offspring "

"Deadbeat Dad is a pejorative term (primarily U.S.) that refers to men who have fathered a child but fail to pay child support ordered by a family law court or statutory agency such as the Child Support Agency."

Losing his passport simple serves to emphasize that he needs to take care of the family obligations he already has before assuming new ones with a new wife.

So its not OK to use the term deadbeat dad for one who fails to pay child support, but its OK for you to keep implying that mothers don't use child support for children? I think that's more than a bit unfair! Cos, ya know that $75 in child support I'm supposed to get each month for my 3 kids would really allow me to live the high life. Mine, mine, mine all mine.

If you don't like people ragging on the deadbeat, you should set a better example and not cast apersions on the custodial mother.

Sorry, but if ya can't pay your child support than you shouldn't be getting involved in an expensive LDR.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Who is implying! I know a whole herd of women (including my former) that meet up once a month at a bar to spend some of the child support money on drinks. They even call it 'Get Drunk on the Ex" night. When women are forced to show an accounting where that child support money goes, then, maybe, I can start to feel some sympathy. I pay child support to assist my children not increase my former wife's wardrobe and give her a drunken night on the town. Also, what example are you referring I need set? I am not the one behind.

Google is hardly my dictionary. When I picture a "deadbeat" dad, I picture a man that shuts his children completely out of his life. Child support is only one aspect of being a "deadbeat" but the one everyone gets all in a tizzy over, IMHO. Who cares if he loves his children... Who cares if he visits the children... Who cares if he takes any interest in his children... Just keep those checks coming to the FORMER WIFE (supposedly for the children) so she can spend the money any ol' way she pleases and now you are father of the year! I'll say it again, having some financial woes and falling behind, by itself, does not make one a "deadbeat" dad.

Falling behind on child support does not make one a dead beat dad. Really tired of this automatic connection always being made.

Google "definition of deadbeat dad" and see what comes up...

"a father who defaults on his obligation to provide financial support for his offspring "

"Deadbeat Dad is a pejorative term (primarily U.S.) that refers to men who have fathered a child but fail to pay child support ordered by a family law court or statutory agency such as the Child Support Agency."

Losing his passport simple serves to emphasize that he needs to take care of the family obligations he already has before assuming new ones with a new wife.

So its not OK to use the term deadbeat dad for one who fails to pay child support, but its OK for you to keep implying that mothers don't use child support for children? I think that's more than a bit unfair! Cos, ya know that $75 in child support I'm supposed to get each month for my 3 kids would really allow me to live the high life. Mine, mine, mine all mine.

If you don't like people ragging on the deadbeat, you should set a better example and not cast apersions on the custodial mother.

Sorry, but if ya can't pay your child support than you shouldn't be getting involved in an expensive LDR.

Edited April 4, 2008 by Kazan' Tiger

[*julez* 124]

Well, KT, just as you don't like all dads being tarred with the same brush, I don't appreciate your tarring all moms with the same brush. Which is what I mean about setting and example. The old classic, do as I say not as I do, eh? Just because you know some idiots who use their chilren's support payments for personal use, doesn't mean all of us do! I'm only entitled to $75 a month (which I haven't gotten in ages) and I certainly would appreciate it, despite its low amount. It would pay for a pair of sneakers for one of my kids, or 2 & 1/2 counseling payments cos my kids are so damaged by their father's abuse. What I AM saying its just as wrong for you to generalize that all moms are using child support for drunken outings as it is for others to refer to all dads in child support arrears as deadbeat dads.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Well, KT, just as you don't like all dads being tarred with the same brush, I don't appreciate your tarring all moms with the same brush. Which is what I mean about setting and example. The old classic, do as I say not as I do, eh? Just because you know some idiots who use their chilren's support payments for personal use, doesn't mean all of us do! I'm only entitled to $75 a month (which I haven't gotten in ages) and I certainly would appreciate it, despite its low amount. It would pay for a pair of sneakers for one of my kids, or 2 & 1/2 counseling payments cos my kids are so damaged by their father's abuse. What I AM saying its just as wrong for you to generalize that all moms are using child support for drunken outings as it is for others to refer to all dads in child support arrears as deadbeat dads.

I hear you sister.

[franklie 0]

I'm only entitled to $75 a month (which I haven't gotten in ages) and I certainly would appreciate it, despite its low amount. It would pay for a pair of sneakers for one of my kids, or 2 & 1/2 counseling payments cos my kids are so damaged by their father's abuse.

Wow! and I thought I had a good lawyer when I ONLY had to pay $1600/month... I should've had your ex's lawyer...

On a more serious note, divorce sucks. I'm not referring to the financial losses incurred by both sides but rather to the turmoil and tumolt to each of the parties' lives. Especially the children. It's NOT their fault the divorce occurred yet they are the ones that so often pay the biggest price and lose the most in the divorce.

[Giskat09 2]

hello sir,

i read your reply in my post PASSPORT REVOKED... and actually many people here are throwing criticism to my husband and they really dont know what is story behind and the reason why my husband didn't able to pay the support..

Anyways at this time he is paying it off so it takes time for him to pay it in full but i still do believe that he can get me maybe next year i can fly in USA.. All im asking is help not criticism.

GOD bless you and thank you for sharing ur story about ur situation.. add me here sir if u want.

Kathy

The answer to your original question is yes, your husband can send a copy of his birth certificate as evidence of citizenship. You probably already know that but I haven't seen it posted as a straight answer.

Why the VJ moderators allow such judgmental off topic rants to remain visible baffles my mind.

THIS IS THE RIGHT ANSWER THAT I NEED... THANKS SIR!

When i met my husband he has already 2 kids.... still I accepted and loved him... Im so sweet! Harharhar.... God bless to all of us.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

As I said, I can be more sympathetic when woman are required to show an accounting. My poorest divorced friend pays 5 times the amount you are receiving. I'm sorry this is all you receive, I agree, that is fair set of clothes for one child in a month. The system is still overall biased in favour of the women with regard to custody and financial support. I am not going to continue to debate this as it is a no win situation. Generally a woman and man will never agree. So let's leave it at that.

Well, KT, just as you don't like all dads being tarred with the same brush, I don't appreciate your tarring all moms with the same brush. Which is what I mean about setting and example. The old classic, do as I say not as I do, eh? Just because you know some idiots who use their chilren's support payments for personal use, doesn't mean all of us do! I'm only entitled to $75 a month (which I haven't gotten in ages) and I certainly would appreciate it, despite its low amount. It would pay for a pair of sneakers for one of my kids, or 2 & 1/2 counseling payments cos my kids are so damaged by their father's abuse. What I AM saying its just as wrong for you to generalize that all moms are using child support for drunken outings as it is for others to refer to all dads in child support arrears as deadbeat dads.

[Ontarkie 13,917]

Hi, I just read this whole thread and wish you the best of luck.

I would like to also like to say that when i got my divorce my ex wasnt working he never works so my I didnt specify child support cause I knew I would never see any. My divorce was delayed cause the judge didnt want to grant me a divorce to an abusive drunken drug addictive bum. Anyways i had to get my lawyer to right up a letter explaining why he couldnt pay child support they never asked him for ####### i had to prove it. Finaly got the divorce then within a few months the child support ppl that go after the fathers start to hound me saying i have to pursue child suppport. I have no clue where these ppl get there info from but they dont stop and its up to me to make them realize he doesnt have to pay cause he doesnt have money if you make less then 5k a year you dont pay, i dont think he even makes that well none that could be traced anyways. He was a real pro with financial abuse, i didnt even know it was abuse.

Anyways what i'm getting at is these agencies that go after the father also go after the mothers till they agree to let these ppl take control sometimes they are desperatly needed but times like mine they just harrasse the ####### outta ppl like me and i have to deal with them every 6 months that when they review the casses again the guy will be dead and barried and i swear they will still bug me.

Sorry think my fever still has the best of me got a bit longer then wanted

Danielle

[archie07 0]

I agree, the birth certificate should suffice. Worry about the passport when he catches up on his child support. I raised my children, my ex-wife never bothered to pay me the child support but i never made an issue of it because I didn't need her money. I read the story about the chinese girl, had the adam walsh act been in effect at the time her husband would never have been able to petition her. Good luck to you....

[Giskat09 2]

I agree, the birth certificate should suffice. Worry about the passport when he catches up on his child support. I raised my children, my ex-wife never bothered to pay me the child support but i never made an issue of it because I didn't need her money. I read the story about the chinese girl, had the adam walsh act been in effect at the time her husband would never have been able to petition her. Good luck to you....

Sir, can you give me the website about Adam Walsh Act? i want to know more about this please... thanks a lot.

[Giskat09 2]

Well, KT, just as you don't like all dads being tarred with the same brush, I don't appreciate your tarring all moms with the same brush. Which is what I mean about setting and example. The old classic, do as I say not as I do, eh? Just because you know some idiots who use their chilren's support payments for personal use, doesn't mean all of us do! I'm only entitled to $75 a month (which I haven't gotten in ages) and I certainly would appreciate it, despite its low amount. It would pay for a pair of sneakers for one of my kids, or 2 & 1/2 counseling payments cos my kids are so damaged by their father's abuse. What I AM saying its just as wrong for you to generalize that all moms are using child support for drunken outings as it is for others to refer to all dads in child support arrears as deadbeat dads.

$75 is too low.. tsk.. my husband is paying 250 per month every child (2 kids)... and he is only working in maintenance.. i guess it depends on the Agency.

Anyways, GOD bless you and the

family.