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super sad now. Do not know what to do . My boyfriend refuse to get married with me

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I am super sad now. I arrived at chicago in May 21 with K1 visa. July 17 my boyfriend brought me to get the marriage license. Yesterday he said the he did not want to get married with me and hope I go home on Sunday. And ask me to buy tickets by myself. His excuse is that we could not get along well just because I want to use his library card. 1 week ago he gave me the library card to me and said I can use it to borrow books in library. Yesterday he wanted it back with very bad attitude. So I asked why he acted like that. He could borrow the books with his driver license. Then he began to say we could not get along well and he would never get married with me . i am speechless.

I know something wrong after I came here. He never answer phone call and text in front of me. And after he come back from work, he spend almost half hour in rest room with the door shutting several times each day.

When we go buy something, he keep saying that he is short of money and stressful . Then I paid them because i think since we will live a life together , it is ok for me to spend money.

last Saturday, his daughter asked money from him. He told me that he was very stressful and not get pay yet and could not send the money to his daughter. His daughter need the money on Monday. Then I asked him to use my money .

And before we went to get marriage license , someone friend me on instagram . I went there to check that I found some photos of him with another woman on there. I asked who she is. no response. I asked him, he said I should trust him. Just some friend. But I asked him what kind of friend to hug to take the photos . He said that I am too jealous and could not endure me; another thing I got email with the content as this "keep in mind that Paul had screwed me over on d whim, it's only d matter of time before he does the same to u. Just wait and see.keep in mind that Paul had screwed me over on d whim, it's only d matter of time before he does the same to u. Just wait and see."

I am speechless. I do not know what I should do . I kind of want to give up this relationship. kind of can not let it go.

His back is not good .so I learn the therapy massage to help him. Search online for the back surgery information and epidual shot for him. Search the stretch methods to release the pain.

He like chocolate brownie, I learned to bake for him.

I learned how to cook american food for him.

try my best to reduce his stress and try to understand with him. not argue with him.

But now he asked me to buy a ticket by own to fly to home. Asked him why ask me to come here if he does not want to get married with me. I asked him : "do you know this is not a game? How much I sacrifice? I quit a good job at my country. Do you know that? you even asked me to buy ticket by myself.". Guess what he said. He said that I could find a job easily with my experience and education and I had money to buy my own tickets.

Should I buy my own ticket to fly home? He definitely to cheat on me ,right ?I did not tell anything to my family and friends yet. I do not want them to worry about me.

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Do you want to stay and try to convince him to marry you?

Good luck


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I'm soon sorry with what's happening to u. but I have to be honest with you it sounds like he is cheating on you it sounds like he's not interested in you if a man is interested in you he would not make you pay for things he would not start small arguments over a library card he would care for you he would show you emotional and he be more interested in marrying youyou don't want a man who's going to cheat on you and treat you bad forever so don't waste your time I will go back home and start my life

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Do you want to stay and try to convince him to marry you?

Good luck

one part i want because we knew each other for 4 years and I do love him. one part i do not want. He has his good part. he does not smoke , do not drink and love keep things clean. He also has shortcomings. Easily to get frustrated, crunchy anytime at anything. I guess he is cheating on me

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I'm soo sorry with what's happening to u. but I have to be honest with you it sounds like he is cheating on you it sounds like he's not interested in you if a man is interested in you he would not make you pay for things he would not start small arguments over a library card he would care for you he would show you affection and he be more interested in marrying you. you don't want a man who's going to cheat on you and treat you bad forever so don't waste your time I would go back home and start my life Over.

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How often did you guys fight before you came to the U.S.?

Have you ever gotten into a big fight like this before?

How long have you been together?

My 2 cents, use your own money, go home, rebuild, and ditch this loser forever.

frequency is 1 time around half year. usually he suddenly disappeared. did not answer text, emails and phone call.

then several days later he told me that he was in stress and wanted his own space.

I'm soo sorry with what's happening to u. but I have to be honest with you it sounds like he is cheating on you it sounds like he's not interested in you if a man is interested in you he would not make you pay for things he would not start small arguments over a library card he would care for you he would show you affection and he be more interested in marrying you. you don't want a man who's going to cheat on you and treat you bad forever so don't waste your time I would go back home and start my life Over.

thank you , I am think to do this!

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Don't think about the past, think about how he is treating you now. Do you think you deserve better?

Yes, I think I deserve much better than him.

Just felt very hurt. I quitted a very good job at home and came here, he treated me like this. feel he is so no responsibility

Hi,

Sorry about your situation.

If he does not marry you, then you must leave the U.S. before your 90 days are up. As a K-1, marriage to him and filing for AOS is the only way for you to stay legally.

He's cheating on you. Why marry a cheater? You will find a better partner who respect you.

Best of luck

en. thank you.

sometime I feel very pity for him. At his age, he should not act like this way. maybe nothing about age.

i even worry about that he might go crazy if he keep living this way.

once i thought like that. I feel sore for him

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Sorry about your troubles, always sad to hear about jerks like that. Don't bother with him any longer....he doesn't seem worth it and it looking to cause artificial fights between you to create this mess while masking what it really going on.

I agree with you. I do not understand why he get mad easily at very tiny stuff.

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