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hmm does your kids respect or listen her as there mom or stepmom? or did you treat her as your wife?not a servant at home? we really dont know about the whole story tho but your wife cannot say those kind of words if evrything inside the house is fine.

hmm does your kids respect or listen her as there mom or stepmom? or did you treat her as your wife?not a servant at home? we really dont know about the whole story tho but your wife cannot say those kind of words if evrything inside the house is fine.

hmm does your kids respect or listen her as there mom or stepmom? or did you treat her as your wife?not a servant at home? we really dont know about the whole story tho but your wife cannot say those kind of words if evrything inside the house is fine.

facebook is a great thing isn't it?

I actually wouldn't say this if asked...the K1 is not supposed to be a "get to know you" visa, it's a visa for those who are going to get married. I know what you are saying here, and I know that in reality a lot of people get the visa for this very purpose, but I would NOT say this to a CO. I think this could easily lead to denial because it comes across as you aren't sure if you want to get married.
For us, this would have been simple (husband has very little family in Kenya, I am very close to my family here in the US and it would be impossible for some of them to travel to Kenya for a wedding) but for others they choose K1 for varying reasons. I think what Blob18 said is appropriate - that you don't want to start married life apart and would rather be separated from fiancee than wife. I think this question would be pretty rare though...I wouldn't worry about it too awful much.
For what it's worth, lots of people on here (including me) went to our fiance(e)s interview and were granted the visa. I think the CO actually saw me being there as a major plus in our interview. Maybe check with other Romanian couples to see if fiances are allowed in, how it is viewed if they go to the interview w/beneficiary, etc?

Sorry to hear that ! We were in same boat for long months .... I know it looks really bad now but indeed is better to happen now than in 4 years (as it previously happened to me). Everything is happening with a ... reason , lets do not forget that !

Your right for sure, I am a Big Baby. I am a big baby because this immigration process was master minded by idiot monkeys, chimpanzees in polyester suites so stupid they are not fit to lead a "Johny Detail" so idiotic they couldn't pour piss from a boot with the instructions written on the bottom! These same jackass chimps have screwed up the immigration process so badly we have millions of illegal immigrants all over this country and they can't figure it out! These same imbeciles who have all but destroyed this country by running our national debt into the TRILLIONS!
Do you really think that George Washington and Thomas Jefferson had any idea that at some point the Federal Government would decide who a free loving American can marry, love and build a family with??? Seriously, they would have fought for the Red Coats!!! Good GRIEF!!!

Perhaps not directly, but are you aware of your implication? Another life lesson I've taken, is to not worry about things that are outside of your control. And certainly how someone else wants to express themselves, about the process, would be one of those things, no?

You do realize you don't have to read every post. You can usually tell if it's someone venting; how about you just don't read those posts? The rest of us will try to encourage that person and you can move on to other posts. 'kay?

If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's to never tell people how they should feel.
Good luck!

its about how u bring urself during the interview some evidences ur bringing sometimes they dont ask for it just like what happened to my interview they never asked for anything other than pics.esp. the affidavit of support and offcourse he needs to meet the 125%poverty line for his income i guess this is the most important thing asked by the CO that u prove that u will not be a burden to his country when u get here but still u have to be prepared when u come to ur interview u never know what he/she will ask from u or things that he wanna see to prove ur relationship are true just let urself be prepared for everything happens Godbless.

You guys, this process is driving me crazy. The past couple weeks have really gotten to me. As we have surpassed five months and inched closer to six, it really feels like there is NO end in sight.
When I filed back in October, approvals were coming after about 2-3 months. That didn't seem too long to me. As the months passed, I noticed other filers were being approved in four months! Some even as long as five - five being the absolute MAX. Now, as people's timelines inch closer to six and seven months, I never know when it is going to end. When is it going to be my turn? There are easily still a hundred before me on VJ alone. VSC appears to only be approving 1-2 VJ'ers on any given day - I know that is a small percentage of totals, but at that rate, it will be another two months before I seee any action.
I've called my Senator. The aide has tried contacting VSC. They finally got a response stating that if my case isn't approved by April 5, they will put in an expedition request. But then what? Another thirty days after that?
I called NCSC and put in a service request. When I e-mail customer service to ask about the status of it, they tell me the same thing - wait until April 5. Then you will be REALLY considered outside normal processing time (at six months!) and we can start to think about processing you.
I used to excitedly log on to the USCIS website every day to check my status, multiple times. Now, I rarely go on - it's such a disappointment to see that nothing has changed.
I never, ever thought it would take this long. I thought maybe I would even be a lucky one who got approved in four months! But as the processing times continue to expand and nothing continues to be done about it, my hope is all but gone. I'm depressed, sad. When people ask me when my fiance is coming, all I can do is sigh and say I don't know. All the happiness has been sucked out of my engagement. Isn't engagement supposed to be a happy time? Shopping for china patterns, celebrating this happy time with family and friends. It is not supposed to be a time for sadness, stress, depression, and being thousands of miles apart.
I know many of us are in this same situation. I just had to vent. I am sick of feeling so powerless and hopeless.
Best wishes to all.

It will be hard to match up income level here and there. The 'great' America can't ever be compared to a third world country. There you gotta have a college degree to work in McDonalds or be a waiter in a fancy restaurant. HERE a high school grad can work his way up to management level. Technically, people back there are more educated (if in papers only) but have less chances of earning a lot of money. HERE, you can forgo college and still make decent wages if you have good head on your shoulder and hard working. It will be like comparing apples and oranges for the purpose of matching each other. Never going to happen.
Sending money is not per se bad. Asians honor their parents/elders by taking care of them. We don't allow our elders to go off to elderly homes to live alone there. We have to give back what we 'owe' them for raising us up. That means providing them money if we cannot serve their needs physically. Sending money becomes bad if it is done in excess to the detriment of another person - in this case the husband. Anything done in excess is bad. It is a matter of culture and honoring your parents. Each family, culture, race have their own family/society dynamics to deal with. Example: the American culture kicks out their kids at age 18 to teach them responsibility. Most likely, they don't financially support their kids to college (kids go and get loans for college education). While in Asia, it is the parent's duty to get their kids to college and provide them financially until they graduate and get work. Both are not in itself wrong, just different.
Do not be too quick to judge. Not all women from poor family runs their husband to debt just to send money home. People who post here are just a fraction of the population who immigrates here. Don't over generalize.

I am sorry but I know I may sound harsh, here goes:
Smack her upside her head, did she marry you for you or for your money so she can support her family? Just so everyone knows, I am the Filipina wife here. I do not and never expect my husband to send them money or anything else even though as everyone says its the Filipino way. I will not burden or obligate my husband in such a manner. My husband is the one who initiates sending gifts etc to my family, I would be the sensible one telling him our budget is tight right now, etc etc.
By all means, tell her to work if she wants to send more! When my husband and I were courting, he was telling me about his friends who also married Filipinas and how they expect and know they are supposed to send money home to support/help the family. I told him no! That is not how I operate, I do not and never will expect him to do that, and to this day, I have never asked him to send them money or gifts. I do not think it is right, everyone thinks once you marry an American that the money just drops out of the sky.
Sorry for the vent but I am outraged that your wife would FORCE you to do this and throw a fit when you are incapable of agreeing to her demands.

I would suggest his 'head' is in Florida. Cousin's already got him 'set up'.

Danm!
So sorry Tammy
I would also add that you should not threaten him that you are going to be contacting USCIS. The less he knows the better. I am sure you are in a lot of pain right now... to go through this NIGHTMARE that is immigration and then be treated like that is just heart wrenching...
My prayers are with you!
I agree with what the previous poster said about harboring resentment...
To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
~Lewis B. Smedes

Hi,
The I-129F and I-130 are two different types of petitions used to request a visa for a foreigner. They differ depending on the foreigner's relationship to the petitioner. If the beneficiary is a fiance, then the petitioner would use form I-129F since the beneficiary is not yet an immediate relative.
If the beneficiary is a spouse, child, parent, etc (relative), then form I-130 is used.

No, neither the I-129F or I-130 are applications for anything. They are petitions, which when approved, allow the foreigner to apply for a visa. To have success doing it yourself for an immigration process, you'll need to be able to carefully read forms and instructions, then interpret them literally and respond accurately. If you are not capable of easily comprehending the difference between a relative and a fiancee, you MIGHT want to re-think your do it yourself ideas. It's not for everybody.

dont believe on what he say because he never do.. if he truly mean what he says on you,he would have take you whenever that guy go or travel in any part of philippines. knoor even not blocking you to post on hes site. love yourself girl,set him free so you will be happy. you will regret if you gonna take this too long. end this while its early

we can translate for you. "Princess" means she wants you to make her the most important person in the world (and the kids too). It does not mean she is spoiled or needs lots of $$$. Small deeds make her feel like a Princess. Best to do them every day. They want to be treated like a wife, a lover and a cherished daughter. When I say they want a "husband, father, and lover" that means for them, all in one.
When they say "generous" or "not greedy" it means they do not want someone that thinks only of himself. It does not mean they want all your money.
When they say "successful" it means you have a job and can support a family. It does not mean you have to be rich. "Normal" is just fine.
"Quiet" does not mean you never talk (OMG NO! They never stop talking!) It means that they are secure and not worried. The bills are paid, there is food to eat, they have hot water and the stove works. They do not care HOW it gets done, just that it is reliable.
"Cozy home" means safe and no arguments, no abuse, no drunkeness. It does not necessarily mean little knick-knacks everywhere that just need to be dusted.
These are very common phrases used by everyone, what you see in profiles is just normal phrases. You will also be surprised in that they all want the same thing. And it does not matter how you meet them, it is pretty universal. Also keep in mind that in FSU culture some words are VERY powerful. Love, Beauty, friend are examples. A friend will give you the last Kopyeck they have no matter what (and you will pay it back, no matter what) A friend will never turn you in to the KGB, even if they pull out his fingernails (OK, that one is dated) They are not free and easy with the word "love", do not expect your FSU woman to be saying "I love you" 20 times per day, or even per month. She is not going to leave you little love notes around the house. She WILL grab you and make love to you on the kitchen table, the sofa, the bathroom vanity, the tub, the back porch, your desk...you get the idea. You will have no doubts. To say someone is "beautiful" is to say she is the most beautiful in the whole world. There can only be ONE beautiful woman. The others are "attractive", "wonderful", "normal" (normal is not a false compliment in the FSU and you see why, "normal" is pretty damn HOT) Also you ask a Ukrainian how they are and the answer is almost always "Korosho" which is basically "OK" or "Normal". They will not give you this phony US "Great!" They are not "great", they are "Korosho" Unless they just won the lottery or something, they are not "great".

I'm not just talking about me..i'm talking about evrybody...I can handle taking my turn but I see ppl waiting for many many months some past 7 months...with nothing from USCIS to know whats going on...I saw a lot of approvals several weeks past but now its slow going again...i just feel like its stalled somewhere...and i'm sure there are a lot of ppl that dont know about VJ...let's just pray they are the ones getting approvals daily bcos here...it's slow...

step back,you both did somthing wrong that leads your relationship into like this situation.
when you get upset about that valentine flowers never delivered to you and doesnt even greet you or even sending a card,then you saidd you will not continue the visa process,is killing her,and that really hurt her.how could you say it with just getting upset into that,you dont even ask her or talk to her what had happen,you might know,she wanted you to surprise,and she just wait till you get the delivery from florist.
but i just couldnt understand why she cut all the communication from you till facebook,i bet she really mad upset on you. IMO,you need to cool off,dont take pride will win over you,when things gets better try to call her again,or do email,untill you would know what really the reason why shes acting like that,and be ready wi yourself about her explanation. anyway evrything happen for a reason. you have to be prepared whatever happen,yes it hurt,evrybody in a relationship experience with this kind of hurted. but if your ex will tell you that she didnt care for you,then open your eyes,its hard to move on,but you can get over in time.. when the time come that you and her will be ok,then take this situation as a lesson for both of you.

My God!!! I can't believe this...

I can't believe that anyone would be thinking of marrying ANYONE else after only 4 weeks?
Are you kidding me??????

True love!!! (for a green card!)