jennareid

I just think contacting your congressman should be reserved for when something has gone wrong and you're outside processing times, not just because you're impatient. USCIS posts timelines for a reason. It's unreasonable for every applicant to be calling up their Senator a month after applying, pestering them for expedite. If you have a valid reason for expedite, such as financial hardship and a job offer in-hand then I can understand. But not just because you're impatient or bored. Everyone should have been prepared from the start for at least a 3-month wait.
Just my two cents.

Sweet!
Never miss a cheap shot if you can help it.

This makes me puke!
Changing your name is a pretty superficial way to "show commitment and dedication" to your marriage... not a "real sign" at all. I beat my husband everyday with a bat, but I am really committed and dedicated because I took his name?? (and no, I don't really do that). And I suppose because a man doesn't change his name he isn't dedicated at all... but who cares right? as long as "the wife" doesn't find out? Sickening!
OP: There is no requirement to change your name, and it will not be positive or negative come AOS time. Do what makes you comfortable with your name.
This is a myth that needs to be dispelled! It doesn't matter to USCIS if you change your name or not!

Divorce!!!



WAKE UP...!



She doesn't love you...!



She is manipulating you...!

Use that schooling money on a new wife instead. Try a different country next time. Get some variety. You are a option giver, not her.
This current one will suck you dry and leave you asking "what have I done?"
She is already plotting to leave you. Wants education so she can be self sufficient. Hoarding her salary away and seeing her parents taken care of on your dime. You're nothing more than a roof and ticket to citizenship.
If you're miserble each day and wake up miserble, you know what needs to be done.

Dude: KHHBTHHC, sm. (Kick her hindquarters back to her home country, si man.)

The phenomenon of being famous just to be famous isn't limited to porn stars. Reality tv people are worse, imo. You don't need to have sex for money to be a #######...

That's right. It's bad to live in a society that allows people to turn over a new leaf.

a century ago, it was acceptable..... don't forget that.
They aren't 'perverts.' It's a legitimate attraction.... There are a lot of people who are 'pedophiles' who don't actually 'act' on their desires out there. It's the same as the fact homosexuals have always been there and are just now in the past 20-30 years being able to come out of the woodwork safely.

Obviously Amber you have not hung out in MENA long enough to know that there are some really shady dudes - your husband might be a gem, but there are some MENA guys who are trying to play American women for fools and have succeeded! Just sayin'.

Unfortunately a lot of men of Arab descent make a bad name for THEMSELVES with their behavior as we've seen in this forum time and again. No one has to do it to them, they do it to themselves.

Dude, HOW LONG have you been dealing with this? HOW LONG will you put UP with it?
Please re-read my post #108 of page 8 of this thread. And we're at page 19 now?!

Lost Cause TBone.....
I know I would have got shot of her ages ago...every chance to become a massive liability in the future

D I V O R C E

I read the other thread. Sigh. Do you really want to live the rest of your days like this, man?

You should file a missing person first with the police because if something happens to her they will blame you. Make sure you have receipts of where you were the time she went missing and timeline where you were and who you were with. Cross check cell phone records emails time cards from employment.
Divorce ASAP or she will get more and file for spouse support in the future. Maybe the laywer can help you so you do not lose more money in the divorce and get her visa revoked as fraud.
And take a vacation to celebrate.

How is it narrow minded?
Two adults entered into the marriage, and when it didn't work out, one of them is wanting the other one to 'go back to her country' for apparently no reason.

Your comment made me think of how some mean people abandon their unwanted pets by driving far away and leaving them to fend for themselves as they drive off. Listen, she is your wife and not an unwanted animal. You should be honest with her. If you do no longer want to be with her then say so and ask for a divorce rather than tricking her into going to Belize with you and leave her there.
As far as removing the conditions of her permanent residence, she might still be able to remove the conditions on her own if she can prove that the marriage was entered in good faith and things just did not work out. You cannot just ship her back to her country now that you have realized she is "very ignorant and stubborn," according to you.

A family is a wonderful thing. Structurally, it's a small community that provides support for its members. All are in "one boat."
In the "old" days -- and these old days are to a large part still lived in Hispanic and Asian communities -- families with members from 3, often 4 generations live under one roof. Once Grandma and Grandpa are too old to work, the younger members of the community take care of them. These can be quite big boats, especially if they pop out babies like rabbits in order to enlarge their support system.
In modern western societies, and the US American society is part of it, these huge families are a thing of the past. With the rise of social security and pension and retirement funds, we nowadays prefer smaller boats.
Once a daughter from a large family is being given away to a man from another family and gets married, they have their own boat and, like in this case, the boat is sailing to a place thousands of miles away. The umbilical cord is cut and a new family is founded.
At this time, man and wife need to take care of their own family. I defies Western thought to send money to the old family. But even if you apply the nexus of morality (sorry, I'm a "studied" philosopher), Kant's categorical imperative, then morally you would only be obligated to provide what you would expect to get in return.
So here are the two questions to ask yourself and your wife: will her old family send money to you, to help you out, should the need arise, and would you expect them to send you money? Depending on your answers, you can deduct the extent of your moral obligation to them. Kant in layman's terms is like this: do to others what you expect them to do to you, or, in the negative, don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you.
I only hope that you and your wife are not only physically, but also morally in the same boat. If not, one has to leave. Most likely, that's the person who can swim back to the big boat and feels like that boat is still somewhat the boat she belongs to.

Thanks for showing up. Missed you. Has he washed the marriage certificate yet?

so u think she should beg for forgiveness,because she was stress just bcs we live here doesnt mean we are not stressed i believe he should also understand her side.she has put her all into this and she should beg pls..its not easy for either side we are not all rich we dont have money trees we struggle to ...we are all here for the same thing we want to be with our love ones no matter the cost.

Well sorry but it is probably for the best of everyone and your relationship. The minimum poverty guidelines for sponsorship are really not that great so if you really don't have that income level, you would just struggle with finances along with the struggles of a person moving to a new country.
Best bet might be to withdraw the petition and for you to get a new job or an additional job and make sure you ahve this very important part of the immigration process all nailed down before you do another petition. In the end it will be a good move for everyone.

He hasn't decided about Hijab yet
Why does your husband need to decide wether you'd wear a hijab or not? what about you, what do you want to do? Don't loose your identity just because you married outside your race or religion, I'm sure if you're married to a good man, He'll respect your opinions and won't treat you like you're a robot under his orders.
Maher

Why would you change the way you dress simply because you're married to an Arab? That's weird and yes, it would appear you're trying too hard or trying to be something you're not. You don't suddenly become Arab because you're married to one. Playing dress up is for little kids and performers.

I am sure he has learned his lesson and will behave himself.
Until he gets his GC.