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Kevin:
The melting pot example was in response to his complaint about Spanish being a service option.
It's naive and arrogant to think that English should be the only language spoken in a country populated by the world.
(and) Wake up...the Spanish speaking population is a rapidly growing and soon to be dominant demographic.

That was a lenghty (and rather pompous) diatribe.
All the work you put into writing that post...it's a shame it all gets blown away with 2 questions.....ready?
Are you stating that ALL (Mexican) illegal's bring poverty, disease, and crime to America... and that... "THEY" ALL prey on America's vulnerable benefits system?
Re-read his phrasing Kevin...he doesn't say...some...or most....he says..."they". As in...all.

This might help.....Pay attention to the examples of the word usage...jeeeez...this is elementary school level.
http://www.merriam-w...dictionary/they
Let me state it again...I agree that the U.S. has an illegal alien problem. Furthermore, I would like to see a fix to the problem just as much as you, Kevin and TCO. I would vote yes to... "The Great Wall of America" across the Mexican border.
(but) I'm not going to make a claim that... "they"...being the illegal's....bring disease, crime and poverty to America and prey on America's benefits systems...do some? Absoulutely...All? No...Therefore the sentence should be phrased as follows.....Some of them ...or...most of them...or...a majority of them...or...a percentage of them....or how 'bout....and within the ranks of the illegal's crossing the Mexican border, comes an element of .....
It is obvious that the phrasing TCO used is a blanket statement that labels all of them.
I think you and Kevin are ignoring his phrasing because of your staunch opinion(s) regarding illegal's.
I have an opinion about illegal's and...racism. I am able to differentiate the 2....are you?
I have heard the statement..."You are in America! Use English!!" ...since I was a teen.
Time to wake up....America has a rapidly growing spanish speaking population that spends MONEY!! (obviously) Some of it here in the U.S.
You took the flight to Fili....How many languages were represented on the flights and at the airports?
(If) The Arab community had the same purchasing power (represented in America) as the Spanish speaking population does...
Yes...Arabic would be on the menu...
Don't be too naive...The almighty Benjamin names the tune we all dance to.

That was a lenghty (and rather pompous) diatribe.
All the work you put into writing that post...it's a shame it all gets blown away with 2 questions.....ready?
Are you stating that ALL (Mexican) illegal's bring poverty, disease, and crime to America... and that... "THEY" ALL prey on America's vulnerable benefits system?
Re-read his phrasing Kevin...he doesn't say...some...or most....he says..."they". As in...all.

This might help.....Pay attention to the examples of the word usage...jeeeez...this is elementary school level.
http://www.merriam-w...dictionary/they
Let me state it again...I agree that the U.S. has an illegal alien problem. Furthermore, I would like to see a fix to the problem just as much as you, Kevin and TCO. I would vote yes to... "The Great Wall of America" across the Mexican border.
(but) I'm not going to make a claim that... "they"...being the illegal's....bring disease, crime and poverty to America and prey on America's benefits systems...do some? Absoulutely...All? No...Therefore the sentence should be phrased as follows.....Some of them ...or...most of them...or...a majority of them...or...a percentage of them....or how 'bout....and within the ranks of the illegal's crossing the Mexican border, comes an element of .....
It is obvious that the phrasing TCO used is a blanket statement that labels all of them.
I think you and Kevin are ignoring his phrasing because of your staunch opinion(s) regarding illegal's.
I have an opinion about illegal's and...racism. I am able to differentiate the 2....are you?
I have heard the statement..."You are in America! Use English!!" ...since I was a teen.
Time to wake up....America has a rapidly growing spanish speaking population that spends MONEY!! (obviously) Some of it here in the U.S.
You took the flight to Fili....How many languages were represented on the flights and at the airports?
(If) The Arab community had the same purchasing power (represented in America) as the Spanish speaking population does...
Yes...Arabic would be on the menu...
Don't be too naive...The almighty Benjamin names the tune we all dance to.

Why don't you take off your tin foil hat

problem is the woman already received her visa,it is conditional but she has been married for over 2yrs
and so i heard her on the phone telling some one that she can change it to the 10yr green card once she is at her
port of entry, (is this true?
This is not actually any fraud topic - it, instead, is a benefit of being married more than 2 years ONCE the intending immigrant arrives at a POE.
A visa is not conditional - at all.
Having a visa will result in a green card being issued -
if the marriage is less than 2 years prior to POE entry - then a Conditional Green card, 2 years duration, is issued.
If the marriage is more than 2 years prior to POE entry, then the Unconditional Green Card is issued, 10 years duration.
Is not, by itself, any indication of FRAUD - instead - is a benefit of 'marriage duration'.
SO - by itself, no - not fraud, IMO.
I would be hunting for 'other things' besides this one - card issuance and type is a benefit - Many couples decide to delay submittal, processing, and POE date SOLELY because of the '10 year card' - it's much less hassle with USCIS after the POE step.
Delaying entry is NOT an illegal activity, at all - I think you're confused, much.

I'm sure you're totally excited!!
(but) Seems best advice....hold off buying the tickets until interview is passed and the visa is in your fiancee's hand.

Hey...you should know by now...it's TFO...don't hold your your breath waiting for a rational answer!

I doubt it is jealousy that's making her cringe.
My wife stated / posed in an earlier post. How would an American feel about being referred to as ..."my American".
Asawa ko and I recognize the phrase, "my Filipina" , is probably being used as a term of endearment.
(but) Ask yourself the q....if you were being referred to as "my American"...that's OK with you? I'm sure it would be OK with me as long as used with appropriate connotation and as a term of endearment. (but) Should it be OK?
(another but) Giving a nod to the gentler sex, and recognizing the historical victimization of women being treated as property, objectified and subordinate to men.... I wonder if there is not some (albeit diluted) version of this victimization when referring to a woman with a cultural label. Couldn't this also be a way of objectifying a woman and at the same time...a little bit of racism mixed in the drink?
Michael

C'mon Buscador.
You are taking the joke too far and it's getting offensive. How 'bout you reign it in now.?
(This isn't OT)
I think you should explain your motivation so the obtuse can catch up.
(and since your at it already) How 'bout you can clean all the ladies' shoes that you muddied.
(it's seems you enjoy sociology but this isn't a very nice way to provoke and observe)
Michael

and and
I'm so bewildered that I'm just laughing while reviewing your post.
I have so many (sarcastic) responses playing in my mind right now. So many that I can't pick which 1 to write. I'm frozen.
(but) Like I stated (in an earlier post) ...the more you post...the more you show your desire / obsession to control.
Pause for a moment and think.... What must it be like, to be on the recieving end, of these tactics..? (and) What type of person resorts to these control methods?
(I'm not excusing your wifes' behavior...I'm just so baffled by yours)
Your Q?
Dude...if your wife gets wise... she can remove the conditions without you. How? 1st step...she divorces you. (but) If she files while your still married and you don't sign...she's got problems.

Why did you write this with broken english?

Why did you write this with broken english?

Why did you write this with broken english?

Why did you write this with broken english?

Why did you write this with broken english?

I doubt it is jealousy that's making her cringe.
My wife stated / posed in an earlier post. How would an American feel about being referred to as ..."my American".
Asawa ko and I recognize the phrase, "my Filipina" , is probably being used as a term of endearment.
(but) Ask yourself the q....if you were being referred to as "my American"...that's OK with you? I'm sure it would be OK with me as long as used with appropriate connotation and as a term of endearment. (but) Should it be OK?
(another but) Giving a nod to the gentler sex, and recognizing the historical victimization of women being treated as property, objectified and subordinate to men.... I wonder if there is not some (albeit diluted) version of this victimization when referring to a woman with a cultural label. Couldn't this also be a way of objectifying a woman and at the same time...a little bit of racism mixed in the drink?
Michael

I doubt it is jealousy that's making her cringe.
My wife stated / posed in an earlier post. How would an American feel about being referred to as ..."my American".
Asawa ko and I recognize the phrase, "my Filipina" , is probably being used as a term of endearment.
(but) Ask yourself the q....if you were being referred to as "my American"...that's OK with you? I'm sure it would be OK with me as long as used with appropriate connotation and as a term of endearment. (but) Should it be OK?
(another but) Giving a nod to the gentler sex, and recognizing the historical victimization of women being treated as property, objectified and subordinate to men.... I wonder if there is not some (albeit diluted) version of this victimization when referring to a woman with a cultural label. Couldn't this also be a way of objectifying a woman and at the same time...a little bit of racism mixed in the drink?
Michael

I'm with you...and in fact, I would feel very offended, dissed and minimized if my husband referred to me in this way.
I wonder, IF, these men would like to be referred to as "my American" by their spouses/finacess and I wonder how they'd feel about it.

I'm with you...and in fact, I would feel very offended, dissed and minimized if my husband referred to me in this way.
I wonder, IF, these men would like to be referred to as "my American" by their spouses/finacess and I wonder how they'd feel about it.

C'mon Buscador.
You are taking the joke too far and it's getting offensive. How 'bout you reign it in now.?
(This isn't OT)
I think you should explain your motivation so the obtuse can catch up.
(and since your at it already) How 'bout you can clean all the ladies' shoes that you muddied.
(it's seems you enjoy sociology but this isn't a very nice way to provoke and observe)
Michael

C'mon Buscador.
You are taking the joke too far and it's getting offensive. How 'bout you reign it in now.?
(This isn't OT)
I think you should explain your motivation so the obtuse can catch up.
(and since your at it already) How 'bout you can clean all the ladies' shoes that you muddied.
(it's seems you enjoy sociology but this isn't a very nice way to provoke and observe)
Michael

Here's my example to you. It is up to you how to interpret my statement. I will try to explain to you the typical filipina custom and tradition. Not sure it might be even applicable to other traditional females in other countries.
First off. Majority of Filipina that grows up in the Philippines are soft spoken. They speak English language well but they are still soft spoken. They are very "sensitive" and as a young age they are trained to serve the whole family (cooking, household chores, take care of young siblings) in preparation when she marries someone so she can serve him well. Now, they move to the USA and marry a USC. Feeling secured being married to a nice and loving guy, she will serve you well.
Now, here's what slowly destroy the loving relationship. (This is how I see it) We as mostly male USC, if we find something which is not right or if someone has done something wrong or done something incorrectly, we tell it to them what we think without any reservation. We get upset and yell and let go off our steam as we are told to do. We get mad and upset at that moment but then we let go afterwards and we forget about it.
The typical Filipina is very sensitive to those sudden outburst and sudden anger by the husband. She will cry and keep it (the pain) to herself without you knowing it (for years) and she will never forget it. Still, she will continue to serve the husband well and hoping she won't be treated with sudden anger and sudden outburts again. Typical Filipina does not want her husband talking bad things to her parents specially her mother. Filipino's that grow up in the Philippines who are raised properly does not and are not allowed to talk back at their parents. Filipina are not trained to talk back at their husband even though they are feeling hurt. They are trained not to say hurtful words to anyone because they don't want anybody saying hurtful words to them. Here in the US, sometimes us as husbands tend to say things the way they see it and does not care if it it hurts or not because we think it is better to say it and let go of what we feel inside and let the steam go off. These type of behavior over time builds up in their heart and it will overshadow her love for her husband.
She does not talk about her problem with any other people. She does not even tell her parents her problem with the husband. If she still loves her husband and if she can't take it anymore the verbal abuse, she will not file for divorce, but she will retreat to her parents for comfort and for protection because she does not feel the love and protection anymore from her husband. It is up to the husband to adjust and learn how to deal this kind of relationship with a typical filipina that grows up in a traditional way in the Philippines. If she does not have a parents anymore to go to for comfort and protection, she will try to learn and act the way the husband does and eventually will talk back to the husband. If the husband can't take his own medicine, either someone will get hurt and arrested or divorce is the outcome.
Now to the OP, your situation might be different. However, what I just wrote is typical of why a filipina goes back home and won't come back "just yet".
To the OP, I think she still loves you too because she did not file for divorce and make you pay child support as pay back of some sort. She knows that female in the USA has equal rights with men and she could have used the legal system but not yet because I think she is hoping for some miracle.
I know this for a fact because I know. Here in the USA, a husband can't just beat or slap her wife because he will go to jail. In the Philippines women who are middle class are constantly get beaten by their husband and the husband do not go to jail because NO ONE will report it and because woman does not have equal rights in the Philippines and the laws are not being enforced even there if there is such a thing as protection for women. If the woman in the Philippines is rich and get beat up by her husband then the husband goes to jail. However, reform is slowly being implemented in the Philippines.
Now, the best way to answer your question is to ask a filipina who grew up in the Philippines and speak the same dialect as your wife in traditional way and currently living here in the USA. Approach her in a neutral way and ask question why would a filipina go back home for no reason.

Been there. Not impressed. Won't go back.
Might as well throw the beef in the garbage rather than prepare a burger or steak on a flat grill. I'm buying a burger and their selling toppings.
Fries are supposed to have a crunch. Are they serving fries or pasta? I'm not sure.
All in all...overrated.