CVincent901

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Just to update the situation, I both emailed and called the embassy. I was finally able to speak to someone who assured me the situation had been brought to the attention of the head of the visa department. They also instructed me to send a notarized letter to officially request that the application be withdrawn, which I will do tomorrow.

Thank you, everyone for the info and suggestions. Today I will be contacting the embassy to withdraw the application and the affidavit of support. One more question. Where do I find the A- number? I can't seem to find it.

Yes, I will (if I can't get someone on the phone tomorrow).

She already has all of the documents. If I am unable to get in touch with someone in the next 2 days I will go to the embassy and try to get into the interview.

I understand. To be completely honest, when I wrote the original post I was still considering moving forward with the process. That's why I provided false information. I understand that wasn't the best thing to do. Now that I have decided what I need to do, I am no longer concerned with concealing the actual details.

No, I'm not in Argentina. I'm in Peru. My wife has all of the documents. I am going to call the embassy in the morning. I can't seem to find an email address on the embassy website.

I deliberately changed some of the details because I was unsure what I was going to do and didn't want anyone to be able to identify me based on the specific information I shared. Now that I am clear about what I need to do, I am less concerned with concealing the specific details. The interview was always scheduled for Thursday.

Yes, I am in her country, and yes I signed the affidavit. (It was all legit at the time the paperwork was filed. The breakup happened subsequent to all of that.) Thanks for the advice. If I don't get confirmation that my communications have been received I will go to the embassy on Thursday as well.

I posted the other day about my very unfortunate situation regarding my soon-to-be-ex-wife's visa application. The situation is that we are separated and planning to divorce, but we are still legally married, and we are scheduled for an interview at the embassy THIS THURSDAY. I learned through the responses to my inquiry that I am on the verge of committing immigration fraud, and I now wish to take all possible steps to prevent the process from moving forward. The problem is that my wife refuses to cooperate and is planning to go forward with the interview without me. She has all of the documents and she is the only one with access to the embassy appointments website, so I cannot cancel the interview without her cooperation. I am planning on writing an email to the embassy tonight and calling them on the phone tomorrow. I am also thinking of going there in person tomorrow just to make sure I cover all of my bases (although I doubt I will be able to speak to anyone since I don't have an appointment). My fear is that my email may not get read in time and/or I may not be able to get anyone on the phone. Does anyone have any advice for other steps I should take to make sure the embassy is fully aware of the situation before my wife shows up for the interview on Thursday?

My mind is not made up at all. This thread has given me a lot to think about, and I would say I am much less likely to move forward as planned as a result of the feedback I have gotten here. And I will DEFINITELY consult a lawyer soon!

Yes, first child. I am a child of divorce and know countless people who have been through awful divorces. I have talked to all of them to get as much guidance as I can throughout this whole process. I understand the different situation in the US regarding divorce, custody, etc., but I actually see that as an advantage. I have an established life in the states, and limitations on taking my child elsewhere would actually work to my benefit, since the worst case scenario for me would be that my wife gets to the US and then manages to take my child elsewhere in the US. As long as we establish residence where I live, many of those protections would help me rather than hurt.

I'm well aware that moving to the US won't solve my problems. I am choosing between very bad options. The only question is which is the least horrible. (Kind of like voting! Haha.)

This is why I am here exposing the most intimate details of my life -- to make the best decision possible. I would hope that those who have been through similarly difficult situations would have some empathy for my situation. To be honest, yes. Doesn't mean I'm going to do it, but I am still considering all possible options.

Why do you believe it's a high chance? Given that we would both suffer very bad consequences if we did move forward and get caught, what kind of specific situation do you think would make such an outcome likely?

The marriage was never healthy, but it was real. The pregnancy was unplanned (while using contraception). And, for those in the peanut gallery, I am certain that the contraception was actually used and that it was not a "baby trap". There is no chance of reconciliation.

There is no doubt in my mind on this point. Besides the resemblance, we were in quarantine at the time of conception and were literally never apart for any significant length of time. I understand why you're asking these questions, but I have zero doubt that I am my child's father.

Yes, there is no question about that. He looks exactly like me.

Yes, my child is a US citizen. But I would need her consent to take my child out this country, and if I deny her what she wants she will probably withhold consent out of spite.

I have no desire whatsoever to be with her. I was the one who made the decision to split up. My only concern is to do what's best for my child (and secondarily for my parents). Lots of commenters on this thread are making it out like this is a no-brainer, but taking a step that will likely mean that my child will never live full time in the US is a very hard pill to swallow. I am leaning toward making what everyone on this thread thinks is the right decision, but it's an enormously difficult thing to do and will have lifelong consequences for my child, my parents and myself.

I read the brochure. From what I can tell, our situation doesn't fit into any of the specific scenarios mentioned. The marriage was not fraudulent. We got married with the intention of having a life together and started the visa process with our marriage intact. The breakdown of the marriage is recent, so at least thus far we haven't made any fraudulent representations, although that would change if we go through with the interview and don't answer questions truthfully.

I am definitely considering doing exactly what you recommend. I just want to gather as much information as I can before making a decision that is going to affect the life of my child forever. If I pull the plug on the visa process it probably means that my child will never live full time in the US. That's an almost impossibly difficult decision to make. I haven't made any decisions yet. To answer your other question, yes, the idea was to make financial support part of the divorce agreement, in exchange for which my wife would agree not to pursue any additional support thereafter other than normal child support.

We are fortunate that my mother is financially well off and is willing to make an indefinite commitment to supporting my wife and child, if that is what is necessary in order for her to have a relationship with her grandchild.

Another question. If I choose to tell the embassy about the situation (and thereby probably put an end to the spousal visa process), is there another pathway for my soon-to-be-ex to get an immigrant visa based on the fact that her child is a US citizen? If so, how would that work?

Given that the consensus seems to be that continuing with the process would be fraud, can anyone inform me of the likely consequences? What circumstances could lead to the government becoming aware of the fraud, and what would the likely punishment be?