Verrou

No divorce decree = married?
Isn't it as simple as that?

depend on the state, most of the time u have to put what's ur marital status on december 31 when u file in the following april next year. there's no " i'm married but separated therefore im single' option.
 
i told 2 different people who doesnt know each other at least 10 times to file married separately but yet they wont do it and playing deaf and choose "single" because they are trying being cute and keep saying "but I'm separated".  i forced them to make an amended otherwise i wont help with their application. end up more work for them

im super confused. what do u mean to remove "him"? im not clear from ur post.
 
1. i understand u have 2 years green card, is it time for you to apply for removal of condition? have u or have u not file for removal of condition? 
 
2. what is the thing that it's on file right now? u keep saying u need to remove his name, but remove from what? please be specific, what form are u talking about?
 
3. how old is ur son, ur son cant "migrate" with tourist visa. tourist visa is non immigrant visa = not to migrate. 
 
4. where is ur son right now?

im super confused. what do u mean to remove "him"? im not clear from ur post.
 
1. i understand u have 2 years green card, is it time for you to apply for removal of condition? have u or have u not file for removal of condition? 
 
2. what is the thing that it's on file right now? u keep saying u need to remove his name, but remove from what? please be specific, what form are u talking about?
 
3. how old is ur son, ur son cant "migrate" with tourist visa. tourist visa is non immigrant visa = not to migrate. 
 
4. where is ur son right now?

to live / stay under the same roof doesnt mean that person should be count as household member. same applies with roomates. 

im super confused. what do u mean to remove "him"? im not clear from ur post.
 
1. i understand u have 2 years green card, is it time for you to apply for removal of condition? have u or have u not file for removal of condition? 
 
2. what is the thing that it's on file right now? u keep saying u need to remove his name, but remove from what? please be specific, what form are u talking about?
 
3. how old is ur son, ur son cant "migrate" with tourist visa. tourist visa is non immigrant visa = not to migrate. 
 
4. where is ur son right now?

im super confused. what do u mean to remove "him"? im not clear from ur post.
 
1. i understand u have 2 years green card, is it time for you to apply for removal of condition? have u or have u not file for removal of condition? 
 
2. what is the thing that it's on file right now? u keep saying u need to remove his name, but remove from what? please be specific, what form are u talking about?
 
3. how old is ur son, ur son cant "migrate" with tourist visa. tourist visa is non immigrant visa = not to migrate. 
 
4. where is ur son right now?

What do you mean “migrated to live with me”?   That is absolutely not allowed on a tourist visa.

to live / stay under the same roof doesnt mean that person should be count as household member. same applies with roomates. 

to live / stay under the same roof doesnt mean that person should be count as household member. same applies with roomates. 

to live / stay under the same roof doesnt mean that person should be count as household member. same applies with roomates. 

try Raymond Lo https://www.raylolaw.com/contact/ he specialize in "difficult" case. some of my friends and acquaintances hired his firm and very pleased with the result. i almost hired his office as well. no sugar coat, if he said he cant, he will tell u. free consultation as far as i remember. if u want his email, shoot me DM

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

what struck me when i read your post, i keep thinking, what do you really want? we can all give input, suggestion, but this is about relationship and feelings and not immigration stuff. all i hear mostly excuses from both of you. cant, cant cant but in fact it seems it's more WONT. if u wanna make things work, then do something, if u wanna give up, then just divorce. noone can tell u what to do. 
 
just want to add, IT job is not a piece of cake this past few years (i know because im married to managerial level IT guy)  by paper maybe it's easy for him to get one, that's by paper. even for US citizen it's hard to get that kind of job, many2 lay off, even full time job is not secured (again, i know because im married to one and it's a struggle), let alone foreigner who has no experience in the US. if u said if u walk to buy groceries it's gonna take 1 hour? seems not a big city to me.  that means less IT job in that area, and most IT job now is not remote. i mean i like ur optimism about he can get a job easily, but what if he cant? have u think about it ? how bout he cant get a job for 14 months ( happened to my husband back in 2020) or 6 months (happened to my husband in 2023/4 and he just got a job literally 3 months ago).  the company that he currently work said its a remote job, but in reality he told me he can't do work if he didnt come in person at least 2-3 days a week because need to access something at work (cant be done remotely). he's working in the capital of IT company and not in the middle of nowhere. he kept looking and IT job is not great at the moment. more layoff than hiring. and he's the USC not the immigrant. he always got a good paying job up until few years ago because again, lotsa of layoff. 
 
what im trying to say, do u have a back up plan if it happened to ur husband? ( cant find work even with the precious EAD). and i dont understand about need kitchen, dont want studio bla bla bla, at this moment, he has no job, he's not working, but why he has too many conditions right now, dont want this dont want that when he seems broke to me.  and u said he ran out of his saving, so dont know why he whined so much. ( maybe because i only hear ur side, and not his side). 
 
just being in love without $$$ will strained the relationship. people can say whatever they want, but if u are broke, love will dissapear because when you are hungry, u cant eat love. and the worst part is, seems the love is not there too. 
 
good luck
 
 

Withdraw the I-864 and tell him he is free to decide his own fate…he can stay and try to repair the marriage/relationship or he can leave.
 
Boycotting the kitchen, to avoid your parents is absurd. You are smart enough to understand that he has justified washing his hands of cooking and any household contributions. 

Don’t even get me started with the grocery shopping excuse….yes he can rely on the kindness of others ( your parents) and venture out WITH them when they do the shopping.
 
You need to put down that heavy hammer of self criticism….and politely STOP his barrage of put downs the moment you hear it. 
 
Pull the I-864 . …and do a serious re set. ..cause a job for him won’t fix the resentment he is stewing in and stop blaming yourself or doubting what you see, hear and feel. 
 
 

Only you can answer that question. Like I said above, u want to change ur name now ? Prepare to pay for GC replacement for new name. I personally won’t do it because I don’t want to give my money to USCIS.
 
you don’t have to change ur name. So I can’t answer what name should you choose. Only you can answer that question 

many times expedite request has received no response from USCIS at all. it's unfortunately at their discretion. there's no rule that they have to response. i knew because i did couple of that request myself. yes in the end i succedded for expedite request and got approved for i-485, i-765, i-131 based on that but that's for another story

many times expedite request has received no response from USCIS at all. it's unfortunately at their discretion. there's no rule that they have to response. i knew because i did couple of that request myself. yes in the end i succedded for expedite request and got approved for i-485, i-765, i-131 based on that but that's for another story