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    November 2018 AOS Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    23 hours ago, rrobin0609 said:

    My husband's biometrics were done on December 13th and we are still seeing "Fingerprint Fee Received" as well. Fingers crossed it switches over soon since the Kansas City office has a pretty quick wait time for interviews.

    I should think so! Fingers crossed for sure. I’m pretty sure mines just because it was filed at CSC & that’s gotta be the busiest one :( 

    November 2018 AOS Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    19 hours ago, Gibus said:

    64 days for me, I called USCIS yesterday and they told me they received the fingerprint review or something like that so I guess it's just the status that doesn't update.

    If you’d be able to send over the number you used to contact them I’d appreciate it :) although I’m in no rush, I’d like that option if need be in a few weeks as I am seeing several peoples status’ changing!

    November 2018 AOS Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    About time that I joined this thread after a busy few weeks!!!

     

    Moved to the US on a k-1 visa on July 19, 2018

    Married on August 31, 2018

     

    Filed for AOS, EAD & AP on Nov 9, 2018

    Recieved texts with #s on Nov 19, 2018

    Hard copies received on Nov 20th, 2018

    Biometrics appointment letter recieved on 27th Nov 2018 - scheduled for December 10, 2018

     

    Thats my current timeline. Looking forward to sharing this journey with you all. 🤞🏻

    New York AOS 2018 Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    On 8/22/2018 at 7:21 AM, AndreaPerkins said:

    Processing time for Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status (I-485) at New York City NY

    Estimated time range
    11
    Months
     
    to
     
    26
    Months
     
    Processing Times for New York City
    1. 8.5 Months to 15 Months
      Employment-based adjustment applications
      June 11, 2017
    2. 16 Months to 30 Months
      Family-based adjustment applications
      March 15, 2016

    Wow.....

    New York AOS 2018 Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    8 hours ago, LizM said:

    Hey, anyone who's had any experience with getting a learner's permit for driving (before EAD/AP/AOS approval)? I thought I couldn't do that yet but when I checked the NYS DMV website it seems that the requirements are the same as for getting just a state ID (which is what I was initially going for).

    I’ve actually been looking into this too. I already have a UK license and thought I couldn’t get one here until after AOS but I’m reading different?

    On 8/14/2018 at 11:52 AM, kendorii said:

    Yeah, it's funny how you forget all that #### once you're here and planning a wedding! 8 days until ours, and I'm only starting to fill out the AOS paperwork. How long did it take you guys?

    Not on AOS yet! (If you meant me!) we’re getting married on August 31st. Awww. Happy happy wedding day 💛💛💛

    New York AOS 2018 Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    21 hours ago, kendorii said:

    Wow is right! We arrived on the same date, but my POE was Dublin via pre-clearance, but since I was in secondary for over 1hr30m, I nearly missed the flight! Immigration sucks everywhere!

    They really, really do. After the #### we have to go through to even get to POE, they should be nice to us and not make our lives hell! Lol

    9 hours ago, Michelle M said:

    My husband came thru JFK and he was out in 45 minutes from the time the plane landed; they took his envelope stamped his passport and said welcome to America. I think it's an ####### who wants to make someone's day as shitty as he is. 

    He was a real bad officer. But from just observation alone before seeing him, he seemed nice. Haha jokes on me - either way! I’m here so all is good 

    New York AOS 2018 Filers

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    13 hours ago, LizM said:

    Seems like you got someone who was completely inexperienced, and who tried to hide it by being rude and demanding. When I went through I was also standing in I think two different (but short) lines before I was directed to the incorrect window, had to stand in a third line, and then someone reluctantly took my case and opened my envelope. I wonder how unusual K1s are.

    Yeah sounds as if they are unusual!! Or they’re just lazy, lmao

    Scared about moving

    in Off Topic

    Posted

    I’ve read the comments here! Please no one think I’m ignoring! Just been sooooo so busy these past few days. Just an update: POE is today & i’m honestly PETRIFIED. Like, so nervous and feel so sick. Can’t believe the day is actually here! (6AM right now and I’m exhausted lol). Once I’m safe and sound in the states I’ll reply to the comments here individually 💛

    Scared about moving

    in Off Topic

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    2 hours ago, Paul & Mallory said:

    Man that is hard. I'm so sorry you have to go through that on top of the transition itself, which is hard enough. I can never pretend to know what it feels to be in your, or my husband's, shoes. I had a conversation recently in another thread about feeling guilty for all the things the beneficiary in your relationship is ultimately giving up to move to the states. The best thing I can ever advise someone, as the petitioner, is to just love their partner. Love them well and love them hard. It's all anyone can do. I know I can never duplicate the sacrifices my husband has made, and is making every day by being here instead of Sweden. Sometimes I'll just be sitting next to him and get it on my mind, and randomly blurt out "I love you so much, thank you". He always tells me it's nothing to thank him for, but I am thankful. It's such a precious, undisputable gift you are giving, being the one to move to another country.

     

    At the end of the day, all you can do is what makes YOU happy. You parents and your family are important facets of your life, absolutely. But this is your life to live and unless you are making dangerous, unhealthy decisions, it's nobody's business to try and persuade you to be unhappy. My husband always says, the best response to negativity or discontent of your choices is living happily ever after. Hopefully when your family sees you living your best life, with your partner where you chose to settle down together, things will get better. My husband has always been a bit of a nomad before we met, so I know it's easy for him to say, particularly compared to someone who's never lived more than a 3 hour drive away from their parents (like me :P ), but I do agree with his perspective - your family is ALWAYS your family, no matter how far apart you are. Disconnecting or letting those relationships go by the wayside is a choice. And you - and your family - have a choice of continuing to strengthen your relationship even while you live far apart. It is a two way street. But as long as you are giving your best effort and leave it on the table, then you are doing all you can. Just don't let it get in the way of that happily ever after, because you deserve that!

    Thank you - it is so awful, but some days they're okay with it, the next they're shouting and screaming over it, I can and never will win. I guess also for them, online relationships were never a thing when they were my age. All they look at is "why couldn't you get someone here", stuff like that. It's hard for them to grasp and understand that online relationships do happen and are happening all around us, I'm seeing it's far more common nowadays for someone to meet online, than date someone locally. (Of course this can be disputed, but that's how I see it). But I hate the feeling of being tied up in one place. No matter whether I move to the states now, I've always had that "travel bug", so I'd be away more than I'm home either way.
    It is so much to "give up", but we're all making these decisions for a reason! And besides, in my perspective, living there may not be forever. I could be there permanently and hate it. I like to look at all possibilities and that is definitely one of them. 

    True! - I don't live to please anyone else. Being that girl that was always talked down to, bullied and never got the chance to have my own voice, my time is now and I've never been more confident in a decision I've made like I am this one.

    Luckily for me, I've traveled and stayed with my fiancé for many months at a time, (3 months, returning home for 1 week, then going back for another 3 months), so being away from my family for long periods of time is familiar. It's obviously different now, and I am trying to convince myself that this is just a holiday just to make the sadness a little more bearable. I'd much prefer to cry in the arms of my love than cry at the airport when I'm alone. I always think the worst things when I'm solo, lol. I think the thing my parents are riding on is the fact I'm applying for AP so I can return for Christmas. That's only 5 months away, so not too bad.

    I feel like I've just sat here and rambled on, hahah, sorry! But thank you so much for some great advice and comfort, I appreciate it more than I can express.

     

    Scared about moving

    in Off Topic

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    On 7/2/2018 at 3:54 PM, Paul & Mallory said:

    Hey there - just some (lengthy) thoughts/observations:

     

    - You mentioned not being so close to your family, which is what surprises you about your current feelings. Perhaps that's exactly why you are feeling the way you are. I'm the petitioner, so I can't say I 100% understand what you are going through, but I did have to watch my husband go through this exact process just a few short months ago. I remember leading up to it, he focused on the most important people in his life that he's closest to. Then right before he left - like literally within a week of leaving - he was suddenly talking about these people he hasn't been close to for a while, some he hadn't seen in years, and how he's reconnecting with them. I think there was some underlying guilt that he hadn't taken the time/opportunity to reconnect with them more while he'd had the chance before moving out of the country. I think that's an organic "what-if" reaction - the realization that you may be missing out on the opportunity to become closer to some people, because you won't be near them anymore. I think that is entirely normal. It encouraged my husband to connect with people via social media more (something he's never been a fan of beforehand), and commit to staying in touch more. He spends a lot of time during the day FaceTiming with people and sending videos back and forth. I think that definitely helps. Going through this process during such a technology-driven era is only benefitting to folks like us - it makes staying in touch and closing the distance a lot easier.

     

    - DO NOT allow others' guilt inductions negate any of the excitement you are allowed to have right now. Yes, this is a HUGE life-changing transition. My husband was VERY nervous during his move and I know it was a very bittersweet time for him. He was coming home to me, but telling a lot of people goodbye. That is never easy. It hurts my heart to hear you have people who are important to you who are giving you a harder time than they should be. Yes, your friends and family are allowed to be sad and wish you weren't going. It's human nature to want to be close to people we love, even if it's in a selfish capacity. But at the same time, if you are following your heart and making a decision that does nothing but make your dreams come true, that should matter more. My husband's family has fortunately been so supportive of us, even before they ever met me. My immediate family and close social circle on my end has been, also. But I had some extended relatives who were not supportive. They were rude. Ignorant. And racist. I saw sides of people I respected all my life that I never knew existed. It was hard, but I decided to put them on mute. I'll always care about them and they'll never be "dead to me", but I know I can't allow that negativity into mine or my husband's life. They won't be invited to our house for dinners or holidays. They aren't invited to our traditional wedding. That door will be open should they ever come around, but you come to a point where you realize you cannot force people to be in your corner. If they choose to work against you, it's not worth the effort to continue pushing up against that kind of pressure. If that is the case for you and people in your life, just make sure you always choose your joy and your self preservation over others' intolerance or refusal of acceptance. Always keep those lines of communication open and flowing, but don't feel like you need to swallow yourself up in their reservations out of respect or obligation. It is not obligated or required by you. I promise.

     

    - Culture shock is real. No matter how you prepare for it. My husband is from a northern, Nordic country. Although his heritage hails from the Philippines (privy to dry/humid heat), our weather alone down here in the south has been an adjustment for him. Most of his visits here over the years took place in the summer, and once in the winter. He's now seeing what our year-long weather is like. He's not used to hurricane and tornado seasons. He'd also never seen heat lightening before, which I never thought about the fact that that could be strange or even alarming to someone who's never seen it before, or even knew what it was. I joked that it probably felt like War of the Worlds for a minute. :jest: Visiting/vacationing somewhere is definitely different from LIVING there. Your mentality is different. There's a lot more to adjust to, because you aren't "going home" after a while - you ARE home. Allow yourself to feel that and realize what a big deal that is. But know that you will overcome it and you will embrace it and you will conquer it, because that is exactly where you are supposed to be. You are home. My husband has always said throughout this process that I'm his home. The rest is just white noise.

     

    - Above all else - be fruitful in the positive attributes this will also bring. There will be way more joy than there will be fear and guilt. The feeling of finally being with your partner and never having to leave one another again is indescribable. I've yet to figure out the best word to use for it. The excitement of beginning your life together will validate everything you are feeling now, and you will have that moment where you realize this is exactly where you are meant to be and what is meant to be. And when that happens, nothing else will matter so much.

     

    Hang in there, love! It is a rough journey for both the heart and the soul, but you are NOT alone and you are not the only one to ever feel the things that you are. XOXO

    I can't say much other than thank you so much. This is an amazing read and something I wish that so many others could see too. I keep coming back here to read your response, although it's taken me a long time to respond (lol, packing, packing, packing).

    It is so hard, something that I never expected to be so heartwrenching? Working so hard to be together, spending copious amounts of money and being so stressed. This should be the most exciting part for us! My fiancé (for the first time ever) is more excited than I am! I read you are the petitioner, and honestly, as the beneficiary, leaving everything behind is already SO hard, and I've not even left yet! More so, as I said, because my parents / family aren't really coming around or supporting us through it. It hurts me, watching them hurt. My mom has always been the "leather skinned" kinda person. And I've seen her cry more in these past 2 months than I have in my entire life. I don't want either of them to cry, I want them to realize that this is what I want to do and this is what I'm passionate about. She says things such as "I didn't give birth to you for you to leave me" "You're leaving me" "You don't care about us" "Family is nothing to you, because you're moving half way across the world" list could go on, and on. And instead of being excited for me, they're not. They talk about "what if things go wrong", "you can't let him control you", bizarre sh** like that, lol. My fiancé is the most AMAZING man I've ever met, and how they don't see that, IDK. But it's whatever, imo. I'm gonna do it no matter what anyone says, because I love him, I love the states, and there's SO many opportunities for me there in terms of work (when I can, anyways.)

    Again, thank you. I'll continue to come back to your post when I'm feeling down, until the time of my POE comes (10 days)  XOXO :wub:

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