BuiQuang

Ur stepmother in US?  She file I-485?

He no get visitor visa, he no can use VWP again.  he take risk, he loss, he no can visit u.

Ur father want to live and retire in US.  U need be USC to file for him 2 live here.

He abuse visitor visa to live here, he can be ban from visiting.  Visitor visa not to live in US when ur father want to live in US for 6 months and then come back in same year for another 6 months.

How much time does ur father want to stay in the US every year?

Why not use VWP.

Get the passport corrected.

No one should be using a legal ID especially a passport with an incorrect name.  To be blunt, this is just stupid.

35 minutes ago, lysander said:

Some people warned me. Others said go for it. This board wasn't the only place I consulted. You did happen to be right, though. So, mark it up as further proof of VisaJourney's superior advice, I guess.

Who told you to go for it?  U have no job do not want to work and want immigrant wife to come to us to support u.  Who think this was good idea?

I see people tell u not to marry her.

I see people give u advice because u want to bring ur wife 2 us.  helping u do not mean they told u to go for it.  they help u cuz u ask for it.

I don't see people tell u to go for it because ur plan was good.

2 minutes ago, cyberfx1024 said:

I did read the majority of it as of right now. But honestly I do believe she meant that because she lasted this long right? So if she didn't mean it but just said it then she would have left along time ago. 

 

But she probably saw his true nature and got fed up. A fair number of Filipina's are women who work and want to support their family both here and back home. So by having a husband who did not work at all and did not contribute anything to the household is a slap in the face. 

She came to US 2016.  her con start 2014 but she got green card recently.

Just now, lysander said:

Restraining orders are granted or denied based on a preponderance of the evidence standard. That's another way of saying that they don't really care all that much if they get it wrong and grant a restraining order that wasn't justified. If they cared much about that, they would have a higher standard, like the clear and convincing evidence standard or the beyond a reasonable doubt standard.

You have no understanding of restraining orders.

Beyond a reasonable doubt is for final criminal trials, not for preliminary temporary restraining order at begining of process.  Beyond a reasonalbe dbout requires a trial.

2 minutes ago, kris&me said:

The length of time is stay married to her is an issue for her not you

 

If you are divorced, but your marriage lasted 10 years or longer, you can receive benefits on your ex-spouse's record (even if they have remarried) 

 

this does not cut your benefits but does give her an income from SS when you retire

 

i always look to the future when wanting to know what is going to happen

 

He don't work.  So he no get SS.  Plan was for immigrant wife to work so he can stay home.  He benefit from SS only if he stay married for 10 years to his wife.

2 minutes ago, lysander said:

I guess I lack common sense then, huh? Sucks to be me.

Yes and yes.

Bring an immigrant wife to US and expect her to go to work or start a business to support you while you no work is lack common sense.  People warned you and you ignored them.

3 minutes ago, lysander said:

Are there marriages that aren't to some extent two people using each other to get their own desires met? The only reason talk of victimization gets brought into the situation is that she took it in that direction by taking out a restraining order. Otherwise, it would just be a regular breakup and divorce, without unnecessary drama. Happens all the time and is usually no big deal.

No, marriage is not about using each other for our own desires.  It's love to share.  Share require compromise.  U think marriage about using each other then u will never be happy.

1 minute ago, lysander said:

If that's all she wants, fine. You're probably right. But in that case, what's the point of a restraining order? If she doesn't need to go the VAWA route, why get it?

 

Also, I notice people are advising me to contest the restraining order. Why should I, if she has nothing to gain by it? If it's just a matter of us going our separate ways, why not let her get the restraining order so she can feel "safe" that I'm not going to harass her (not that I was harassing her anyway; I was only texting her back when she texted me to try to start an argument)?

The same people telling you to contest restraining order are same one who told u not to marry in 2014.  Maybe, they smart and know things better than u.  Not good to ignore accusations of domestic abuse cuz it can cost u a job in the future.

Just now, lysander said:

Yeah, I'm definitely the only one who was trying to use someone in this situation, aren't I? I'm the psychopathic, predatory abuser, and she's the poor, naive, vulnerable, exploited victim who needs to be protected by the power of the state.

You both used each other and you lost.  Too bad, so sad for you.  Obviously, you the victim.   You did not plan to hold green card over her head to gain control.  You the good guy.

Why should anyone feel sorry for you?  You didn't get enough warnings not to marry?

5 minutes ago, lysander said:

Oh yeah, looks like you're right. I guess she wins, then. She gets to stay in the U.S. and sue my mom and do whatever else she wants, and there's nothing I can do about it because we signed up for this.

Exactly, you signed up for this even after everyone warned you not to marry her.

Baby got green card with me in 2015.  I went back to Viet Nam to marry and baby got sick.  I went back to USA to work.  Baby stay with my wife.  My wife will interview for visa soon.  I will go to Viet Nam so they can come back to US with me.  Do I need new visa for our baby?