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copy of the title showing no liens, photo of the car and the printout from kbb.com showing the value. I suggest you use their wholesale value, as more conservative
Or, take it to Car Max, if there is one near you. they will write you a purchase offer.

sorry I waited too long to edit
Think of this. If a woman is unable to love her own child enough, she cannot have enough emotional maturity to love anyone else.
I would say based on my experience is that the daughter went through the terrible 2s and 3s without the mother's discipline. It is not ADHD.   Safest thing is for you to move out and avoid contact during the divorce. She will figure out from someone how to stage a domestic violence incident. 

I am going to add my little advice here with the caveat that I do not know you and I do not know her. 
Having said that, I lived in Ukraine for a long time, was formerly married to a Ukrainian and have many, many, many married friends, both Ukrainian and mixed (Ukrainian wife and American/etc. husband). And what I say applies equally to Russian and Belarusian people (although Belarusians tend to be calmer) But for simplicity, I will only refer to Ukrainians in this post. 
First thing to remember, is that Ukrainians have a much higher tolerance for argument in a relationship. I know many happily married Ukrainian couples. I mean, they have great marriages and are both quality people. But, they argue a lot. Eta normal.  Ukraine is a matriarchal country. The women are almost never calm and passive. They are strong willed and they expect their man to be the same. By your not arguing and wanting peace and harmony, she instinctively sees you as weak or not interested in her. Can you live with that? Arguing is a normal state with her.  This is  a cultural difference. It is a major reason why very few marriages work out between American men and Ukrainian woman. Only a very mature-minded woman Ukrainian woman and a confident American man can make it work. It can be easier if you remain living in Ukraine together--for reasons I will not go into.  You have to be willing to be the one that likes to argue more, and wear her out. Can you do it? You have to keep the attitude that you do not care a rat's posterior if she is happy or not. That is an attitude she will outwardly complain about but it will be normal for her. 
Of course, in any culture there are ranges of behavior. Not everyone fits the stereotype.
But she seems to be a typical Ukrainian woman. 
Second point, about her child.
The pattern in Ukraine for many women, especially if divorced, is that mother works, goes to school or parties and grandma takes care of the child. So, since grandma is not around, she does not know what to do. Ukrainian people are on the selfish side, compared to, for example, Latins and Asians. 
Third, there is something to be said that some people are just not adaptable to life in the USA. Some take to it like a fish to water, others have a hard time. This likely is not helping. 
Finally, the point which is most determinative is this. It is the critical point. Are her parents still married? if yes, then there could be a possibility. If they are not married, the likelihood of success with her is quite low. She simply lacks the tools to be able to maintain a relationship and could have a borderline personality disorder.
I have seen this pattern again and again and again and again.
She will never change.
Marriage counseling will likely be useless. Ukrainians don't believe that a stranger can give them any advice. The use of marriage counselors is almost unheard of. Ukrainian women will ask advice of their friends, who think the same way they do and have the same problems. Does it make sense to ask advice from a person who has a messed up life also? No. Not at all.  
I believe the only way you have a chance would be to move with her to Ukraine or some third country like Mexico (think of Cabo San Lucas and around there, for example). She will stay with you as long as the money keeps coming in, don't worry.
 

I am going to add my little advice here with the caveat that I do not know you and I do not know her. 
Having said that, I lived in Ukraine for a long time, was formerly married to a Ukrainian and have many, many, many married friends, both Ukrainian and mixed (Ukrainian wife and American/etc. husband). And what I say applies equally to Russian and Belarusian people (although Belarusians tend to be calmer) But for simplicity, I will only refer to Ukrainians in this post. 
First thing to remember, is that Ukrainians have a much higher tolerance for argument in a relationship. I know many happily married Ukrainian couples. I mean, they have great marriages and are both quality people. But, they argue a lot. Eta normal.  Ukraine is a matriarchal country. The women are almost never calm and passive. They are strong willed and they expect their man to be the same. By your not arguing and wanting peace and harmony, she instinctively sees you as weak or not interested in her. Can you live with that? Arguing is a normal state with her.  This is  a cultural difference. It is a major reason why very few marriages work out between American men and Ukrainian woman. Only a very mature-minded woman Ukrainian woman and a confident American man can make it work. It can be easier if you remain living in Ukraine together--for reasons I will not go into.  You have to be willing to be the one that likes to argue more, and wear her out. Can you do it? You have to keep the attitude that you do not care a rat's posterior if she is happy or not. That is an attitude she will outwardly complain about but it will be normal for her. 
Of course, in any culture there are ranges of behavior. Not everyone fits the stereotype.
But she seems to be a typical Ukrainian woman. 
Second point, about her child.
The pattern in Ukraine for many women, especially if divorced, is that mother works, goes to school or parties and grandma takes care of the child. So, since grandma is not around, she does not know what to do. Ukrainian people are on the selfish side, compared to, for example, Latins and Asians. 
Third, there is something to be said that some people are just not adaptable to life in the USA. Some take to it like a fish to water, others have a hard time. This likely is not helping. 
Finally, the point which is most determinative is this. It is the critical point. Are her parents still married? if yes, then there could be a possibility. If they are not married, the likelihood of success with her is quite low. She simply lacks the tools to be able to maintain a relationship and could have a borderline personality disorder.
I have seen this pattern again and again and again and again.
She will never change.
Marriage counseling will likely be useless. Ukrainians don't believe that a stranger can give them any advice. The use of marriage counselors is almost unheard of. Ukrainian women will ask advice of their friends, who think the same way they do and have the same problems. Does it make sense to ask advice from a person who has a messed up life also? No. Not at all.  
I believe the only way you have a chance would be to move with her to Ukraine or some third country like Mexico (think of Cabo San Lucas and around there, for example). She will stay with you as long as the money keeps coming in, don't worry.
 

Yes I think its a great idea. Look into renting a place at Playas del Rosarito or in San Antonio del Mar. http://www.playasdebaja.com/ is operated by an American expat.  You are correct you will not need FM2 or FM3,. 
 

Yes. Just remember you have to show that you are or will be living in the USA.
I enjoyed my stay in Kaunas about 15 years ago.  

they are culturally aware.  Being in Dubai, I know my males friends will tell me how certain nationality men who otherwise would not even consider a woman 2 years older say things like "even my grandmother's age will do" mainly just for the reason they want to get out.  I don't want to judge them things can be very difficult for them, but putting up a woman's hopes messing her emotionally, using her money and things like that are completely wrong.

The embassy is very aware of this.  They know that a genuine case is perhaps one in a hundred and where the difference a whopping 17 years the genuineness percentage drops further.

Good luck if this is real I hope you see the end of the distance.

Have priority processing available for $3000. As you know, 98% of the processing time is the application just sitting and waiting for someone to look at it. And considering this would obviate the cost of traveling to visit, long distance charges.. it would be well worth it.

That same link says that the following are considered to be US domicile. If you are APO/AE I assume that means you work for the US government? I would assume there would not likely be any other reason for your living in Afghanistan. Yes I know they have wonderful beaches, etc. in Afghanistan. Then according to this link in my earlier post, you are already domiciled in the US.   
"What kinds of employment abroad can be counted as U.S. domicile? Employment temporarily stationed abroad with the U.S. government Employment temporarily stationed abroad with a U.S. institution of research recognized by the Attorney General Employment temporarily stationed abroad with a U.S. firm or corporation or its subsidiary engaged in whole or in part in the development of foreign trade and commerce with the United States Employment temporarily stationed abroad with a public international organization in which the United States participates by treaty or statute Employment temporarily stationed abroad with a religious denomination/group having a genuine organization within the United States. Employment temporarily stationed abroad as a missionary by a religious denomination/group or by an interdenominational mission organization within the United States"

And your question is?
I personally think it's great they check people who choose to travel to the middel east with all there is happening.

****** Thread moved to General Immigration, several posts removed for bickering and off topic comments. As Op has got his answers- not all Iranians feel discriminated against- and insists only Iranians reply, which is against our TOS, this thread will remain locked.*****

Success is the best revenge.
Look inward at yourself. Figure out your own problems, not his. Figure out why you let someone do it to you.
Your life and your child's life can still be fantastic.

Success is the best revenge.
Look inward at yourself. Figure out your own problems, not his. Figure out why you let someone do it to you.
Your life and your child's life can still be fantastic.

Success is the best revenge.
Look inward at yourself. Figure out your own problems, not his. Figure out why you let someone do it to you.
Your life and your child's life can still be fantastic.

Success is the best revenge.
Look inward at yourself. Figure out your own problems, not his. Figure out why you let someone do it to you.
Your life and your child's life can still be fantastic.

Success is the best revenge.
Look inward at yourself. Figure out your own problems, not his. Figure out why you let someone do it to you.
Your life and your child's life can still be fantastic.

I mostly agree with Becca&Youssef. NC is one of the harder states to get divorced in. If you "move" to a new state you usually cannot file until you meet residency tests, and your spouse could probably successfully contest jurisdiction
If you can, before you leave the USA, get all the forms (see the county clerk, they may have a self help center) try to find a family law (divorce lawyer) who you can have as a backup in case you have a difficulty while you are gone.
Unfortunately, there is no "separation filing." You can only file one year and a day after you moved into separate residences. That is "separation."
One problem you have is that you probably have to personally appear in court to get the divorce granted. Hence, a lawyer may be helpful to explain to the judge why you are not there.
If you file in India, even if its valid there, sometimes such divorces are not recognized in the USA since India has no jurisdiction over your spouse. There were a lot of persons getting quickie divorces in the Dominican Republic and they ran into that. Maybe you only care about validity in India. I don't know.
If you can prove your spouse is insane, you do not have to wait a year.

15 years? Three kids? Obviously a sham marriage and immigration scam.

From the form instructions:
"Only assets that can be converted into cash within one year and without considerable hardship or financial loss to the owner may be included. The owner of the asset must include a description of the asset, proof of ownership, and the basis for the owner’s claim of its net cash value. You may include the net value of your home as an asset. The net value of the home is the appraised value of the home, minus the sum of any and all loans secured by a mortgage, trust deed, or other lien on the home. If you wish to include the net value of your home, then you must include documentation demonstrating that you own it, a recent appraisal by a licensed appraiser, and evidence of the amount of any and all loans secured by a mortgage, trust deed, or other lien on the home. You may not include the net value of an automobile unless you show that you have more than one automobile, and at least one automobile is not included as an asset."
As the OP said, no intent to use the main car as an asset, only the extra ones.

copy of the title showing no liens, photo of the car and the printout from kbb.com showing the value. I suggest you use their wholesale value, as more conservative
Or, take it to Car Max, if there is one near you. they will write you a purchase offer.

copy of the title showing no liens, photo of the car and the printout from kbb.com showing the value. I suggest you use their wholesale value, as more conservative
Or, take it to Car Max, if there is one near you. they will write you a purchase offer.

In Ukraine the men pay for everything if he is older and rich and the girl is young and hot.
She is young and does not know anything and/or just relying on your lack of knowledge.
"all men are cruel and all women are liars."
Sorry to be cynical, but its SOP for Ukrainian women to say "In Ukraine we do it this way," knowing that you have no way of knowing whether its true or not.
Of course, you are not in Ukraine. You are in the USA.
Now, the woman wants the man to pay for everything. But, rarely does she get her wish. Usually the woman works as well and the husband does not help out with the household.
If you can afford her attitude, ok.
Many Ukrainian men complain of being a "podkabluchnik" (man oppressed under the woman's high heel)
if not careful. With a majority of the Ukrainian women under 25-28, its against the odds to have a successful marriage with them in the USA. Just like an American girl that age.
If you were living in Ukraine, there would be no problem of course. You would be acting like a Ukrainian man to some degree. Going out with friends late. Omitting her photos from your Facebook page.
I do not know you or her, nor do you know me. so, understandably, you have to take what I say with a grain of salt. Having lived in Ukraine some length of time, and also seen dozens of marriages, I have seen it all. Not saying either that you should not get married to her. Just understand that she will act like a Ukrainian woman and you don't know, yet, how to deal with it.
You have to bear in mind that in Ukraine a woman who is considered ordinary in looks, in America is red hot.
She will be hit upon many times a day. This can go to her head. If she hangs around with other Russian/Ukrainian girls, they generally are trying to ditch their husband for someone younger/richer/better looking and they will influence her.The women compete against each other based on what their man buys them.
Since you are only 25 and you have a decent job, it probably will not be a problem for you in particular, as long as she stays in love with you. But,
Will she grow up and be the wife you want? Or will you have problems? Hard to know. The same would be for most women of her age. Not mature yet. Not fully formed.
A very, very important factor is her parents.
What kind of relationship do they have? Is it stable? I gauge from what you say that that are still together. that is good.
Every one of the successful marriages I have seen in Ukraine, shares a common factor. The partner's spouses are still happily married.
How about her personal integrity?
Secondly, how are you? High self esteem? Good. You have to be a strong man and not weak with these ladies.

Remember she told the OP, she preferred to live in Ukraine with him. Most sincere Ukrainian ladies would say the same. They love their country and want to be near their families. I would not like to try to make a living in Ukraine myself, but would be quite nice place to live.

In Illinois there is a process called simplified dissolution. if you have no kids and less than $10,000 in property in your joint name, you can use that procedure.
http://12.218.239.52/forms/pdf_files/CCDR0019.pdf is the form for Cook County (where Chicago is located)
Find out what county you live in. The county clerk will have a website and there they should have a "self help" section with the forms and instructions.
You do not have to do it before you leave, but if you get it done, you may not even have to show up in court. They can tell you. I am not a lawyer in Illinois so this is not legal advice.
good luck.