Essiej

Oh I have hobbies, that's not really the issue. I just don't like not being able to contribute financially to my new family. But I do a lot of the chores around the house when I'm alone all day so that makes me feel a little bit useful at least.
 
Wishing for a speedy process!

If he is withdrawing then give him space and pursue something you like to do. Stop hovering. Give him space to miss you
and re focus on both of you again. If not then move on without him. Never chase a man who seems to have lost interest.
Communication on expectations is the key to being compatible.
He may just need to more time to prepare to move and is busy wrapping up his life there.

Are you for real? Here is a spouse who gave up her life to come to the US and sadly found herself married to a scumbag who abused her. Now you wanna punish her more by kicking her out of the country? That is classy...
Seriously, it is NOT A LOOPHOLE if they entered the marriage in good faith, that is exactly what the law is supposed to do, protect the immigrant! They are human beings, not cattle to be shipped around how the USC sees fit. If she wants to go home she can. If she wants to stay, she has a legal path of getting there - assuming she can get her hands on her papers.

yet another thanks to you all! Easmith0340 2 days wuhuu!! Mikee-eeh and Odie, even it sucks to go through all that, its cool to hear after year its whole different ball game again. Good luck with your efforts and im positive all goes well! Essiej thanks to you too:) "no problem at all"

Ai, u don't have NOA1 yet either?

I can see ur frustration, like people said here just leave it be. But hey, they are the ones who are gonna worry later. Not you, u can sleep well at night cus u know u did it the good way,

I can see ur frustration, like people said here just leave it be. But hey, they are the ones who are gonna worry later. Not you, u can sleep well at night cus u know u did it the good way,

Your previous experiences have nothing to do with the current reality of US immigration. There have been far too many changes in the post- 9/11 world and the general structure of the government etc... it's not even the same process, really. And while in theory, there are ways around it at the embassy (but in practice, not really, not anymore), the major factor in the timeline these days is USCIS. That is who you'd be applying for an expedite from and that is where it is all but impossible to get an expedite from.
The people telling you this have direct, personal and recent experience with this issue ( we applied for a medical expedite and were denied). There have been several VJ babies who were born abroad (pregnant foreign fiances), necessitating a whole separate process for Counselor Report of Birth Abroad who had been denied expedites from USCIS, and several VJ babies born in the US without their (foreign) fathers present-- mom now unable to work, no paid maternity leave and no one to help with the baby. Denied expedite by USICS. That is the current reality of the US immigration process. Now, almost all of these people were "expedited" by the consulate, but that just shaves a week or two off the total timeline. The real speedbump is USCIS.
The reason you're hearing about/ seeing drastically different wait times for K1s is because until April, they were being handled by two different USCIS service centers: Texas and California. Texas was taking an average of 210 days (7 months) to pass them along to the State Department whereas California was taking 21 days (3 weeks). This is because Texas had a HUGE backlog that California did not have. Thanks to lobbying from mostly people right here on VJ, USCIS started sending all new applicants to California which is currently averaging 32 days (see here: http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1historical ). So... good news for you.
Yes, 6+ months is ridiculous (remember, the average not too long ago for Texas folks was 9+ months). Especially when compared to other people's 3 month or less timelines. That is why the backlash against USCIS and why the change. A change that you are about to benefit from (that those of us who fought for it did not).
Where you're unintentionally ruffling feathers is that when faced with what is normal for everyone (or, in your case much much much faster than most 2015/2015 applicants) as too much for you, it kind of implies that other people don't experience financial hardship and missing their loved ones--- like it's somehow unique to you. People don't tend to like that. That, and people who DID face real hardship (pregnancy is only one example) it just... hits people the wrong way.

a person going to the US for 'tourism' will be asked where he/she is going to stay...what then? a hotel with no name, you say? OK...how much will that cost? Suddenly, the cost of the trip starts to soar....maybe beyond the means of the applicant...then...the applicant quickly tries to change his story...'oh...no.....see...I'm gonna stay with a 'friend'...sh...er he will let me stay in his house for free!'....really? Why the sudden change (I would ask myself)...what is the applicant trying to hide? (hmmm....could it be that he has an American GF he wishes to visit, but doesn't want to admit to?)...'what's your friend's name and telephone number....because I'd like to call that friend right now and verify what you just told me...'/......you should see the reactions some people give....'gosh, I forgot his number...'....his name, please?'....'er.uh...John,..."...'John who?"....' gee, I dunno...'...(you can see where this interview is spiraling out of control swiftly...credibility has just taken a fatal nose dive')....'Are you sure that you don't have an American GF you wish to visit?'......'...who...? me?...."....(curtain).
I cannot tell you how many thousands of interviews I conducted similar to this one...the applicant tried to fool me....but failed miserably...my notes reflected his or her unwillingness to tell the truth...which meant that when this person tried again in 3 weeks, he now have to overcom....dishonesty...and 'coming clean' later is usually too late....after all, if that person was willing to lie the first time, what else am I being told that is not true?...Applicants tip their hand so quickly when facing an experienced CO...they don't even know when it happened....
So please...give it your best shot....see who prevails....but listening to people who have absolutely no idea of the processes involved nor are in possession of consular experience can only offer their misguided opinions....be sure to ask them for a refund of the application fee when the application is denied....

Size and what kind of paper doesn't really matter, as long as you write on the back where it is and when.
Don't send in a album, u will get a RFE. Just send in the pictures (u can paste them on a paper if u want, but do not bind them in any sort).
30 is too much for the inital petition, I would keep it with 8 to 15 max. With the interview u can show more and in a album.

Very good that u asked here before u send her any money ! Many people here are saying that it is so obvious, but when ur in it its harder to see the symptoms of being scammed. U keep having hope that it is someone pretty, and since he does not know the prices on the visa application. But yea, good for you to cut off connections with her ! Don't worry, their is plenty of genuine women looking for a man !

Thats cancelling the whole trip. Ofcourse anyone can call in and cancel the return flight, u won't get money back and they can sell the seat again. Win win situation for them. Just buy the round trip, fly their, after a week orso, u call the airline, ask them to cancel ur trip and ur done.

I would like to chime in here. There are many factors that have not been discussed here, which in my view I consider important. First off I am an older gentleman. If my wife was ill, i would be on the next plane to Ukraine. If I didn't have the money I would beg, borrow, steal or pick up cans on the side of the road. A pack of hungry wolfs could not keep me away from her. Besides being my wife, she is my best friend and lover We treat each other with respect and understanding. With a foreign spouse you have to try, give, and have patience with each other. Everything is more difficult, but the out come is blissful and more rewarding than you would ever think possible.
I lived with her, and i know first hand about the issues....many times I had my bags packed to come home. I was home sick! I miss my friends, family and son. I was in a country where no one spoke my language, food tasted different, transportation was different, I did not know how to shop in the market, I did not know what products to buy, the country smelled different, people were different.....every thing in my life was different. My now wife worked very hard to make me feel comfortable. I was a problem for her, and that made me feel sad....but we worked TOGETHER and got through it.
Right now you are stressed to the bone, and about to have a child. You are not even here yet.
It saddens me to say, your man is a game player
You will have a child.....very stressful
You will have a wedding....stressful
You will have tons of paperwork to file....stressful
Taking care of your newborn...WOW...stressful and very costly
Adapting to your new country....beyond stressful
A husband that is not employed....stressful
where is money coming from...stressful
He will be going to police academy.....stressful and costly
He won't have a lot of time to spend with you....and believe me, you will need it.
He already shows signs of abuse, and he clearly doesn't support you or your feelings.
Also it is fact that police officers have a high rate of Domestic Abuse.
Is this the way to build a foundation to a lasting and loving relationship? You have many issues and problems to over-come just with in the foreign relationship...Then you throw all the additional stress factors in..... I would doubt that the relationship could survive....I know I could not do it.
I am just being real here and don't want to upset you....but these are thing to think about

an H2B does require that an employer demonstrate that no American worker is available/experienced....'proving' that for what is little more than a secretarial position would be laughable...not that many immigration attorneys wouldn't attempt to do so via some creative cover letter...and should you, by some incredible long shot, actually get an approved H2B petition, that is not the same as an approved H2B visa. The CO will be looking at many things during your interview, most importantly, 'why this job at this location?'...'what made you pick the city of 'X' and company 'Y' for this 'seasonal' job? 'What 'job' are you abandoning in your own country, and why?...and here is where a good CO will figure it out....you must have an American fiancé and are looking for a way to circumvent the wait time for the K1 to be processed....of course, you could try to deny you have such a relationship....but imagine what your answers to the first few questions will be and how they will come across, not to mention why you are so willing to quit whatever job (if any) you may have now (and was that job secretarial in nature or something completely different?) And how does your overall job experience coincide with whatever nonsense the immigration attorney wrote in the cover letter? ?There are way too many inconsistencies already, besides trying to find an ethically challenged immigration attorney who would attempt this sort of thing (actually, finding an ethically challenged immigration attorney is incredibly easy...just open the phone book and look in the Yellow Pages under 'immigration attorneys'...and there you will find no shortage of them....now, you might be asking, 'how do I know if they are ethically challenged?'...a good question....with a simple answer....one cannot become an immigration attorney unless they have either (a) taken and failed an ethics course or (b) never taken one at all....it's a prerequisite in order to practice immigration law...whose sole focus is generating billable hours. Of course, that's just my opinion. But ask around....

Look I know a lots of people are going to slam my post, but what did you spend ten thousands dollars on in 8 Months if you only spent 4 days in physical presence with your fiancé.
I am looking at it from a CO point of view, are you being used? You don't know the child well, you have spent a large amount of money, with very little physical contact. The beneficiary came unprepared for the interview, and she probably didn't answers some questions correctly enough for the CO.
I am not writing this so you can respond, but as a mind thought question for you to ask yourself.
It is the CO responsibility to protect both parties involved in these petitions, the petitioner from being used for a GC, and the Beneficiary from future abuse. Did your interview demonstrate that neither of these were possible conditions of the relationship?

With all due respect, I never said that 'just because someone is married to a United States Citizen, they don't have a whole lot of hoops to jump'. I very clearly stated that all visas involve some element of trade off. None of them are easy.
FYI, a year for a DV lottery winner from start to finish applies to only a handful of cases. Bear in mind that interviews for the DV lottery run over twelve months. The only people who have a 12 month wait are those who manage to get an interview in the first month of the fiscal year. The rest of us (90% of the pool) have to wait until our case is called and, as I stated in my original post, some wait up to 12 months, in addition to the 12 months from the time of entry to the start of the fiscal year. And with no guarantee. Once the fiscal year ends, and you haven't been called for an interview, your visa disappears and you have to re-enter and hope you win again. There is one fellow Aussie who entered 14 years in a row before finally winning and getting her visa.
It's not our fault that the immigration process for the diversity lottery is structured the way it is. The very nature of the lottery - based on a fiscal year - will mean that some of our visas will get processed faster than spousal visas. But it's a fact that only a handful will be processed faster. The vast majority will be far longer than twelve months and - once again - with no guarantee that you will even get an interview and, subsequently, a visa.
I'm not saying the process for spousal visas is fair. My brother is doing AOS after marrying his American wife and it's taking forever. But to compare apples and oranges (which is the case when comparing spousal visas (which are for the purposes of reunion) and diversity lottery visas (which are for an entirely different purpose of introducing diversity to the American community on a fiscal year basis)) is problematic, in my opinion.

ok, even i renege,, major personality disorders are things no younger person can competently deal with if underemployed and depressed.. you jumped in too quick, but that alone doesn't justify leaving,, but to help in healing of mental disorders while you are a sinking ship? nah, maybe best to take a pass on that for your young life, couples are there to help each other.,. not good to start a dead end street with more than you can handle and an empty bucket of hope.. so rare in my book where "no fault divorce" is legit, but here? maybe even annulment is possible.. if there's room on that credit card for just one bicycle, get to chicago and i will pack you a nice lunch to get you the rest of the way to mama

pull out that credit card one more time, buy two cheap bikes and get out of the house,, get those endorphins pumping,, robin williams was a video game addict and said bicycling saved his life (but not for long, i guess).. life is fast and crazy and i'm twice your age.. and you know our grandparents would say "things were tough, and we liked it".. time to put on your big girl pants and change that town into little canada,, yep, the ball is in your court, and its the court of life,, no referee there,, just make of it what you will.. wanna cry, where's that get'cha?? and if you dont like my advice, i will say that at least you read it, and maybe it will pull you back from a precipice at some point.. because the pendulum swings, and yours is already maxing out to one side,, give it a little push back to center and you might be surprised how far the other way you'll find yourself in a jiffy.. that's my 2 cents, like it or not..

Congratulations to everyone being aproved!
Today we received our NOA1 by mail!
Waiting now for NOA2, that is estimated for a little over a week

I met mine trough an MMO :-) We still game together almost every day !

I met mine trough an MMO :-) We still game together almost every day !

receipt notice (we got yer submittal) - NOA-1, using formletter I-797-C
petition approval (yer a winner!) - NOA-2, using formletter I-797 or I-797-C (depending on the service center)
just saying...

CR1s on average do take longer than K1s. K1s can take anywhere from 5 to 10 months (although the days of them taking 10 months seem to be over because of internal changes at USCIS)--and sometimes even a bit faster. CR1s generally take at least 12 months, up to about 16...again--sometimes even a bit faster.
The major bonus for you for the K1 is that you can apply for it right now. You can get that clock "ticking" in the next couple of days, if you're quick with paperwork. For the CR1, it sounds like you'd have to wait until the end of September. So your choice is 5 to 10 months from NOW or 12-16 months from the end of September. If your partner cannot move to the UK to be with you while either of these visas is processing, you will be living apart for the duration of the application process. It won't "look bad" living apart. It's fairly normal. You don't need to show that you've lived together or shared bills for K1. I'm not 100% sure about CR1, sorry (but I think that that level of scrutiny is for getting the permanent green card.....not for the CR1 visa).
Obviously, many other things factor into which visa to apply for. Money is a big factor for many (fiance visa is more expensive). As is working (for CR1, you can work right away. For K1, you have to wait until you're married--up to 90 days. Then apply for work authorization which can ALSO take up to 90 days). So you're looking at up to 6 months of unemployment in the US. That's the worst case scenario, though. Most people get married well before the 90 day mark, and work authorization comes in for most people after only 2 months.
Really, it's a matter of weighing the pros and cons for your own situation.

I think you were in a relationship with a female, they lack using rationale. I don't think she was necessarily with you because of a green card, the prenup could get any girl mad, so it's not fair to assume she was trying to get money down the road. Unfortunately the way the system works it is going to put pressure on her to get married, I personally would not get married if my wife didn't need it for her green card because I don't really believe in marriage or a piece of paper telling me a relationship is more or less than what I want it to be. There's plenty of ways to protect money or a house so your wife can not get it with out a prenup. I've dated a girl who was similar to your gf and pushed the marriage thing, but it was after like a month or two. I think when you're at over a year and a half you should know if you want to push forward or not. Good luck with whatever road you pick in life, only you know if the girl has good intentions or bad. Trust your intuition.

Good idea! Someone call a mod?
And the year shouldnt be neccesary (hopefully) since we all are going trough CSC.
Any idea when you guys want to be flying? I really hope for myself that I can be their before christmas!