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Most of us Oct 17 filers from CSC havent received biometrics letter yet and its been 5 months. That approval has shocked us too

Received my greencard today! yey!! what a relief...so i will be stepping away to enjoy this time with my husband
All the best to the rest of you November filers, hopefully we will meet again late 2017 for removal of conditions!
Good luck!

No, I don't. I think that too. tomorrow morning I'll have that message.
I know it will arrive this week, monday as much, But I'm so excited and I cant wait to have it in my hands. lol

So my card was picked up by USPS, waiting anxiously to receive it!

Just got my EAD card in the mail!
One question though, my I-131 never updated from the original receipt notice, but my card says serves as i-512 advance parole. That means it's all good despite not getting an approval notice for it, right?

So i guess its official. Received a text this morning and logged in to find this
Case Was ApprovedOn January 10, 2016, we approved your Form I-485, Application to Register Permanent Residence or to Adjust Status, Receipt Number MSC16xxxxxxxxxx. We will mail your approval notice. Please follow the instructions in the notice. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new mailing address.

Another perspective from a European fiancée.
I gave up a job paying 100k EUR. For the month before I came here and didn't work I received 2000 EUR unemployment benefit and free health insurance. I was looking towards a nice pension by state and company.
I came here, now I get zero dollars and of course no health insurance. I am spending all my savings. Effectively, I ruined myself financially.
Do I expect my husband to pick up the bill? Hell, yes! I paid 8 thousand just to move my things here.
I'm not sure whether you're aware of the sacrifice.
Of course it should come one day to a better balance, but I'm not sure if this at your stage should be the make or break. It might just have been a frustrated outcry?
And even is hers is hers, this will greatly relieve the budget, since she will pay her own way.

I agree with your first three respondents.
Financial woes, arguments, and incompatibilities are one of the chief reasons behind failed marriages and relationships. You might not think so now, but this ended as it should have. You've been saved untold time and misery.
Far better to live as a temporarily unhappy single person than as a miserable married one. Marriage is a lot more permanent than people think. You've dodged a big one here.

I just cant belived it, I got the email from USCIS that my case has been updated, i checked the web and my card is beign produced too. so happy =)

You could just stop forgetting to ask him. Then just ask & see what he says.

He is a loser, dump him and move on.

This is a classic pattern of emotional abuse.
His childhood should not be an excuse to treat you terribly. He has to be willing to get help and break the cycle. He needs to put in effort.
Please don't make excuses for him. Too many spouses and partners make excuses for their domestic abuser. His childhood should not excuse his abusive behavior towards you. If he cares for you, he would make the effort.

Oh, goodness. I'm sorry. But please re-read what you've written here and imagine a friend or sister or someone explaining it to you.
He wants you to be a stay at home mom and yet he is unwilling/unable to even support himself. Just *trying* to take the first step in supporting just himself (finding a job) was "too stressful". Can you imagine? That would be the beginning and end of that conversation for me.
From a quick google search, it looks as if there is nothing preventing him from being able to live in France if he were to marry you. He doesn't have to prove any savings, or at least not according to the French consulate in DC: http://www.consulfrance-washington.org/spip.php?article470 He doesn't speak the language? That sounds like a personal problem, to me. There is no requirement that he speak French to live in France (to become a citizen, I bet, but there's other legal status available). Furthermore, that is a very fixable personal problem. He can learn French. Literally billions of people on the planet speak more than one language. And with a little effort on his part he, too, may join their ranks.
"As a woman, it's different". End of conversation for me, too. If he'd feel like a slave as an illegal immigrant unable to work, he needs to understand you'd feel that way too. (PS, see above. He can get legal status). I don't believe in double standards, particularly not on the basis of gender and most especially not if the person talking that kind of nonsense isn't living up to the flip side of that coin (which is "as a man, he should be supporting himself, and not let "stress" keep him from being alpha-male provider". Instead, he's still suckling at Mommy's teet! Big man there). He wants a stay at home mom, sure. FOR HIM. He doesn't want a family to provide for....he wants a mother-wife to always take care of him.
Please. You are much better off living in a country with a job and legal status than you ever will be living illegally with someone who plans to "support you" as a stay at home mom but shows zero effort to actually provide that support.

You really haven't said too much positive about your relationship. Why would you want to come to be with him? What makes him so special?

Run. If he has no RESPECT for your concerns, then he is not a good man. He's selfish. He's immature. He's a male chauvinist pig. He's a waste of space who thinks that you should serve him and support him like his momma does.

Ridiculous reasons not to go and be with you. Firstly, French is one of the easier languages to learn, especially when fully immersed as he would be. Secondly, nothing is holding him to the usa, no job, kids, etc. I would be waiving goodbye to him yesterday.

As others have said, he's too immature and lazy to be a good husband. And he told you the process made him "stop loving you". Really?!! Apology or not, his true colors are shining through. If I were you, I'd stay right where I am. Good luck!

First of all, it's not. English is much harder. Also, most future spouses put in some effort into learning the other's language. Even just a little bit, or enough to be polite. Plus he "prefers to stay where he is"? Um....ok. Can you "prefer" to have financial stability and legal status in the country you're living in?
For flip's sake! Honey, he sounds like he is nowhere near mature enough to be married. At all. He's expecting you to just seamlessly fit into his life, exactly the way it is now, with no changes, or effort or sacrifice on his part because finding a job is stressful, French is hard and he prefers his mom's house. You're not signing up to be someone's partner, you're signing up to be an accessory in their life!

I'm sorry, this is a really tough situation to be in. First, see if you can buy some time by extending your visa. That will help ease your mind a bit, and give you time to figure this out.
Generally, what I think is a good idea to try to to wherever possible, is to live the relationship as if immigration concerns were not an issue. This is difficult, yes. But think--if you already lived in the same country, would you consider quitting your job and relocating to be with him while he is unemployed and doesn't have his own house? The immigration thing makes it worse (ie--you have to worry about applying for AOS in 90 days, having a sponsor and you're unable to work) but---just kind of baseline question---is that something you would do? For me, the answer is "no".
There are much worse things than allowing a visa to expire. And to me, those are: living in a country illegally, unable to work, getting married to someone who doesn't keep their end of deals up, being pressured to have a baby before you're emotionally and financially ready. Is there some reason he can't come to you? If the answer is "immigration concerns" well....that shouldn't bother him too much because he's just suggested that YOU come over and live illegally, right (I'm being facetious here but there IS a good point in there).
To me, it sounds like this relationship isn't ready for the step of marriage, not necessarily because of money but because he's not keeping up his end of the "deal" and he's asking you to make WAY too many sacrifices that he doesn't seem willing to make himself. That's a big red flag right there, to me.

To put it simply:
Yes, you can, no problem.
Why?
You're a permanent resident of the US. You're allowed to leave the country and return, just like any other permanent resident. Your ex wife thinks she owns you somehow. She doesn't. When you received your 10 year green card, a USCIS adjudicator looked at your case and determined that your marriage was bona fide. Unless you commit a serious crime, or someone has extremely clear evidence that your marriage was fraudulent, your 10 year green card will not be revoked.
A bitter ex wife running to immigration saying "he just married me for a green card!" is not evidence of anything.

The cost of AOS should be figured into the cost of the getting the partner here IMHO. If you do not AOS, you cannot get a driver's license or a job, and you have no status in the USA. Technically you can be deported. It's highly unlikely to happen; they'd most likely say hey, do the AOS, but it's there, none-the-less. Some people use it to control their foreign spouses.
There is nothing that says you MUST AOS within a certain time frame, but you essentially become a homebody if you don't. You can't even volunteer for many jobs.
Also think of this this way, if you can't afford $1070, what happens if the car breaks down? What happens if the US spouse gets hurt and can't work but doesn't have insurance to cover that? People fall in love and don't think about the cost of a two person household. It can be more than double a single person.

There is nothing wrong with using a lawyer if a person wants too. However to come on a DIY site where most people are seeking advice on how to do the process themselves and to say the process is to hard do not bother DIY hire a lawyer is not really good, considering it was the op mistake that it took longer for him, not because the process is that complicated.

Sounds like someone can't follow instructions on a form. You missed signing a document and that make the process hard enough that you suggest others get a lawyer?

Sir, I believe that you have been given some missed guided information from your wife regarding how her government works. If she reported to her government, that she is married and her new husband has an income, which I will say if you are getting disability income fome the US government, than your income is probably 50 percent higher than the average worker in TT. This income is now being counted as joint income, which will put her in an higher income bracket.
The US government did not force your wife to report your income. This seems to be a problem she created. In all fairness to those in TT who are on the same waiting list as your wife, who doesn't have the support of a US husband, why should they suffer behind those who have gain additional support.
If seems as if you and your wife didnt look at you'll situation and plan accordingly. Poor planning on others parts should be no reasons for others to suffer.
If you are trying to petition your wife for a spousal visa to the US, maybe you'll should focus on one thing at a time.
A small piece of advise, is for you to verify all questionable statements before you make them facts to cause you angst. The policies in most developing countries are lot different than what we are use to in the USA. They have so little resources to give to so many that have a greater need.
Good luck on what ever decision that you and your family shall journey unpon.

Lottery winners are required to present income/savings requirements too.
Stop whining and find another job or try harder to find a joint sponsor. Being US born doesn't make you special in the eyes of the government. We all had our share of "unfairness" in this immigration process too.
Good luck!