spahawk

Good evening
 
I am not on the list but here is my timeline:
Date filed 10/19/2017 VSC
NOA1 10/28/2017
Transferred to TSC 11/23/2018
Approved 01/03/2019
No N400 extension or 551 stamp.EAC18024002**
 
I was in the process of arranging a 551 stamp as i was told back in November that another 18 month extension would be sent out before the expiration of my i751, but never received it. Guess now i don't need it, but will be starting the N400 very shortly as i want to be done with this process.
 
GLA
 
Paul and April
 

Good evening
 
I am not on the list but here is my timeline:
Date filed 10/19/2017 VSC
NOA1 10/28/2017
Transferred to TSC 11/23/2018
Approved 01/03/2019
No N400 extension or 551 stamp.EAC18024002**
 
I was in the process of arranging a 551 stamp as i was told back in November that another 18 month extension would be sent out before the expiration of my i751, but never received it. Guess now i don't need it, but will be starting the N400 very shortly as i want to be done with this process.
 
GLA
 
Paul and April
 

I haven't had to start from scratch, and I hope you get your answer or a similar experience posted here. However, one advice I would give is that in applying for new jobs and interviewing, try to highlight the skills you needed for your last career and how they apply to your new career. Then you can demonstrate your value in that way. I have found that many job requirements are asking for a lot of experience and/or education. If you feel like you can do the job, then apply. Just because you don't have the 10+ experience they are asking for, but instead have 7+ years of experience, apply anyway. Cover letters may help you briefly tie in what you used to do with that particular job and can help you get an interview.
I hope you find success!

Niceb, all you have said is very understandable, the stress, pressure and anxiety that comes with being unemployed and having bills to pay is immeasurable. Sometimes i feel like i am jinxed and may never find a job here. Nothing kills me more than staying at home everyday and watch my spouse do the hustle to pay the bills, it is not how i was designed.
I recently received an offer from a company I interviewed at some weeks back, and I am grateful to God for something. I didn't mention it here because i haven't started the job yet, It is a Technical Support role, the pay isn't all that but it will surely save my bank account from the spirit of negative balance. lool.
please do not give up just yet, you have come a long way to give up now, I can assure you something will come up very soon if you believe.
Try ziprecruiter.com , upload your resume and you can apply to multiple positions quickly by the click of a button, the site really works
I know someday we will all look by at this day and smile, never to forget the hassles of "moving to America"

Hi
I let the HMRC know via the P85 form that I had moved to the states along with parts 2 and 3 of my P45. The main reason was that I am due a tax refund and wanted to make sure they had my new address. Also, further along the line, when I claim my state pension I want to ensure they have my contact details. So not a necessity, but it ties up loose ends.
Cheers
Paul

I also felt very homesick and afraid after I first moved here, even though I've visited before on holiday multiple times. I very quickly missed being able to jump on a bus and go to the shops to buy English junk food and I also really miss my friends who I will likely not see for a good few years (if ever again) depending on if I can get enough money and/or time off my future job.
If I'm honest, I felt like I made a huge mistake moving here too, at first. I was so looking forward to it, then when I got here I was so overwhelmed I wanted nothing more than to get on the first plane back to London so I could go back to my old job, my old friends, my old life... (apart from living with my parents which was driving me slowly insane ). It's really funny because I was so desperate to get here and really detested England, but now I can't believe I ever hated it. I love America a lot, but I also realise now that I love England too.
Recently though, I've accepted that I'm here to stay now. I've been learning to drive with my husband teaching me, and finally all the hard work paid off yesterday when I passed my test. I never finished learning to drive in the UK, so this is a big step up for me and it means I've made progress since moving here. Going out in my husband's car alone has made me feel less trapped, more independent like a woman my age should be, and it can only get better once I get my own car.
I say stick it out at least for a few months. Get a job, get a car (if you don't already have one) and get yourself outside. Being cooped up makes you depressed and you concentrate too much on negative thoughts. If you're having trouble finding work, don't let it get to you too much. As long as you have a roof over your head and bills paid, you have some leeway to get used to living on the other side of the world while trying to build a new life for yourself.
I didn't read the second page of this thread so I'm sorry if stuff I suggested is stuff you've already done or is irrelevant.

Very normal and I think we all tend to underestimate such a big move. I know I did....about a month or 2 in I was a crying, depressed mess on a daily basis. I did need to get out and do things for myself although I couldn't see it then. I couldn't drive but walking to Starbucks to grab a coffee and reading or perusing the interwebs on my phone felt good (the exercise didn't hurt either). Finding a salon and getting my first haircut (sounds lame I know) made me feel pretty good too.
I felt annoyed at EVERYTHING - I hated the medical system and having to fill out so much paperwork at the new doctors, I hated grocery shopping because I didn't know where everything was, I hated that the food tasted different... I had quite the list.
I would say it took me until I had a job to start feeling normal and if a job isn;t in the cards for you then volunteering or getting out regularly might be your goal - you may find now your husband is your entire world...which si great but its ok to want other human contact. Any meetups in the area for other Brits?

Thank you so much everyone for your advice! I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. My husband certainly knows how I feel, we are communicating, and he is saying the same thing, to stay positive and to take one day at a time.
We have found a gym to join and we went walking in a metropark yesterday (trees and a big LAKE, it felt like heaven!) so that made me feel better. Even going to the local commissary and BX reminded me of home lol. I will probably start driving once our car has arrived from Germany (one advantage, I don't have get used to driving on the 'wrong' side of the car and the road), we should have that by beginning of August. I think I will feel a lot better once our furniture and all my home comforts arrive too. It's the little things! There is a small ski resort a drive away so that has cheered me up too! :-)

It is never easy to leave the place you know and people you love. It is hard to start in a new place. So, it is normal feeling homesick, however, it will pass. It will take some time until you get adjust to your new life. try to keep yourself busy, doing something, maybe studying at home, a hobby, joining a gym, etc.

OP, I am hoping to avoid that in my fiance when he comes. It's such a big change and so overwhelming too. I am hoping to have over a week off from work so I can be here with him initially, but I wonder if the move will finally hit him once he's alone. We can do all sorts of fun and interesting things in my city, but once everyday life starts happening, then what? How do I make him feel more comfortable? I'm hoping he will be able to find his own friends and that he will soon learn to drive to gain more personal freedom.
One thing I'm hoping for is for him to pick up his classes again within a few months of his arrival. Do you think that may help you? Maybe if you can see if there is a college course (credit or non-credit) that you can take for photography, painting, swimming or anything else that interests you? Have you looked at Meetup.com? You may be able to find some local groups that interest you too. At least you can get out and find some different people to talk to, that may help your melancholy?
I don't think there is anything wrong with how you are feeling; I think it's natural. Just keep trying to see how you can cope. Your posts interests me a great deal and I hope you get some great advice that helps you out!!

Moving is a big step and can be overwhelming. I also remember how it felt like coming from a country with forest and lake everywhere and ended up in a city where closest thing to a forest was a fake one in a park... This was while I was an au pair and thankfully my fiance lives in a small city not far from it with forest and lakes (lake is man-made but oh well, can't get everything you want apparently )
Do you have any possibility to get away and actually go see a lake or some kind of big body of water? I'm not super familiar with Michigan so not sure if you're closed to anything. Countryside?
Talk to your husband! Get out and try to come up with fun things to do to get your mind of off things. Try to get back to that feeling you had when you were there on vacation.
I'm sure it wasn't a mistake. It's a big move, a big change and you probably just feel overwhelmed. It will be okay

There's a lot to be said for the 2-3 years (and I'm sure that sounds like *forever* when you're feeling low). I think it is all rather anti-climactic when process is finally all over, and you're here--reality sinks in with "so this is what real life is going to be like? I don't know if I like this country...". Hang in there for one day at a time, giving each day positive thoughts -- try your best to make some little roots in the community. One day at a time. Think positively and know a lot (maybe most?) of us have gone through exactly what you describe. For sure talk to your spouse about being homesick. Don't try and do it alone.
Caro

It is totally understandable, you moved from everything you knew and loved. It's only been a week and you need to give yourself more time to adjust. Some people, my husband for instance, adjust quickly, others not so much. Perhaps getting your drivers license will help so you don't feel so trapped and you will be able to come and go as you please. My husband got his license almost immediately and the freedom of driving helped him a lot.

When we move we can sometimes be under the influence of a holiday.
We've been there before we know the place, we had fun, so we think that moving there would be no different.
But for the most part it is, it's a huge step up routing your life and moving, mindset that it would just be like your holidays but hen you realise it isn't.
Don't feel bad that you feel like this, and your partner might not understand, my husband doesn't, and that's because he's never had to do it, he's never moved countries and given up his life for one person.
It's a very hard thing to do.
Be proud that you made that commitment and give it time, it can take a while to feel at home, especially when you know no one, have no job, can't get anywhere by yourself.
Just know that it will change, you'll start to build a life up for yourself here too.
It's hard and scary and you may get depressed, I certainly have, especially sky ping with my family at Christmas, and now it's almost been a year since I've seen them, but it's starting to feel better.
Just give it time and you'll find your place.

I am so sorry that your dream has turned into a nightmare. I really think you need to ascertain your husbands intentions and if he wants a divorce then if he is any sort of a gentleman he should pay for your fare home.
If you don't have the money and your husband will not pay then it may be worth a call to the UK consulate to discuss your options. Here is a link to the office in New York. https://www.gov.uk/government/world/organisations/british-consulate-general-new-york

OMG, what a terrible situation! And he was saying to do AOS after two years? What a terrible way to treat his spouse!
I really hopes he accepts his civil responsibility to pay your way back to your prior country. It sounds like this guy is really irresponsible and disrespectful of his agreements, so I hope he doesn't leave you in a lurch. Try to get away from this sleaze on your own if at all possible! If you depend on him further, he may have no qualms about letting you down again.
I hope the situation is as smooth for you as possible. I'm sorry for your heartbreak.
May his urination cause him pain and agony!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't have much to add to this, but I just don't get how someone can spend all the time and money to bring some over on a K-1, then marry, then decide to divorce in a short time.
You are currently accruing overstay, though it would be forgiven if you were to file AOS. But since you haven't, it puts you in a difficult situation. Best course of action is to divorce and to return back to your home country. You will likely be granted some concessions during the divorce, such as asking for a return ticket home.
I am sorry that you are going through this..

Hello
I had a healthy 5 1/2 month wait for the Texas service center but it did get through eventually. You are two months down, they are shipping out work to the other centers, so hopefully the July date will not slip. You have no guarantee that if you cancel and resubmit that the new one won't end up being kept at the TSC for processing; so you may just end up extending your wait!
Hang tight, things will move. Once you are through that stage the rest of the process is pretty quick.
Good luck.

Hello
I had a healthy 5 1/2 month wait for the Texas service center but it did get through eventually. You are two months down, they are shipping out work to the other centers, so hopefully the July date will not slip. You have no guarantee that if you cancel and resubmit that the new one won't end up being kept at the TSC for processing; so you may just end up extending your wait!
Hang tight, things will move. Once you are through that stage the rest of the process is pretty quick.
Good luck.

Hello
I had a healthy 5 1/2 month wait for the Texas service center but it did get through eventually. You are two months down, they are shipping out work to the other centers, so hopefully the July date will not slip. You have no guarantee that if you cancel and resubmit that the new one won't end up being kept at the TSC for processing; so you may just end up extending your wait!
Hang tight, things will move. Once you are through that stage the rest of the process is pretty quick.
Good luck.

I am also a beneficiary.
I think the best thing you can give the love of your life is the freedom to express how she is feeling. There are times when she will feel home sick, perhaps a loss of identity as she loses previous associations with Job and familiarity of surroundings etc. As humans we experience a myriad of feelings, some of which may be irrational, but having the ability to express those thoughts both happy and sad is so important. if you can listen unconditionally, which is sometimes difficult when an emotional bond is involved, you can walk hand in hand with her as she acclimatizes to her new surroundings and builds a new life.
Sure, the practical things are nice and thoughtful but sometimes there is inner work to be done, the best thing you can do is be there to be a sounding board for those thoughts. Expect the thoughts and don't take it personally.
For the practical things I have decided to employ myself. I have plenty of yard work and a deck to build and have plenty of studying too.. The most important though is to spend unlimited time with the love of my life, this will more than recompense for leaving what I have behind.
I wish you both the best for the future.

I am also a beneficiary.
I think the best thing you can give the love of your life is the freedom to express how she is feeling. There are times when she will feel home sick, perhaps a loss of identity as she loses previous associations with Job and familiarity of surroundings etc. As humans we experience a myriad of feelings, some of which may be irrational, but having the ability to express those thoughts both happy and sad is so important. if you can listen unconditionally, which is sometimes difficult when an emotional bond is involved, you can walk hand in hand with her as she acclimatizes to her new surroundings and builds a new life.
Sure, the practical things are nice and thoughtful but sometimes there is inner work to be done, the best thing you can do is be there to be a sounding board for those thoughts. Expect the thoughts and don't take it personally.
For the practical things I have decided to employ myself. I have plenty of yard work and a deck to build and have plenty of studying too.. The most important though is to spend unlimited time with the love of my life, this will more than recompense for leaving what I have behind.
I wish you both the best for the future.