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Here is my review on our AOS interview yesterday.
We had our appointment at the El Paso, TX office at 10:15am (Mountain Time Zone). I didn’t realize that not all of Texas is in the Central time zone so we left a little too early. It took us a little over 4 hours to drive there. We entered the building at 9:30am and went through security (we were quite early). There were a few people in the waiting room and a few more came in … I kept wondering if any of them were VJ members. We then got called in at around 10:45am.
The IO asked us to sit down. He asked me for my gov’t issued ID (driver’s license), birth certificate, social security card, EAD card, I-94, and marriage certificate. I didn’t have my social security card with me – he said that’s ok. He then asked my husband for his driver’s license, social security card, and naturalization certificate. He didn’t have his naturalization certificate but had his passport instead. The IO seemed a bit stiff, lol. He then asked us to stand up and swear an oath to tell the truth.
He asked each of us if this was our first marriage. Then he says, ‘there was this one lady who was learned of her husband’s previous marriage in Mexico at their green card interview. ’ He then asked my husband if the address and his profession were still current. He proceeded by asking me the Y/N questions. At some point in the questioning, he started smiling, lol. He joked to my husband, ‘wouldn’t you be surprised if she answered yes to any of these questions?’ He then asked us how we first met. We told him the story with a few jokes in between. He then asked if we got married in the church. I said no, that we got married where we had our reception, then he asked if we had a pastor. We then answered yes.
We had brought our wedding album and placed it on the desk. He grabbed the album and started flipping through it. We had an outdoor wedding ceremony so he commented about how it was good that we had an aisle that was made of concrete and not grass. Something about his cousin had a wedding and she had to walk in grass … uncomfortable as her heels were sinking in the grass, lol. He gave us back our album and started telling us about the ROC process as well as what we need to do should we change addresses. He told us that he needed to do further background checks, to quote him ‘as long as you haven’t committed any major crimes in the past few weeks, you guys will be ok.’ He had taken my I-94 and stapled it to the package but handed me back my EAD because we would be passing through a CBP inspection checkpoint on our way back. He told me to show them the EAD and tell them that we had just completed the green card interview.
We gratefully told him how short the interview was (I would say about 10 minutes) and he said that he spent more time reviewing the package than he did interviewing us. He said that our package was very thorough and well prepared. We thanked him and he guided us to the exit into the lobby. As we were driving back, at 4:10pm I got email notification about the card production. Now, we wait for the card to be delivered.

Immigrating to the US does not mean your a designated Punching Bag for an A__Hole! That appears the way you are being treated. Get the hell out! What date is he planning on finally killing you?

You are under no obligation to her. You are not really tangled at all--especially compared to her husband.

What else can you offer to potential partner (since you do not work and have no income, still living with parents), other than green card opportunity?

Tell her to wake up at noon everyday,go to the gym for two hours, have lunch with her friends, or invite her friends to come over,sometimes go to the theater afternoon,shop, shop and shop , and bring Mac Donald's for dinner.Let's see what he will think about it.He can't complain, she is not working!

Here is my review on our AOS interview yesterday.
We had our appointment at the El Paso, TX office at 10:15am (Mountain Time Zone). I didn’t realize that not all of Texas is in the Central time zone so we left a little too early. It took us a little over 4 hours to drive there. We entered the building at 9:30am and went through security (we were quite early). There were a few people in the waiting room and a few more came in … I kept wondering if any of them were VJ members. We then got called in at around 10:45am.
The IO asked us to sit down. He asked me for my gov’t issued ID (driver’s license), birth certificate, social security card, EAD card, I-94, and marriage certificate. I didn’t have my social security card with me – he said that’s ok. He then asked my husband for his driver’s license, social security card, and naturalization certificate. He didn’t have his naturalization certificate but had his passport instead. The IO seemed a bit stiff, lol. He then asked us to stand up and swear an oath to tell the truth.
He asked each of us if this was our first marriage. Then he says, ‘there was this one lady who was learned of her husband’s previous marriage in Mexico at their green card interview. ’ He then asked my husband if the address and his profession were still current. He proceeded by asking me the Y/N questions. At some point in the questioning, he started smiling, lol. He joked to my husband, ‘wouldn’t you be surprised if she answered yes to any of these questions?’ He then asked us how we first met. We told him the story with a few jokes in between. He then asked if we got married in the church. I said no, that we got married where we had our reception, then he asked if we had a pastor. We then answered yes.
We had brought our wedding album and placed it on the desk. He grabbed the album and started flipping through it. We had an outdoor wedding ceremony so he commented about how it was good that we had an aisle that was made of concrete and not grass. Something about his cousin had a wedding and she had to walk in grass … uncomfortable as her heels were sinking in the grass, lol. He gave us back our album and started telling us about the ROC process as well as what we need to do should we change addresses. He told us that he needed to do further background checks, to quote him ‘as long as you haven’t committed any major crimes in the past few weeks, you guys will be ok.’ He had taken my I-94 and stapled it to the package but handed me back my EAD because we would be passing through a CBP inspection checkpoint on our way back. He told me to show them the EAD and tell them that we had just completed the green card interview.
We gratefully told him how short the interview was (I would say about 10 minutes) and he said that he spent more time reviewing the package than he did interviewing us. He said that our package was very thorough and well prepared. We thanked him and he guided us to the exit into the lobby. As we were driving back, at 4:10pm I got email notification about the card production. Now, we wait for the card to be delivered.

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Why drop out of school during the middle of the semester? Haven't you already paid tuition for the entire semester?

All the above applies but to clarify for you, the son, the foreign spouse, and other readers. Having a USC spouse does not grant any immigration benefits or rights to live in the US to a foreign spouse. They did correctly by applying for the K-1 and getting married in the 90 day time frame. But after the marriage they should have filed AOS (adjustment of status) to obtain her green card. Just getting married did nothing to grant her rights to live in the US. Just as a person from another country who comes to the US and marries a USC or has a USC child does not automatically have the right to live in the US legally. There are procedures to follow and paperwork to file and of course money to pay.
Since she remained in the US for more than 365 days after her period of authorized stay she has a 10 year ban which began on the day she left the US. The ban can be overcome but it is unlikely she will get a tourist visa with a. an overstay and b. a USC spouse. She no longer qualifies to use the VWP. There are now two options: 1. File for the CR-1 visa, which will be denied, then file the I-601 waiver for the overstay. or b. serve out the 10 year ban.

Compassion needs to run both directions. Some have no life to go back to, once leaving their own country to be with a spouse or get married in the USA. Other's have every reason to go back. Should we make a law for those that gave up everything to come here, and have no way of surviving back in their home country now be forced to return home because a marriage didn't work out? I realize this guy is hurting, and its real shame his marriage ended, but I also didn't see anything he said that shows fraud was involved. No doubt he should have waited longer before bringing her here and making sure the relationship was strong enough to handle what was going to be needed to make a marriage work. Some people just don't have the skills or determination to make one work. And just because there is a I-864 in place, doesn't mean she intends to use it in order to take advantage of the sponsors.

Always to sides to a story.
Always to sides to a story.

It would be better for you if she gets citizenship because then your responsibility stops.
From the stand point of getting citizenship if she had fraud in mind from day one then yes, not fair but there is nothing you can do now.
The government is not responsible for you chosing someone who acts like she does....what policy do you want changed ?
Jumping into a relationship and ignoring flags is something you have to be accountable for yourself and live with the consequences.
People can be very 2 faced but there are always signs that are ignored. She may have really loved you but fell out of love. It happens.
You can't just assume she defrauded you because she wants to end the marriage.
She got her GC a year ago and just a wek ago said she wants out.
I see no behavior description in your post pointing to obvious fraud.

The law allows them to adjust, so you are pontificating about a non issue.

Thanks, lala. So I guess I should keep checking it. Today was the first time I checked in a week (it's a record, used to check once a day!). I will try to keep it once a week...I will try...

You're going in circles, and you've been given a lot of good advice here. First and foremost, there is NO living together for two years requirement. Not here, not in the UK. You appear to be hung up on the cohabiting partners issue, which is not and likely never will be your case. Nick & Diane gave you a good game plan, but bear in mind you or your boyfriend can always be turned away at the border. If you're young, living at home or at school, not making a lot of money, and have few ties to your own country (read: can you or he prove you will go home?) you risk being turned away. It happens. It says nothing about your relationship, but both countries have to deal with visa overstays regularly.
You're young. You know you're young. Heck, when I was barely (and I mean barely) older than you I fell in love with a guy from London while I was on a working holidaymaker visa there, and I was convinced we couldn't live without each other. We had the benefit of a much easier UK spousal visa protocol back then, but I thought I would literally pass away if we couldn't be together. If we hadn't been able to get married for whatever reason, we would have just had to suck it up and deal -- and this was in the early days of the internets. No Skype, no cheap calls. But I like to think we would have made it anyway.
I ended up living in the UK for a dozen years. No lie -- it was tough in the beginning. I had been on holiday there several times, had worked there for six months, and studied for four, but nothing prepared me for the long haul, everyday, this isn't holiday, this is my life-ness of it. But I slogged on, and often it was fantastic! But it was an uphill battle for years.
Time for big girl panties. You and your boyfriend are going to have to figure this out. Your best bet, since you both have limited incomes, is for him to come to the US and for the two of you to marry, after spending more time to get to know each other on VWP trips. (The more, the better, if only for the sake of figuring out how you feel about each other.) He then returns to the UK while his spousal visa is processed. You both take that time to solidify your marriage and your finances. He can visit you, you can visit him. Get a joint sponsor for the financial aspect. He comes over, you live in wedded bliss and then figure out if you want to move back to the UK at some point.
Or he can get a job paying at least £18k and do it on his side. There's no way of getting around these things, and trust me, you will not die being apart for a few months at a time. A good friend of mine has been apart for over six months from her husband of many years while he's setting things up for them abroad. She doesn't enjoy it, but it's something to be endured.
You'll find quickly there's little to no sentimentality in marriage-based immigration, and no amount of railing at the unfairness of it all (and it can seem very unfair, especially on the UK side) is going to change that. You'll be fine. Everyone else on here has done it, is doing it or is about to do it, so why not you?

If you wish to move through Marriage to the UK then you have to be sponsored by your spouse and the Spouse has to meet the income or savings requirement.
I forget the amount, something like GBP18k?
UK immigration in both quicker and more user friendly.
But if your aim is to move to the UK sounds like he needs to be focussing on his career rather than long visits to the US.

I agree with CdnRN on reading the guides. It will make the process a lot smoother and will avoid potential delays such as RFEs.

I agree with CdnRN on reading the guides. It will make the process a lot smoother and will avoid potential delays such as RFEs.

Again, read the guide I linked above. It will answer your questions. Your wife enters a period of authorized stay while you go through AOS. If she leaves, her application is abandoned and you will be out a lot of money. Until she gets AP, that is.
Seriously, read the guides and instructions before sending anything.

Please also consider the sever financial loss and lost time if you do travel without an AP or GC. The issue is not being allowed to leave the US as you can do that at anytime. If you do not have the AP or a GC or a valid visa, you will be denied boarding on the airplane for the return trip to the US. You will then have to start the whole immigration process over by submitting another petition and waiting the long wait and then doing another medical and police report and paying another visa fee and finally paying for the GC again. All the while you will not be in the US and it is unlikely you will receive a tourist visa.
You can try for an INFOpass appointment an see if they will expedite your AP card. Of late the USCIS is not giving out stamps in passports. Your best bet is to have the interview, be approved, and receive the GC a few days later--and hope their is no issues with the USPS delivering your GC. Choose wisely.
Good luck,
Dave

This post is 100% wrong.

Thank you everyone for your comments! I really wanted to do this for my family in Japan since we won’t get to see the baby that often. It will means a lot for my family. A lot of Japanese women go back to their homes and give a birth in Japan. This is really common over there, and parents love it when their daughter come back and spend time with their grandchild. We also will be in the better place financially if we do this. We are trying to buy a house and the saving will help us a lot.
BUT….. you guys are right. This plan is too risky. I’m putting not only my residency status but also baby’s health & citizenship at risk. I also have a job that I need to come back after maternity leave and it shouldn’t take risk of not coming back the U.S on time. I discussed about this my husband quite a lot and we decided NOT to do this and have a baby here in the U.S. My family can visit us when the baby is here. This is my first pregnancy and I shouldn’t have this crazy plan with tremendous amount of stress. Again, thank you all for your comments, you guys woke me up and helped me make a decision!

Why do you care about her immigration status? It is her life, she can stay legally or illegally with any consequences on her own, man up mister.

Sorry, there is no returns policy when marrying a foreign national.
Relationships breakdown, so divorce and move on.
On a personal note I find it sad that so many people think they can apparently treat a foreign spouse differently to a US spouse and return them "home" like a defective appliance.