_Paul&Jesica_

Me and Paul are buddies...lol

Move on. Whatever she does is none of your concern now. The sooner you let go of anger and start thinking about yourself, the better for you because you will not waste another moment thinking about somebody that did you wrong, if that is the case.
All the best,
UnaMexicana

No need to wait two weeks after POE either with the electronic I-94.
More importantly, you need to apply for the SSN in the name that is on the I-94 as that is the name and info that SSA will verify against SAFE.

Hello all. I just wanted to give a little updated since it will be 1 year since my husband came to the states. I petitioned my husband then fiancé on March 2013 and our petition got approve July 2013 (4 months). The whole month of August we prepared for his medical, CFO and interview. We schedule his interview August 20, 2013 but unfortunately it got cancelled because of the rain so USEM told all the people that had interviews that day to come back August 26, 2013 and again it got cancelled because of the rally for the pork barrel, we didn't know what to do since USEM was being difficult about giving information out so my husband decided to do a walk-in interview the following day August 27, 2013 and luckily he was able to get interviewed. I was very nervous about what was going to happen since I was not able to be there for his interview...I could not sleep until he texted me to say he was APPROVED. After about a week or so his visa arrived and he picked up at 2Go MOA and then went to the CFO to get his sticker.. we booked his ticket as soon as he got his visa on hand and September 23, 2013 he arrived in New York (JFK). That Thursday after his arrival we went to the city hall where we live to get our marriage license and the following week we picked up our marriage license and called the courthouse to schedule a date for our marriage. October 8, 2013 we got married and 1 month later we filed for his AOS we mailed it on November 2, 2013... 1 month later he was schedule to do his biometrics (December 11) so we waited to see when his EAD/AP would arrive and luckily after a month January 6, 2014 his EAD/AP arrived in the mail. Once he got his EAD he started looking for a job and was able to land a couple of interviews but no luck since he had no local experience yet. January 22 a tragedy happened, my husband's grandmother died and my hubby wanted to go home to the Philippines for the funeral but unfortunately my parents and his aunt got scared that if he goes to the Philippines just with the AP and without the GC he may not be able to come back so he was very sad he wasn't there for his grandmother's funeral. March 2014 our very nice neighbor helped him get a job at a local Popeyes near where we live. We received a letter from USCIS on February 2014 saying that our interview was going to be waived and that we had to wait 6 months to get his green card but luckily his GC arrived on April 2014. After working at Popeyes for 5 month he landed a job at the hospital near our house (walking distance...YAY) ...btw my hubby is a nursing graduate from PI but unfortunately he did not pass his nursing license in the PI. We actually had a struggle and battle of him not becoming a RN in the Philippines since my family were judging him that he won't be able to give me the good life I deserve because he isn't a RN but with hard work and determination he proved my family wrong that even though he isn't a RN he is lucky enough to find a job in the hospital and hopefully next year he will get his nursing license to become a RN.
For all those that are going through challenges DON'T GIVE...LISTEN TO YOUR HEART & FOLLOW IT. Also take one step at a time and everything you want will eventually come to you. Don't worry all the waiting from the time of petition to when your love one comes to the states is all WORTH it

Same here! In fact she can work and made tons of money and I will stay at home

We actually had our LOIs notarized as well to be extra sure. But yes, my understanding is the same in that LOIs need to be originals and not copies.

Something you should have thought long and hard about before involving another human being with emotions. Life isn't all about you. When you marry, it's an "us" thing. His feelings deserve more consideration than this. Seems you want your cake and eat it too.
I'm going to stop posting as this has me all twisted emotionally. I just can't even believe what I'm reading.

I agree! Just as everyone else is saying. I don't want to be judgmental but due to the fact I am a USC petitioning for my immigrant fiance, I find it difficult to stomach the selfishness here. The USC loved you enough to go through this process that is stressful and expensive. Behind his back you are likely having conversations with you ex that are completely disrespectful and most likely using the kids to cover the times you spend on the phone with him and your husband is probably incurring the charges.
Your husband has every right to know your plans so he too can make a decision if he wants to proceed. You have no right living in his home, while he is hard at work to take care of you and your children. Let your husband cut his losses and help you get back to your lover in the Philippines.

Excellent! Now the long wait begins....

I contacted SLEC about the mis-information on their website and what the guard has been asking for, this is their reply, as you will note they state OR also in their reply, same as the embassy website states, I have asked SLEC to correct their website and better educate their staff:
(typos are theirs )
"Mr Hank,

K-Visa applicant mist present either the visa interview appointment confirmation from the US Embassy or appointment letter from the NVC (if available). We advise applicant to present a letter with their case number for counter-cheking since it will be indicated in the medical report.

Thank you.

St. Luke's Medical Center Extension Clinic
1177 J. Bocobo Street, Ermita
Manila , Philippines
Tel. Nos. (+632) 521-0020 or 523-8248
Fax. No. (+632) 526-0208 or 523-8248
website: www.slec.ph"
The USEM website clearly states that only one or the other is required, not both.
http://manila.usembassy.gov/wwwh3218.html What should I bring to my medical examination?
Appointment letter sent by the National Visa Center or an e-mail confirmation from the Visa Information and Appointment Service. Appropriate medical examination fee. Passport (valid for at least 6 months) Three color pictures (2 inches x 2 inches) with a white background(two are for the visa and one is for the medical report).

Just look at it this way. The more hearts a person has, the less of a real life they have.
Sorry D.

One issue with delaying filing is that you risk the medical expiring. The I-485 must be filed within 1 year of the medical or the medical will have to be re-done.

My wife told me thank you and said I did something right 2 times in the past week. I am scared.

Word.. Right on However if 1 man can manage many wimmens under the same roof. He is the man . I freely admit. I got very little say so in my house. VJ is the last shred of testicular dignity I have left . At least i can step into this arena, and pretend to be a man who has the courage of his convection's.

The K-1 visa is for getting married in the US. If you marry in Canada, you are not eligible for the K-1 visa. If you decide in fact to marry in Canada, you will need to file a CR-1 visa. You cannot enter the US on a B1 visitor visa and file adjustment of status...this is illegal and considered visa fraud. Your fiancé needs to file a petition for you for you to be able to come to the US and be able to stay. He would file the I-129F petition for fiancé, if you intend to marry in the US. Or he would need to file the I-130 after your marriage if you decide to marry elsewhere, such as Canada.
To help you decide which route you should take (quickest route, most cost effective, etc.) then look here: http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare

^This. I never asked or accepted money from my husband. And I never asked how much his salary was. Basically, if she suddenly gets sick a lot, or loses things easily, or gets robbed most of the time, or has relatives who are dropping like flies, she is using you for money.

As you used an attorney for this, your attorney received the RFE and should email or mail you a copy of it. It will list specifics about the RFE and what you need to do. This is fairly basic, your attorney doesn't sound like he is doing his job...

I did the following...
1. Printed each picture on regular printer paper (on high quality printer)
(Also, it's pretty cheap to print photos in 1 hour at cvs or walgreens)
2. Wrote descriptions about each picture (me&her at such place, family dinner, dinner with friends, etc.)
3. Sign and dated each picture (may be overkill, but I did it).
4. Sent 10 pictures

And the last time I flew in to SFO, a little less than a year ago, we circled til the fog burned off because there was a full ground stop. Because of fog. The husband had a similar issue several times last year, at different times of the day. On top of that, I'm a San Francisco native, and I spent 20 years there before leaving, soooo.
But hey, you asked for advice. I gave it, based on two decades of living in the Bay Area, and spending a further decade flying in and out of SFO, both domestic and international, and, between my spouse and I, having had close to 100,000 cumulative miles of flights routed through SFO in less than a year. What you choose to do with that information is up to you.

Just looked the word Tampo:
"The basic expectation of one who engages in tampo is that the offending party will woo or cajole him or her out of the feeling of being unhappy. The Tagalog word for this is amuin.[2] This wooing and cajoling is done in a loving and tender way, a gesture called lambing.
For the offending party, the typical Philippine way of dealing with tampo is to respond to the offended party with friendly overtures or expressions of concern, after a short "cooling-off" period. Not to do this may cause relations, especially romantic ones, to deteriorate. In most instances in which tampo is engaged in, healing the inner, emotional relationship between two people is usually more critical than resolving the issue itself"
Haven't got to the 'Tampo' chapter in my cultural studies...but I get the picture

Annie,
You and your husband need to seek some counseling. Here is why I say that... You say that he yells at you and tells you are not trying hard enough. You defend yourself as to why you can't do it all yourself. All of this on a public forum. Think of it this way.... Both of you have been thru huge changes and both of you came into the relationship with some expectations that may not match reality. But to be successful you have to have a way to successfully resolve disagreements. Not just resolve but to prevent them from happening. By asking strangers an opinion about rather he's right or wrong you are not supporting your husband you are setting up a you vs. him situation. This will continue to grow and he will likely fight back or push back if he feels you are vilifying him. A priest, a counselor or a truly neutral 3rd party can help you re-find common ground that you must have had to make it this far in the process. This whole process seems geared to maximize the chances of problems. If you can refocus your mutual energies as a couple to achieving success in the face of a process that makes it so easy to fail you'll do well I think. What do I mean it sets you up to fail? Well you spend months and months figuring out how to live together successfully while apart physically... you get really good at it.... too good at it.... You schedule times to talk... you don't bring up contentious issues or discuss them in detail because after all your SO could just leave if they knew *THAT* about you... You focus your energies as a couple on the golden prize of being together... you focus your attention on wedding issues... paper work.. And then it all falls into place... the beneficiary moves to the USA totally uprooting from the life they have know all their lives. Both USC and foreigner have HUGE expectations about how great life will be now that you've achieved your mutual dream. Together you overcame for many what would be an insurmountable obstacle. BUT... do you have new dreams to chase together? Dreams that you can both be invested in and engaged in? Or is it, a case of gee... this isn't what I thought it would be? For the beneficiary it is clearly very hard... He/she, can't work, probably can't drive, doesn't know anyone, this is obvious... For the USC though it is also hard, He/She now has another person with them that is living with them. That 2 hour scheduled Skype call is now a constant living with a person that is at least for the next 4 months completely dependent on you. You can't do what you want when you want without a care in the world. You have to go to Work everyday and worry that your spouse is OK. And your spouse in a financee visa is likely someone you don't really know like you might have thought you did. And the world, VJ included tells you to be supportive and patient and maybe that doesn't give the USC a chance to mourn or reflect on what they too may have lost for the sake of what should be a greater gain. I salute all those who make this work. God Bless all of you on this journey and for those that this apparently isn't going to work for may you have the strength to really figure it out quickly before your lives become almost inextricably entangled. To the OP, you can't leave the USA without AP to get back in. But you can go anywhere in the USA. I'm not suggesting that you leave your Husband, I don't have the information to do that. But if your were not physically with him and you both knew that being together was still a choice than maybe skype could serve as the mediator.

Definitely. All relationships are like that, especially those who started as long-distance. Even up to this day, I am still discovering new things about my husband after being here for 8 months. It also irritates me when the husband still has those bachelor habits like not closing the toothpaste tube, etc... But I understand since he has been living alone for years before he met me. I just have to gently remind him every time.
As they say, marriage is a continuous learning process between two very different people. But to work it out, you have to find common grounds. You don't necessarily have to understand each other's whims, but you do have to give way sometimes and of course, reconcile most of the time.
Btw, if you need help or clarification on things you don't understand in the immigration process, there will surely be helpful people here in VJ who have been there and done that. Your husband won't have to know you only did a little research.

It should be a two-way street. The petitioner cannot do all the work and vice versa to the beneficiary. It doesn't matter who does majority of the work, what matters is BOTH parties participate.

Agreed.
IMHO, this is a bad idea. Harpa mentions a couple in this post who tried to do that and got a lifetime ban from the US: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/353669-got-married-in-the-philippines-but-on-a-k1-visa-application/?p=5173049

You should have translated the form before sending it to them ,I understand you since you had only 2 days to submit the documentation that was probably the reason of the rush but its nt too late as long as you have that letter that was sent to you stating that you have to submit documents 1.Print out the letter 2.Translate your medical documents by a certified translator ,3.Write a letter explaining that you did not have much time to translate it cause you had two days,4Fax the affividat of the certified translator,the translator documents,the original documents,the letter that was sent to you,the letter that you wrote this time around fax it to them to the attention of the ID that was provided and will see from there.Good Luck to you