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So, considering the immigrant came with a K1 visa - cannot work, cannot drive - you are saying that it's his/her "responsibility to file for AOS - always has been"? Tell me, how is the immigrant gonna do the AOS without the USC petitioner's money? Are you suggesting that the immigrant borrow money from someone else because it's their "responsibility"? Take note: immigrant = cannot work.

I didn't fill it out (just left blank) and I read other people here didn't either. Supposedly you can find it on certain notices and by logging into the website. I don't know about your case because according to your profile you were K-1, but in case it helps other people that were CR-1 like me:
 
I did make (and use) a USCIS ELIS account at some point around March/April 2015 when I paid my Immigrant Fee and tracked the green card production. I have the registration emails, but no account number. I tried to log in several times but couldn't, and I also tried to reset the password but no matter how many times I tried I wasn't getting the password reset email. Finally called USCIS the other day and help desk told me that there wasn't an account registered under my email. I was like whaaat, but he said they changed the system (it's not ELIS anymore) and old accounts were deleted.
 
Of course, only after I called I saw the warning on their website: "Note: If you paid the USCIS Immigrant Fee before August 31, 2015, you will no longer have access to your online account." which is exactly what happened. 

I'm thinking the same thing. Also for a misdemeanor domestic battery in California (I think that's what the OP means by domestic abuse) there doesn't even need to be an injury. It could be just using the palm of your hand to push someone away during an argument. You don't even need to touch their skin for a misdemeanor battery charge - it can be their clothes. I am in no way excusing or condoning his behavior but it does seem it may not be serious enough for deportation. If that's the case I'm wondering if there's any chance OP and her husband can work things out for the sake of the child? At least put something in place that will enable the child to have her father in her life. 
 
One thing that struck me in all this - and I see similar phrases and sentiments in many threads on this subject - is how the USC often feels because they went through a lot of paperwork and expense to bring a spouse into the country that the marriage should be a success - even to the point where some of them feel that the alien spouse is in some way indebted to them and the marriage is not allowed to fail. 50% of all marriages fail these days. Immigrants don't come with a guarantee of any kind - we are just as human as USCs. The embassies don't test us on our suitability to be lifelong marriage partners. Marrying anyone - from the boy next door to someone from thousands of miles away - always carries a risk of failure. Especially when you marry someone you barely know. 

Absolutely.  Especially when children are involved all aspects should be carefully considered.

He really doesn't need that right now

If you don't fix the issues at home, there's no point of her going to Russia to "unwind" only to come back home to you behaving like you. It's like having a house that's slowly burning and going "You know what, let's go off to the beach because I don't want to deal with this", have a great week at the beach and then come home to a house that's still on fire. It's  the whole "take a vacation from reality" concept, it's nice when you think that you can have a break, but it's even worse when you drop back down to earth

While some people feel that depression can just be fixed by circumstances, depression going -THAT- far isn't as simple as taking a break. 

Just from this thread alone, you've shown your disdain for her not driving, you've believed that she's careless (which yeah, depression), you can't believe she turned out this way, you think she should just go off and unwind.




I think the problem that a lot of us in this thread are having is that even without you straight up saying it, it seems like you blame her for doing this. It seems like you blame her for why both of your lives isn't easier because she doesn't drive, that you blame her because you care about her yet she hurts herself, that you blame her for becoming something you never imagined.

If that's so implied in the thread, regardless of your real feelings, what are your text conversations like when you're in the same house but don't see each other face to face? How do YOU make HER feel in the home she shares with you?



You may understand that she's depressed but you may not realize you don't understand how deeply depressed she is, or how dangerous depression actually is.

I have a conditional green card, but my wife is not ready to work on our marriage, I'm the third man she married... whenever we have a misunderstanding she threaten me with the green card and want me to beg her even when she's wrong cos she will tell me I would be deported..... it has been like this ever since I got here, at times I wonder why she agreed to marry me, when I got the EAD and conditional green card, if we have a misunderstanding she will seize my cards and cell phone, she took my Nigerian passport from me since I got here... we pay all bills together, now she wants to cut everything and told me she wants to end the marriage cos she doesn't want me to have the permanent resident, I would like to know if there's anything I can do to safe myself from going back to Nigerian cos of the present economic situation and bombings... I love the life I live here, my conditional expires 07/2018

In my honest opinion she has no problem to get spouse visa. She overstayed by 10 months and it happened 13 years ago, so what ever ban she was punished with it is already in her past.
I just didn't understand what it means that she withdrew her application at the POE? I will read your original post again.
What do you really worry about? Your relationship case is solid, the consular at the interview will just probably mention her overstay and this is it. This is an interview for spouse visa, it is completely different from tourist visa.
My case is very similar to yours. My USC husband also lived with me in LT (check my time line), I also had a history of overstay many many years ago. The difference is that we never hired any lawyer, we did everything ourselves with the huge help from Vj'ers.
Write me pm if you want.

YES, you were expedited. Just compare to 6-8 months people are stuck with the USCIS.

My apologies if it is against TOS but man I just get upset when I read all these "I want to ship him back stories" 24/7 by people making
bad choices and then complaining and seeking revenge.

The fact that he asks about his citizenship doesn't make you at peace ? But he is supposed to feel at peace with your threats about shipping him back
like a t-shirt bought on ebay ? Of course he wants to be informed about his immigration status, who wouldn't.
No, it doesn't suck that he gets to stay since you brought him here, it is good that your child will have a father here. Your attitude of being so
vindictive is clouding what's best for your child. Divorce, arrange custody and child support. I am sure your child can benefit from his child support
and from visits or joined custody. Why should the tax payer foot that bill. He has a right to stay here and your child has a right to his father.
If you think that sucks then why don't you move ! Revenge is an ugly thing, get over it.
In regards to your statement "what's the point of giving him a conditional green card then might as well give him citizenship righy when they get here."
Had it been so you would have jumped for joy. You couldn't wait to "bring him here" fast enough, you spread your legs when he wanted a child so stop saying he was in a hurry for a child, be accountable for picking your spouse, for choosing to get pregnant and for petitioning him.
Learn that you can't erase your past by wanting to send him back, it's ridiculous. People like you scream at USCIS because the process is too slow
and if it doesn't work out they scream at USCIS because the process was too easy ? Seriously ?!
Perfectly bona fide good faith marriages can and do fall apart. If he did use you then take accountability for being naive and gullible to not check him out
longer when you met him. Jumping into a relationship with someone was your choice, deal with it as a mother doing whats best for her child.
People make stupid choices in picking the father of their children and then make the children suffer by tearing the father away from them.
I have no patience for such nonsense. If it was so bad then why did you not end it before he received the green card, something must have gone right
somewhere.

There's so many uneducated and unemployed people, good that he is motivated to work and study. Just divorce and keep things civil for your child. Its his child too. A working father who's studying is a good role model for any child, even if your marriage didn't work out.

Dear IRIScv , you don't have to apologize or explain anything to others. Don't feel guilty in front of haters. Everybody has their own path, own circumstances, own luck and own life. Be happy!

It's all about attitude and perspective. Look at what some are saying that left Amazon. The same almost exact words. Who knows. We could be at the same place but because I get along with about everyone it may be great and I love it while others think its the pit of hell.
Personnel isnt the issue at NVC it's policy. They don;t know how to update and implement anything effectively. I am a Software Test Engineer. And when we have a release to our client updating their software applications if we were as ineffective as NVC we would be out of business. The sad thing is we are the customers and have no recourse. I mean NVC fails what do we do.
All I can ask everyone to do is email, and or call the Director of NVC now. Just the people on this thread calling and making some noise can be something.
Also why not get on the phone and start calling your Senators and congressman. Lets find out what is really going on at NVC. No offense LPR folk but citizens should be first in line. This is bogus and waiting 2,3 4 months is nonsense when clearly every embassy is scheduling F1A's and K1's well they never have delay do they! . Infact why is that K1's seem to get preferential treatment. But I digress.

Uh Oh started it again huh.
Well I could say some of those same things about plenty of other countries around the world. You are generalizing, stereotyping, and lumping every Amercian into the same category. You are very wrong. I know plenty of hardworking, dedicated, never been on government assistance, caring individuals that fight everyday for what they believe in. Government assistance was put in place to help those in need, there may be abusers to the system, but the benefits outway the bad.
As far as #6, yes we are patriotic and anyone who chooses to put their safety and life in jeopardy to fight for others is a hero all day in my book.
So here are your options:
1. Leave and go back to your country if you don't like it here.
2. Do something about it. Instead of making these whining posts go out and do something actively to improve the situation
Peace

If you hate and have no respect for the people here, then why do you want to be a US citizen?
You can leave here without a US passport. You don't need a US passport to leave here and live in Europe.
Euro trash who wants the advantage of US citizenship and talks poorly of the people he wants to join.

Thanks very much. Makes things easier

I just use DHL...it is around 60 EUR for 20 kg boxes (120x60x60cm) and it is way cheaper then adding additional luggage.
If you want to go for 31.5 kg per box it is around 90 EUR.

I'm telling you I feel an announcement coming from NVC that IR1/CR1 is going to start being able to schedule their own interview thru ustraveldocs.gov.
Come on pray with me or whatever you do to put out their positiveness. It's the best solution. Frees up NVC and well puts more control in yours. Case Complete means go get your interview. Imagine.
You heard it first when it comes.

Oh my what a mess.
I usually post things that are dramatically different from the consensus so no surprise here---
I do agree the proper steps are to contact USCIS and the local police dept. HOWEVER> I dont think much is going to be done about it. (sorry thats just my opinion). Theres this thing called signing with permission/ where a lot of people may be surprised but forgery laws are complex and you can infact sign something on someone elses behalf if you have permission to do so.
Please see this link as reference as it explains it better then I can- http://www.criminaldefenselawyer.com/resources/if-someone-gives-me-permission-sign-their-name-have-i
Its recommended that you sign in a way that identifies that you are doing it with permission. You can get into tricky waters when the person (like in this case) insists they never gave permission then it becomes a he said she said scenario and there are never any winners in that.
As far as I am aware the law does not require it to be noted that it was done with permission BUT an appeals judge did hold up in 2009 that doing so (signing with out noting it was done with permission) was deceptive in a ruling http://www.oncontracts.com/signing-someone-elses-name-with-permission-butwithout-so-indicating-is-dishonest-7th-circuit-posner/
Oral permission counts as permission- Forgery involves "intent to deceive": SO with out the deceive part youve got nothing. http://www.lawqa.com/qa/if-someone-gives-you-oral-permission-to-sign-your-signature-that-breaking-law
The police/authorities (including USCIS) would have to believe that there is no way you would have given permission for her to sign that on your behalf- if they even get as far.
So first they would have to compare the signatures- if its not a match the signer is going to argue they did so with permission, You would have to prove or convince them you didnt. I doubt you have any proof of emails or communication where you are declining to sign. Its not unreasonable to assume a spouse would assist in signing such a form to bring their spouses family member over. (and now that it went bad they want a way out) So its an uphill battle and what kind of proof you have matters.
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I personally find it very unlikley that the police will act on your complaint. They will take the complaint because thats what they do- but I wouldnt hold my breath in seeking/waiting for them to prosecute because your case is your word (Im assuming you have no evidence where you flat out refuse to sign it and it turns up signed)-
I also browsed through the 864 and no where do I see anything about not accepting signatures on behalf but I suspect if it was attempted to be filed like that it would get rejected. So what is USCIS going to do with it. Im not sure and I am curious as to how this plays out. You wouldnt be the first person (from their POV) to have a signed 864 for a divorced family member that is trying to undo it by any means necessary.
Im inclined to say their FDNS is going to take the same outlook as the police- what proof do you have its not your signature?
But again I do recommend going to both the police and USCIS - specifically the fraud unit and seeing what they tell you.

Your definitions of racism and first amendment is completely screwed. I think since you are planning on coming to USA as a permanent resident, it doesn't hurt to read the law of the land.
Exactly.. Two hands working can achieve a lot more than millions collapsed in prayers.

lol.. Well She did say ALL The gods this world knows Good one!

O Thor! Thanks for giving us Thursdays after every 6 days! Amen
O Thor! Whoever's case is still processing at NVC, get them Case Complete right away! Amen
O Thor! Whoever's case is completed at NVC, get them consular appointments ASAP! Amen

Anyways, I called today, and asked if Montreal has started scheduling the appointments or not. And NVC rep said they started scheduling for whole world yesterday, but she had no specific information about Montreal.

Good thing about USA is the First Amendment rights for everybody.
You are free to speak up your theistic messages, I am free to comment my anti-theistic messages.
I did provide helpful and relevant suggestion in the same post. But looks like that part is not your point of focus but the irrelevant part of it. That is exactly what is wrong with the world these days.

It's shows a lot of his character if he wants you to buy your own ticket back home...