ChicagoSarah

Could you not return without him? If you are the citizen, then you can go back at any time.
Are you trying to expedite that he is the only one who could care for you after surgery?

Your bank will probably give you a credit card if your husband has a long and successful history with them. We bank with Chase, and they gave my husband a low limit credit card based on my relationship with them. We then has him use that (not exceeding 20% of his limit each month and paying it in full) for about 6 months and then he was able to apply for an airline CC (which I think we ultimately needed Chase to again push through, but they did so without issue). Also had him added as primary to our electric bill (this took some hoop-jumping) as soon as possible. Not sure how much this helped, but it definitely didn't hurt.
He's been here 1.5 years and we just bought a house, so everything we did seems to have paid off. He could have gotten the mortgage himself without issue based on his own credit score and income at this point.

My advice is to add your name to anything and everything you can right out of the gate. Building credit is such a hassle

+2 Belinda
He can't leave until he has documents in hand. He comes, he marries, he files paperwork, and he stays until he has the AP document.

The I-693 is associated with the medical. She will have a medical in China before her visa interview. It's valid for a year. So, if her medical is done and her vaccinations marked complete (3025), as long as she files AOS within a year from that date, she does not need a new I-693.
If her vaccination record is not completed when she arrives stateside, then she'll have to have a civil surgeon in the US fill out the form. It is not something your fiance fills out herself.
Side note: there have been cases of people filing AOS and getting an RFE for an updated medical because the AOS isn't adjucated until after the medical expires. But you can cross that bridge if/when you come to it.

What if he loses that job or hates it and quits? Do you want to be back here? And the job wasn't the only issue in the relationship. So one issue averted (for now), but what about all the others?

You definitely shouldn't feel badly for feeling he needs to have a job. Sure, the $ is a necessity and a huge part of it, but so is the responsibility and the drive that most people desire in a partner.
My ex-husband (another USC) had issues with this. So while there were plenty of positives (and plenty of other issues in our relationship), he found himself unemployed for at least 9 months of the 3 years we were married. And it wasn't SO much the lack of income that I found troubling (although it would have helped), it was his lack of motivation and drive to make something of himself and support himself and his new wife (I had my own job). And we didn't have to deal with immigration issues on top of it. I can't even imagine....
You are not being selfish, you're being wise. It takes a lot of strength to stand up for yourself and move on from a bad situation. And you certainly seem to know what you want and what you deserve, and it doesn't sound like it's him.
Not using this K-1 (or using it for a round-trip visit) won't hurt your changes of anything in the future. Your VWP will still be intact, and you can always have another K-1 or CR-1 filed for you should circumstances change in the future. Don't let the visa date dictate your future.

Read her original post. He has no $ and his solution is to have her just stay in the US without filing AOS until if/when he scrounges up the $ to do so. That would mean she would be here illegally.....

I think CatherineA has put it best. If you wouldn't marry this guy right now if he lived down the street due to some of the issues and behaviors, then don't go to the US to marry him. Relationships are hard enough, marriage doesn't make it any easier. And immigration certainly throws some stress into the mix.
It sounds like a lot of typical relationship hurdles independent of the immigration ones. If you want to work and be independent and not be a full time stay at home mom, those are huge differences in what you both have planned for he future.
Postpone or cancel this visa. Work through some of the other major issues. You can always re-apply for the K-1 or apply for a CR-1. But moving to a small town Ina new country with no way to work or travel or be yourself and potentially need to divorce if things don't improve would be much more difficult.
Or book a round-trip for just shy of a month from now. Come on the K-1 and see the situation in person. You'll know after 2-3 weeks if it's what you want..

I'd suggest having a discussion with him about moving to France....or somewhere else you could both live and work in the EU. if he's not willing to consider making that sacrifice for you, it seems unfair for him to expect that same sacrifice.
I completely agree with CatherineA. Would you date a French guy exhibiting the same behavior? The visa doesn't mean you have to go to the US, just that you're able to. Contact the embassy about extending the visa. Unfortunately none of us can tell you definitively if they can/will/for how long, but you should certainly try.
And expecting you to move over and burn through your savings just to survive seems childish and irresponsible.

It's obviously your choice, but remaining illegally in the US is not a good plan.
I would personally choose not to travel in 2 weeks. You can email the embassy about extending your visa. It's possible you could just redo the medical down the road and retain your visa. If you feel more comfortable with the situation, you could always get married (probably in your country) and apply for the spouse visa.
Are jobs difficult to come by where he lives? I would personally be much more upset if he could find a job and wasn't (there are always jobs somewhere). Maybe he needs to consider taking whatever job he can get?
I wish you the best with everything. Definitely a touch decision.

I think CatherineA has put it best. If you wouldn't marry this guy right now if he lived down the street due to some of the issues and behaviors, then don't go to the US to marry him. Relationships are hard enough, marriage doesn't make it any easier. And immigration certainly throws some stress into the mix.
It sounds like a lot of typical relationship hurdles independent of the immigration ones. If you want to work and be independent and not be a full time stay at home mom, those are huge differences in what you both have planned for he future.
Postpone or cancel this visa. Work through some of the other major issues. You can always re-apply for the K-1 or apply for a CR-1. But moving to a small town Ina new country with no way to work or travel or be yourself and potentially need to divorce if things don't improve would be much more difficult.
Or book a round-trip for just shy of a month from now. Come on the K-1 and see the situation in person. You'll know after 2-3 weeks if it's what you want..

I'd suggest having a discussion with him about moving to France....or somewhere else you could both live and work in the EU. if he's not willing to consider making that sacrifice for you, it seems unfair for him to expect that same sacrifice.
I completely agree with CatherineA. Would you date a French guy exhibiting the same behavior? The visa doesn't mean you have to go to the US, just that you're able to. Contact the embassy about extending the visa. Unfortunately none of us can tell you definitively if they can/will/for how long, but you should certainly try.
And expecting you to move over and burn through your savings just to survive seems childish and irresponsible.

I'd suggest having a discussion with him about moving to France....or somewhere else you could both live and work in the EU. if he's not willing to consider making that sacrifice for you, it seems unfair for him to expect that same sacrifice.
I completely agree with CatherineA. Would you date a French guy exhibiting the same behavior? The visa doesn't mean you have to go to the US, just that you're able to. Contact the embassy about extending the visa. Unfortunately none of us can tell you definitively if they can/will/for how long, but you should certainly try.
And expecting you to move over and burn through your savings just to survive seems childish and irresponsible.

It's obviously your choice, but remaining illegally in the US is not a good plan.
I would personally choose not to travel in 2 weeks. You can email the embassy about extending your visa. It's possible you could just redo the medical down the road and retain your visa. If you feel more comfortable with the situation, you could always get married (probably in your country) and apply for the spouse visa.
Are jobs difficult to come by where he lives? I would personally be much more upset if he could find a job and wasn't (there are always jobs somewhere). Maybe he needs to consider taking whatever job he can get?
I wish you the best with everything. Definitely a touch decision.

It's obviously your choice, but remaining illegally in the US is not a good plan.
I would personally choose not to travel in 2 weeks. You can email the embassy about extending your visa. It's possible you could just redo the medical down the road and retain your visa. If you feel more comfortable with the situation, you could always get married (probably in your country) and apply for the spouse visa.
Are jobs difficult to come by where he lives? I would personally be much more upset if he could find a job and wasn't (there are always jobs somewhere). Maybe he needs to consider taking whatever job he can get?
I wish you the best with everything. Definitely a touch decision.

I think CatherineA has put it best. If you wouldn't marry this guy right now if he lived down the street due to some of the issues and behaviors, then don't go to the US to marry him. Relationships are hard enough, marriage doesn't make it any easier. And immigration certainly throws some stress into the mix.
It sounds like a lot of typical relationship hurdles independent of the immigration ones. If you want to work and be independent and not be a full time stay at home mom, those are huge differences in what you both have planned for he future.
Postpone or cancel this visa. Work through some of the other major issues. You can always re-apply for the K-1 or apply for a CR-1. But moving to a small town Ina new country with no way to work or travel or be yourself and potentially need to divorce if things don't improve would be much more difficult.
Or book a round-trip for just shy of a month from now. Come on the K-1 and see the situation in person. You'll know after 2-3 weeks if it's what you want..

I'd suggest having a discussion with him about moving to France....or somewhere else you could both live and work in the EU. if he's not willing to consider making that sacrifice for you, it seems unfair for him to expect that same sacrifice.
I completely agree with CatherineA. Would you date a French guy exhibiting the same behavior? The visa doesn't mean you have to go to the US, just that you're able to. Contact the embassy about extending the visa. Unfortunately none of us can tell you definitively if they can/will/for how long, but you should certainly try.
And expecting you to move over and burn through your savings just to survive seems childish and irresponsible.

I think CatherineA has put it best. If you wouldn't marry this guy right now if he lived down the street due to some of the issues and behaviors, then don't go to the US to marry him. Relationships are hard enough, marriage doesn't make it any easier. And immigration certainly throws some stress into the mix.
It sounds like a lot of typical relationship hurdles independent of the immigration ones. If you want to work and be independent and not be a full time stay at home mom, those are huge differences in what you both have planned for he future.
Postpone or cancel this visa. Work through some of the other major issues. You can always re-apply for the K-1 or apply for a CR-1. But moving to a small town Ina new country with no way to work or travel or be yourself and potentially need to divorce if things don't improve would be much more difficult.
Or book a round-trip for just shy of a month from now. Come on the K-1 and see the situation in person. You'll know after 2-3 weeks if it's what you want..

I think CatherineA has put it best. If you wouldn't marry this guy right now if he lived down the street due to some of the issues and behaviors, then don't go to the US to marry him. Relationships are hard enough, marriage doesn't make it any easier. And immigration certainly throws some stress into the mix.
It sounds like a lot of typical relationship hurdles independent of the immigration ones. If you want to work and be independent and not be a full time stay at home mom, those are huge differences in what you both have planned for he future.
Postpone or cancel this visa. Work through some of the other major issues. You can always re-apply for the K-1 or apply for a CR-1. But moving to a small town Ina new country with no way to work or travel or be yourself and potentially need to divorce if things don't improve would be much more difficult.
Or book a round-trip for just shy of a month from now. Come on the K-1 and see the situation in person. You'll know after 2-3 weeks if it's what you want..

It's obviously your choice, but remaining illegally in the US is not a good plan.
I would personally choose not to travel in 2 weeks. You can email the embassy about extending your visa. It's possible you could just redo the medical down the road and retain your visa. If you feel more comfortable with the situation, you could always get married (probably in your country) and apply for the spouse visa.
Are jobs difficult to come by where he lives? I would personally be much more upset if he could find a job and wasn't (there are always jobs somewhere). Maybe he needs to consider taking whatever job he can get?
I wish you the best with everything. Definitely a touch decision.

No effect on the EAD and, as mentioned, no legal repercussions unless it was in a contract you signed upon accepting the role.

Click on Report and request they inactivate it.

Green card holders can apply for citizenship 3 years from LPR date if they remain married to the USC for that time period. It's 5 years for all other green card holders.

SSN shouldn't be required to get her on your insurance. There are some threads about people having to go back and forth with HR about it, but I believe it's legally not required. Do your homework and talk to HR. If the I-94 expires tomorrow, you can't get the SSN until the EAD or green card arrive now.

They want to know what website you used. If the site is an IMB (International Marriage Broker), then you have to prove that there was consent given through that site. If you met on Facebook, Instagram, or something well-known as a social networking site, then just mention the site and when you started corresponding. If the site you met on is less well known, see if you can find something that states that the site is not an IMB and send that back as well with the RFE.
And as a K-1, one of the requirements is to have met in person in the last 2 years, so I'd hope and assume you have done so (there are incredibly rare exceptions to this rule when extreme hardship for the USC can be proven).

They want to know what website you used. If the site is an IMB (International Marriage Broker), then you have to prove that there was consent given through that site. If you met on Facebook, Instagram, or something well-known as a social networking site, then just mention the site and when you started corresponding. If the site you met on is less well known, see if you can find something that states that the site is not an IMB and send that back as well with the RFE.
And as a K-1, one of the requirements is to have met in person in the last 2 years, so I'd hope and assume you have done so (there are incredibly rare exceptions to this rule when extreme hardship for the USC can be proven).