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Dowry is not being practice in Philippines. What's common is lifetime support to all of the extended family for hospital bills, tuition fees, electric bills, etc. You are expected to be everyone's emergency fund because you're the Kano and you have the money so it's your responsibility to redistribute your wealth. This is especially true for Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) or from somebody who's married to a foreigner. How much you give will depend on how good your future wife is at handling family pressure and has nothing to do with how much you can afford.
Check out this link, http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/232940-financial-support-to-my-wifes-family-in-the-philippines/.

This is exactly what I did during my first few months over here. I walked around the neighborhood. My husband also got me a monthly bus pass so I hopped on the bus and watched the view outside, got off at the last stop, got on it again when it's about to leave and got off at my stop. The good thing about buses over here is that they have a schedule so you know when it's supposed to arrive/leave. Then, the following day, I took another bus route and did the same thing. I took the same route as well over and over until I'm familiar with the surroundings. I've been to places that my husband hasn't even been to because I had lots of time on my hands. I was just always outside. I got more confident as time passes. I went to the grocery store even if I didn't need to buy anything just so that I could get used to my surroundings. I also took the subway and checked out the stops and see what's there. I also talked to the people next to me asking about directions and telling them that I was new in the area. The more I talked to people, the easier it was to understand them. I also went to DMV by bus or Social Security by myself. When we went out to eat, I'd order for me and my husband so that I'll get used to their accent. I live in Los Angeles so I had to get used to multiple countries' accents and not just Americans. I'd do the same thing over and over and after a while, it wasn't scary anymore. My advise is to just go out there!

Dowry is not being practice in Philippines. What's common is lifetime support to all of the extended family for hospital bills, tuition fees, electric bills, etc. You are expected to be everyone's emergency fund because you're the Kano and you have the money so it's your responsibility to redistribute your wealth. This is especially true for Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) or from somebody who's married to a foreigner. How much you give will depend on how good your future wife is at handling family pressure and has nothing to do with how much you can afford.
Check out this link, http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/232940-financial-support-to-my-wifes-family-in-the-philippines/.

This is what happens to the kano after a few years of marriage.

Dowry is not being practice in Philippines. What's common is lifetime support to all of the extended family for hospital bills, tuition fees, electric bills, etc. You are expected to be everyone's emergency fund because you're the Kano and you have the money so it's your responsibility to redistribute your wealth. This is especially true for Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) or from somebody who's married to a foreigner. How much you give will depend on how good your future wife is at handling family pressure and has nothing to do with how much you can afford.
Check out this link, http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/232940-financial-support-to-my-wifes-family-in-the-philippines/.

Dowry is not being practice in Philippines. What's common is lifetime support to all of the extended family for hospital bills, tuition fees, electric bills, etc. You are expected to be everyone's emergency fund because you're the Kano and you have the money so it's your responsibility to redistribute your wealth. This is especially true for Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) or from somebody who's married to a foreigner. How much you give will depend on how good your future wife is at handling family pressure and has nothing to do with how much you can afford.
Check out this link, http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/232940-financial-support-to-my-wifes-family-in-the-philippines/.

Dowry is not being practice in Philippines. What's common is lifetime support to all of the extended family for hospital bills, tuition fees, electric bills, etc. You are expected to be everyone's emergency fund because you're the Kano and you have the money so it's your responsibility to redistribute your wealth. This is especially true for Overseas Filipino Workers (OFWs) or from somebody who's married to a foreigner. How much you give will depend on how good your future wife is at handling family pressure and has nothing to do with how much you can afford.
Check out this link, http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/232940-financial-support-to-my-wifes-family-in-the-philippines/.

She posted to brag. That is the only reason. Had she posted "my husband is coming over on a dual-intent visa instead of a spousal one" then posting would make sense. She made some vague comment to get people wondering.
Posting comments that have people who are waiting to be with their loved ones wondering how, and if they can use it, it just plain mean.
Why WOULD people be happy for someone they worry is breaking the law? Jumping the queue? Some people have been waiting a long long time... they want to know, they want help, and instead she throws some cryptic comment that basically says "screw the rest of you, we found a loophole and I'm not going to tell you how we did it". It was mean and that's why people jumped on her.

ahhh....well thats clear as mud. good luck on the rest of your journey

If' you're single, then I believe that the only person you need to provide for is yourself. I had a high-paying job right after I graduated and passed my Engineering board exam. I didn't marry a foreigner to escape poverty. I met my husband through work. I was working for a Philippine-based US company while I was in Philippines and he was working in Los Angeles. I didn't seek out a foreign husband especially since I just graduated from college. I wasn't even thinking about getting married.
I knew that competition was high for job seekers so I prepared myself by going to a top Engineering school, getting good grades, and sending out 200 resumes within a month of passing the board exam. I got job offers in less than a month and accepted a job that I liked within 2 months.
I don't send remittances to Philippines either. The best way to kill the motivation to strive success is to give person free money. Why work when you can just be lazy and get money from someone else still? Even the bible says in 2 Thessalonians 3, if you don't work then you don't eat. Philippines is poor not because of lack of opportunities, but because of the "strong family culture". Those who work hard are pressured into redistributing money to those who doesn't work. If you don't give in to the family pressure of giving money, then you get shunned by your relatives. Even distant relatives feel entitled to the money you earn even if you hardly know them.
My husband lives in Los Angeles and it is true that he is unsuccessful with women born here. He's interested in women who are into Engineering due to common interest but sadly, there's not much women in the STEM field over here. Before I got married, I've read about foreigners wanting women with "traditional" family values so I told him that I wasn't a traditional woman. I didn't want to give him false hope. I told him, I didn't know how to cook, I detest household chores. He laughed because he said he didn't expect me to do those either and he didn't know that Filipinas were viewed as such. He just thought that Philippines surprisingly have lots of women Engineers.
When he proposed to me, he told me that I'll be happier with him than marrying somebody from my own culture who expects me to cook, clean the home and bring him his slippers. After getting married, my husband has been making me breakfast everyday until now. He washes the clothes, I put them away. I wash the dishes, he put them away. He cooks, I clean up after. We both hate cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming so we just outsource that. He changes our daughter's diapers, gives her a bath, feeds her, plays with her as much as I do.
Women are also not the only people who marries for money. My husband and I discussed finances before getting married and he told me one of the reasons he likes me is because he thinks I can support myself. He said he wants a partner not somebody who would solely rely on him. He thought my skills in Philippines could be easily transferred to a high paying job over here. He isn't a deadbeat either. He makes over 50% more than I do, but he said it'll be easier if both of us are able to support ourselves without totally relying on one person only.
I don't feel like I've nowhere to turn even after my first year over here. I got a job using my EAD by filing AOS, but the company I was working for could get me a H1-B had my marriage fallen apart prior to removal of conditions. I make $86,000 which is more than the median household income for Los Angeles which is $55,476. I wouldn't be able to live in luxury but I can at least support myself and my daughter should my husband leave us.
My husband is a caucasian hottie who a little bit older than me (5 years). He's certainly not undesirable by US standards, some of my former co-workers were flirting with him. They just send the message to me in error because instant messager IDs in my company are in the "LastNameFirstNameInitial". I used my husband's surname after getting married so the only difference is a single letter. I just laughed when I realized that they thought it was my husband that they were talking to and I'd show it to my husband and scold me for not correcting them that it was me that they're talking to and not him.
I think this is one of the reason why I'm happy with my marriage. I am married to him not because I have to, but because I want to. I don't need to get married in order to live comfortably. I am easily contented, I do not lots of material things in order to be happy.
I think the best way to combat poverty is being educated and by working hard and not relying on other people to support you. Marriage is not the only way to immigrate. When I was younger, I've heard about nurses, physical therapist, engineers, and other professionals migrating without getting married. I told myself that I'd like to go to Japan to be an Engineer. If I hadn't gotten married to my caucasian hottie, I would most likely be in Japan or Europe by now just like my peers from college.

This reminds me of the Michigan lady who won the lottery, did not notify the authorities about her change of financial status and continued to collect welfare until well the authorities found out.

You know what I think is funny about these posts? Your marriage is failing and the first thing you think about if immigration status. Shouldn't you be more concerned about trying to save your marriage if you really love your wife.

Hopefully your "Husband" is still not listening to his Mother. I further hope, nay, pray that you two don't live with her.

$26.50 is a lot of money for Kansas City. Lots of people would probably be envious of you. You should appreciate your job more. It takes a long time to be a doctor. It also takes a long time to pay off student loans unless you have rich parents.

Spending time together using the VWP with the intent to perhaps file a K-1 down the line and to depart once their permitted stay is up is about as far from fraud as it gets. There is nothing wrong with it whatsoever and you should refrain from posting bunk information like this that has no basis in reality.

No, having abandoned the greencard before won't matter, the USA gladly will take your money again.
There is a small chance that the rules will change (amount of investment goes up etc), and I am not sure how easily it would be to et your family there on that visa.

I would really make sure it is paid - because if they leave US citizen mark there, you'll have much bigger problem with being accused of your wife falsely claiming US citizenship (whethere she did that or not) - which can results in a deportation and lifetime ban with no waiver possible. Being you would really make sure it is all resolved and there is no trace of it.
Also, you should have known that your wife is ineligible not being US citizen and think about healthcare costs before she got pregnant. Not sure what you are complaining about - did she received the service ? Yes. Was she eligible - no. You'd have to pay this anyway, so what's is really your problem ? You're looking for a way to not pay for something you've been given ?

I know this isn't going to be a popular point of view but I'm not sure if you can appeal. The I-864 that you signed says that you are liable if your wife goes on public aid. I think this is the sort of thing that the government is protected against. I'm sure that someone with more experience can offer better info and perhaps some options.
Good luck!

sorry i don't get what you mean.

Don't mind the people from your province. Who cares what they think? They are not the ones feeding and supporting you. They are just a bunch of nosy, insecure, gossip-whores who feed on other people's misfortune.
If your fiancee doesn't want to push thru with your petition, then you have to accept that. Pick yourself up and move on with your life. You have a child who depends on you. Think of your daughter's welfare instead of moping around. You only have yourself to rely on.
I wish you all the best.

It only goes to show that our American cousins aren't racist and don't just investigate those nasty foreign colored chaps!

First of all, thank you for taking the time to post this. I know more about TB now than I used to. My question is, if your 6-week culture is negative, how does taking the isoniazid help? Does that remove the chances of the person having a latent TB turn into an active one?

The OP is not asking someone else to pay for the birth of his child. He does have insurance after all.

Personally, I wouldn't get knocked up on purpose just to get to US faster especially if I'm on a K-1. But that's just me. I doubt that it was the OP's intention.
The co-pay of $100 is a lot cheaper than the $3k-$5k that he'll spend if his fiancee undergoes C-section in Philippines. The fiancee is also from Capiz. It's definitely not as safe as Australia so I can understand why her family is worried.
OP can try to file. Hopefully, he'll come back and let us know whether it's been approved or not.

The OP is not asking someone else to pay for the birth of his child. He does have insurance after all.