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I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

neo - the bank will want to see credit history and steady income. You need to build your credit history. The best way to do that is to go to the bank and get a "secured" credit card. Then after 6 months or so of using the card and paying it off every month, you can start to apply for other lines of credit.
As far as a new immigrant with their first job in America, you will probably have to get a car loan with your wife. She would be the primary borrower, and your name would also be on the loan. With good, on-time payments, this will build your credit and you will not need someone for the next loan.
Sometimes this isn't possible right away, and people have to buy used cheap cars that they pay cash for until they have built their credit history.
How long ago did you get your green card?

neo - the bank will want to see credit history and steady income. You need to build your credit history. The best way to do that is to go to the bank and get a "secured" credit card. Then after 6 months or so of using the card and paying it off every month, you can start to apply for other lines of credit.
As far as a new immigrant with their first job in America, you will probably have to get a car loan with your wife. She would be the primary borrower, and your name would also be on the loan. With good, on-time payments, this will build your credit and you will not need someone for the next loan.
Sometimes this isn't possible right away, and people have to buy used cheap cars that they pay cash for until they have built their credit history.
How long ago did you get your green card?

neo - the bank will want to see credit history and steady income. You need to build your credit history. The best way to do that is to go to the bank and get a "secured" credit card. Then after 6 months or so of using the card and paying it off every month, you can start to apply for other lines of credit.
As far as a new immigrant with their first job in America, you will probably have to get a car loan with your wife. She would be the primary borrower, and your name would also be on the loan. With good, on-time payments, this will build your credit and you will not need someone for the next loan.
Sometimes this isn't possible right away, and people have to buy used cheap cars that they pay cash for until they have built their credit history.
How long ago did you get your green card?

I don't know about that. But there is another way. If you click on the little down arrow next to your username in the top right corner of the screen, then choose "content I follow" that should give you a list of the topics that you are following. You can click on the topic and then unfollow it. Make sense?

In Facebook, go to your Settings. Under General Account Settings there is an option to "Download a copy of your Facebook data"
This takes some time to run but creates an entire archive of your Facebook account that you can save to your computer.
In the folder that is downloaded, there will be a document that contains ALL of your Facebook messages organized by the person that the conversation was with.

You really need to talk to others who have gone before you. Not to sound harsh, but your understanding of immigration and visas through Morocco, or any other country for that matter, is naive. It isn't just meeting in order to be approved, especially through morocco, you have to prove an ongoing, bonafide relationship, chatting online for a few months and only one meeting to appease the consulate just isn't going to fly. And financially you will invest a few thousand in the process just in fees and other incidentals, not including traveling costs. And what about the affidavit of support? You are a struggling single mother, whose children are at risk of being taken away for good if you travel to meet him. As a mother myself, it is appalling that you would risk the custody of your kids for some guy you barely know who lives 7 thousand miles away. You say you will go " if you have to". Why would you? Why? I would die before I put some man I don't know over my children. Do you know anything about his culture and religion? Does his family really approve? There are so many red flags in your case and you really need to do some studying about getting a visa through morocco and talk to other women who have gone through his consulate.

In Facebook, go to your Settings. Under General Account Settings there is an option to "Download a copy of your Facebook data"
This takes some time to run but creates an entire archive of your Facebook account that you can save to your computer.
In the folder that is downloaded, there will be a document that contains ALL of your Facebook messages organized by the person that the conversation was with.

One of the requirements of the I-129F Fiance visa is that you MUST meet in person within the 2 year period prior to filing. There are not many valid reason accepted to forego this requirement. You can find the requirements of filing on the I-129F instructions here: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-129finstr.pdf
Look on page 4 "Who May File Form I-129F" for the valid reasons of not meeting.
I am not very familiar with the way things work in the Philippines, but I have heard that her getting a tourist visa to come to the US to meet you could potentially be very difficult. I'm sure others from the Philippines will provide you with more information on this.
I would assume that in your situation the best way to meet the qualifications for filing the I-129F would be to catch up on your child support payments, get a passport, and travel to meet your fiance.
You may also want to research the financial implications of filing an I-129F. This is not an inexpensive process.

One of the requirements of the I-129F Fiance visa is that you MUST meet in person within the 2 year period prior to filing. There are not many valid reason accepted to forego this requirement. You can find the requirements of filing on the I-129F instructions here: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-129finstr.pdf
Look on page 4 "Who May File Form I-129F" for the valid reasons of not meeting.
I am not very familiar with the way things work in the Philippines, but I have heard that her getting a tourist visa to come to the US to meet you could potentially be very difficult. I'm sure others from the Philippines will provide you with more information on this.
I would assume that in your situation the best way to meet the qualifications for filing the I-129F would be to catch up on your child support payments, get a passport, and travel to meet your fiance.
You may also want to research the financial implications of filing an I-129F. This is not an inexpensive process.

This is the second post you've made where you are clearly trying to make this personal.
It's a service center issue, not a petitioner issue.
You have been trying to gain empathy off of your projection that by the time VSC gets to your petition, it would have been nine months.
The difference between your argument and what the CSC endured, is that the CSC situation was really happening. It was confirmed by data analysis of USCIS data and by USCIS itself. People were not saying "at this rate it will be nine months". People were saying "I have been waiting nine months". Unfortunately, we learned very quickly that elected officials couldn't care less about VJ data.
I never said a nine month wait was interesting. I said your projection of a nine month wait was interesting. I have a lot of sympathy for all petitioners that have actually endured a long wait.
I have tried to point out the facts to you on several occasions about what really happened at CSC. I see that you are far too defensive to try to learn from others and you will grasps at inaccurate calculations in order to support your personal beliefs.
Enjoy your journey!!

And you may want to take a closer look.There has been a ton of analysis on the CSC approvals (or lack of approvals) starting in October of last year. Until 2-3 weeks ago, there was virtually NOTHING approved beyond half of July 2012. That's a 9 month wait, not an average of 3-4 months.
I'm not by any means saying that VSC is not processing beyond their 5 month goal. But right now they are working on October, which is 6 months, not 9.
The fact of the matter is that the surge of CSC approvals came from an outcry of petitioners to their representatives armed with quality data analysis. It's possible that if the VSC data starts to support a similar situation that the CSC data did, then those of you at VSC will organize in the same fashion to get similar results.
But I can't help but point out how pathetic this CSC vs VSC attitude has become. We are all working towards the same goal. None of us has any control over the process or the processing times. We are all trying to making the system work consistently for all applicants.
That being said making false claims is irresponsible. If you want people to agree with what you are claiming show proof.

One of the requirements of the I-129F Fiance visa is that you MUST meet in person within the 2 year period prior to filing. There are not many valid reason accepted to forego this requirement. You can find the requirements of filing on the I-129F instructions here: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-129finstr.pdf
Look on page 4 "Who May File Form I-129F" for the valid reasons of not meeting.
I am not very familiar with the way things work in the Philippines, but I have heard that her getting a tourist visa to come to the US to meet you could potentially be very difficult. I'm sure others from the Philippines will provide you with more information on this.
I would assume that in your situation the best way to meet the qualifications for filing the I-129F would be to catch up on your child support payments, get a passport, and travel to meet your fiance.
You may also want to research the financial implications of filing an I-129F. This is not an inexpensive process.

One of the requirements of the I-129F Fiance visa is that you MUST meet in person within the 2 year period prior to filing. There are not many valid reason accepted to forego this requirement. You can find the requirements of filing on the I-129F instructions here: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-129finstr.pdf
Look on page 4 "Who May File Form I-129F" for the valid reasons of not meeting.
I am not very familiar with the way things work in the Philippines, but I have heard that her getting a tourist visa to come to the US to meet you could potentially be very difficult. I'm sure others from the Philippines will provide you with more information on this.
I would assume that in your situation the best way to meet the qualifications for filing the I-129F would be to catch up on your child support payments, get a passport, and travel to meet your fiance.
You may also want to research the financial implications of filing an I-129F. This is not an inexpensive process.

This is the second post you've made where you are clearly trying to make this personal.
It's a service center issue, not a petitioner issue.
You have been trying to gain empathy off of your projection that by the time VSC gets to your petition, it would have been nine months.
The difference between your argument and what the CSC endured, is that the CSC situation was really happening. It was confirmed by data analysis of USCIS data and by USCIS itself. People were not saying "at this rate it will be nine months". People were saying "I have been waiting nine months". Unfortunately, we learned very quickly that elected officials couldn't care less about VJ data.
I never said a nine month wait was interesting. I said your projection of a nine month wait was interesting. I have a lot of sympathy for all petitioners that have actually endured a long wait.
I have tried to point out the facts to you on several occasions about what really happened at CSC. I see that you are far too defensive to try to learn from others and you will grasps at inaccurate calculations in order to support your personal beliefs.
Enjoy your journey!!

And you may want to take a closer look.There has been a ton of analysis on the CSC approvals (or lack of approvals) starting in October of last year. Until 2-3 weeks ago, there was virtually NOTHING approved beyond half of July 2012. That's a 9 month wait, not an average of 3-4 months.
I'm not by any means saying that VSC is not processing beyond their 5 month goal. But right now they are working on October, which is 6 months, not 9.
The fact of the matter is that the surge of CSC approvals came from an outcry of petitioners to their representatives armed with quality data analysis. It's possible that if the VSC data starts to support a similar situation that the CSC data did, then those of you at VSC will organize in the same fashion to get similar results.
But I can't help but point out how pathetic this CSC vs VSC attitude has become. We are all working towards the same goal. None of us has any control over the process or the processing times. We are all trying to making the system work consistently for all applicants.
That being said making false claims is irresponsible. If you want people to agree with what you are claiming show proof.

One of the requirements of the I-129F Fiance visa is that you MUST meet in person within the 2 year period prior to filing. There are not many valid reason accepted to forego this requirement. You can find the requirements of filing on the I-129F instructions here: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-129finstr.pdf
Look on page 4 "Who May File Form I-129F" for the valid reasons of not meeting.
I am not very familiar with the way things work in the Philippines, but I have heard that her getting a tourist visa to come to the US to meet you could potentially be very difficult. I'm sure others from the Philippines will provide you with more information on this.
I would assume that in your situation the best way to meet the qualifications for filing the I-129F would be to catch up on your child support payments, get a passport, and travel to meet your fiance.
You may also want to research the financial implications of filing an I-129F. This is not an inexpensive process.

To be fair, the OP asked if his fiancé can come here on a visa and marry him on that, so I would think it is relevant. As far as the question, yes, you can marry with a tourist visa, as long as you honor the visa and return or, if you don't return, file the necessary AOS paperwork with reasonable proof that you didn't commit fraud in misrepresenting your true intentions.

And you may want to take a closer look.There has been a ton of analysis on the CSC approvals (or lack of approvals) starting in October of last year. Until 2-3 weeks ago, there was virtually NOTHING approved beyond half of July 2012. That's a 9 month wait, not an average of 3-4 months.
I'm not by any means saying that VSC is not processing beyond their 5 month goal. But right now they are working on October, which is 6 months, not 9.
The fact of the matter is that the surge of CSC approvals came from an outcry of petitioners to their representatives armed with quality data analysis. It's possible that if the VSC data starts to support a similar situation that the CSC data did, then those of you at VSC will organize in the same fashion to get similar results.
But I can't help but point out how pathetic this CSC vs VSC attitude has become. We are all working towards the same goal. None of us has any control over the process or the processing times. We are all trying to making the system work consistently for all applicants.
That being said making false claims is irresponsible. If you want people to agree with what you are claiming show proof.

Unfortunately, I can't explain the graph to you because it doesn't make any sense to me either.
What I know is that around October/November of last year, CSC was approving at a incredible 3-4 month average.
Then things started to slow down, with a total of:
31 VJ approvals for the month of November (mostly from July)
13 VJ approvals in December (also mostly from July)
18 VJ approvals in January (incl. 10 from July and 4 expedites)
15 VJ approvals in February (mostly from August)
25 VJ approvals in March (mix of July - September)
And we all know what has happened in April, a surge of November/December approvals followed by an unprecedented number of approvals wildly ranging from July - October.
I know I neglected to add in the number of RFEs for each month which will make a small difference, but I think from just looking at those numbers we can see that CSC has not had an average of 100 days for approval since last October or November.
I get this data from clicking on 'Immigration Timelines', then on the left selecting 'K1 visa timelines', filtering on California Service Center, then sorting in descending order by NOA2 date.
http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/k1list.php?cfl=0&op1=5&op2=d&op3=1&op4=10&op5=5,6,8,10,11,13,14,15,16,17,18,20,21,22,25,26,27,28,108,110,111,208,210,211&op6=California%20Service%20Center&op7=All&dfile=No&adv=0
I'm really not sure what the graph means for VSC data. I haven't been following VSC closely, but I don't think that since I have been watching these forums (last October) that VSC has ever processed below a 6 month time frame. At times I think they were even up to 8 months or more. From what others have said, VSC is historically the slower processing center. I was shocked when I saw that USCIS published a 5 month time line for them because anyone that watches Igor's list knows that this is not what is currently happening. They were catching up, and I was hopeful that it meant that they would continue to catch up. I'm starting to have my doubts though.
In case you're interested, this website keeps a log of the published USCIS processing dates: http://www.aila.org/
On the right-hand side, just select the service center that you are interested in.
What I found interesting from that site was that before CSC started saying they were processing "July 18", they have been processing at or below their goal consistently for several years.
I guess in short, what I am trying to say is that I am not disputing that VSC is slowing down. I know that everyone in this process is anxious to move on and start our lives with the person that we love. I just wanted to make you aware of what happened at CSC so you can make informed decisions about how to approach your elected officials. I didn't want you to walk into your Congressman's office with a graph that shows inaccurate information.
I know that not knowing when this wait will end creates a lot of stress and frustration. I'm no stranger to that. None of us are able to plan our lives, and the fluctuations in the processing times is enough to make any of us scream. This immigration system needs to change! Both service centers "should be" processing at the same rates. We as American citizens "should be" able to trust that our government will do what they say they will do, when they say they will do it. And that is why we all need to stand together in this.

And you may want to take a closer look.There has been a ton of analysis on the CSC approvals (or lack of approvals) starting in October of last year. Until 2-3 weeks ago, there was virtually NOTHING approved beyond half of July 2012. That's a 9 month wait, not an average of 3-4 months.
I'm not by any means saying that VSC is not processing beyond their 5 month goal. But right now they are working on October, which is 6 months, not 9.
The fact of the matter is that the surge of CSC approvals came from an outcry of petitioners to their representatives armed with quality data analysis. It's possible that if the VSC data starts to support a similar situation that the CSC data did, then those of you at VSC will organize in the same fashion to get similar results.
But I can't help but point out how pathetic this CSC vs VSC attitude has become. We are all working towards the same goal. None of us has any control over the process or the processing times. We are all trying to making the system work consistently for all applicants.
That being said making false claims is irresponsible. If you want people to agree with what you are claiming show proof.