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Wow! I can't believe the people trying to kill your happiness due to things outside of your control.
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR FAST APPROVAL!
And just to be clear, the service center is decided based on where the petitioner lives. It has absolutely nothing to do whether or not they suspect fraud. They assign a service center before they ever look in the package.
Morocco is considered a high fraud country, but the couple that is trying to freak you out had a very long and difficult visa journey. Although it happens like that from time to time, most journeys end up just fine! If you don't have any blaring red flags, then prepare yourself, but know that it is likely everything will end up alright.

We spoke on the phone or via Skype 2-3 times each day, even if it was just a very brief "Good morning, I don't have time to talk right now"
It sounds like you may be more invested in this relationship than he is. Given your past thread, I think your doubts are warranted.

Have you seen this warning on the US Embassy website for Morocco?
http://morocco.usembassy.gov/service/professional-services/marriage-information.html

Your parents are coming from a place of love for you and your children. You've only been talking to him for 2 months, and you're planning to spend 2 months with him. I would caution my children just as your parents are cautioning you.
That being said, I'm married to a Moroccan so I understand a bit about the country and the culture. Is it safe? That depends on where you go and who you're with. I've traveled all over Morocco for the past few years and have not had any issues. All over Morocco with one exception, and that's Casablanca. My husband does not want me in Casablanca because he says it is not safe for me there. Marrakesh is sketchy as well.
I think the bigger question is why you feel compelled to leave your children for such a long period of time to go somewhere your family is not comfortable with to meet a man that you've just started talking to.
I'm not trying to be cruel, but it doesn't sound like you're really thinking this through. Morocco is a high fraud country and many men there spend their days and nights in cyber cafes wooing their overseas beloveds in search of the mighty Green Card.
My advice would be to give this some more time before traveling there. Research the people and the culture, both positive and negative.
Edit to add: there have been several busts of small terrorist cells there recently, so although they have not yet suffered an attack, the intent is nearby.

Wow! I can't believe the people trying to kill your happiness due to things outside of your control.
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR FAST APPROVAL!
And just to be clear, the service center is decided based on where the petitioner lives. It has absolutely nothing to do whether or not they suspect fraud. They assign a service center before they ever look in the package.
Morocco is considered a high fraud country, but the couple that is trying to freak you out had a very long and difficult visa journey. Although it happens like that from time to time, most journeys end up just fine! If you don't have any blaring red flags, then prepare yourself, but know that it is likely everything will end up alright.

Wow! I can't believe the people trying to kill your happiness due to things outside of your control.
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR FAST APPROVAL!
And just to be clear, the service center is decided based on where the petitioner lives. It has absolutely nothing to do whether or not they suspect fraud. They assign a service center before they ever look in the package.
Morocco is considered a high fraud country, but the couple that is trying to freak you out had a very long and difficult visa journey. Although it happens like that from time to time, most journeys end up just fine! If you don't have any blaring red flags, then prepare yourself, but know that it is likely everything will end up alright.

I've read the whole thread and based on everything you have said, I think this guy is not comfortable or too afraid of the real world.
I think he likes to play video games and meet people online. He doesn't want to work, or really do anything outside of the comfortable bedroom at his mother's house.
I think he liked meeting you, getting to know you, having you fall in love with him, talking you into marrying him and having his children. But he doesn't at all seem to like the reality of the situation he created.
I agree that you should not leave France. He has not shown you that you can rely on him. He's even said that you shouldn't come.
You need to distance yourself from him because you deserve better. Let him see the consequences of his own actions.
If he becomes responsible, gets a job, creates a home for you two, and makes your happiness and well-being a priority, then you can reapply for the K1.
But I really wouldn't hold my breath.
You should not be the only one worrying about your future together.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.

I remember when you started posting on this website, and I am very sorry to hear of your current situation. No one ever deserves to be treated this way. I think your first paragraph is true and that others may need to hear your story. What I remember is that you are deeply religious and that your situation had several red flags. I don't remember if there was an age gap, but I do remember that you have multiple children, were below the poverty level, and were researching visas before meeting in person. Unfortunately, whenever anyone mentioned these red flags or doubts about this man's intentions, you were defensive and stated your religious beliefs for having faith that everything will work itself out. I mention this not to put you down, but to let you know that I thought your husband was a scammer at that time. From your very first posts here, it seemed as though he was using your religious beliefs to manipulate you into doing whatever it took to petition for him to come here.
For him to leave you to stay with a girl friend of your one week after his arrival is completely unacceptable (from both of them)! His behavior does sound as if he is trying to control you, and I don't think it's an adjustment issue. It's an abusive situation. For him to treat you this way is abuse. You glossed over a "little physical stuff", but you need to stop making excuses for him. This acting better, then turning on you, then acting better... it's called a cycle of abuse and it is being used to keep you hoping that the situation will improve so that you will continue to provide food and resources for him until he can do it himself. Based on your religious beliefs, I know that you may be trying to do everything in your power to give this man chances to adjust so you can have a happy union. But you need to take a step back and see this situation for what it really is.
From what you've said, I do think he is unhappy with the situation, but I don't think he has any intentions of returning to his home. He has received his greed card already so there is nothing you can do from an immigration standpoint. It's possible that after he starts working and doesn't need anything else from you, he may just disappear.
I feel for you. I wish you the absolute best. And I hope you can find the strength to reach out to those in your community that can help you get away from this situation.
Please take care of yourself and your children. They don't need to see their mother being treated this way.