Tayri n Tudert

You can do voluntary work (before you get EAD) as long as it is not considered a paid employment
You are not permitted to work in a position that is typically a paid position.

Hi,If your husband had filed for AOS and gotten you a SSN, you could have been filing a joint tax return.
With a joint tax return, the two of you would be entitled to a larger deduction thus saving you several hundred if not thousands of dollars.
You could also file for the Earned Income Tax Credit if your husband's income is low. The EITC is a refundable credit even if you owe no taxes and paid no taxes. This can get you several thousands every year.
There were ways to pay for the AOS. Unfortunately, you guys gave up thousands of dollars potentially by not getting you an SSN so you can file a joint tax return.
Did your husband files his taxes as single or married filing separately? Married filing separately usually incurs more taxes than filing as single (which he can't do). And both incurs more taxes than married filing jointly.

I see you have a spouse visa, so I am just going to elaborate so as not to confuse any DV applicants who might be reading this:The DV has specific education or work experience requirements which have to be met. If they are, he will be fine. It's not a case of "not wanting to be set up for failure", it's a case of : is he is eligible through education or work experience? If yes he gets the visa, if no he doesn't. It's not the CO's job to decide if he can get a job or not. Incidentally the DV instructions also specifically say that GED is not acceptable as a high school equivalent for DV purposes.
Incidentally, I'm interested you say the IT market is "saturated". I know a few people in the industry in the Bay Area who reckon it is absolutely pumping...

your wife does NOT need to wait for you. You wait too long and you might end up in the states with enough time to bury her on American soil. Or you will get the visa and she will be too sick to travel. Seems to me your wife is not realizing precious time is being wasted , and she is not going to get the advanced medical attention she needs in Morocco. Everyone wants to be with their spouse , insist that she go ahead and join her after.

K1 visa holders are NOT required to pay the immigrant fee of $165 because K1 is a NON-immigrant visa.

I work and my husband is the one who relocated to the U.S so I can't really give you much insight on the budget he gives me because I make my own money for now. Since he doesn't currently work, we just try to communicate as best as we can and he lets me know what he needs to have or what he forgot at home and we do our best to fit it into the budget. So I'd just kindly bring it up to your husband, when he married you he did realize that he would have to provide for you (atleast the basics) so I don't think he'll be surprised or angry.
but as a new wife I clean, cook, plan the grocery list/meals for the week, and try to remember everything I need to do and learn a lot along the way LOL.
My husband helps me a lot though, he assists me clean the house as well when it's a big cleaning and since I work nights and we share a home with my mother, so she cooks on the days that I work. On my days off we usually go grocery shopping together because we coupon (it's a good way of saving money on the grocery budget) or we plan a day out in the city, like going to the museum or the park.
As for a job, if you're religious, you should go to the nearby mosque and see if there are any volunteer opportunities or people in the community hiring. If you aren't interested in that libraries, museums, etc are always hiring volunteers so to get some experience you could always do that to keep you busy and not bored at home while you're searching for employment! Another idea would be to search for a job as a nanny/babysitter, a lot of people actually prefer having a nanny that speaks other languages so their children can benefit from it.

Red flags galore.
Came to USA to marry one chap, didn't marry for whatever reason. Meets new guy just before stay expires. You are going to need some pretty amazing relationship evidence to pull this one off. Your proof of meeting is going to be her ticket/passport stamp into the USA on her K1, at the moment.
If you think you have a hardship waiver case (highly unlikely to get an expedite for hardship sans fiancé - how did you cope in the time before you met her a few weeks ago?), have you checked out the I-134 and I-864? If you are low income you may need to find a joint sponsor.

How about just marrying her and then file for a spousal visa. She returns to the PI to interview. She comes back with an immigrant visa.
The spousal visa saves on the cost of adjusting an she can immediately work. The K-1 requires adjusting and several months waiting for an EAD/AP.
The only risk is not gettin the visa and be married living in two countries.

Why would you refer to a date using a religious holiday of a religion you were not a member of?
Too weird.
Well Christmas in the US, but seems very few Americans use Easter for example.
But Christmas long ago moved away from a religious activity.

Did you go down to the Social Security office to apply for one?

I got stuck at "third world"...

I don't think it was a fake relationship. I think it was a wholly unrealistic relationship. I think she thought as soon as he got here, life would be smooth, easy, with no adjustments needed. And I think he thought whatever his fantasies about living in the USA were reality without ever researching the truth. People like this may think they will have a wonderful life together. However, without the work it actually takes, the relationship goes south very quickly, as evidenced by the OP's post.

I just cant believe the excuses and justifications. I'm the USC married to my Nigerian husband and we've been living together for nearly 5 years here in Ghana. I go back and forth from the States to Ghana at least 3 times a year, staying no less than 3 months at a time in Ghana. I did plenty of research before ever stepping foot here and even now in year 5, I still experience culture shock. A day doesn't go by that I don't look around and wonder where the heck am I again? At times I'm grouchy from being homesick, I'm clingy to my husband because he's all I have here, I'm discouraged at the lack of things I'm able to do here without being a Ghanaian citizen, etc. So just imagine what this guy, whose been in the States all of two weeks is going through. If there is real love that brought you two together, then you should be figuring out how to overcome his issues and make your relationship work. If his brother can afford a ticket for him to come to CA, maybe the brother should buy a ticket and come visit the two of you and try to help him adjust to life in the States. At this point I'm just angered that the time it took someone to process your petition and for someone to interview your husband, could've been time used on a petition that belonged to two people who really know what they want.

The OP is mostly at fault here. She has 3 kids, works hard at a job, so she should have her ####### together more than she does right now. With all that life experience, she has been incredibly naive in thinking that no matter how many times you tell someone what life is like coming from a third world country, they can't truly grasp everything until they get here. Why would she only spend 8 days on a "vacation" with him before deciding to get married?
I feel bad for him...it might be a scam, it might not be a scam. Either way, the USC is at fault for not having enough street smarts, especially when she has 3 kids that she needs to look out for.
Unless she gets married, there is absolutely no recourse for the fiance because he has to be married to apply to VAWA and even if he marries another US citizen, he won't be able to adjust while staying here because he entered on a K1. Sadly...he has no path for legal immigration while staying here. Anyone suggesting she should get married to get him a legal stay is advocating against VJ's TOS.

You are expecting an awful lot from your fiance in a very short space of time. Culture shock can be very real and no amount of research can really prepare you for how you will feel.
I'd visited the US over 20 times by the time I moved over to be with my husband, I'm from the UK which is very similar to the US and I'd stayed with my husband for nearly 3 months at one point in the US. However my first year in the US as an immigrant was very hard, it was a difficult adjustment and I was terribly homesick at times. It took me nearly 4 years to feel at home here.
It sounds like both of you made assumptions and had expectations which are different from reality.

Wow!! I wish it was that easy for everyone to get a visa by just doing some research online and one trip. Just amazing

I suppose you have the right to change your mind but in all fairness you explaining daily life and responsibilities to him made no difference because he has no reference point. He was never married, does not have kids, has never moved away from home. Ofcourse he is going to be clingy he is homesick, have some consideration. How would you feel if you had to leave your whole life children included and start anew in a foreign country. Okay he may not have children but he had an entire family, it is normal to feel the way he does. You did research? Then why entertain the brother about signing paperwork? If you were so thorough you would know you are not responsible. Obviously you did not prepare yourself realistictly to what he would experience. Now that he is in your face, then he becomes and inconvenience? I feel bad for him but as many have stated he has 90 days to marry or go back to Morocco. I would also take the opportunity to visit family, heck after this outcome I would need the moral support as well. What he does after he leaves your home I suppose is between him and USCIS, I recommend he goes home before the 90 days. All you have to do is report that the marriage did not happen and I am sure they will ask for his location so have the address handy.
Shaking my head poor guy....

Why why WHY do you continue to think every single new immigrant is part of some scam? Seriously you need to stop! It was her decision to stop the marriage, not him. He gave up everything he knows to come here, and the OP never said a word about any type of abuse on either side. To the OP: you met him once for 8 days, even you said it was like a vacation. Did you think real life was going to be a vacation? The poor guy gave up everything he knows and loves to come here, I'm sure a lot of it is culture shock, being in different surroundings. You have no financial responsibility for him, and he has no legal basis to stay. You say you aren't stupid, but tell me what's smart about bringing someone you met for 8 days to live with you and your small daughters? There needs to be better guidelines for issuing k1 visas, there should be a minimum amount of face to face time required before K1 visas are issued. Casablanca consulate has no rhyme or reason, they deny married couples who have been together years, yet they seem to give out k1 visas like tic tacs.

You should have gotten to know him better before bringing him to the US, Im sorry to say, but it's true. Truthfully, you're not the victim here...he is. Unless, there is abuse or cheating or any other thing you're not telling us. But from what I can see, you brought him here....he gave up whatever he had going for himself in Morocco, left a familiar place full of family and friends...and now you're saying that you made a mistake and you don't want to marry him. You don't need to do anything, you've already done it...you gave him grounds for that VAWA stuff. A lot of men and women use it as a tool for staying in the country by making up lies that the spouse/fiancé kicked them out, wont adjust the status, etc. In this case...it would be totally valid if he went that route. I'm sorry your relationship was not all it seemed, but seeing someone face to face for 8 days and then deciding he's the person you will spend the rest of your life with is ridiculous in itself. Go to USCIS office, put in writing what your situation is so that they will document it, and move on with your life...do yourself a favor and dont' go meeting anyone else abroad and dragging them into this sort of indecisiveness. Thank God the person you brought to the States has somewhere else to go..imagine if he had nobody there when you came to your conclusion of not wanting him anymore.

One trip to morocco, eight,days.... I'm sorry, you both really needed more face to face time before jumping into a marriage.

Here's an idea. You have only given it a few weeks. Why not wait a bit longer see if things mesh. He has just given up his life and moved to a new country. The person you are seeing is not the person he is. He has a lot to adapt to right now. If he wants let him visit his brother for a few weeks then come back to you and see how things go. You are not married, you have 90 days to do so. Take your time and let the man get used to the change.

I feel so sorry for you that you had this experience and at the same time I am a little mad that couples like ya'll are getting approved so fast! I don't want to make it harder for you I can REALLY understand if You don't want to marry him and you think it doesn't work for both of you....
It is JUST sad that my fiancé and me are almost waiting for 6 months for just a NOA2 and we want nothing else as to finally get married with each other and spend our time together...... Although ya'll both wanted that from the beginning too, but aaahhhh idk! Makes me a little think...
Wish you only the best and hope you find your true love!

Why did it even reach to this point before knowing who he really is, study the peeps you are around before making big decisions like this, sorry it had to go this way though.

I don't think he's got any options. He came here on a K1 visa. You won't marry him. He has to go back. I think anything else is illegal.

It's funny to me that everyone else in this thread is saying things like "don't let him come back to your house" when the OP is clearly at fault here (if her description of the situation is accurate). She brings this guy over and decides in a week and a half that they are not alike? And you are more worried about her?