James&Edlie

@james and edlie
For sure you'll get your visa soon. I've read someone who had refused before then went to ready then issued. ?? Its says it means their processing it. So just be patient if not you can always call the embassy. Just let her cry to let go of that emotions, its normal. But always remember, GOD is good. Trust.

I don't think he's got any options. He came here on a K1 visa. You won't marry him. He has to go back. I think anything else is illegal.

If the marriage would not be legal then you will not be approved.

She is not trapped in the basement (sounds like a full, finished, fully-furnished basement), she makes numerous references to going out alone to church, stores, friends houses, etc. It sounds as though she is free to move about the house she has just chosen not to. If the spouse goes upstairs to eat with the family nothing is preventing her from going also. If the spouse doesn't want to attend church with her this is not abuse. If the spouse goes to the store without her being invited this is not abuse.
She has set up the expectation that her spouse now belongs to her and should devote all his time to her and ignore his family. Notice how many times she states he spends more time with his mother than with her. It is not abuse for a spouse to spend time with his family and for you to chose to not join him. If the only tv (not stated) is upstairs it makes sense he would go upstairs to watch it. If she chooses to not go with him that is not abuse, that is her choice.
The only thing she would possibly claim as abuse would be his failure to file for AOS but if he says he wants a divorce he can't legally file for her.
Sorry but she needs to ask for airfare home.

Looks to me you're better off going back home. Divorce him and move on with your life. You deserve to be happy.

Nope.

Sorry to say this boss, you have RED FLAGS all over your relationships.
Your in a relationship with a woman.
You go through the process
You get denied
You break up in June of this year
and your already to start the process over with someone new after 5 months?
Really????

I wanted to add something to the post.
I laid out some ground rules when Bear ( Bebe ) and I started talking. Actually they were more like promises.
Here they are :
1) I promise I will never simply HANG UP on you. This applies to both phone calles, chat sessisons (yahoo messenger), or video chats (skype). If I suddenly disappear, it is because of the technical issues i.e. lap top battery went empty, lost internet, lost power due to electrical i.e. storm.
The last thing a couple needs is to be upset with each other and then suddenly lose the call because of technical issues.
2) I promise to always practice patience between cultural and linquistic differences. We are from different parts of the world. If you say something that hurts my feelings or upsets me, I promise to not become angry quickly. I will ask you to clarify and talk to me about it. I ask you to do the same to me. You will be surprised how well this works.
There will be times when I do not understand something you say. Please be patient with me while we learn each others linquistic dialects. This will take time.
3) I promise to always be true to you. I know and understand that you may have had failed long distant relationship in the past. Please understand that I am different. I am ALWAYS true to this relationship. Please give me the time to not only TELL you I am true, but to SHOW you that I am true.
4) I promise I will always be patient with you. I will show you unconditional love while you grow to learn and know who I am. Yes, there will be times that you will do something that will really upset me or hurt me, but I will be true, slow to anger, fast to forgive, and hold steadfast in our relationship. This I promise you.
5) I promise you that I have both male and female freinds. That is what they are. You will see photos of us together. Both myself with male AND myself with female. They are my freinds. They have been my freinds in the past and in the present. I am WITH YOU. They ( my friends) all know this. I neither hide you nor deny you during conversations with my freind. I openly present you to all my freinds. I openly express my feelings I have for you to all my freinds. I know there will be time you may feel jeolous. Remember, when you come to the day in your heart that you feel " He is my man/woman and I trust him/her totally" That is the day you will feel peace and security within you. Jeolousy will have no place to hide within you.
6) I promise to always support you. This comes in all forms of support no matter the cost.
It took Bear a long time before she finally beleived in everything I promised her. I stuck in there. I never deviated from those promises. I always remained calm, patient, and true to her.
We now have a relationship that is both strong and forgiving. We have a SOLID foundation between the two of us.
This foundation makes a long distant relationship between the two of us possible.
Sorry for mispelled words. I am rather tired this evening.

Thanks for the comments and suggestions, but we hope to hear from others who were denied about their experience.
As for going to Cebu, we were told that the information is centralized. Meaning both CFO's are sharing the same information. If she went to Cebu, they would see that she had went to Manila.
As for going to another ASEAN country, I have read stories on other forums that the CFO sticker is NOT required, BUT depending on who is checking at the airport, they may say it is required, and there is nothing you can do about it. There are even people who got on the plane, and then had to get off before it took off. CFO sticker not required is no assurance of being able to go to another ASEAN country.
In my opinion, some CFO counselors are playing God by playing with people's lives and futures.

I feel sad.
OP, you are facing this mountainous accusation and yet your best comeback is asking if you can hop on over there to make music videos?

All I can say is.... Good job Laos consulate!

It sounds as if your wife has depression. If you send your children away to live with your parents it will not alleviate that. You need to seek professional help for wife, for the sake of your wifes happiness, for yours and your children's happiness. If cost is an issue the overall outcome is worth it. Please do not sacrifice your family for fear you can't afford it.

I know it sucks. But, you'll have a stronger relationship for it. Nothing builds communication skills better than talking on Skype for hours every day....

Maybe there is a third entity involved. Some can't handle being alone or there is someone telling them bad things.

Perhaps you should quit because your partner deserves better than a quitter.
Do you realize there are many people here waiting in AP for years ?
I met my fiance 4 years ago and we filed in 2010. We were in AP, denied and are starting over.
So please if you can't wait 3 more months or however long it will take do yourself and your fiance a favor and quit.
Will you bolt this easy too once you are married ?
Get yourself together.
I think it's time to grow up or move on.
Sorry if I sound harsh but I find this absolutely ridiculous.

You really have to be an adult about this, and not a love struck teenager yes there's a wait but it's not that long!! In that time you have a chance to say bye to your friends and family seize this chance and think your not only breaking your own heart but also your fiancées which is totally unfair just wait it out! You can't just fill that hole with another person you came this far just over come it do something daily talk to each other Skype with them we all have to.
I Skype with Jessica every night and I set an alarm at 4am every morning so I can tell her goodnight and sweet dreams.

if you think its not worth the wait then call it quits!! relationships takes alot of sacrifices. if you cant sacrifice then let go.. only 5 months and you cant wait???? unbelievable... . Distance is only a test to see how far love can travel...

I feel for you and completely understand how you are feeling. I cannot believe how long this whole thing takes. I also don't understand why they just don't hire more people with all the unemployment we have here. It makes your relationship stronger but it also puts it under alot of stress too. I Skype with my wife every day and try to visit every few months until she gets approved and can come to the states but it's obviously not the same as living together.
We're all suffering, so please keep that in mind when making any decisions. The people handling our paperwork ought to be ashamed of themselves to keep couples waiting so long. Hang in there!

May I suggest taking up a hobby something to preoccupy your mind. Before you know it January will be here. It's not easy being away from the one or one's you love. We on Visa Journey know this all too well. Others can tell you how they make it through the months of waiting. Hang in there.

A different perspective... It might not be that she is having second thoughts about you or even that she is after a green card (as this would be a silly move to not even keep up pretenses until married).. I think what needs to be kept in mind is that she has just left her home, family and friends for a strange country, knowing nobody but you and has to completely have faith and trust in someone else... She is a fish out of water... For you, things are more comfortable and surroundings familiar, but she might be feeling lost... Cold feet about her new life, not necessarily you Per say.
It is not easy to feel "sexual" when you are not feeling like you belong somewhere or when there is a lot of stress. Homesickness can manifest itself in many ways, one of which is a defensive mechanism where you try to subconsciously find some... Any... reason why the current situation is not working so you get to go home.
Also, when dealing with a female, Do not confuse sex with intimacy... For without one there is not the other. A good sexual relationship comes from trusting and feeling comfortable and intimatly connected to someone... I think some real heart to heart talking and trying to get to the root of what is bothering her and address the REAL fear or issues is in order... Put aside the expectation of sex as a way to demonstrate her connection to you and focus instead on the emotional connection... Once this is established, the physical connections will follow... Women deal with things differently, more complex... Approach the problem with that in mind. Good luck...

It's not an admirable job, to be sure. And given the chance, I'd wager 99.9% of them would choose another occupation. I'd also lay dollars down that the vast majority of them feel like it's the only way to save their family. It's actually quite an extreme sacrifice that they make, especially considering the strong moral background most of them seem to have.

Funny my fiance tells me " I don't care what anyone thinks, they can say whatever they want to. The only thing I care about is your opinion because if you think of me as an ####### then don't be with me. I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is unhappy & miserable with me."

If they don't call me daddy or asawa, I don't care what anyone thinks.

just received an email from USCIS that my petition was approved. thanks God

We were approved last night!! March 21 filers. So excited!!!