CarolAnn&Eddy

You haven't finished high school, and neither one of you can support yourselves, let alone the other person and any children that may come around. Please consider waiting. If the relationship is meant to b at so young an age, it will survive until you are both in better positions.

Your petition is not with an officer. It is in a box on a shelf. When its turn comes it willbe given to an adjudicator who will determine if it is approved in about 20 minutes, read the pinned topic at the top of this forum.
Reference letters are not required for any reason for any part of the immigration process and are particularly useless for the petition. They are one or two clicks above useless for the AOS or removal of conditions.
Your congressmans immigration representative in uniformed and/or simply lying to people and YES I would tell him so directly and with specificity. He is either unable or unwilling to do his job and you should write to your congressman directly or, better yet, attend his next public meeting and call him out on it in front of voters.
Congressmen have little affect on petitions anyway. But they should just say so and not make up BS that makes you worry needlessly

I offer the following:
1. ask for the fax # of the complaint department.
2. ask for the fax # of the accounts payable department.
3. fax a letter to the complaint department, clearly outlining the problem with the prior holder of that phone number, asking them to remove this number from their database, and notice them that they will receive an invoice for 125 usd per additional call into your telephone.
4. fax an invoice off each time you receive a phone call.
5. tally over 1000 bucks in invoices to one entity? File a claim in small claims court, no attorney required.
Over a year, if'n you do this, this problem goes away, and you'll get a nice chunk of change - it's almost free money, if you can handle a filing system and an accounting system.

im going to be frank, im a jamaican man and if your really feeling what you said you are, chances are that your right and its best to end the relationship and withdraw the petition. No normal person in jamaica apply for a Visitor Visa 7 times just because he wants to visit. A friend of mine went twice and he got denied and dont wanna go back.....now 7 times seems a bit strange. All you just need to email the consulate @(KingstonIV@state.gov) and make sure you put in the case# in the subject line telling them you want to case close because you suspect you might be a victim of immigration fraud and they will contact you within a day or two. Makes no sense dealing with that stress in the USA, a lot of these guys dont care, they just want the visa which is a gateway to the US, after which they can survive on their own because of the large jamican community there in places. I was surprise to learn of the amount of undocumented jamaicans living there right now. Thank God for VJ it helps a lot of people to see the light

Very few claim to be experts. Most advise given on the visa process is from personal experience gained, reading other people's experiences and what they did, and studying the process from start to finish. The OP asked for opinions and advise on 2 basic questions; Her titled post "Is my fiance a fraud?" and " Can I withdraw my petition?" Opinions have been given on the fraud issue. Facts have been given on withdrawing the petition. Advise was not given to compel the OP into action, but rather food for thought.
Did you read the part where he said this??
That is not stress, that is just plain mean.
Ummmm, 7, count them... 7 attempts at tourist visa all ending in denial.. Nothing more needs to be said.
Now, who is giving bad advise? The K1 is not a test drive from the dealership to check out the interior. Everybody who has ever been in a questionable relationship knows that when "The proverbial defecation comes in contact with a rotory motor" that he will say whatever necessary to overcome the moment. The question remains, "how long will it last"?
The OP has been given some good advise about questions to ask herself. I am sure the OP is not going to fly off the handle and act, but rather reflect on what she needs to do. Whatever the decision she makes, she now has information as to what she can do should she choose to end this, or not. The onus is on her.

Kristina, I do not envy your dilemma. I am empathetic with your situation. Take time for yourself and think this all the way through.
The answer will appear...
Best wishes and good luck with your future...

Very tough. She was being truthful by stating she was in Argentina for 9 months and now she is being penalized for it. But it seems that some are being rewarded for doing things illegal. Maybe she can call again and try a different person - she might get a different person. Also you could inquire if going there in person could speed up the process. One of my family members had to go get her police clearance in another country and went in person, paid a few extra dollars and got her clearance in a few days. Otherwise it would have taken many weeks.

I wish folks would keep their preaching to themselves or in their closets.
I'm headed to see Susan next month so I'm focusing on that instead of the K1 which may or may not happen this year the way Vermont is going.

You better be getting points this ... for starting on 29 February 2012 - 05:54 PM and still going at it

OP, more than likely ANY attempt to "fix" the photo will result in the reviewing officer thinking the photo has been tampered with. Leave it as is, supply addition photos and confirmation it really is you, and a brief explanation of what happened.

Might want to read again in case you missed something else.

Fees has nothing to be done if their parents committed the crime or they did it themself.
If the cost for DHS is only $500.00 than why the hell rest of the immigrants even temp immigrants looking for H1 visa are charged several thousands?
Ask them to pay the same fee what a K1 or CR1 applicant is paying plus a penalty..... this clearly show Obama has taken this step just for the vote purpose and nothing else.
These kids have already received more than fair share from American Tax payers....lot of them have used the Emergency care and education system.

Im learning that Im never going to have a clue when anything is coming at this rate. I was hoping that getting all the paperwork in would make me feel much better. In fact its turning me into more of a nervous wreck than I was before!

Come'on CSC Lots of Aprils getting approved! 4/26 here and waiting! Am in Canada with my sweetie right now and it would be amazing to get our NOA2 before I return home to the States!
Congratz to all of you that hae been approved already!!!

Spending lots of time on the phone, chatting, working on getting things organized around here for him to come home, lots of talking about our future and places we will go and things we will do when he finally gets here.

You should have told the truth, which is, "I am married, but I didn't update my passport yet."

Possibly, but I don't think that mitigates a clear charge of material misrepresentation. If the government asks you "are you married?" the answer in his case is YES.
Furthermore, the whole basis for his AOS application would be said "confidential" marriage license. He is married. Full stop.
OP : I would get a very good lawyer, and be very upfront about your lie at the border. This is beyond DIY.

I am aware of this interpretation for Canadians, but USCIS can easily "declare" that she has long overstayed, because she has. If she were to leave now, she would most certainly be denied reentry and banned at the reentry attempt. Canadians are not permitted to come and live in the US without proper visas. Entering on your passport is entering under the terms of a B2 visa, where the maximum allotted time is 6 months. To DandT, VWP people do not enter under the terms of a B2 visa, they enter under the terms of the VWP, which is different. Canada is not VWP.
So the OP is asking "Did I do wrong? Am I illegal?" And the answer is yes. She was not permitted to stay here for 2 years.
Practically speaking, it does not matter, none of this discussion of how she should define herself will make any difference in her AOS. I don't mean to berate her at all, many people on this forum have overstayed. But I think to pretend that she is somehow living in the US in accordance with her Canadian visitor status is nonsense.

Responses to your post above. It seems to me that you were promised, or expected, a pretty shiny new life and what you've found doesn't live up to your standards.
You expect more from your husband and expect him to be the breadwinner and the one paying all the bills and worrying about money. You expect to be taken sight-seeing and have gifts bought for you and you're not getting that.
Don't get me wrong, I too believe the man should be the main breadwinner but I married a man who feels the same way. I work as well of course but we live up to his income so we can have kids one day and not miss my income. If you prefer a different kind of man then leave him. If you love your husband then realise your relationship dynamic is off at the moment, be SUPPORTIVE of his job hunt but try not to nag. If you love your husband but he just isn't "doing it" for you then leave him. It's up to you. If you're not happy being the one to pay the bills... leaving him isn't going to change the fact that you are the one supporting yourself at the moment... but maybe your issue is you feel like you're carrying dead weight...
There are ways to fix that. Don't give him "spending" money. Get the car title put in YOUR name (or joint names) so you are paying to fix YOUR car. Buy food that you like, and that you need to survive... not expensive food. Put some of your income into savings so you're building a little nest egg for yourself. Maybe having less money to "play" with he'll feel more drive to get a job. Have him be the "house husband" so have him do the cleaning, laundry, cooking and dishes. There are ways to make it work if you WANT to make it work...

thank you for your comments Gowon......
yes i visited in the courtship, about 6 times. He couldnt get a passport because of child support arrears.... whenever i came he managed to get some money together through working.
as far as abusive relationships go there are many form of subtle abuse, emotional, financial, mental, physical. I worked in that firld for a long time and understand the subtleness of these behaviours. And i do not feel it is abuse.
As far as not coming from Gambia is concerened, ( i think that is a very ivalid judgement based on your stereotypical view that everyone in Gambia has nothing) yes i could go home and start things up again, but if you were in my shoes spent 4 years planning a change of life for yourself, gave up your career, apartment, etc. What would you do, run off at the first sign of trouble. I did not make any valiadation on my relationship based on an answer on a website. I got identification on an issue that has been troubling me for the past 2 months. As far a marriage counselling goes, I have already been in therapy and dealt with alot of issues a few years ago. My issue here is about an unacceptable situation put on me by another human being. I have to make a choice if i want to stay and work t out. I do not run from my problems i try and find solutions, which is why i came on here because everyone on here has experience of relationships good and bad.
And to be perfectly honest with you, i think i deserved alot better than what is happening to me. I am no victim of life i am a strong, independant human being who has entered into a bad situation, my bad judgement ...... we all make mistakes but it doesnt mean we have to put up with other peoples bad behaviour out of a sense of guilt. If i make mistakes i am the first one to stand up and be honest about it.........
Sorry for rambling x x x

WOW is all I can say....calling and bothering the USCIS constantly when you just filed and taking all of these actions isn't going to do you a bit of good. It might hurt your case as it will end up at the bottom of some pile somewhere every time they pull it. There are people who file who have valid reasons for expedite requests and many times are denied expedites...and may I ask how old you are? Because you sound like a spoiled teenager who is used to getting everything they want just because they make a little noise. Be like everyone else and wait your turn.

If its true, I am very happy for you. Cogratulations. But this would prove the system DOES NOT work. Thousands of petitioners before you already waiting 5, 6, 7 months.

I totally agree with this! Absolutely opinions expressed on here do not fit everyone's situation. I also agree with the second comment here. So many people are so wrapped up in the "process" it makes me wonder where the kids do fit in during all this. I for one even when i was dating here locally did not let anyone meet my kids. I did not want the kids to become attached to someone and then have them be ripped out of their lives as what happened when their father abandoned them. This is why Eddy and I dated for quite a while and close to a year before contact started between the kids and him. Neither him nor I wanted to hurt the kids in any way if for some reason we did not decide to take our relationship further. We both had to be 100% positive we were going to put our all into our relationship and when issues arise agree to find a solution. Kids do not deserve to be put on the side burner so to speak in these processes. I have seen it so many times in marriages and relationships with USC couples and I for one refuse to put any of my children through that.

Arthur marriage is full of ups and down, but there is no room for VIOLENCE!. Violence should not be tolerated at all, in ANY circumstance! When someone is battered the RIGHT THING TO DO is to call the cops and LEAVE the house! One woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds in the United States. We need to speak out! .
Please let's be a voice for those suffering abuse in silence, and please DO NOT encourage other victims to "talk" to their abusers, but advise them to seek shelter/help in protecting themselves from their abusers.

Right now it isn't about you, your husband or a green card. It is about those twins. You need to do what is best for your the two of them. This may mean haveing their father arrested. They will forget the one event and not repeated beatings of their mother.

Not to sound negative but i really hope you don't lash out at the USCIS when they question you about the validity of your marriage like you did on here.