Kelly C

I know, I can read... but I feel like you are doing a whole drama around the topic, when your case is basically done and approved. I truly believe, that USCIS workers doesnt sits on their places to do absolutely nothing, and watching the package getting dusty. One thing I know, cause I met a USCIS worker a few years ago, is that they recieve thousand of cases everyday. Sometimes when they are very very busy they have to hire a lot of news workers cause they are too full. And check every single file is not easy, check all the backgrounds. You know what its like having more 3000 thousand of cases and only a few hundreds of workers? Cause is not only k1 visa but also, k2, k3, j1, j2, b2 ect ect etc.
Besides that, he told me when they have a case with RFE (wich they hate, they would love to have your case complete) they cant wait for you, to send the response, and stop the whole process until they get your response back. If they have a package incomplete, they will send you a rfe, but they will keep working with other cases. Once they got your evidence, they will keep working with yours.
But also, there's only a few USCIS in the country who are able to process the packages. 6 or 7 compare to the 50 states and petition overseas.
The point is that I can understand why are you angry, and I know that the system is not perfect. But you are NOT an american citizen yet and you feel with the right to open case, basically to tell USCIS workers HOW to do their JOB. People who has been working in immigration process long ago BEFORE you dream to live in this country. Im sorry to say this, but I found it TOTALLY disrespectful.
And the things is that your case may process in some point, maybe wich I doubt it, but things will remain the same. You are not the first one.
My advice is instead of wasting your time and your money, and if you want to be a good future AMERICAN CITIZEN, show a little bit of respect for american law, procedures and standars.
That's a good start

To the OP:
Firstly, for your own benefit, I suggest that you re-evaluate your perceptions of the responses given here. I can absolutely assure you that the overwhelming majority of members here are posting with the intent to either; help or seek help... that deserves respect in its own right and posts should be taken at face value; if you don't agree or take issue with something said, ignore or respond civilly - I don't think a retaliation or 'in-your-face' type thread like this one is very intelligent (particularly considering how premature your case is).
Secondly, it would also pay to re-evaluate your mannerism and approach, not only in this forum, but in relation to seeking a US visa... FACT: the tone/attitude you convey in your posts is producing negative sentiment. It doesn't matter if this sentiment is just or unjust, the fact remains your approach isn't very constructive on these forums and is a pretty good indicator that you'll have bigger issues in working through a US visa application.
My final suggestion? Tread softly mate... and before you develop some sentiment about what I've posted, just take a deep breath, clear the mind and take my opinions objectively... humble pie sucks but it can be very nourishing when eaten appropriately.

OP
since recently joining the friendly site of VJ (4 weeks ago)u have publicly searched by asking "legitimate questions" to obtain a visa to immigrate to the U.S. and this is why it seems like you might not have a Bona Fide Relationship with your SO. I post nothing negative and intend nothing with accusation
These are all your words from your posts in snippets.....
Posted 13 May 2012 ~
I want to move to the US but realise that it is not a matter of "get up and go".
I understand that the couple of ways to get a visa is either to get married to someone in the US and move there (obviously a proper devoted marriage) or to work for a US company who will sponser you and move you over.
however for me, both options are not possible.
I have no criminal record of any kind and are self employed in IT. I also have a US B1/B2 Visa (a business and visitor visa).
I am wanting to change my life and move away from where I am and would rather move to the US.
What things are possible for me to do this? Any suggestions or advice are welcome!
Posted 07 June 2012~
Hi.
if one wants to give up their UK citizenship (they were born and bred in the UK), then is it possible to gain for a US citizenship or would the same principals apply where you can only get a visa if a company employs you or you get married etc... ?
Posted 04 July 2012 ~
I currently live in the UK. I am wanting to move to the US for many reasons. The main being my line of work (in IT)I am wondering, is it possible for me to get a visa and migrate over taking my business with me? if so - what is the process? Anyone know where I stand on this? Like I said, I want to move myself and my company over to the US and continue doing what I do with the business but in US.
And when that post did not get the answers....
Posted 13 July 2012 ~
So,
for a K1 - how does it work? I mean from what I understand the person in the US would file for this. So what do they file? What sort of details are on the form they need to fill in?
what if the DOB is entered differently than the actual DOB? just the years having a mistake?
does age difference matter? she is older than me - around 10 years.
lets just say that she thinks im 2 years older than my DOB. but i think we all do that when you are dating.... ( you bad boy )
Four days ago...
well we arent engaged or anything yet. and it is still new, the relationship. but like i said... i have my reasons. she has her reasons for doing the same too!
Today ~
So I have a US girlfriend. we plan to marry at some point. Obviously means I would move over/immigrate to the US.
The bonus is, I dont need to apply for a K1 visa. I can get married on my curent B1/B2 visa then the girlfriend can file for the immigration thing/sponser. I can still continue to travel back and fourth which is ideal for me.
You seemed to have it all figured out now
BTW
IF this was for me....
what? give me a break.
I dont get why I cannot ask legitimate questions here. after all this is an open forum and it is meant to be a helpful community, not this kind of negitive and false accusation community.
You were helped in all your previous posts.
no wonder the world is in a state today because of such people.
Me being a member of VJ and pointing out that your story comes off questionable does not rock the state of the world.
I wonder why i bother anymore. I have nothing to hide so really, it is not my fault if you have issues. go sort them out
Thanks for the advice....No real hard issue on my side of the big pond
I do wish you both good luck with your future

Let's sort out the wheat from the chaff here.
You CAN get married here on a B visa, legally. Your spouse would return home after marriage, and the couple would then pursue a CR1/IR1 visa to bring the non US spouse here to live permanently. Traveling between the UK (or whatever country) and here after marrying a US citizen can work, or it can also be problematic - depending on the CBP officer you encounter at the POE and whether or not they feel you have immigrant intent (since you now have a spouse living in the US).
It is NOT legal, however, to seek a B visa, come here, marry and settle down without returning to your home country. If you leave your home country with a visitor's visa and the intent to marry and settle here, that is visa fraud.
Some people come here intending to visit for a simple vacation, but get married on the spur of the moment and decide not to return home. The onus is then on that couple to prove that there was no fraudulent intent upon entering the US when being interviewed by USCIS for the subsequent green card. If the USCIS doesn't believe the marriage was spur of the moment, the green card can be denied with no chance of appeal. (Essentially, you play - you might pay)
A K1 visa is designed as a path for those who want to bring a FIANCE/E to the US to subsequently get married here and settle here.
Each path has it's own legalities and steps which must be followed - all of which have been outlined on the VJ guides.

Just for the record... If you enter the US with the intention of getting married, on any visa other than a K1, that's considered fraud. Misinterpretation will also come into place because, to get past a CBP officer, you'll most likely lie when stating the purpose of your visit.

I assume you might want to become a U.S. citizen one day, so you should know that the U.S. is both a democracy and a republic. They are distinct concepts but they are not exclusive. Republics are democracies where power is delegated to elected representatives and exercised on behalf of the people. We do this by electing Congressional representatives and a President.
In addition, each of the fifty states is a sovereign, democratic state with a republican form of government.
The U.S. is a lot of other things too, like a federation of sovereign states, constitutional state and Presidential republic. They're not exclusive terms; we can be all of these things.

thank you for your comments Gowon......
yes i visited in the courtship, about 6 times. He couldnt get a passport because of child support arrears.... whenever i came he managed to get some money together through working.
as far as abusive relationships go there are many form of subtle abuse, emotional, financial, mental, physical. I worked in that firld for a long time and understand the subtleness of these behaviours. And i do not feel it is abuse.
As far as not coming from Gambia is concerened, ( i think that is a very ivalid judgement based on your stereotypical view that everyone in Gambia has nothing) yes i could go home and start things up again, but if you were in my shoes spent 4 years planning a change of life for yourself, gave up your career, apartment, etc. What would you do, run off at the first sign of trouble. I did not make any valiadation on my relationship based on an answer on a website. I got identification on an issue that has been troubling me for the past 2 months. As far a marriage counselling goes, I have already been in therapy and dealt with alot of issues a few years ago. My issue here is about an unacceptable situation put on me by another human being. I have to make a choice if i want to stay and work t out. I do not run from my problems i try and find solutions, which is why i came on here because everyone on here has experience of relationships good and bad.
And to be perfectly honest with you, i think i deserved alot better than what is happening to me. I am no victim of life i am a strong, independant human being who has entered into a bad situation, my bad judgement ...... we all make mistakes but it doesnt mean we have to put up with other peoples bad behaviour out of a sense of guilt. If i make mistakes i am the first one to stand up and be honest about it.........
Sorry for rambling x x x

Listen I am the petitioner for my fiancee. You need to contact the police the next time he touches you inappropiately. Then let them help you as in the United States there is ZERO tolerance for physical abuse. I mean even if he grabs your arm and leaves a mark or bruise, call the police. Do not allow him to work up to worse or fatal abuse. You have your daughter to think about.. The great thing about our country is you will not be left alone. As others posted, there are shelters along with what sounds like numerous friends on VJ reaching out if you need assistance. Under no uncertain terms should anyone be abused. I lived in your country and this is totally different then how your country handles abuse. You ARE PROTECTED and he will spend time in jail. Do not allow him to continue and have NO heart or bad feelings about him going to jail.. If he is as bad as you say then he deserves to be in a cage.... Good Luck

Oh sis.. so sad to hear this. I am also thinking twice before coming there. It was always in my thought leaving my country and to live a new life in US. I also don't know why some people like america. But thank you for sharing this, I don't think he loves you either. It's good for you to have that job anyway. It's better to live in a quiet and simple life than with someone else who never accept you. God Bless

I cannot understand how people can advise the OP to wait for her husband. The guy told her exactly how he feels about her and their marriage, then walking out and emailing her, from a place where I assume he's settled, to let her know that he doesn't want anything to do with her since he has all needs. So what exactly should she be waiting for?

Please let's use the system to look for missing people,desperate families that their kids just vanished or their husband left the house to work, to meet a friend and never came back home, not to look someone that said i have all documents that i need and i dont need your help anymore, emailed her saying he doesn't want anything with her.We have thousands of daughters,sons,wifes,husband missing and nobody knows where they are.People that care about their families and were victim of violence.Let's not use our Judicial system to look for an adult man that packed his stuff and left his wife.

This post suddenly has many more errors than your others. There are more errors in this post, now that I mentioned errors, than in all your previous posts combined. You have been here two years by your statement and you were old enough to marry when you arrived, minimum age 18, far beyond the age which languages are easily learned. You seem to forget that my wife is an English teacher, specifically instructed not only in the language but in the science of teaching it. I proofread ALL of her writing for her Masters degree here and I did actually manage to learn some things about the theory of teaching language, not to mention common errors of a well educated native Russian speaker. Your statements are preposterous. NONE of your statements here are in agreement with any normally accepted teaching program or any expected results with the experience you suggest. Not even an ESL class? Seriously?
English is the most commonly taught foreign language in Russia, which is why Alla was an English teacher there also. Most Russians, particularly young people, have some fairly basic use of the language...you say you had NONE. Simply not plausible.
We would have liked to help you but you are not sincere. Good bye.

You provided the wrong answer and your continuing posts are probably just confusing the OP.
Best to quit.

LOL. Nice.
Please show me anything in my posts where I said that ICE would IMMEDIATELY be involved in a K-1 visa.
You are the only saying there is nothing to worry about which is totally incorrect.
Classic - turning the table when you are wrong.
Since you disagree with my first post, please enlighten me with where I was inconclusive and not totally correct? What would you add to my original post?

No. What you said was "chill out" which implies there is no worries about filing after the 90 days.
So, HELLLO - being detained by ICE is not a "chill out" event.

If I knew who he was, I'd report him myself, si man.

Possibly the worst bit of advice I have ever read on VJ. Possibly.

Whoa. Email NVC now, tell them you are withdrawing your DS-230, visa application because of upcoming divorce proceedings.
NVC will forward your withdrawal request to the IV Unit in Nigeria - they will yank you out of the queue.
That's the fastest way, fwiw, to stop the interview.
OTOH, you could show up, and at the interview, mention that you are withdrawing your DS-230 Visa Application, in person, with a Visa Officer. They can handle the withdrawal request right there. They will ask, of course, so you tell them you have an upcoming divorce with your petitioner.

If you wish to do things the right way, which, given your choice of words and desperation to remain in the US, (for example, "take a chance") you have no desire to do so -- you would cancel your interview based on the fact that your current marriage is no longer viable, divorce your current wife, MEET your "girlfriend" (I am sorry, I can't help but laugh when a grown man calls a woman he has never met and spoken to online for a month or so his "girlfriend" and claims to be so in love) and then, if things work out, possibly proceed with another petition.
Like a previous poster, I, and I am certain I can speak for many others in legitimate relationships, have no wish to help you commit immigration fraud.

You. Will. Be. Committing. Fraud. End. Of. Story.

Yes Seriously.
I am constructive in my feed back. They first day I came here I asked a question without reading the instructions. I was told to read the instructions. - best advice EVER given on this site.
IF you don't read them you will miss out on very important information. Namely the instructions on where to mail things, who to make the payments too and many other things.

This is a DIY, do-it-yourself, site. I need no reminder of the stress and anxiety of the visa process, I am just a little further down the road still having stressful and anxious moments with the visa process. I found this site AFTER I filed my I-129F petition. I wish I would have found it earlier, my preparation would have been much easier and less stressful and anxiogenic. I ended up doing a lot of reading and personal research of government instructions and GOOGLE searches. However the only thing that is necessary to access the site's wealth of free, available great information is to READ it! The free advice and information is just that... FREE, collected by previous and current VJ members on their own visa journey. I have found the "old-timers" on this site very helpful and quite empathetic, if I have done my homework (DIY) and ask focused, informed inquiries.
YMMV.

Obviously not the case now or when he filed since he stated when he would visit her.
You are correct that it will not usually be "automatically denied" but this is a bad thing, not a good thing. This means the case is accepted for processing, waits 5-7 months, generates an RFE for evidence that they met BEFORE filing the petition. He cannot provide that of course and answers with the fact that there is no such evidence, then waits another couple months and gets denied. 6-9 months after filing he is denied and has to start over.
Withdraw the petition and start over now. Call the lost fee "educational expenses"

You responding with hostility will not help in the least. The first thing I would advise is to get your head around the fact there is no such thing as "proof" in this context. The best you can do is to provide "evidence". What you provided did not create a favorable enough impression to grant the visa. My read of the original post is that the communication evidence was not "personal" enough to show a convincingly personal relationship. Since you can't manufacture evidence that doesn't exist, I suggest you focus on what DOES exist that demonstrates a close personal relationship. If you are unable to do so, you may well be faced with starting over after such evidence DOES exist. If so, my advice is to concentrate first on spending more time together in person.
Fiance visas out of Pakistan are tough sells.

Put the horse in front of the cart. Figure out your personal life going forward first. Then make the appropriate immigration decisions.