InHisTime

He sounds 'a little' unstable to put it mildly. To go through all that to get the person here, then send them back, then change his mind back and forth a bunch of times as you are on your way back home? Either unstable, or a sadist, IMO. As Dan Savage would say, 'Dump the mofo, already!'

Hi Sis ! I am so sorry while reading your story. I can relate with your experiences. It can't stop me from sharing my story. It brought back to my mind what I also experienced when I was there in the US thru K-1 visa. The difference with me was I didn't marry my ex-Fiance, instead, I went home before my 90 days. And I think that was the best ever decision I made in my life. It was a very tough decision to make, as it was a matter of my heart. It really broke my heart and shed me so many tears during my flight back home as I leave my Fiance. I know we both love each other that was why we decided to work on the immigration papers, but it was just not right for me to continue staying with them and live a miserable life. I live a happy and comfortable life in my home country.
Exactly, that was also my experiences while living together with the mother of my ex-Fiance. I couldn't spend quality time with my ex-Fiance as his mom was always watching / tracking us. And, I think they are unseparable as they always do things together. There were times that they even eat together and not even inviting me. I couldn't forget it was my 1st bday to celebrate together with my Fiance, but his mom just spoiled my day, by asking his son to drive her out. So many times I tried to talk to my ex-Fiance about my feelings, and he acknowledged it, and promised that he will do the right thing for us, but in the end it was frustrating as when his mom says something, everything changes. I respect my Fiance for being a very good son to his mom, and in fact that was one of the reasons why I thought we could make it. I was wrong, as he always considers his mom's decision. I think, his mom will never accept me. I tried to do everything to please her mom, but she was just good in front of me. At my back, I hear a lot of negative thoughts, which I knew wasn't worth of my sacrifices to start life in a strange country. I could not force her to like me.
Sis, I was lucky because before I went to the US, I got a chance to read much about VJ stories and some insights and advices in the site. Knowing and seeing my actual situation in the US, I just thought not to pursue our marriage despite we already have applied our marriage license. I was so scared-- what will happen if after marriage, they will not file on my adjustment of status so I could work and become legally stable in the US. I am a hard working woman, independent, and I want to contribute to the household. I felt so helpless as I used to earn good money in my home country. I just got the feeling that it couldn't happen, as his mom was making things difficult for me, and my fiance is a very obedient son.
IMHO, Sis, you have to talk heart to heart to your husband, since you two are now married. It was bit easy for for me as we didn't marry. If things still didnt work out, the only option you have is going back home. I understand that you have given up your job, everything in the PI. But never lose hope, God will provide..... just call upon His name. Your family and friends will understand you. This was also my earlier fear, I might have a lot of explanations to do, but in the end, if we have good friends and family, they will understand and support. Ultimately, we need to make and stand for our own decision. Without AOS, you couldn't get your GC, so you cannot stay and work legally. Just be strong..... and face realities of life. I too was so down before, but now I could say, life is very good. I have peace of mind which is priceless. I recovered and now back to my very good and enjoyable work. My Fiance still communicates and even plans to make another visit, but I just think the only thing we could be together if he relocates here for good. If I was able to move there, then he should, if he really wants us forever. He wants to petition for me again, but I told him straight that I couldn't live with another roller coaster life again. That was enough for me.
Sis, I hope, in a little way, I was able to make you think rationale. I know it is not easy when it matters our hearts. But pray to God for strength and wisdom so He could direct you to do the best thing. Love yourself..... and never lose hope. I hope your situation changes soon and become better.
God bless and take care always.

Being proactive doesn't necessarily mean being creative in assumptions, Unknown Guest / Yojoe. Really, "shacked up with a new guy already"?!
OP is asking for Bob's legal obligations and how he can avoid them, if any. You are creating up so much drama from a simple question.

Seriously, can we stop generalizing and attacking nations/people? It's really unbecoming. OP, Like others have said, if Bob's wife stays out of the country for more than one year or if she takes up residence in another country then the USCIS will consider her LPR status abandoned then he will have nothing to worry about. Aaron2020's advice is the most astute, however.

Whenever I see a post on VJ where one party is complaining about another party, I automatically assume the old literary trope that the poster is an unreliable narrarator. We only ever get half the story and I swear that for every story that rings true there's a second story that is from a 55 year old man complaining while shocked that his 22 year old Filipina was just using him for a green card. Or a "My husband SUDDENLY decided to start abusing me... do I have a case against him?"*
My point here is, doing something like showing photos, or having a blacklist is of VJrs is potentially a hotbed of assertions, lies, or stories that are obviously exaggerated.
*That's not to say that allegations of abuse should be taken lightly, but often these stories are circumstantial and often libelous at best and it is not OUR job to pass judgement one way or another.

Hello ! I do agree with most of the above observations and advices. These are very helpful comments. I am a Filipina and not offended with your thoughts. And I still believe that not majority of Filipino women are scammers. There are still many Pinays who have good intentions and have kind hearts and souls. Most of the stories of successful and loving Fil-Am marriages aren't posted here.
I also would like to say that the above observations could also be helpful to some beneficiaries, not just for the petitioners, regardless of country of origin. Scammers are everywhere. lol.
I also have seen some stories here at VJ that some petitioners have maltreated and taken for granted their beneficiaries when they arrive in the US. We always just hear one side of the story/ies.....so we cannot make a sound, rationale and fair judgement / conclusion.
However, just a little concern for beneficiaries.....
Beneficiaries should also ensure that your petitioners are demonstrating, not just saying, the kind of person he or she is, even before you arrive and stay in America.
Your petitioner should demonstrate commitment to love, care and support you in the US as you know it will take a little time for you to end up working and earning to be able to contribute to the household, especially if you are on K-1 route. It is imperative to discuss and agree this thing ahead, so when you reach in the US, you will not regret and start wondering and becoming bitter about your relationship, which might lead to misunderstanding, argument, anger, separation then divorce. In some instances, since you want to continue living in the US for some reasons, you will be misunderstood of committing "fraud" or being a "scammer" of GC. Some petitioners will really make it so hard for you to acquire legal residency -- once changes in relationship occur.
To stay safe, please know very well the background and character of your petitioner... COMMUNICATION is always the KEY.
I say this cos it is not easy to give up on everything especially if you have a good job, loving family and friends in your home country and will find out later that your petitioner is unkind, mean, not committed and worst of all -- abusive and manipulative in your immigration journey, as it is not wise and advisable to stay illegal in the US.
I've been there, learned my lessons well, and thanking so much God for bringing me back home safely without overtaying in the US. Just sharing to all beneficiaries with good hearts and intentions. Keep the faith. God bless and thanks !

Hello ! I do agree with most of the above observations and advices. These are very helpful comments. I am a Filipina and not offended with your thoughts. And I still believe that not majority of Filipino women are scammers. There are still many Pinays who have good intentions and have kind hearts and souls. Most of the stories of successful and loving Fil-Am marriages aren't posted here.
I also would like to say that the above observations could also be helpful to some beneficiaries, not just for the petitioners, regardless of country of origin. Scammers are everywhere. lol.
I also have seen some stories here at VJ that some petitioners have maltreated and taken for granted their beneficiaries when they arrive in the US. We always just hear one side of the story/ies.....so we cannot make a sound, rationale and fair judgement / conclusion.
However, just a little concern for beneficiaries.....
Beneficiaries should also ensure that your petitioners are demonstrating, not just saying, the kind of person he or she is, even before you arrive and stay in America.
Your petitioner should demonstrate commitment to love, care and support you in the US as you know it will take a little time for you to end up working and earning to be able to contribute to the household, especially if you are on K-1 route. It is imperative to discuss and agree this thing ahead, so when you reach in the US, you will not regret and start wondering and becoming bitter about your relationship, which might lead to misunderstanding, argument, anger, separation then divorce. In some instances, since you want to continue living in the US for some reasons, you will be misunderstood of committing "fraud" or being a "scammer" of GC. Some petitioners will really make it so hard for you to acquire legal residency -- once changes in relationship occur.
To stay safe, please know very well the background and character of your petitioner... COMMUNICATION is always the KEY.
I say this cos it is not easy to give up on everything especially if you have a good job, loving family and friends in your home country and will find out later that your petitioner is unkind, mean, not committed and worst of all -- abusive and manipulative in your immigration journey, as it is not wise and advisable to stay illegal in the US.
I've been there, learned my lessons well, and thanking so much God for bringing me back home safely without overtaying in the US. Just sharing to all beneficiaries with good hearts and intentions. Keep the faith. God bless and thanks !

Hello ! I do agree with most of the above observations and advices. These are very helpful comments. I am a Filipina and not offended with your thoughts. And I still believe that not majority of Filipino women are scammers. There are still many Pinays who have good intentions and have kind hearts and souls. Most of the stories of successful and loving Fil-Am marriages aren't posted here.
I also would like to say that the above observations could also be helpful to some beneficiaries, not just for the petitioners, regardless of country of origin. Scammers are everywhere. lol.
I also have seen some stories here at VJ that some petitioners have maltreated and taken for granted their beneficiaries when they arrive in the US. We always just hear one side of the story/ies.....so we cannot make a sound, rationale and fair judgement / conclusion.
However, just a little concern for beneficiaries.....
Beneficiaries should also ensure that your petitioners are demonstrating, not just saying, the kind of person he or she is, even before you arrive and stay in America.
Your petitioner should demonstrate commitment to love, care and support you in the US as you know it will take a little time for you to end up working and earning to be able to contribute to the household, especially if you are on K-1 route. It is imperative to discuss and agree this thing ahead, so when you reach in the US, you will not regret and start wondering and becoming bitter about your relationship, which might lead to misunderstanding, argument, anger, separation then divorce. In some instances, since you want to continue living in the US for some reasons, you will be misunderstood of committing "fraud" or being a "scammer" of GC. Some petitioners will really make it so hard for you to acquire legal residency -- once changes in relationship occur.
To stay safe, please know very well the background and character of your petitioner... COMMUNICATION is always the KEY.
I say this cos it is not easy to give up on everything especially if you have a good job, loving family and friends in your home country and will find out later that your petitioner is unkind, mean, not committed and worst of all -- abusive and manipulative in your immigration journey, as it is not wise and advisable to stay illegal in the US.
I've been there, learned my lessons well, and thanking so much God for bringing me back home safely without overtaying in the US. Just sharing to all beneficiaries with good hearts and intentions. Keep the faith. God bless and thanks !

Hello ! I do agree with most of the above observations and advices. These are very helpful comments. I am a Filipina and not offended with your thoughts. And I still believe that not majority of Filipino women are scammers. There are still many Pinays who have good intentions and have kind hearts and souls. Most of the stories of successful and loving Fil-Am marriages aren't posted here.
I also would like to say that the above observations could also be helpful to some beneficiaries, not just for the petitioners, regardless of country of origin. Scammers are everywhere. lol.
I also have seen some stories here at VJ that some petitioners have maltreated and taken for granted their beneficiaries when they arrive in the US. We always just hear one side of the story/ies.....so we cannot make a sound, rationale and fair judgement / conclusion.
However, just a little concern for beneficiaries.....
Beneficiaries should also ensure that your petitioners are demonstrating, not just saying, the kind of person he or she is, even before you arrive and stay in America.
Your petitioner should demonstrate commitment to love, care and support you in the US as you know it will take a little time for you to end up working and earning to be able to contribute to the household, especially if you are on K-1 route. It is imperative to discuss and agree this thing ahead, so when you reach in the US, you will not regret and start wondering and becoming bitter about your relationship, which might lead to misunderstanding, argument, anger, separation then divorce. In some instances, since you want to continue living in the US for some reasons, you will be misunderstood of committing "fraud" or being a "scammer" of GC. Some petitioners will really make it so hard for you to acquire legal residency -- once changes in relationship occur.
To stay safe, please know very well the background and character of your petitioner... COMMUNICATION is always the KEY.
I say this cos it is not easy to give up on everything especially if you have a good job, loving family and friends in your home country and will find out later that your petitioner is unkind, mean, not committed and worst of all -- abusive and manipulative in your immigration journey, as it is not wise and advisable to stay illegal in the US.
I've been there, learned my lessons well, and thanking so much God for bringing me back home safely without overtaying in the US. Just sharing to all beneficiaries with good hearts and intentions. Keep the faith. God bless and thanks !

No offense to all Philippines people but USCIS should be really careful with Philippines ladies that US citizens bring to the US and they fall in a scam. This isnt the first incident I read in here nor the 10th!! Please before falling in the "exotic" " not your typical american" type of girl straight away, make sure she is the RIGHT WOMAN. If you be careful, you will save yourself tons of money and headache. Philippines is a poor country and high fraud so OPEN your eyes. This is a message for everyone and not just the OP. NO OFFENSE to any other people from the Philippines who came here with good intentions but we cannot just NOT talk about this. It became a new fashion and its very disturbing. I think rising awareness should be no offense to anyone.
Some tips :
- Meet your Girlfriend more than 2 times before filing K1. Live with her and tell her you want to settle in her country and see what she says.
- If she asks for a lot of money for her mom, brother and sick friend then open your eyes and see where your money is going (probably to her boyfriend)
- Meet all her family and always be aware of how they act.
- If she is in a hurry to move to the USA then that might be a red flag.
- This is probably wrong but dont give full trust straight away and always make sure you know who she talks with when you are away at work ( she might talk with the other guy she originally came for)
- Scams happen all the time but rarely you find a smart scammer ( meaning that you are just NAIVE not to notice that).
if anyone has other tips then write them down. this is a serious problem and I hope the OP will find a solution for this.

Hello Sir, I am so sad about your story. When I read everything how you narrated your story, I just felt that you have a good heart. If you are telling all truth here, then I am telling you -- please MOVE ON and you don't deserve a heartless wife. She was very lucky to have you. Yeah, your financial support may not that enough, but she should be grateful and honored that her husband loves her and doing everything to make things work. She was so lucky and she clearly used you -- because if she isn't into just getting GC, she should try to work out and stay as you treated her well, especially now she got the GC. She can start working and contribute to the expenses of the family and start saving to achieve the quality of life she desires having to, but instead she left and abandoned you. What a life? Now, accept it and move on as God never sleeps.
I was on K-I and my kids were on K-2 and we decided to come home after staying together with my then Fiance because we find it so hard to blend with their house rules especially the attitude of my then mother-in-law to be. We were also accused of many things which we haven't done and always looking for our mistakes and very mean to us. So in short, we were not happy leaving in the US, so I decided to come home and didn't marry. I always think of the welfare of my kids. I work hard for them so I cannot just marry someone who would not accept them well. I don't want to marry just because of GC and then my kids weren't happy because of our situation. We live a healthy, comfortable and happy lives in our country so I expected that was also in the US.
We didn't over stay in the US so we have good background in the embassy. I have a good job here in my country and I am back with my life. I am sharing this to you -- to let you know that not all in third world countries are scammers of GC. Yes America is nice country, but what is important to me is peace of mind and I am loved well with the man I have given up my life and family here just to be in the states with him. I am saying your wife was so lucky because you have given him financial support, while me I haven't receive any money while I was there. But I was Okay with that as even then I am a very independent woman. I had to buy all foods that we need to eat while staying with them. I had to pay for all the shopping we had together with my kids. It was good I had some cash when I went there. So, I think not all would-be immigrants especially from third world countries are just after the GC. I am not bitter about my experiences but of course I have learned a lot of it and even thankful that God brought me be back home safely.
I wish you and your daughter the best of life. God bless.

Hello OP,
I hope you feel so much better now after reading some inspiring and good advices here at VJ.
I do agree, you need to talk it out. Find time to consult a therapist or spiritual adviser. They could help you ease on how you feel being depressed and confused.
I suggest you need to sort it out first what is on your mind, what you really want; and most you need to be open and honest to your wife about how you feel. No matter how hard and long it is..... communication is the key.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, instead start being positive of what could go right. Have a positive outlook in life. Over thinking kills your happiness. Have more FAITH in God and try to live life one day at a time.
Lastly, always be grateful to God in all circumtances, thus helping you feel better and ultimately overcome depression. God bless you and your wife.

Hello OP,
I hope you feel so much better now after reading some inspiring and good advices here at VJ.
I do agree, you need to talk it out. Find time to consult a therapist or spiritual adviser. They could help you ease on how you feel being depressed and confused.
I suggest you need to sort it out first what is on your mind, what you really want; and most you need to be open and honest to your wife about how you feel. No matter how hard and long it is..... communication is the key.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, instead start being positive of what could go right. Have a positive outlook in life. Over thinking kills your happiness. Have more FAITH in God and try to live life one day at a time.
Lastly, always be grateful to God in all circumtances, thus helping you feel better and ultimately overcome depression. God bless you and your wife.

Hello OP,
I hope you feel so much better now after reading some inspiring and good advices here at VJ.
I do agree, you need to talk it out. Find time to consult a therapist or spiritual adviser. They could help you ease on how you feel being depressed and confused.
I suggest you need to sort it out first what is on your mind, what you really want; and most you need to be open and honest to your wife about how you feel. No matter how hard and long it is..... communication is the key.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, instead start being positive of what could go right. Have a positive outlook in life. Over thinking kills your happiness. Have more FAITH in God and try to live life one day at a time.
Lastly, always be grateful to God in all circumtances, thus helping you feel better and ultimately overcome depression. God bless you and your wife.

OP, I am seeing here the reality -- I know you are angry, but you don't have to get into a revenge! That is not good and you are putting yourself into future trouble. Let your heart not weary much and more! You have to move on with your life. As long she is not getting your properties or money or not asking you any favor, let her achieve her own life that she deserves. You don't own her life. You cannot control her. Only God can control it. Have faith in God. I'm sure things happened for a good reason. Have a good life after all.

Well, Boiler, you maybe right, but at this point we could not assume. If you are on his shoes, wouldn't you visiting your brother since you are already in the US, especially you are in a bad situation ? Everyone is different, so maybe no or yes.
A good brother will always offer a helping hand. So let's give him the benefit of doubt. I believe not everyone is a scammer of GC. He may not have prior intention to become illegal in the US, but sometimes because of changes in his situation, gave up everything home and work, anything can happen. We can't judge him for that easily, as we don't know the real both sides of the story.
At this point, the OP should just do whatever to protect her, and important to learn from her mistakes of petitioning someone whom she didn't know much better. Maybe, as a good gesture for the sake of friendship, shoulder his ticket back home.
Maybe the OP can inform USCIS for what happened and why you didn't marry him, then just move on with your life.

Wow! Absolutely......LUST doesn't last !
I hope you are very sure of your decison. He just arrived Jan 9, that was only few days. It is only 25 Jan now, why it was so easy to have a change of heart / mind ? Last Christmas you said that you were so excited of his coming. I am wondering why it is so quick for you to make a huge decision. Would you mind sharing the reasons behind? Have you discovered something to make you change ?
Anyway, if you really have decided, then do what other VJs have said to protect you, just in case he will file for any immigration benefits.
I think you can't stop him from going to his brother. He has 90 days to stay in the US. And, at least he could maybe request his brother to help him buy a ticket.
Just a reminder to everyone, if ever, please make sure you know what you want before filing a petition. Please get to know better....more time face to face. Relationship requires work and time. A Fiance / Fiancee is supposed to be someone who is engaged to marry. It is not easy giving up everything in home country just to be with love one in a strange country; It takes courage and positive outlook....and more, it is not easy to feel rejected and mend a broken heart.
I hope the OP will find peace and true love in the future. God bless.

Why is it a scam when it was HER idea to stop the marriage, not his? If he was scamming don't you think he would have just left once he set foot on US soil? The couple spent literally 8 days together in real life before she shipped him over here. They didn't know each other, and when he moved here she realized they are not compatible. Tell me where the scam is? Has anyone thought about the beneficiary and how he gave up his life to move here? Show some compassion for the poor guy. She told him to hit road, of course he is going to want to go to his closest relative. What would you do if you were in a foreign country, knowing not one person and had this thrown at you?

Why why WHY do you continue to think every single new immigrant is part of some scam? Seriously you need to stop! It was her decision to stop the marriage, not him. He gave up everything he knows to come here, and the OP never said a word about any type of abuse on either side. To the OP: you met him once for 8 days, even you said it was like a vacation. Did you think real life was going to be a vacation? The poor guy gave up everything he knows and loves to come here, I'm sure a lot of it is culture shock, being in different surroundings. You have no financial responsibility for him, and he has no legal basis to stay. You say you aren't stupid, but tell me what's smart about bringing someone you met for 8 days to live with you and your small daughters? There needs to be better guidelines for issuing k1 visas, there should be a minimum amount of face to face time required before K1 visas are issued. Casablanca consulate has no rhyme or reason, they deny married couples who have been together years, yet they seem to give out k1 visas like tic tacs.

Agree. Relationships require work and time. You hardly given it any time to make things work. The guy just left his entire life for you. Give him some credit.
To all the people who just want to ship him back: Even if he decides to go back home he is still allowed to go visit his brother and then leave. I would assume flights to and from Morocco are expensive so why not visit a brother while he is already here and then go home. Call me naïve, but that's how I see it.

Why did it even reach to this point before knowing who he really is, study the peeps you are around before making big decisions like this, sorry it had to go this way though.

I'm surprised people are only talking in favor of the woman, forgetting the man involved too. Did the woman say the man has done something bad to her that she dislikes?
All because she filed for him, so she could just get up one morning and say i don't wanna be with you again so leave? She has the absolute right to do that, but VJers should analyze this issue well. At least you guys have to know what the guy has done because bringing out such harsh conclusions......

Hi, let me share my thoughts. I'm a Filipina and had been to the US through K-1, but I came home before my 90 days and didn't marry. I understand your reasons why you prefer your friend to have a legal capacity to stay in the US despite of failure of marriage with no AOS / GC yet.
In some cases, I agree that "pride" maybe one of the reasons of not coming back to home country. In my case, I never felt hurting my "pride". Eversince, even before coming to the US, it was always on my mind, that if my relationship ain't working out, despite of my exerted efforts to make it work, I will surely come back home 100%, than to stay out of status or become illegal in the US.
It really depends on individual situation and what is really the ultimate reason of coming to the US ? Is it about love and marriage? advancement ? or maybe both ?
I would respect if one has already started life in the US, maybe within 2 or more years of stay, like already having a job, started savings, acquired mortgage, etc. These are very good reasons not to come back home. But for just few months in the US, without anything acquired yet, for me, it is best to come home.
I disagree with anyone who files VAWA falsely in order to successfully complete their immigration journey. Why not just come back home, move on and be happy. We all commit mistakes and don't make like more complicated. Have faith that things will get better eventually. There is always hope.
In my case, I have some very close relatives and friends who are living comfortably in the US. I knew, just my quick call to them, they will surely come to help me without reservation. But I never tried contacting anyone telling about my problems. They knew that I arrived in the US through my facebook pictures and earlier calls I made. They were all surprised that I came home not even asking any help from them. Maybe it was different for me because I was prepared financially when I went to the US. I brought some cash to help me. I am just saying, we should never put ourselves totally in trouble especially we knew that we are going to a very strange place. I just believe that If we know how to get in, we should also know how to get out. Always retain something for yourself -- in the event of unforseen situation, at least we still can survive, and live a decent life. It's always our choice.
Though it was one of the painful experiences in my life, but at least me and Fiance were still talking well to each other. Just wasn't the right time to get married. Time heals everything.
What I am trying to share is that, it really depends on each individual. I am blessed that I still have a very good job as soon I came home. I got some very good and supportive family and friends. Life is too short to fight on something unworthy. At least I have tried working it out and have no regrets to look back.
I hope those beneficiaries who may wish to adjust their status through VAWA claims would always consider looking for MERIT, honorable and Godly reasons in your case. Truth shall always prevail. So GO ahead if you think you deserve your rights and legal stay in the US. I believe that the USCIS establish this policy to give justice and aid to those who are truly victims of abuse. Just don't abuse the system. God will always see us through. God bless to the OP and to his wife's friend.
-- InHisTime

Hi, let me share my thoughts. I'm a Filipina and had been to the US through K-1, but I came home before my 90 days and didn't marry. I understand your reasons why you prefer your friend to have a legal capacity to stay in the US despite of failure of marriage with no AOS / GC yet.
In some cases, I agree that "pride" maybe one of the reasons of not coming back to home country. In my case, I never felt hurting my "pride". Eversince, even before coming to the US, it was always on my mind, that if my relationship ain't working out, despite of my exerted efforts to make it work, I will surely come back home 100%, than to stay out of status or become illegal in the US.
It really depends on individual situation and what is really the ultimate reason of coming to the US ? Is it about love and marriage? advancement ? or maybe both ?
I would respect if one has already started life in the US, maybe within 2 or more years of stay, like already having a job, started savings, acquired mortgage, etc. These are very good reasons not to come back home. But for just few months in the US, without anything acquired yet, for me, it is best to come home.
I disagree with anyone who files VAWA falsely in order to successfully complete their immigration journey. Why not just come back home, move on and be happy. We all commit mistakes and don't make like more complicated. Have faith that things will get better eventually. There is always hope.
In my case, I have some very close relatives and friends who are living comfortably in the US. I knew, just my quick call to them, they will surely come to help me without reservation. But I never tried contacting anyone telling about my problems. They knew that I arrived in the US through my facebook pictures and earlier calls I made. They were all surprised that I came home not even asking any help from them. Maybe it was different for me because I was prepared financially when I went to the US. I brought some cash to help me. I am just saying, we should never put ourselves totally in trouble especially we knew that we are going to a very strange place. I just believe that If we know how to get in, we should also know how to get out. Always retain something for yourself -- in the event of unforseen situation, at least we still can survive, and live a decent life. It's always our choice.
Though it was one of the painful experiences in my life, but at least me and Fiance were still talking well to each other. Just wasn't the right time to get married. Time heals everything.
What I am trying to share is that, it really depends on each individual. I am blessed that I still have a very good job as soon I came home. I got some very good and supportive family and friends. Life is too short to fight on something unworthy. At least I have tried working it out and have no regrets to look back.
I hope those beneficiaries who may wish to adjust their status through VAWA claims would always consider looking for MERIT, honorable and Godly reasons in your case. Truth shall always prevail. So GO ahead if you think you deserve your rights and legal stay in the US. I believe that the USCIS establish this policy to give justice and aid to those who are truly victims of abuse. Just don't abuse the system. God will always see us through. God bless to the OP and to his wife's friend.
-- InHisTime

Hi, let me share my thoughts. I'm a Filipina and had been to the US through K-1, but I came home before my 90 days and didn't marry. I understand your reasons why you prefer your friend to have a legal capacity to stay in the US despite of failure of marriage with no AOS / GC yet.
In some cases, I agree that "pride" maybe one of the reasons of not coming back to home country. In my case, I never felt hurting my "pride". Eversince, even before coming to the US, it was always on my mind, that if my relationship ain't working out, despite of my exerted efforts to make it work, I will surely come back home 100%, than to stay out of status or become illegal in the US.
It really depends on individual situation and what is really the ultimate reason of coming to the US ? Is it about love and marriage? advancement ? or maybe both ?
I would respect if one has already started life in the US, maybe within 2 or more years of stay, like already having a job, started savings, acquired mortgage, etc. These are very good reasons not to come back home. But for just few months in the US, without anything acquired yet, for me, it is best to come home.
I disagree with anyone who files VAWA falsely in order to successfully complete their immigration journey. Why not just come back home, move on and be happy. We all commit mistakes and don't make like more complicated. Have faith that things will get better eventually. There is always hope.
In my case, I have some very close relatives and friends who are living comfortably in the US. I knew, just my quick call to them, they will surely come to help me without reservation. But I never tried contacting anyone telling about my problems. They knew that I arrived in the US through my facebook pictures and earlier calls I made. They were all surprised that I came home not even asking any help from them. Maybe it was different for me because I was prepared financially when I went to the US. I brought some cash to help me. I am just saying, we should never put ourselves totally in trouble especially we knew that we are going to a very strange place. I just believe that If we know how to get in, we should also know how to get out. Always retain something for yourself -- in the event of unforseen situation, at least we still can survive, and live a decent life. It's always our choice.
Though it was one of the painful experiences in my life, but at least me and Fiance were still talking well to each other. Just wasn't the right time to get married. Time heals everything.
What I am trying to share is that, it really depends on each individual. I am blessed that I still have a very good job as soon I came home. I got some very good and supportive family and friends. Life is too short to fight on something unworthy. At least I have tried working it out and have no regrets to look back.
I hope those beneficiaries who may wish to adjust their status through VAWA claims would always consider looking for MERIT, honorable and Godly reasons in your case. Truth shall always prevail. So GO ahead if you think you deserve your rights and legal stay in the US. I believe that the USCIS establish this policy to give justice and aid to those who are truly victims of abuse. Just don't abuse the system. God will always see us through. God bless to the OP and to his wife's friend.
-- InHisTime