ChristineMichael

Are you sure you sent the IRS transcripts? I ask because you mentioned the RFE says,
1) All of the evidence submitted was dated recently and does not cover the entire marriage period with exception of tax returns that are incomplete, Statements such as W-2 were not attached.
It's my understanding that they ask for W2s only when tax returns are sent. But if you send tax transcripts, that's better and there'd be no need for W2s.
Also, the evidence you send has to cover the duration of your marriage not just recent evidence. I'd suggest looking for any mail addressed to both of you.
Life Insurance, Auto insurance
Benefiary on retirement accounts
Cellphone family plans etc.
Good luck!

Hi,
You should not be filing your taxes as single. You are married. You should have filed as married filing separately.
Why haven't you filed for divorce?
Don't help her with the removal of condition. Do nothing. Why would you want to help someone who used you? Why would you commit a felony for her? Why commit immigration fraud?
Document when she left. Any notes or emails should be retained. This is to protect you from a false claim of domestic abuse under the VAWA. You will want to look into this. This is how she can screw you over.
Once her green card expires, she can go home to Vietnam but she can't come back here.

Nonsense. If the check bounces they reject the petition. They do not demand payment, and they do not charge interest.
I was wondering about this too. How can it be more than a month since he got the NOA1, and the check still hasn't been cashed? They usually don't send the NOA1 until the check has been cleared for payment electronically.

Well if I came all this way to be with someone and all we did is fight within the first 2 weeks I'd want to go home too...just sayin

Usually when it is sounded rediculous its always not true, I think she is married and instead of telling you the truth she created a story (very common drama).

Did you just come onto this community site to piss people off? Really. What about the "wife " you bring into the country? She has to give up the security and life to be with you. Can't say it would be high on my list with your stinky attitude. Better end it now before it is too late for her.

Plenty of people would and DO sign it. I don't suggest signing it if you think it's "giving your spouse a loaded gun" ... doesn't sound like you'd trust your spouse.

Presumably the main reason was that he was unable to meet the requirements of the affidavit of support.
There certainly seem some interesting secondaries.

Not all disabilities are visible to the naked eye. Appearances can be deceiving, so I think it's best not to comment on such a thing when we have no idea of the man's medical history.

It’s all good Visa in hand and she is here now ... The journey is brutal the ups are up but wow the downs I don't know if there is one proper word to describe it "Exasperating plus"
HOWEVER LOVE ALWAYS PREVAILS 1 Cor 13:8

It has been a wonderful week as I pick Julie up last Monday. At first site I ran to her and told her I loved her and would never let you go. From SFO we went home in a Limo, but my poor sweetheart was so tired she took one sip of champagne and slept half the way. When we got home there on the porch were some item’s I shopped for over the internet that included her favorite coffee, Yorkshire pudding, gravy, and a few other English items she likes. Then as we walked in there was her dog Molly very excited and her cat Custard, 2 dozen roses and a card that read FOREVER LOVE with some US spending money, 1 ½ closets, 2 dressers and a full bed and bath room empty just for her. I have thought to myself these closing weeks here is a beautiful women who sold her home, gave up a great paying job, not to mention her family and friends … I AM THE LUCKIEST MAN ON THE EARTH ... Julie and I are enjoying shopping, decorating, gardening, church, walks in the parks and dining out. She has already picked out her wedding dress and we have the church, pastor, photographer and songs all set for 19th of Nov 2001. We are learning how to work and communicate together as a couple and make plans for our future. I cannot thank God enough for bringing us together finally and for the love and the support from all of you. x

Patty joined that group back in April and she was member 156. Now they number in the 600's maybe 700's now. The main purpose was to help
fellow Filipinas going through the same thing. As with anything, the intent is good, but as the group grew, there were of course members who
would post non immigration stuff and just blabber about nothing. If you can ignore the bickering and smart remarks and just weed this out, you
can get good information there to help you out in your journey. If some drama is your cup of tea, you can find it there, too...

You need to be scared. Apparently your husband grew up in an abusive enviroment. If he had jumped right to your defense that would be one thing but you had to tell him.
People that grow up in an abusive enviroment frequently end up being abusive. Him flipping out when you went outside is a bad sign.
These are not normal people to start with but apparently your husband set this thing off with an over reaction to you being outside.
For a short time this seemed like a loving family. beware your husband grew up in this family.
The worst thing you could do right now would be to get pregnant. If he flips out you'll be even more alone than you are now.
Take charge of the birth control and put this guy on probation for a year before you decide to get pregnant.

the innuendos/swipes at the op and general stereotyping need to cease.

My input.....it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Often times the intended audience gets caught up in how things are presented and not the message that was attempted to be relayed.....Public speaking 101. Works in the real world too. If one's going to use controversial terms and language then it should be explained in detail to defuse any unintended fallout.
Bob

If you really said it to your fiancee and her MIL. I already sorry for your soon to be wife. Control??? are you seriously using those words. Did you got a slave for you or a wife?
Sorry but it is just frustrating to read your post.

A partner is and supposedly your equal / balance and not a property you own or control. A controlling attitude takes away the identity of the other person as herself. One can't be happy losing who she is. Realize that when you married somebody from different culture, you should be understanding of the way people are raised from the place where they came from. Of course we understand your concern. It's never so easy to find work and earn there. However, do remember that the moment you hurt your wife's family would hurt her too. Between who wears the pants or not. You should also remember blood is thicker than water. If it is really about family matter, I think the best way to deal with it is to talk with your wife. Express to her your feelings by letting her know that you respect them and do care that the relationship between you , her and the family stay close. Don't ever create that wall in between her and her family, especially this time when she will be adjusting. Its no way good to pile up more stress.

While there are a few people here who are perennial pessimists, most people here are genuinely trying to help. When someone says that they've done something, or suggests that they want to do something, that's well known here to be a big mistake then people are definitely going to strongly recommend against it. That's why this site exists - to make sure people are getting good advice.
People are told repeatedly not to make any concrete plans until after they have the visa in hand. This advice even comes from the consulates. When someone insists on doing something that they've been told repeatedly not to do then it's only proper for people here to condemn that action. It may not be "nice", but if people "don't say anything at all" then other new members will get the impression that it's OK, and they'll blame VJ for not warning them when their world collapses around them because their visa was postponed or denied.
Just because one person does something they were warned not to do and they get away with it, that doesn't make it advisable for others. One person's experience does not become a blueprint for everyone else. It's the collective experience of everyone that should be relied upon. You might have made firm wedding plans in advance and things might have worked out fine for you. If so, congratulations. However, if you advise someone else to do the same thing and their plans blow up in their faces because the visa is delayed then you'll have to live with the fact that you helped contribute to their misery.

Some people's documents are easier to verify than others. It's easier to verify information from the UK than to verify information from Vietnam. It's easier to verify information when it would be a first marriage for both fiancees than it would be for people with prior marriages. It's easier to verify the information when a couple send in exactly what is asked for than for a couple who may have sent in something else.
For example, John and Mary files first and it's hard to verify their information. Dave and Beth file much later and their information is easy to verify. As soon as their information are verified, they can be approved. It's not unfair for Dave and Beth to have their case approved before John and Mary's when Dave and Beth's information have been verified while John and Mary's information is still being verified.

That's simply ridiculous.. You tie up all USCIS resources, NVC Resources, and Consulate Time, not to mention you wife's life and didn't take the time to evaluate all that before? Seiously? That cant be true... Is that what you did?
You asked your wife to give up everything, and build up her hopes, and you dont have the foresight to consider the cultural issue before you putting all the people that's been involved with your process through all this? and you find out only 2 weeks after the marriage something you should have already known prior to waisting everyones time and up-rooting lives?
I am wondering, if this is simply a thread created by an 11 year old, for entertainment purposes.. because, there is no way a grown-up would've have allowed a relationship and the immigration process to get to this point without considering all those factors..
If this is a adolescent child posting, please tell me, so we can all laugh, because I just cant beleive this is an adult...

I think in your heart you already know the answer to the question you are asking. How can you work out a marriage with someone who won't even talk to you? You should file for divorce in the USA and move on with your life. My ex-husband also became cold and distant after we got married. He made my life hell. It does seem as if she only married you to get a visa. Most people that run these scams will at least pretend they love you until they get over here but she can't even do that for you.
I can tell from your post that you are unhappy and in a lot of pain over this relationship. Once you move on with your life you will feel better and God willing you will find someone that really loves you.

As a man talking to another man... run fast and leave this marriage. I feel that this is only the beginning and there's alot more to this behavior that you probably had not yet found out...

I'm sorry but you can't say this. Pictures and all the other evidence the OP mentioned doesn't prove a relationship.
What was the 221g for? Obviously something happened that caused the consulate to deny the visa; senators CAN NOT help in this regard.
The consulate won't deny the visa unless they had big suspicions; all of these must be taken care of before any kind of future visa is attemtped. Four years together seems like enough time to have a real relationship develop....there must be more to this story than you are telling.

You did not get a denial, you got an RFE. You did not go to an interview, you went to a biometrics appointment.
You do not understand the process and have no clue what you are doing so it is no surprise you have not submitted what they need. Stop now and read the guides here and the instructions before answering the RFE because that will be very important. If you are not capable of understanding this, then I suggest you pay someone who does.
Children are not a requirement in any way. That is a suggested type of evidence. Read, study, or get help.

You didn't get a denial, you got an RFE, that's a big difference. Your "interview" you went to was not an interview at all, it was your biometrics appointment. All they ever do is photo and fingerprints.
They need more evidence from you, send it to them. It's not about whether you have kids or not. We don't, and we got approved without RFE.

I know how you feel. I wanted a nice wedding too, so I really planned it. I think what you can do is do some research on your area, and already find a dress there. If you present to him all the details, cost, and have it all planned out already and tell him everything in exact terms, maybe he would consider it. The key here is to be proactive, and also to know your limits. When I planned my wedding, I covered all bases, he did not have to do anything but show up! I was also upfront about all expenses, and I already knew how we would pay for it. I know it seems hard, but if you really want it, you can do your own research, maybe he is worried about expenses and having to plan it. All I know is you can have a beautiful civil wedding, or a garden wedding in someone's home for a couple of hundred dollars. You just need to be creative. Tell him how you feel, and also ask his reasons why he wants it right away. Maybe it's a religious thing, like not wanting to live together without being married? Lastly, like others said, you can always get married twice, but to me, I did not like that idea. I wanted one special day, and for that to be it. If that is what you want too, talk to him. After all, it is your special day!