GhQuestions

The money you're going to spend on lawyers and failed attempts to get this visa would probably be better spent on buying your girlfriend plane tickets to come visit you in some picturesque European university while you do your MBA there. 

The money you're going to spend on lawyers and failed attempts to get this visa would probably be better spent on buying your girlfriend plane tickets to come visit you in some picturesque European university while you do your MBA there. 

When you submit the I-130, there's a page where they ask for evidence of relationship, and the final box allows you to submit DNA evidence (screenshot below)
 
To update, we called an AABB approved lab and have scheduled the tests, so I guess I'll continually update this thread with how it goes in case someone else ends up with the same question one day. He'll be tested here in the US, the kids will go to a lab in their country, and it's all kept within chain-of-custody. Should have the results in less than 3 weeks. 
 

This woman you want to marry probably could have been born the same time as your mother.  The consulate there knows how people snag victims online and lure them into relationship as a path to the US.  What you posted so far seems like you have read  "How to get a US visa via an duping old woman for dummies"    It all sounds put on and artificial.  You try to create fake proof and it looks just like what it is.   IVF is only available to those whose bodies support it.  I doubt any reliable clinic would approve it for a woman that old , I guess in Nigeria you can pay to get anything done but you get what you pay for.  Why would anyone bring a child into the world they may not live to see grow up?   Adoption ?   You would have to get married, she would need to claim Nigerian citizenship through that marriage and then start the adoption process.  By that time she will be busy chasing grandchildren from her current children.  
   If you want so much to come to the US , go get a good education and come on those merits.  I know many Nigerian engineers and doctors here.  I also know many Nigerians that came on the backs of US citizens and dumped them and they are almost universally disappointed at the lack of opportunities they find in the US.    Many of them play happy to save face back home but most of them are not living the life they thought they would find here.  Seriously rethink your plans,  slow up and think about what life will be in 20 years when you are still active and your wife may be in a walker. 

Don't you want to settle somewhere before you bring a child into the game? What if you're not getting approved - are you returning the child to the orphanage like a package? Or will your fiance move to nigeria to raise the child with you? What about her children in the US - will they move too? Or will she abandon them to raise the adopted child?

@Wiseman239295, do either of you have retirement accounts at work? Like 401ks? Or do you have retirement accounts at all, like IRAs? We had similar issues showing "joint living" because I had to open stuff in one state before my husband could join me, and then we moved into an apartment where all utilities are covered, so nothing in our name. 
 
Here's a list of what I provided from our cover letter, with identifying info removed. My husband's ROC was approved with the evidence below, and there was no interview:
 
·       A copy of the front and back of Green Card
·       Copy of the front page of our car insurance policy 
·       Copies of a 1095-C from, a 1095-A from [state], and a 1095-A from [state], showing my husband as a covered individual on my health insurance policies from work and later the healthcare exchanges of the states we have lived in.  
·       A current bill from our current insurer, ___ , showing expenses for both of us on the same bill
·       A screenshot of our family Health Savings Account, showing my husband as the sole beneficiary as well as a copy of our debit cards from the account
·       A screenshot of my 401(k) showing my husband as the sole beneficiary
·       A voided check from our joint bank account
·       A copy showing the backs and fronts of credit cards from a shared credit card account
·       A copy of our joint federal tax return for 2016
·       A copy of our joint federal tax return for 2017
·       Screenshots of my personal Facebook page showing posts from our first and second anniversaries (I made my page is publicly accessible if you need to verify)
·       An invitation letter for [husband] to perform at an event at my alma mater and a copy of our reservation for that stay
·       Flight reservations for our mutual friends’ wedding. We misplaced the original invitation but I included an email conversation showing the “Save the date” 
·       Flight reservations to visit our friends’ vacation home in
·       Flight reservations to visit [state] before our move here
·       Flight reservations, hotel reservations, a copy of husband’s Schengen visa, EU entry stamps on both of our passports, to visit _____ for the _____ Festival
·       Pictures of us together 
 
I also included the following explanation (this is verbatim with identifying info removed):
I wanted to also clarify that joint utility accounts are not included in our evidence because I had to move to [state] to start a new job before my husband had been approved for his CR-1, so all of the accounts were set up before he had a Social Security number or permission to be in the US. Since we’ve moved, we have been living in a rental where utilities are included in the price, so all internet, electricity, water, gas, and trash collection bills are in our landlord’s name. Additionally, our cell phones are on a family plan with the rest of my immediate family, so we don’t have a cell phone bill addressed to us.   
So, we were missing a lot of the stuff you were but it turned out OK. Are either of you active on social media? Do you have anniversary posts, wedding posts, etc., with a lot of likes and comments? Every time we submit something I make screenshots of posts like that with all the comments expanded (which shows that your marriage is known about by lots of people). Do you have pictures together at functions like weddings? Personal mail addressed to both of you (like invitations, thank you cards, Christmas cards, etc.)?

Yup, I ended up answering "Yes", explaining the situation, and then in the area where you can include additional evidence I included screenshots from the official program photographers webpage showing him teaching. Hope it doesn't cause any issues.  

Sorry I never came back, got caught up at work. To update info for other people in the future, in case anyone is ever interested:
We applied for an exception to do DCF and in Amsterdam and were granted permission to do so.
When we got permission we were told to file I-130s in person a week later. We did so. We received packet three in the mail less than two weeks later, immediately sent that we were ready for interview, and received a date about 6 weeks later (this was this past Tuesday) He got put into AP for a week, and was approved today. We don't know what the AP was about. Questions they focused on were his ex and children with her and whether I know about them (I do, we lived together in Ghana for years), whether he had ever had police issues in the US (he never had, but they kept asking over and over). Regarding moving to another forum, I think his country of origin is still relevant, especially given the suspicion that Ghanaian passport holders have to deal with. Neither of us are Dutch, even though we went through the Amsterdam consulate.
Anyways, it all worked out now. I need to update my own chart and then I'll fill in the formal timeline so the datapoints come up for other people.