Husband wont let me work, what can I do?

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On 11/30/2020 at 11:42 PM, seekingthetruth said:

I agree.

 

One thing I noticed in this topic was how some are so quick to cry out "abuse" and seem to suggest there is a dead end here.  We only have one side of the story and the suggestion of "verbal abuse" is going out out on a limb at this time.  Their situation is bad.  I can see how tired they must be and when people are exhausted, tempers flare, words are said, and many are regretted later.

 

I don't condone abuse, especially physical, but I hope they can work on their issues, and solve them.  Remember, kids are involved, and kids suffer greatly when couples split.  Of course, sometimes it has to be that way, but in some cultures, it has become the easy way out, and that is sad.  Around 50% divorce rate in the U.S.A. now, and society suffers.  It is so quick and easy.

 

I live in the Philippines, and divorce is not legal.  I don't agree with that, but I do agree that it makes couples work harder to solve problems, even if only for the sake of the kids.  There is no quick and easy way out.

 

Life is a roller coaster!  Hang on for the ride!

I agree with most of your post except the highlighted portion. The lack of divorce law in the Philippines results in thousands of abandoned women raising children on their own without any hope of remarriage. Child support is almost nonexistent at worst and negligible at best. So men have no repercussions in just leaving the family and going elsewhere. So women and children suffer.

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7 hours ago, boris64 said:

I agree with most of your post except the highlighted portion. The lack of divorce law in the Philippines results in thousands of abandoned women raising children on their own without any hope of remarriage. Child support is almost nonexistent at worst and negligible at best. So men have no repercussions in just leaving the family and going elsewhere. So women and children suffer.

I agree with you and your described group is probably the large one.  As I said, I don't agree with "no divorce" and SOME couples may work harder to make it work due to this and their mostly Catholic upbringing.  I was contrasting with the U.S. where couples get divorced over very minor issues that could be worked out if they tried harder.