(CR1)- Questions for approval.

[Jayc9l 0]

Hey Guys, 

 

*I apologize in advance if this is the improper section*

 

Ill start with some back story, I met my Girlfriend 2 years ago now on an online dating site, We have yet to meet in person as now with covid-19 all (4) attempts have had something go wrong. 

 

(Attempt-1 ) we meet July 14th 2018 and hit off pretty well, She was working abroad in Malaysia, around October after a few month of talking i was planning on visiting her that December since we both felt comfortable enough to meet and person. November comes along and her Employer tells her she is not allowed to leave the house, this is after her Agency tells he she is allowed a (1) week vacation. Her employers issue was the whole online part of the relationship and that my girlfriend had no idea whom i was and if i would cause her harm etc. I understood her employers concern and tried to talk to her but that was a no go. After that conversation her employer called her agency and informed her of our planned visit and they canned the whole idea. my girlfriend is a mother of 2 so i was not going to push it, We were meeting for the first time, to see if we would hit off in person like we did online, she is extremely independent and the bread winner for her house, the last thing i wanted was to cost this woman her job and us not even become a thing.  So we decided to wait until her contract was over in October 2019. 

 

(Attempt 2) After the whole situation, The new year starts and i get offered a Extremely well position  for a Dominant Global IT company, We talked about it and how this will effect our October meet later on in the year, as i wont have Vacation time right away, I take the offer as the money and benefits are to good to allow to pass by and by this point we are extremely close my phone literally has  her messenger info burned into the screen, since we basically video chat from when i wake up till she goes to sleep, vice-versa every single day. I talk with her kids daily at this point and were always watching movies together, and showing them the cartoons i grew up with, plus helping them with school. We knew it would hurt us for our visit, but i was confident in her, never once have i been asked for anything, she is a very strong independent woman, and since day 1 it was made very well known to me she was looking for a relationship not a sugar daddy or bank account, In other words i was an option for romance not a need for survivability. So this job would open doors for us in the future as i know saw her part of it, and accepted becoming a step dad. We planned for me to visit in December so i could take my sick day + vacation days + holiday + January vacation so i could be with them for (2) months as it was already approved by my management. 

 

(Attempt 3)

Wee get to December and things are going Great, she was working locally the kids were doing great int school, and my new job is amazing. Around Mid-November I get extremely sick, My job is on a college campus so I'  am constantly running around campus and i live on the East-Coast. I end up having to use my sick time, since i ended up staying 4 days in the hospital and then had to use some of my vacation time during my recovery while at home.  This sends me into a pretty depressed state since, well its now 3 attempts in my mind im thinking shes going to call it off. She probably thinks I am all words no action and I'm just wasting her time. We spoke about it and nothing negative happened, she wanted me to do a speedy recovery and was extremely Level headed with it. I spoke to my management and they allowed me to still take my two-months as my Hard line-manager married a woman from Brazil and knew the difficulty's that can arise while doing international dating etc. I was extremely happy and we planned for me to visit July 2020, since it would be our (2) year anniversary. 

 

(Attempt 4) covid-19 ....

 

I now have my flight booked for December i swear at this point Delta must think i just like having my name on their book or something. I have been approved to stay the (2) Months and 15 days in the Philippines, since all the uncertainty in the world right now my question to this forums is after the last two years with all the ups and downs, we have become very close and we both feel only the distance is what separates us at this point, we have spoken about marriage possibly in December if nothing else goes wrong, but our biggest fear is our CR1 will just be Declined since we will have only spent (2) months in person and since i would be using all my vacation time for 2020 +2021 it would be another year wait before i can go visit again. We have only a little idea how this process works, i have read on this forum the stories of those who have been approved and declined.  but given our situation do you guys think we have a shot? what are some recommendations and suggestions. I think ill be asked this question but after covid-19 she ended up losing her job, so I have begun to assist her in feeding the Kids + bills. this is the first time i have ever assisted as before i always got a very firm NO, if an exact number is needed its ($400) usd a month is this something i need to keep records for? 

 

Thank you all in advance. 

[Xyrstine 224]

I don't understand why you didn't visit in December... And you have already decided to marry this person and discuss visa options? And are financing her? This will highly likely raise a lot of red flags for those reviewing the case as it doesn't come across as a genuine relationship. 

 

You have 2 options, visit her and then apply for a K1 visa on which she can travel to the US as your fiancée and marry you (with the requirement of meeting for the last 2 years) OR CR1 visa after you both are married. Only after you are married can you apply, and you will need to prove it is a bonafide relationship as well as meet income requirements. I'll be honest, you financing her doesn't add to the genuineness of the relationship and it is definitely NOT something that is required. If you want more information on the CR1 spousal visa process- just check out the guides on this site and/or Google. 

 

I don't understand why you are putting off meeting your potential partner for life and instead focusing on the visa process.... Fair enough it is due to sickness/circumstances outside your control (although the whole employer restricting travel does not seem legitimate but anyways). I wouldn't worry about visa process right now in your position and instead be worried about whether you are actually compatible in person. The more evidence/time spent together = more proof of having a bonafide relationship.

[pushbrk 12,968]

Two months together in person is far more than the average time together for successful spouse visa cases.  Carry on.  Just get there and get married, or get there and do a fiancee visa.  At the moment, you may not be able to obtain the needed affidavit of single status from the Embassy in Manila or Consular Services in Cebu City.  Without that, you won't be marrying in the Philippines.  Plan to spend a full business day in Manila, as the Consular Services there are more likely to be open than Cebu.  Cebu City is a HOTSPOT for Covid right now.  The hottest in the PI.

 

Marriage in the Philippine is logistically complicated but quite doable.  If possible, she should get on the schedule for your premarital seminar before you arrive.

 

Start here.  https://ph.usembassy.gov/u-s-citizen-services/local-resources-of-u-s-citizens/getting-married/

[Xyrstine 224]

I think you will find this thread an interesting read. There are some similarities between their case and yours. I would strongly advise you to take some guidance from some of the advice given there; especially regarding meeting/proof of bonafide relationship/gifting money.

 

 

[Gelline 5]

Hi.

Its up to you to provide enough evidence to show that your relationship is real.

Someone got approved for visa despite them having just met once, they met once and decided to get married right away. The consul asked her why they got married right away, sure they get very skeptical about it but its really up to you to show them the relationship is real.

Gather as much evidence as you can

Dont be discouraged as long as your relationship is real and genuine, you shouldnt be scared.

[SteveInBostonI130 3,467]

Hello,

 

I caution you to make sure you two want to get married.  You have not met in person yet, and no matter how the online relationship is going, the physical meeting is extremely important.  It will let you know if marriage is right for the two of you.  And you two need to decide that in person and focus on how the two of you are with each other.  Do not make the mistake in thinking that the 2 yrs of online relationship is "wasted" if you don't get along after the meeting.  The worst thing is to enter into a marriage that is doomed to fail.

 

Now, in a glass is half full viewpoint,  it wouldn't hurt to have your girlfriend plan and do what she can to help with the marriage process.  When you visit, and things go swimmingly, then you can marry and file for CR1.  There are many more benefits to CR1 over K1.

 

[Juliet57 304]

Watch 90 day fiance so you have an idea of all the things that can go wrong if you marry someone you havent spent time with !!! 😪😪😪😪

[lilyl82 37]

2 hours ago, Juliet57 said:

Watch 90 day fiance so you have an idea of all the things that can go wrong if you marry someone you havent spent time with !!! 😪😪😪😪

You cant possibly base a relationship on a fictional reality show. Sometimes, you can be with a person for 10 years and get married and be divorced in a couple of months. Sometimes when you meet someone, you just know.. I had an online relationship with my husband for 2 years before I met him in person, and  I met him in person, I knew he was the one for me. We got married on my second trip.