Questions about residence together

[Bruno&Bruna 12]

18 minutes ago, Paul & Mallory said:

Just pointing out that you created this post to ask what people think about how it will look that you are living apart, and then when folks tell you what they think and you don't like what they say, then suddenly their opinions don't count because "they don't know you". Can't have it both ways.

 

While a tad blunt, previous posters are right. It can look as though you are "hanging on" to the marriage till the interview, since you're the beneficiary and have moved away for a job without your wife. That's an honest and very real answer, and you should be prepared for that reality come interview time. Does that mean you are out of luck? No. But you better be prepared for questions and have enough sufficient evidence otherwise.

 

PS, in my opinion, tattoos won't make for good evidence. Legitimate communication between the two of you, hard evidence of you visiting one another as often as possible, maybe even evidence of your wife pursuing and looking for a new job where you are, which shows intent of her eventually following you there.

Well I appreciate your answer, that is way more respectful than our "super staff member" has been in this topic.

We lived together for 4 and a half years, I moved for a job, my sister in law moved to Austin too, the whole family plans to move to Austin, just my father in law and her still there because he has a bus company and she is the financial manager(CPA) there. My father in law will either be moving the office here or she will be coming for a new job, but I just dont pressure because we have been doing great and for me career is really important, I am super in favor of woman that are hard workers and pursue their career goals. 

But yeah, seems like people here just want to judge and find problems, instead of really read, understand, ask questions and help. So I might as well dont post anymore. I hope that "super staff member" gets punished  for judging people without even knowing who they are. This is supposed to be a collaborative community, not a judging community.

 

Yall have a great day!

[Unlockable 7,309]

OP,

 

Some words of advice. I know you may think that some of the questions and comments here are harsh, but you should take it as a learning lesson because some of the issues that are being raised may very well come up in your interview. If you are sitting across from an immigration officer who is looking for any reason to deny your case, you can't simply say "don't judge me" or tell him/her to stop asking your questions. You should be approaching this as if you were in the shoes of an officer and you're viewing your case.

 

There are some good points being brought up here.

 

How would you view your case if you were in an interviewing officer's shows? What red flags do you see in your relationship?

Edited September 28, 2018 by NuestraUnion

[mushroomspore 3,043]

14 minutes ago, Bruno&Bruna said:

Dude my name is Bruno and her name is Bruna, ####### is wrong with you? my user name was my email before, my godness, if you are here JUST to judge, please just get out of the ###### topic. "I might be tempted to say the job had nothing to do with it. You just wanted your citizenship as quickly as possible so that you can divorce your wife and move on. Seems you are just staying married to get citizenship under the 3-year rule. " for real how you even are a "super staff member" accusing people in the internet? my godness, i will be reporting this thing for sure  I am a Software Engineer, working for the ###### GOOGLE, and she is the FINANCE MANAGER of her DADS bus company, I needed to accept this job and NO we are not from different countries, we are BOTH from the same ###### country, So shut the up and go have a life

The immigration official's job is to literally judge your life and marriage.

 

Posting on a public forum also always brings the risk of people criticizing and sounding unnecessarily judgemental, no matter how nice, simple and genuine your question may be. If you can't handle that, go ask a lawyer in private instead of posting on the Internet.

Edited September 28, 2018 by mushroomspore

[Bruno&Bruna 12]

1 hour ago, JFH said:

Oh, nice try with the change of user name to both of your names. Of course that proves you’re a real couple. 😂 almost as good as getting matching tattoos. USCIS will be impressed! 

 

Nobody said anything about being a housewife. But it makes sense if she “can’t live without you” (your words, not ours) that she would be rushing to live with you. I mean, you moved thousands of miles to be together. Why can’t she move 150? Once she’s in Austin she will find it a lot easier to get a job there. She’ll be able to network, attend events, be able to attend interviews at short notice. If she’s good at what she does, she won’t be out of work for long in a place like Austin. And it would mean you’re not paying 2 rents and 2 sets of utilities. Maybe the company that she loves even has a branch in Austin or nearby where she can transfer? 

 

Interesting that this change of location dramatically reduced the wait time for your N-400. Now if I were a gambling person I might be tempted to say the job had nothing to do with it. You just wanted your citizenship as quickly as possible so that you can divorce your wife and move on. Seems you are just staying married to get citizenship under the 3-year rule. 

 

 

Just FYI, we are both from the same country, we met in our birth country, not here, we dated for 5 years there, and we ended up staying here after i came to meet my father in law(from brazil too, but naturalized too). We have been living together for almost 8 years, between Brazil and here, so please just shut up  If I wanted my citzenship quick I could divorce my wife and wait 6 months and apply for the 5 year rule. But we plan to be together, bring my mother in law here too(she still in Brazil) so we can have kids and our kids can have grand parents

Edited September 28, 2018 by Bruno&Bruna

[Bruno&Bruna 12]

4 minutes ago, mushroomspore said:

The immigration official's job is to literally judge your life and marriage.

And what? Is this forum composed by immigration officials? That gives any member here the power to judge and say what they want, and insinuating that people are lying? If so, that's a toxic community

Edited September 28, 2018 by Bruno&Bruna

[mushroomspore 3,043]

Just now, Bruno&Bruna said:

And what? Is this forum composed by immigration officials? That gives any member here the power to judge and say what they want, and insinuating that people are lying? If so, that's a toxic community

We've all been through the process. We know what IO's are like and you should too since you've already done AoS. We're also not in the business of giving people false hope on this forum. Surely you didn't expect us to say, "You're totally gonna get approved, dude." This is a public Internet forum, which means there's a risk of criticism and judgemental responses, no matter how simple or genuine your question may be. If you can't handle that, go ask an attorney in private instead of posting here.

[Bruno&Bruna 12]

1 minute ago, mushroomspore said:

We've all been through the process. We know what IO's are like and you should too since you've already done AoS. We're also not in the business of giving people false hope on this forum. Surely you didn't expect us to say, "You're totally gonna get approved, dude." This is a public Internet forum, which means there's a risk of criticism and judgemental responses, no matter how simple or genuine your question may be. If you can't handle that, go ask an attorney in private instead of posting here.

I am not seeking approval from anybody here, specially in a online forum. I asked a question an i expected good people, with experience, specially old members, to ask me about why, how, when, what, etc and guide me in what could I improve and take with me to the interview,. The last that i expected, was a staff member, saying "in my opinion you are taking advantage" But its all good. I will just leave the community, not worth it to put time and effort to help others if nobody is here to help, just to judge and accuse people

[mushroomspore 3,043]

Just now, Bruno&Bruna said:

I am not seeking approval from anybody here, specially in a online forum. I asked a question an i expected good people, with experience, specially old members, to ask me about why, how, when, what, etc and guide me in what could I improve and take with me to the interview,. The last that i expected, was a staff member, saying "in my opinion you are taking advantage" But its all good. I will just leave the community, not worth it to put time and effort to help others if nobody is here to help, just to judge and accuse people

Lol I know you weren't seeking approval and if you were aware of that yourself, then why get angry that everyone's being honest about your situation? The bottom line is: it doesn't look good you and your wife don't live together, especially at this stage in your immigration process. There isn't much you can do to help yourself unless you resume living together.

[TBoneTX 43,528]

There are no "staff" on this website.

The OP has received frank answers, and the thread is degenerating, so it's locked and is not to be restarted or referred to elsewhere.