Immigrant spouses vs. American Spouses

[Caladan 19]

My choice for choosing a foreign spouse over domestic spouse is that women here in the US or many of whom I have encountered are self-centered, can't do anything besides loud mouthing and being untrustworthy, and all good for sex only.

"all good for sex only" s/b "none of them wanted to sleep with me even after I showed them my 19th level mage"

[LovinLiberia 0]

two thousand?? damn, now that's a wedding...

[Caladan 19]

(hope I'm able to bring this thread back on topic)

I wanted to marry a woman that has strong ties to my religion and culture. Someone that respects our long heritage. Someone that would devote herself to me as I would to her. I wasn't able to find one in America (though I admit, I did not look very hard). I'm stereotyping, but I find that Indians raised in America are neither Indian nor American. Exceptions are rare. I knew I wanted to marry in India when I went back to India for the first time in 1997. Besides, Indian weddings (in India, not abroad), kick ###. As the groom, I took my "host" of over five hundred people, all dancing and singing, to marry my bride. We had over two thousand people in all at the wedding.

Indian weddings are awesome. One of my friends is Indian, grew up in Calgary, and there were a thousand people at her sister's wedding, mostly from the tight knit immigrant community there.

[tmma 467]

Ohhh so you are saying that technology majors are the ONLY challenging ones???

*rolls eyes*

Ok....ya know I had a good friend in High school. his family immigrated from Poland when he was in middle school, so english was not his first language. He was a math and science GENIUS...he could have majored in ANY technology field and done well.

He went to Yale and majored in English...you don't think that's challenging???

A challenge is when logical thinking is enforced. Memorization isn't really challenging because all it's doing is not thinking. I am stubborn in this area because if no one proves me wrong, I will continue to reign this ignorance.

My professors also makes fun of people in CVPA majors. If you can't do Engineering, go do basket weaving. My ignorance is strong. Anyway, this is not this thread's topic.

Your professors make fun of people studying other majors? I teach mathematics and thermodynamics P/T for a university-please tell me which university/college you go to where the " professors" make fun of students that are non-engineering?

You are completely correct on one thing though--Your ignorance is indeed strong.

BTW-did you not previously mention in another thread that you already had your PhD?

I am not even bothering to join the US Spouse v Foreign Spouse discussion...It's a topic that gets wheeled out every few weeks and the outcome is always the same.......

[Yodrak 7]

Austin,

Sounds just like VJ. Read any thread dealing with adjustment of status from other than a K visa.

Yodrak

I was in class last week discussing political views on our immigration system here in the U.S., with men and women petitioning relatives especially fiancees to enter the U.S. Some of the outspoken opinions were very mannerable and calm, while majority of the others were choatic and harsh. .....

Thanks,

Austin

[mawilson 2,133]

I will continue to reign this ignorance.

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My ignorance is strong.

[Anna C. 4]

IT's all about prejudice: the prejudice that foreign spouses are always female and from 3rd world countries who will serve as slaves, the prejudice that all American/Western women are masculine, cheaters, mean and untrustworthy.... It's all soooo old!!! And it's all so stupid. Yes, there are mean American/Western women as well as men (!), and yes there are cases when male spouses just want a woman with "traditional" values. But all foreign spouses of American citizens aren't a homogeneous group - a zillion different nationalities, personalities, histories....

Regarding the "easy non-technical majors": OMG gimme a break. Learning a language btw is more than just memorizing vocabulary - you have to understand the grammar, which is usually a complex system. But who am I to say so, I just have a "female" non-technical degree.....

[Saddle Bronc 124]

.... I wasn't able to find one in America (though I admit, I did not look very hard).

(assuming that you are Hindu) even for you, the logistics would be nasty as the TOTAL desi-origin population of US is less than 1% of total US population; it gets even worse when one is of a minority (in India) religion--as the pool gets smaller really fast, to the point of "cutting grapes".

I'm stereotyping, but I find that Indians raisedborn in America are neither Indian nor American. Exceptions are rare.

Edited your post, as there is generally a substantial difference between ex-FOB's (who are generally more rooted in India) and ABCD's (generally, no cultural roots on either side, and no spiritual roots of ANY type); the term ABCD also applies nicely for the vast majority of desis born in Canada.

[pedroh 21]

[almaty 19]

hmmm.. vj sheesh

[one...two...tree 2,762]

America's a big country with 150 million women, of various beliefs, traditional feminity, etc. Nothing wrong with looking in another country, but if your reason for doing so is "American women are all X", chances are the problem isn't with American women, because you can find an American woman of nearly every type.

And if your reason is "[This country's] women are X", you're taking the advertising on the international dating site too seriously.

Best post on this thread!

[almaty 19]

Nothing wrong with looking in another country, but if your reason for doing so is "American women are all X", chances are the problem isn't with American women, because you can find an American woman of nearly every type.

add to this..and the problem lies within...not projected on a gender

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Again with an American woman bashing threads!

[Mark&Steph 0]

I never knew that the two chinese characters tattooed on my upper arm were so macho.

OMG, maybe I'm a lesbian! *runs to the closet to check for any telltale flannel shirts*

[Jenn! 918]

I never knew that the two chinese characters tattooed on my upper arm were so macho.

OMG, maybe I'm a lesbian! *runs to the closet to check for any telltale flannel shirts*

I think it's a generational thing. I remember when I was in high school, my grandmother would call my Doc Martens my "lesbian shoes". LOL.