Visayan

[visayan 0]

My Wife is from the Philippines, everyday she is talking to them, she want to send them money, when first married I bought them a fridge/freezer, they then ask for a loan in 2007 for her brother to go for an interview, NOT 1 penny have they paid back, we have sent money a few times now, when I first went to meet her she told her friends I was rich, so I put her straight & said I was NOT, but Filipinas don't believe you when you tell them, but I cant work after an slipped disc, but she still expects me to send them money, I have told her that if you wanted me to support your family you should have said before we wed, she just says it was up to me to find out, excuse me but we living in the U.K. she should have found out how we do it hear, at the time we wed I worked with a guy who was married to a Filipina, he told me they never sent any money to the Philippines, perhaps because she lived with an old aunt and she appreciated what her husband did for her, talking to another friend who had a Filipina wife and about the money the expect to send home, he said they wait until they have being here a bit before they sting you with that, it is not as if they affectionate, only for 6 months or so.

they have NO money but they can afford to be online talking to my wife over the internet everyday, she also want us to sell up, buy a house in the Philippines and live their, no doubt a house for all of her family, when we went their last only her poppa spoke to me, all the others just sat talking in their own language, before we met it said on the internet don't go for a girl who dresses nice, short skirt, high heels she will just empty your walled, but the casual dresser I chose is trying to empty my wallet, I think I would have been better with a Chinese/Vietnamese girl

[payxibka 10,048]

3 minutes ago, visayan said:

My Wife is from the Philippines, everyday she is talking to them, she want to send them money, when first married I bought them a fridge/freezer, they then ask for a loan in 2007 for her brother to go for an interview, NOT 1 penny have they paid back, we have sent money a few times now, when I first went to meet her she told her friends I was rich, so I put her straight & said I was NOT, but Filipinas don't believe you when you tell them, but I cant work after an slipped disc, but she still expects me to send them money, I have told her that if you wanted me to support your family you should have said before we wed, she just says it was up to me to find out, excuse me but we living in the U.K. she should have found out how we do it hear, at the time we wed I worked with a guy who was married to a Filipina, he told me they never sent any money to the Philippines, perhaps because she lived with an old aunt and she appreciated what her husband did for her, talking to another friend who had a Filipina wife and about the money the expect to send home, he said they wait until they have being here a bit before they sting you with that, it is not as if they affectionate, only for 6 months or so.

they have NO money but they can afford to be online talking to my wife over the internet everyday, she also want us to sell up, buy a house in the Philippines and live their, no doubt a house for all of her family, when we went their last only her poppa spoke to me, all the others just sat talking in their own language, before we met it said on the internet don't go for a girl who dresses nice, short skirt, high heels she will just empty your walled, but the casual dresser I chose is trying to empty my wallet, I think I would have been better with a Chinese/Vietnamese girl

Is this just a rant or is there a question here?

[Roel 7,193]

5 minutes ago, visayan said:

My Wife is from the Philippines, everyday she is talking to them, she want to send them money, when first married I bought them a fridge/freezer, they then ask for a loan in 2007 for her brother to go for an interview, NOT 1 penny have they paid back, we have sent money a few times now, when I first went to meet her she told her friends I was rich, so I put her straight & said I was NOT, but Filipinas don't believe you when you tell them, but I cant work after an slipped disc, but she still expects me to send them money, I have told her that if you wanted me to support your family you should have said before we wed, she just says it was up to me to find out, excuse me but we living in the U.K. she should have found out how we do it hear, at the time we wed I worked with a guy who was married to a Filipina, he told me they never sent any money to the Philippines, perhaps because she lived with an old aunt and she appreciated what her husband did for her, talking to another friend who had a Filipina wife and about the money the expect to send home, he said they wait until they have being here a bit before they sting you with that, it is not as if they affectionate, only for 6 months or so.

they have NO money but they can afford to be online talking to my wife over the internet everyday, she also want us to sell up, buy a house in the Philippines and live their, no doubt a house for all of her family, when we went their last only her poppa spoke to me, all the others just sat talking in their own language, before we met it said on the internet don't go for a girl who dresses nice, short skirt, high heels she will just empty your walled, but the casual dresser I chose is trying to empty my wallet, I think I would have been better with a Chinese/Vietnamese girl

Stopped reading halfway because it's impossible to read something with grammar that bad. 

 

If you have problem with your wife sending money to her family just make sure she has a job and use her own funds for it. Or do marriage counseling. Not sure what your problem is. 

[doggieandsam 765]

what is your question exactly? you said you are living in the UK, you realize that this is a forum for US immigration right?

 

i agree with above poster, tell your wife to get a job so she can send her own money to her family in the philippines.

[Hank_ 9,174]

2 hours ago, visayan said:

My Wife is from the Philippines, everyday she is talking to them, she want to send them money, when first married I bought them a fridge/freezer, they then ask for a loan in 2007 for her brother to go for an interview, NOT 1 penny have they paid back, we have sent money a few times now, when I first went to meet her she told her friends I was rich, so I put her straight & said I was NOT, but Filipinas don't believe you when you tell them, but I cant work after an slipped disc, but she still expects me to send them money, I have told her that if you wanted me to support your family you should have said before we wed, she just says it was up to me to find out, excuse me but we living in the U.K. she should have found out how we do it hear, at the time we wed I worked with a guy who was married to a Filipina, he told me they never sent any money to the Philippines, perhaps because she lived with an old aunt and she appreciated what her husband did for her, talking to another friend who had a Filipina wife and about the money the expect to send home, he said they wait until they have being here a bit before they sting you with that, it is not as if they affectionate, only for 6 months or so.

they have NO money but they can afford to be online talking to my wife over the internet everyday, she also want us to sell up, buy a house in the Philippines and live their, no doubt a house for all of her family, when we went their last only her poppa spoke to me, all the others just sat talking in their own language, before we met it said on the internet don't go for a girl who dresses nice, short skirt, high heels she will just empty your walled, but the casual dresser I chose is trying to empty my wallet, I think I would have been better with a Chinese/Vietnamese girl

 

I know of some that seem to have a plan to do much more than assist their family .. I have heard the stories .. many that have been around this forum for awhile have heard them as well.   I agree with the suggestion that you tell your wife if she wants to send money back to her family that she get a job.  That will tell you what her real motives are.

 

Does my wife assist her family?  Yes.  But I knew it coming in.  She takes nothing from the household it is all her own money.    

 

"Gold diggers" are not of one nationality ...  just saying.

 

 

[Greenbaum 12,260]

6 hours ago, visayan said:

My Wife is from the Philippines, everyday she is talking to them, she want to send them money, when first married I bought them a fridge/freezer, they then ask for a loan in 2007 for her brother to go for an interview, NOT 1 penny have they paid back, we have sent money a few times now, when I first went to meet her she told her friends I was rich, so I put her straight & said I was NOT, but Filipinas don't believe you when you tell them, but I cant

There is no right or wrong way to select your future wife. For the Philippines this is not uncommon. But for many of us we are very happy with our arrangement with our spouse. My wife works very hard and she has a "main" job and a second for "family money". Therefore I have no issue with what she does with her "family money". She always ask me if it's OK and if there is an emergency, with her I know it's an emergency not some way of scam me into supplying more money.

 

I like the response you got earlier to tell her to get a job. That certainly will tell you more about her then possibly you want to know. Good luck.

[Chris Duffy 1,257]

Some families will become parasites and the family will torture the spouse to send money home. Common excuses are:  Medicine, School tuition, Medical Emergency, etc.  They will try give them a guilt trip if they don't send money home.

 

Some familes don't expect anything.  It all dependent on whom you marry.

 

 

 

 

[javadown2 308]

So you've been married 11 years by what you've said in your post and you've only sent money a few times???..so it seems you haven't had to do it much. And I'm sure if you live in the Philippines then you will have family nearby. I personally enjoy helping my FAMILY including my wife's family who are MY family now. I love them very much and am able to financially assist them. They never ask for anything and at times I am not able to send any funds. But every relationship is different and of course there are many Filipinas that are in it for the money. But in your situation your asawa should know your money situation by now and realize that it isn't economically freezable for you to help them and maybe get a job herself :). Anyways, like others have said it is kinda vague what your question is, sounds more like a rant. It's always a good idea to research a countries culture before hand.