HELP HELP HELP - USC Wants to Contact USCIS

[Banky 1]

Hi everyone - 

 

My case is very complicated. I must admit my guilt upfront. I did talk to a lady but that was borne out of frustration and repeated noises of I'd call USCIS almost twice every week.

Now the story begins. I married my wife out of good faith. I bought her a Kay Jewelers ring for $3500 which I paid up in 1.5 years when we married in 2012. I filed in 2013 and got conditional GC which I changed and got my 10 year GC in February 2016. During those times, I have done a lot for this woman: She is on my Health insurance, I had 2 cars and gave her sister (my sister-inlaw) my second car to drive which she still has till today, her mother moved in with us during financial difficulties and stayed with us for 9 months with her dog even tho I don't like being around dogs, Paid for 2 trips to Bahamas, helped with the payment of my wife's car note for about 6 months when her clients as a hair stylist was eroding, and a lot more. Now she knows a lot about the immigration stuff because I walked her through every process as I didn't feel the need to get a lawyer. The whole problem started in 2014 when she caught me talking with my EX. I stopped it and even called my EX in front of her and told my EX I was married (Guys you know how embarrassing it is to do). But I noticed any little thing I do e.g. want to hang out with my friends she becomes insecure, and gets upset and starts hounding me with threats like I made you who you are, I gave you life in the US, I can make the USCIS revoke all you are. But I'd be scared and beg her during conditional and even after getting the 10 yr GC. 

This frustration pushed me to talk to some lady who I quickly cut all ties with when I realized my senses that I should never be doing that as a married man. However, my wife threatens she has text message proofs and a picture of me and the lady in a car. I only found all these proofs out because I just filed my Naturalization based on my marriage and she just told me she has all the proof to make them deport me. Need I add, She owes back logs of taxes cos I advised her as an entrepreneur you need to pay some form of tax or pay into the Social security so as to get Medicare. However, she filed taxes once and owed $9,000 which I am continuously paying with her as the IRS withholds all of my refunds based on out marriage.

I never ever sort a reason to keep documents or do any form of research prior to her threats because I did love her for real as she was areal pillar to me while in school. But upon research, I am reading that I could get deported once she contacts USCIS because I have just filed my Naturalization. I have never had cause to hide any filings from her.

Please, I am scared and want to know if I should start applying for jobs back in my home country in the event USCIS states that my texts with 2 other women are grounds to deport me. But I know that she knows that our marriage is real. She is just a very hateful and angry person. But who am I to judge her. Also, we are still married and wants a divorce.

Please any advise is welcomed and Please sorry for the long read. I just had to pour out all the facts available.

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

***** Moving from Off Topic to Effects of Major Changes as the more appropriate forum ******

 

She can't have you deported based on a few text messages, unless you state in them that you comitted fraud by only marrying your wife for immigration benefits.  She may delay your citizenship two years  if you are no longer living in marital union with your USC wife.

[Banky 1]

Thanks Penguin_ie. Your response has helped cool my mind a little bit...

[MeAlone 161]

8 hours ago, Banky said:

Hi everyone - 

 

My case is very complicated. I must admit my guilt upfront. I did talk to a lady but that was borne out of frustration and repeated noises of I'd call USCIS almost twice every week.

Now the story begins. I married my wife out of good faith. I bought her a Kay Jewelers ring for $3500 which I paid up in 1.5 years when we married in 2012. I filed in 2013 and got conditional GC which I changed and got my 10 year GC in February 2016. During those times, I have done a lot for this woman: She is on my Health insurance, I had 2 cars and gave her sister (my sister-inlaw) my second car to drive which she still has till today, her mother moved in with us during financial difficulties and stayed with us for 9 months with her dog even tho I don't like being around dogs, Paid for 2 trips to Bahamas, helped with the payment of my wife's car note for about 6 months when her clients as a hair stylist was eroding, and a lot more. Now she knows a lot about the immigration stuff because I walked her through every process as I didn't feel the need to get a lawyer. The whole problem started in 2014 when she caught me talking with my EX. I stopped it and even called my EX in front of her and told my EX I was married (Guys you know how embarrassing it is to do). But I noticed any little thing I do e.g. want to hang out with my friends she becomes insecure, and gets upset and starts hounding me with threats like I made you who you are, I gave you life in the US, I can make the USCIS revoke all you are. But I'd be scared and beg her during conditional and even after getting the 10 yr GC

8 hours ago, Banky said:

Hi everyone - 

 

My case is very complicated. I must admit my guilt upfront. I did talk to a lady but that was borne out of frustration and repeated noises of I'd call USCIS almost twice every week.

Now the story begins. I married my wife out of good faith. I bought her a Kay Jewelers ring for $3500 which I paid up in 1.5 years when we married in 2012. I filed in 2013 and got conditional GC which I changed and got my 10 year GC in February 2016. During those times, I have done a lot for this woman: She is on my Health insurance, I had 2 cars and gave her sister (my sister-inlaw) my second car to drive which she still has till today, her mother moved in with us during financial difficulties and stayed with us for 9 months with her dog even tho I don't like being around dogs, Paid for 2 trips to Bahamas, helped with the payment of my wife's car note for about 6 months when her clients as a hair stylist was eroding, and a lot more. Now she knows a lot about the immigration stuff because I walked her through every process as I didn't feel the need to get a lawyer. The whole problem started in 2014 when she caught me talking with my EX. I stopped it and even called my EX in front of her and told my EX I was married (Guys you know how embarrassing it is to do). But I noticed any little thing I do e.g. want to hang out with my friends she becomes insecure, and gets upset and starts hounding me with threats like I made you who you are, I gave you life in the US, I can make the USCIS revoke all you are. But I'd be scared and beg her during conditional and even after getting the 10 yr GC. 

This frustration pushed me to talk to some lady who I quickly cut all ties with when I realized my senses that I should never be doing that as a married man. However, my wife threatens she has text message proofs and a picture of me and the lady in a car. I only found all these proofs out because I just filed my Naturalization based on my marriage and she just told me she has all the proof to make them deport me. Need I add, She owes back logs of taxes cos I advised her as an entrepreneur you need to pay some form of tax or pay into the Social security so as to get Medicare. However, she filed taxes once and owed $9,000 which I am continuously paying with her as the IRS withholds all of my refunds based on out marriage.

I never ever sort a reason to keep documents or do any form of research prior to her threats because I did love her for real as she was areal pillar to me while in school. But upon research, I am reading that I could get deported once she contacts USCIS because I have just filed my Naturalization. I have never had cause to hide any filings from her.

Please, I am scared and want to know if I should start applying for jobs back in my home country in the event USCIS states that my texts with 2 other women are grounds to deport me. But I know that she knows that our marriage is real. She is just a very hateful and angry person. But who am I to judge her. Also, we are still married and wants a divorce.

Please any advise is welcomed and Please sorry for the long read. I just had to pour out all the facts available.

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This frustration pushed me to talk to some lady who I quickly cut all ties with when I realized my senses that I should never be doing that as a married man. However, my wife threatens she has text message proofs and a picture of me and the lady in a car. I only found all these proofs out because I just filed my Naturalization based on my marriage and she just told me she has all the proof to make them deport me. Need I add, She owes back logs of taxes cos I advised her as an entrepreneur you need to pay some form of tax or pay into the Social security so as to get Medicare. However, she filed taxes once and owed $9,000 which I am continuously paying with her as the IRS withholds all of my refunds based on out marriage.

I never ever sort a reason to keep documents or do any form of research prior to her threats because I did love her for real as she was areal pillar to me while in school. But upon research, I am reading that I could get deported once she contacts USCIS because I have just filed my Naturalization. I have never had cause to hide any filings from her.

Please, I am scared and want to know if I should start applying for jobs back in my home country in the event USCIS states that my texts with 2 other women are grounds to deport me. But I know that she knows that our marriage is real. She is just a very hateful and angry person. But who am I to judge her. Also, we are still married and wants a divorce.

Please any advise is welcomed and Please sorry for the long read. I just had to pour out all the facts available.

She can't deport you, you have 10 years GC yet if you cheat on your wife, of course she becomes angry. cheating during the marriage could be a ground for divorce in some states. Anyway, if you wish to chat, text and be with other women, stop hurting your wife, divorce and be free to go date anybody you wish.

Good luck

Tasha

[Everlast 49]

Dude relax! You can use the google search bar on top of the page and read up on cases like yours which are numerous. 

[sparkles_ 456]

She can't deport you. But you surely earned her paranoia of you concerning other women.....you started this snowball effect by talking to your ex. A hard lesson learned at the expense of your marriage.

[Banky 1]

Thanks everyone. I did Google and read on it. I think I have read all related topics on VJ, but none still indicates when the person just filed the Naturalization papers. Well, we are going to seek counselling to make our marriage work. Again, thanks....

[MeAlone 161]

43 minutes ago, Banky said:

Thanks everyone. I did Google and read on it. I think I have read all related topics on VJ, but none still indicates when the person just filed the Naturalization papers. Well, we are going to seek counselling to make our marriage work. Again, thanks....

Good luck, broken marriage, broken promises about being faithful, not easy to fix, it will never be the same

Tasha

[Jawaree 718]

Do you love your wife & wants her, sit her down apolygise for your infidelity (& mean it)

if she desire the same get into counselling & be a faithful man going forward, she has every

right to be p..d, but cant deport you. Infilidelity is not deportable, also with 10 yrs GC  you

cam naturalize with the marriage intact or not.

[tuckin14 58]

Your spouse cannot affect your immigration status at this point, unless she were to somehow show that fraud was involved - not a mere lack of marital bona fides, but actual fraud, in which she would almost surely have to admit she was complicit.

 

Once you have had your green card for 5 years, and been physically present in the USA for 50% of that time, you can apply for naturalization.  If you are still married to and living with your life, that 5 years would become 3 years.

 

But other than that two-year difference, once you have your 10-year green card it's pretty much game over as far as the marriage affecting your immigration status.  Just don't get convicted of a crime or leave the USA for more than a year.

[MeAlone 161]

14 hours ago, tuckin14 said:

Your spouse cannot affect your immigration status at this point, unless she were to somehow show that fraud was involved - not a mere lack of marital bona fides, but actual fraud, in which she would almost surely have to admit she was complicit.

 

Once you have had your green card for 5 years, and been physically present in the USA for 50% of that time, you can apply for naturalization.  If you are still married to and living with your life, that 5 years would become 3 years.

 

But other than that two-year difference, once you have your 10-year green card it's pretty much game over as far as the marriage affecting your immigration status.  Just don't get convicted of a crime or leave the USA for more than a year.

Correct 

[NikLR 13,227]

On 1/26/2017 at 0:33 PM, EricTasha said:

Good luck, broken marriage, broken promises about being faithful, not easy to fix, it will never be the same

Tasha

Of course it wont be the same but in their case, it shouldnt be.  But maybe it could be better or maybe they will learn that they shouldn't be together either.