How will divorce affect my immigration status

[hoalhash 5]

I'm currently married since 10/2014 to a U.S citizen(female) and I'm a conditional GC holder effective 11/2015. My wife and I been having marriage issues that are increasing intensely lately from her putting her hands on me and her having episodes of anger, cussing me in front of my step daughter and neighbors. I initiated marriage therapy for us because of her trust issues and hostile behavior, and the counselor suggested to offer us individual sessions with domestic violence specialist. So far we only been to two counseling sessions. However, yesterday she took the anger to a higher level as I walked out the house to stay away from her until she calms down. She began screaming so loud that the neighbors came out to see what is wrong. She always becomes angry if I wanted to visit a friend or go to the gym and accuses me of cheating, so I began staying home where she monitors me. I'm concerned she or the neighbors would call the cops and I'd get in trouble just for the fact I'm a male. I am also concerned about my status in the U.S. I've established a life here, Family, job, and etc. I'm from the republic of Yemen and currently there is civil war and also ISIS is growing there.

[Cheezees 1,514]

It doesn't. You can file for ROC with a divorce waiver and naturalize when you have been a PR for 5.

[JenniferNangel 137]

Sadly Isis is everywhere

Look at the nightclub shooting in Miami he was born in ny his parents immigrated here and he was Isis

I understand you want to continue living the American Dream but if it's so bad just divorce. It seems like your more concerned about your green card status than anything else.

If she's physical abusing you call the police or just leave to a shelter

You haven't even had your GC for a year??

[Adil & Jeanne 296]

you can call 911 when she starts screaming and file a complaint yourself instead of waiting for her to (maybe) do it

men can be abused also

we must all protect ourselves / don't stay and take abuse (verbal or mental or physical)

i have a male freind staying for sake of his baby daughter but what good is that to the baby when the mother is by polar and screams all the time

[JC&BB 33]

If she isn't willing to work on herself you can still stay here and divorce. I hope things can work out but if she isn't going to change you don't need that.

[hoalhash 5]

For the previous comment. This is a forum regarding immigration and my question is regarding that. It does not necessarily mean I am worried about my status more than family issues but also it does not necessarily mean I'll screw myself over and not plan time ahead. My question is based many incidents that I only mentioned a very small portion.

[Starkilla09 366]

For the previous comment. This is a forum regarding immigration and my question is regarding that. It does not necessarily mean I am worried about my status more than family issues but also it does not necessarily mean I'll screw myself over and not plan time ahead. My question is based many incidents that I only mentioned a very small portion.

You can try to work on your marriage, but if it gets to boiling point you are still free to divorce. You can still file to remove conditions on your own with a divorce waiver, all you have to do is show you entered the marriage in good faith. With joint bona fides you will be able to remove conditions on your own. For the meantime you wanna be very careful not to get tangled in a domestic violence altercation, resulting in you possibly being implicated and arrested. As you know it's easy for you to go down that road, all she needs to do is accuse of of doing something physical to her. If it gets really bad move out of the premises it's safer that way.

[Marrienne 112]

I understand you want to continue living the American Dream but if it's so bad just divorce. It seems like your more concerned about your green card status than anything else.

I am sorry but this seems kind of cruel. When I immigrated with my American husband and our children, I sold EVERYTHING I had in my home country, and left with 4 suitcases and 3 boxes. Everything I had bought, collected, or acquired over years of hard work, sold or given away or donated. I sold my car, I let go of my job, my family, my apartment so I can make THIS country my HOME and put down roots here.

Saying "you seem to care more about your GC" is mean IMO. It is not "just" about his GC, it is a life he is creating here, the roots he severed to come here etc.

It sounds like he is doing everything he can to help his wife/save his marriage but it takes two to tango, and if the wife does not want this, what can he do?

[Merrytooth 5,748]

I am sorry but this seems kind of cruel. When I immigrated with my American husband and our children, I sold EVERYTHING I had in my home country, and left with 4 suitcases and 3 boxes. Everything I had bought, collected, or acquired over years of hard work, sold or given away or donated. I sold my car, I let go of my job, my family, my apartment so I can make THIS country my HOME and put down roots here.

Saying "you seem to care more about your GC" is mean IMO. It is not "just" about his GC, it is a life he is creating here, the roots he severed to come here etc.

It sounds like he is doing everything he can to help his wife/save his marriage but it takes two to tango, and if the wife does not want this, what can he do?

You CHOSE to sold EVERYTHING you have to move to US, probably because you had to financially in order to move to US.

I don't. I still have some stuff at my parents house, bank accounts, insurances back home.

And I have backup plan if things do not work out.

[kkk1 42]

I'm currently married since 10/2014 to a U.S citizen(female) and I'm a conditional GC holder effective 11/2015. My wife and I been having marriage issues that are increasing intensely lately from her putting her hands on me and her having episodes of anger, cussing me in front of my step daughter and neighbors. I initiated marriage therapy for us because of her trust issues and hostile behavior, and the counselor suggested to offer us individual sessions with domestic violence specialist. So far we only been to two counseling sessions. However, yesterday she took the anger to a higher level as I walked out the house to stay away from her until she calms down. She began screaming so loud that the neighbors came out to see what is wrong. She always becomes angry if I wanted to visit a friend or go to the gym and accuses me of cheating, so I began staying home where she monitors me. I'm concerned she or the neighbors would call the cops and I'd get in trouble just for the fact I'm a male. I am also concerned about my status in the U.S. I've established a life here, Family, job, and etc. I'm from the republic of Yemen and currently there is civil war and also ISIS is growing there.

If he abuse you make a police report. Sadly,some of the US spouse thinks they are bringingredients slaves not spouse.

If you have Police report you can file vawa to remove condition from GC. It will work as a proof. For safety don't stay with her. It is too dangerous. It happens to many, so don't be surprised that you are one . Don't be a victim of her anger.

[JenniferNangel 137]

I am sorry but this seems kind of cruel. When I immigrated with my American husband and our children, I sold EVERYTHING I had in my home country, and left with 4 suitcases and 3 boxes. Everything I had bought, collected, or acquired over years of hard work, sold or given away or donated. I sold my car, I let go of my job, my family, my apartment so I can make THIS country my HOME and put down roots here.

Saying "you seem to care more about your GC" is mean IMO. It is not "just" about his GC, it is a life he is creating here, the roots he severed to come here etc.

It sounds like he is doing everything he can to help his wife/save his marriage but it takes two to tango, and if the wife does not want this, what can he do?

I don't think you are comprehending what I'm saying. His wife is abusive to him I suggested he left for his safety.

I sold my car as well and some other stuff instead of being in my country I'm with my husband in his but god forbid he ever become abusive I would leave and go home that would be my main concern nothing else. Not to mention the fact that I'm in a dangerous country as it is so I count and rely on my husband to keep me and our unborn child safe

Did I once say leave USA ?? Nope I believe what I said was divorce or a shelter correct??

Even being divorced he can file vawa since she's abusing him.

He said it's getting so bad that the neighbors are running over so what happens if one of them calls the police and she claims he attacked her ?? It will be 10000000x worse for him

OP Sometimes marriage doesn't work out and if she's being abusive it will not get better if I were in your shoes my main concern would not be a GC I would be worried about my safety I would find a lawyer and explain the situation

[Marrienne 112]

You CHOSE to sold EVERYTHING you have to move to US, probably because you had to financially in order to move to US.

I don't. I still have some stuff at my parents house, bank accounts, insurances back home.

And I have backup plan if things do not work out.

Good for you. So if things don't work out, you will go back to your home country.

[Marrienne 112]

I don't think you are comprehending what I'm saying. His wife is abusive to him I suggested he left for his safety.

I sold my car as well and some other stuff instead of being in my country I'm with my husband in his but god forbid he ever become abusive I would leave and go home that would be my main concern nothing else. Not to mention the fact that I'm in a dangerous country as it is so I count and rely on my husband to keep me and our unborn child safe

Did I once say leave USA ?? Nope I believe what I said was divorce or a shelter correct??

Even being divorced he can file vawa since she's abusing him.

He said it's getting so bad that the neighbors are running over so what happens if one of them calls the police and she claims he attacked her ?? It will be 10000000x worse for him

OP Sometimes marriage doesn't work out and if she's being abusive it will not get better if I were in your shoes my main concern would not be a GC I would be worried about my safety I would find a lawyer and explain the situation

Thanks for clarifying!

Just remember (general you, not just you) that some people have NOTHING To go back to either because their home countries have become too dangerous or because like mine, they are in horrible financial state and they wouldn't even be able to find work. Also (like in your case and in mine) some people have American children and let's face it, they have a better future in the USA than a big percentage of other countries in this world.

So it is not as black and white as "divorce and go home", especially if "home" is now here in the USA.

[JenniferNangel 137]

Thanks for clarifying!

Just remember (general you, not just you) that some people have NOTHING To go back to either because their home countries have become too dangerous or because like mine, they are in horrible financial state and they wouldn't even be able to find work. Also (like in your case and in mine) some people have American children and let's face it, they have a better future in the USA than a big percentage of other countries in this world.

So it is not as black and white as "divorce and go home", especially if "home" is now here in the USA.

Before I left the plan was for me to stay in dr with my husband but all that changed once we found out we were pregnant so I do understand and not wanting our child to be raised here would be the best for him. I had my own business but now I'll have to start over when I return I did give up everything for him and to be with him so yes I can relate to the op and everyone else who had immigrated to USA or a different country. A lot of abuse sadly does happen from USC for whatever disgusting reason and none of it is ok for a man or a woman ,abuse is still abuse

[JenniferNangel 137]

I love my husband more than anything in this world he's my best friend and I can't picture my life without him

If pigs began to fly and our marriage ended in divorce I would not do everything in my power to send him back to his country I would want him to continue being a part of our child/children's life