please i need your urgent help and advise

[archosci3 0]

i never intend to act like a troll, it just that i was so eager to reply the message and that was a ,mistake.. so someone shouldnt come here and start crucifying me or try to be mean or an investigative officier on where the money came from and what it is meant for .. it doesnt change the fact that the money wasnt mine and she took the money without my knowledge.. i wouldl like them to put themself in ma shoe and tell me how they are gona feel before trying to crucify me on here ..

No one wana loose a cent not to talk of 8k$ ..so they should not add salt to the injury on ground .. the way forward is what we are looking for and thats why i came to visajourney

[Unidentified 2,930]

i never intend to act like a troll, it just that i was so eager to reply the message and that was a ,mistake.. so someone shouldnt come here and start crucifying me or try to be mean or an investigative officier on where the money came from and what it is meant for .. it doesnt change the fact that the money wasnt mine and she took the money without my knowledge.. i wouldl like them to put themself in ma shoe and tell me how they are gona feel before trying to crucify me on here ..

No one wana loose a cent not to talk of 8k$ ..so they should not add salt to the injury on ground .. the way forward is what we are looking for and thats why i came to visajourney

Why did you keep someone else's money in a joint bank account?

Have you told her you know it's her?

Edited May 31, 2016 by Maria&Seve

[Merrytooth 5,748]

i never intend to act like a troll, it just that i was so eager to reply the message and that was a ,mistake.. so someone shouldnt come here and start crucifying me or try to be mean or an investigative officier on where the money came from and what it is meant for .. it doesnt change the fact that the money wasnt mine and she took the money without my knowledge.. i wouldl like them to put themself in ma shoe and tell me how they are gona feel before trying to crucify me on here ..

No one wana loose a cent not to talk of 8k$ ..so they should not add salt to the injury on ground .. the way forward is what we are looking for and thats why i came to visajourney

Then call the police on her for stealing your money! What are you waiting for?

Have a confrontation with her yet on how to move forward together?

Or only you looking for way to move forward?

It is either you want to keep the marriage to get the green card or get your money back from her.

IMHO, she is ripping you off, there is already no trust in marriage.

I will just leave.

But I am sure you will hang on till you get your green card.

Edited May 31, 2016 by Merrytooth

[3rd 84]

The police won't be able to do anything if the money was in a joint account. The whole purpose of a joint account is that the two people using it can deposit and take money as they wish. You are married to her, she's allowed to do this. If the money wasn't yours in the first place (a massively dodgy aspect if you ask me) then the last place it should have gone was into a joint account where someone else has access to it. Unless she confesses, there isn't a heck of a lot you can do. If she's still trying to prove that it wasn't her, then calling the police and filing a report shouldn't be a problem. You'll soon see her backtracking if it was her.

[Lavender7 32]

You chose a wrong place to look for a way to move forward, that's only up to you and your wife to figure all that out. None knows your situation better then you and probably her so, seeking comfort on forums is not the way to deal with it, not to mention juggling with two accounts.

[Caykay1 71]

Im currently in the process of filling my adjustment of status and during the process of co mingling bank account together as part of requirement of bonafied marriage, a funds was sent to my bank account and my spouse took the money without my conscient and denied knowing anything about the money .. i guess with the influence of her sister,

Presently i should be geting my EAD in a week or two more and going for my interview soon ,

Already i felt bad and i dont know if i should wait till when i get my green card approved later and divorce her or confront her for now or seek a marriage counsellors advise regarding this case

as a matter of fact the amount we are talking about is 8000 usd...

the amount alone is quite much for an immigrant who is not working... now she put me on a debt of 8000usd .. and for prove, i have a document from my bank account which showed that she made the withdrawal of the said sum in my our joint account

my other question is that , if i divorce her after getting my green card based on this ground , will it be considered an immigration fraud because she already made me feel bad for her stealing from me in the first place and by her not telling me and denying the fact that she took the money from my account

FYI ... she said the IRS levy my bank account as a result of the amount she owed the IRs.. But i checked and confirmed and the found out that the IRS never took the money ,, even the bank said she was the one who took the money .

Communication is very vital in bonafide relationship/marriage. How you gonna divorce her without speaking with her first?if it's huge sum of money and you still love her, make a common account and each have their personal bank account. Commons one is for bills and stuff like that. Good luck

[MrsBonsu 138]

I would say your options could be to tell her you know she took the money because the bank showed proof, your next step is tell who and what that money was for and explain it wasn't yours, and go from there, and then contact the person who sent the money and explain what happened and let them know your working on a way to get the money back and get them a car, so what she says and does should determine what you wanna do, that is make the money back yourself and save it in an account only you control until you can purchase a car, or divorce her or stay it's your choice only you know what you want and can deal with, good luck

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

i understand, i just want to stay anonymous for this issue . i dont wana use my other account to post thiis story cuz i dont know who is wattching .. my felllow VJ , kindly understand this is a critical issue that is affecting me .. i just need a relief

Sneaky fellow

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

let go of her

Take your very own advice and let her go and return to Nigeria because you are just using her for a green card now as she has

used you for the money. This relationship is ridiculous and USCIS will see through it. Who in their right mind would want to be

with a thief and a liar ? Don't complain if you choose to continue to go through this mess.

As to your car auction 'business' don't even get me started on the stories I have heard about this so called money making business.

Good luck explaining to the guy that your wife stole it.

As far as answering yourself here in this thread under another user name, that is lame and your credibility is zero.

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

Begs the question why couldn't the owner of the money do this for themselves rather than bringing in a middle man?

It's a joint account so she can take it out if she wants to. No permission needed.

If you came on a visitor visa did you know her before getting here? How long for?

Maybe she is considering it as payment for getting you your green card. Uscis may look at the joint account and consider it this way as well.

^^ actually it is quite common for folks from my country to remit money for someone to purchase cars from here.

Some folks don't know much about cars so they send the money to others to buy and ship to Ghana for them.. i have several friends back in Ghana who wanted me to do that for them..

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

She probably took the money as her fees for helping you..I bet that's what she and her family will tell you. As to how you came on tourist visa and suddenly decided to marry and stay,that's where your started. Robbing Peter to pay Paul.

[Ontarkie 13,979]

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