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[Darnell 8,478]

that's ok, Boiler - young folk strive really hard to 'get it right'.

[Boiler 43,451]

that's ok, Boiler - young folk strive really hard to 'get it right'.

Sounds like you are not talking about us?

[Darnell 8,478]

this century? no.

[Renee2016 14]

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

The yardstick of "cultural norm" used by the consulates is just that, a stick.

Real life and it's variables comes in 50 shades of grey, it's not black or white.

To argue what is cultural norm for Pakistan or any other country is fruitless.

There are progressive people who consider the age gap as absolutely nothing and there are others who have heart failure over it.

This varies from person to person not country to country or even region to region.

I am sick and tired of the double standard of so called slap on the back for older men with young women and then the eye brow raising for the

older woman with a younger man.

This archaic thinking is just backwards and a different "yardstick" to measure potential fraud needs to be implemented.
It just ain't that simple to fuss about age gap folks !

Humans are more complex than that.
It is what it is, the old age gap yardstick still comes into play for the consulates and their field manual of country's cultural norms

still says what it says. We need a new addition.

[san diego 407]

The yardstick of "cultural norm" used by the consulates is just that, a stick.

Real life and it's variables comes in 50 shades of grey, it's not black or white.

To argue what is cultural norm for Pakistan or any other country is fruitless.

There are progressive people who consider the age gap as absolutely nothing and there are others who have heart failure over it.

This varies from person to person not country to country or even region to region.

I am sick and tired of the double standard of so called slap on the back for older men with young women and then the eye brow raising for the

older woman with a younger man.

This archaic thinking is just backwards and a different "yardstick" to measure potential fraud needs to be implemented.

It just ain't that simple to fuss about age gap folks !

Humans are more complex than that.

It is what it is, the old age gap yardstick still comes into play for the consulates and their field manual of country's cultural norms

still says what it says. We need a new addition.

No one puts yardstick or raises eyebrows. COs in each country have red flags in mind. Those red flags developed based on most commonly occuring fraud in each country. The most common fraud in MENA is: young guy contacting much older woman over the social network. They meet once. He obtains visa. Gets GC. Leaves. This is most common visa fraud in these countries. Why? Because this is NOT cultural norm. If the same couple was from Sweden, no one would question this.. On the other hand it is cultural norm for Phillippines for young women to marry much older males.

[Kastrs 723]

For Pakistan, it is a larger than usual age difference. I am older than my husband by a year but we are of the same religion and had a lot of face time. I would suggest that your fiance come visit you in Pakistan. You mentioned difficulties getting her visa approved-but perhaps you could explain why and then maybe someone could inform you on how to fix the problem.

Best of luck to you both I hope you are happy

Im us citizen and 13 years older then my fiancee from pakistan we had our interview and they never questioned our age. They took his passport and we are waiting since nov 30.

Is your case status administrative processing??

[Renee2016 14]

When i call and check thats our status but we were not given anything

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

No one puts yardstick or raises eyebrows. COs in each country have red flags in mind. Those red flags developed based on most commonly occuring fraud in each country. The most common fraud in MENA is: young guy contacting much older woman over the social network. They meet once. He obtains visa. Gets GC. Leaves. This is most common visa fraud in these countries. Why? Because this is NOT cultural norm. If the same couple was from Sweden, no one would question this.. On the other hand it is cultural norm for Phillippines for young women to marry much older males.

Sure, with many of them being gold diggers by cultural norm or seeking security from an older established man, often not having

much to do with real love.

Call it yardstick, raised eyebrows or "CO having a red flag in mind" ......flow with the metaphors !

[Shauna&Wael 211]

The age gap isn't concerning to me. However, when it's coupled with only meeting once and dating for over 3 years, that's when it becomes suspicious. Care to explain why you've only met once in over 3 years of dating? That doesn't seem normal to me for a couple who's supposedly "so in love".

[amkhan 108]

usman ali...please speak truth at least.No parent in pakistan allows their 21 year old boy to marry a lady of double the age.to me,looks like a fraud to get visa.no offense

some parents they approved their child demands for his better future specially in pakistan mostly youngesters wants to leave country no matter how and in what cost.....

[amkhan 108]

The age gap isn't concerning to me. However, when it's coupled with only meeting once and dating for over 3 years, that's when it becomes suspicious. Care to explain why you've only met once in over 3 years of dating? That doesn't seem normal to me for a couple who's supposedly "so in love".

maybe she wants to help him to bring him in states, like a good friends..........lol

[amkhan 108]

Sorry bro I have been talking to her since 3 years I put 4 by mistake and I have a degree of bachelors like I said it vary from family to family all of my family members r really supportive in this relationship and they accepted it i have signed affidavits from my brothers and sisters and my mother that they accept the marriage and my mom herself is 10 years older then my father in today's world anything is possible just saying and thanks for your suggestions.: )

if your family has no problem with your marriage then why u need K1 visa.....get marry and apply for CR1 you will have more chances to approved its better then K1.... getting pakistan visa is not much hard specailly when pakistani citizen can send sponcer letter to Pakistan embassy in US...

[Shauna&Wael 211]

maybe she wants to help him to bring him in states, like a good friends..........lol

Seems plausible, haha

[usman Ali 3]

if your family has no problem with your marriage then why u need K1 visa.....get marry and apply for CR1 you will have more chances to approved its better then K1.... getting pakistan visa is not much hard specailly when pakistani citizen can send sponcer letter to Pakistan embassy in US...