Out of the Blue.....

[Am I Myrna's Man? 0]

I already know what she has done, and forgiven her for them.

The fact that she has told me indicates to me that she wants help

[SamAndJulie 0]

This is great news! I will be praying for you!!

I hope it all works out for the best for you two

~Sam

[almaty 19]

I have just found out the real reason why she has done this.....

There is still hope.....

GO GET ON A PLANE AND FIGHT FOR YOUR WOMAN!

i am with my sister lisa on this..time to take action...

[phatmadame81 0]

I am sorry this had to have happen to you Andrew, but I am glad that you two love birds will have the opportunity to work it out.

I think a lot of action ( hint hint ) is in store for you two.

I hope things work out for the best.

Wishing you much luck.

[JoeMama 0]

I am sorry this had to have happen to you Andrew, but I am glad that you two love birds will have the opportunity to work it out.

I think a lot of action ( hint hint ) is in store for you two.

I hope things work out for the best.

Wishing you much luck.

Absolutely! I see a little of this also . Hopefully, more of this for ya

We're cheering for ya!

Edited March 8, 2007 by altimixdj

[Fandango 1,439]

If you have forgiven her and she is willing to make it work, there's absolutely no reason for it not to. Keep positive, Andrew, a true unconditional love can get through anything so long as both parties realize the other is a fallable human being and is willing to offer forgiveness when needed.

I was never a believer in unconditional love between a man and woman until I met David. There is nothing we can't get thru, and I will fight til my last breath for us.

I so wish you the best and am keeping you in my thoughts that you two get through this.

[safitu 0]

Sorry hope that things get worked out. Sounds like you two on our on your way to mending things.

[rebeccajo 14]

I already know what she has done, and forgiven her for them.

The fact that she has told me indicates to me that she wants help

Then if you can get through this, you will probably come out stronger in the end.

Good luck to you, Andrew. I wish you and Myrna the best.

[Dan J 277]

In the mean time, keep communicating with her. Grab her heart back.

Be strong. Be very strong.

[Am I Myrna's Man? 0]

Thanks to everyone for there support and kind words over the last few days.

She has admitted alot of things to me that she has done over the past 18 months or so that we have been together.

Under normal circumstances they would be unforgivable betrayels but I am going to try and work through them.

Myrna want's to call off the engagement for the time being and has asked for me to be a good friend for her while she tries to become a better person. It's pretty complicated though.

I am prepared to be a friend for her to help get through this, but I am still not sure if I can get past the betrayels and still marry her in the future if that is what she still wants

Only time will tell, maybe one day i'll have happy ending to tell on VJ

Once again, many thanks to you all

Andrew

Edited March 9, 2007 by Myrna's Man

[KarenCee 3]

She must have found a bigger #### . sorry bro . Go to vietnam, alot of lovely ladies there who will love you sincerely .

This is a disgusting post. Gawd, can't you think of anything decent to say????

[MairzyDoats 0]

I think it's terrible that she told you that in an email. I'm sorry for your pain, but do you really want someone with such a low moral character that she can't even tell you something like this over the phone?

I sent a break up email to my fiance a few days ago and I don't think I have a "low moral character." You don't know the details of why she sent an email, and you don't understand why that would be an intial way to tell the partner. In my case it has to do with my fiance continually ignoring me. As someone said above, "we women HATE being ignored." He has a habit of also hanging up on me on the phone, hanging up on me on MSN while I'm talking (not even fighting, just talking. He gets bored and turns it off.) He stopped sending me text messages, I'd asked him a week or so ago to send photos and things again like he used to because I missed seeing him and he said, "No, I won't do that." I have continually asked him to hear me, and he has refused to understand how this has been affecting me. I have cried many bitter tears over him, never letting myself actually get MAD at him or treat him in kind because I was so afraid he might leave me. I finally got to the point where I sent him an eCard on Easter Sunday, got the notice that he's seen it, and never heard from him. The next day he went on MSN, then Yahoo for a while, and never once even said hello to me.

You have to admit there's something wrong with continually ignoring your fiancee, especially when there's 5000 miles in between. He even told me on more than one occasion that he would be perfectly happy not seeing me or hearing from me til we got the visa (at that point about 3 months away.) WHAT?!

When you have a fiance who keeps saying they LOVE you but they find it difficult to stay in touch with you, it may warrant a break up email. And I took that route because I know how angry and defensive he gets, how he tries to always talk over me and interrupt me, and I needed to have my say.

He called all upset saying he didn't understand (he apparently never listened to me when I asked for his attention), that he loved me and would "do anything" for me, that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him. We're still talking, but in the first phone conversation I laid it all on the line. And of course by the end of the conversation he was "it's not ALL ME, all MY fault." Still not hearing me.

The day before yesterday we spoke again and he said I was just attacking him, and that he has "suffered more than you ever have in your whole life" and went on about how he cared for his dying mother for years. He yelled at me and cussed.

That is the way someone treats you who WANTS to you stay with them?

Anyway, every story is unique. I don't know what I can say about anyone's moral character and I sure am humbled and sorry if I ever have done.

[TracyTN 237]

I'm very sorry to read that, MairzyDoats. Esp. how close you guys are to the end of your visa journey. But I think you were justified in what you did - you don't treat your fiance/e the way he was treating you. Your fiance/e is supposed to be the person you WANT to talk to, and that you can't imagine your life without -- you were being treated as if you were an annoyance or distraction. No one deserves that.

[pnd629 0]

You have to admit there's something wrong with continually ignoring your fiancee, especially when there's 5000 miles in between. He even told me on more than one occasion that he would be perfectly happy not seeing me or hearing from me til we got the visa (at that point about 3 months away.) WHAT?!

He yelled at me and cussed.

That is the way someone treats you who WANTS to you stay with them?

Are you really going to move to a new country to be with someone who treats you so poorly?

What makes you think things will be different when you are in the same city?

I say cut your losses and find someone who does want to see you, talk to you, and pay attention to you every single day.

[TracyTN 237]

You have to admit there's something wrong with continually ignoring your fiancee, especially when there's 5000 miles in between. He even told me on more than one occasion that he would be perfectly happy not seeing me or hearing from me til we got the visa (at that point about 3 months away.) WHAT?!

He yelled at me and cussed.

That is the way someone treats you who WANTS to you stay with them?

Are you really going to move to a new country to be with someone who treats you so poorly?

What makes you think things will be different when you are in the same city?

I say cut your losses and find someone who does want to see you, talk to you, and pay attention to you every single day.

HE is the foreign fiance.